010 | 欲望、亲密和不存在的里奥·格兰德 Desire, intimacy and the non-existent Leo Grande

【聊了什么】 《祝你好运，里奥·格兰德》是一部最近出品的英国喜剧剧情片，讲述了退休教师Nancy（艾玛·汤普森）在自己的丈夫去世之后，决定通过雇佣性工作者20岁出头Leo Grande（达利尔·麦克科马克）获取此生从未有过的性高潮体验。 这期节目，小蓝、小杨和一芳三位疲惫的顺直女一起聊了聊女性常见的性焦虑，为什么说性和亲密不完全是一回事，什么构造了我们对性的想象，以及为什么本片不能代表完整、真实的性工作者的体验。 Good Luck, Leo Grande is a recent dramedy from the UK, which tells the story of Nancy, a widowed retired teacher who hired a male sex worker named Leo Grande to help her achieve the first orgasm of her life. In this episode, Xiaolan, Xiaoyang and Yifang, three hetero, cis women talk about our anexiety related to sex, the difference between sex and intimacy, what shaped our imagination of sex and why the film should not be seen as an accurate nor comprehensive depiction of the experience of being a sex worker. 【时间轴】 03:12 对电影的第一印象，演员和角色的高光时刻。艾玛汤普森最后一幕中眼睛里亮起来的一束光意味着什么。 19:47 和一位性心理咨询师朋友聊了聊人们常见的关于“性”和“亲密”的疑问 26:13 聊聊我们现实生活中那些能迅速短期建立假性亲密关系的人 31:30 作为异性恋关系中的顺直女我们对性有哪些误解、想象和期待 38:00 电影对于性工作者的描述有什么局限 49:30 作为顺直女寻找爱和亲密需要面对哪些自我怀疑和自我厌恶 03:12 First impression of the movie, character, and actors' best moments. What does the light in Emma Thompson’s eyes stand for in the last scene? 19:47 We chatted with a sex therapist friend about the common questions people have about sex and intimacy, 26:13 People who think they have figured out a way to “hack” intimacy 31:30 As hetero, cis women, what are our misconceptions, imaginations, and expectations of sex 38:00 The movie’s depiction of sex workers and its limitations 49:30 The bumpy road we’ve walked in search of love and intimacy as hetero, cis women 【展开阅读】 《 祝你好运，里奥·格兰德》的一篇豆瓣影评 豆瓣影评中提到的女性主义与性工作相关书籍书单 《我为什么支持性交易的非罪化？》 【买咖啡】 如果喜欢这期节目并愿意想要给我们买杯咖啡： 海外用户：https://www.patreon.com/cyberpinkfm 海内用户：https://afdian.com/a/cyberpinkfm 商务合作邮箱：[email protected] 商务合作微信：CyberPink2022 If you like our show and want to support us, please consider the following: Those Abroad：https://www.patreon.com/cyberpinkfm Those in China：https://afdian.net/@cyberpinkfm Business Inquiries Email：[email protected] Business Inquiries WeChat： CyberPink2022