#102: There Is No Such Thing As A Situationship

Calling something a situationship does not make it casual, modern, or empowered. It usually means you are in a real relationship without clarity, commitment, or respect. Hilary strips away the cute label and names what is actually happening when feelings, time, and emotional energy are involved but no one is willing to define the terms. Ambiguity may sound flexible, but it comes with a very real cost. Living without clarity creates constant anxiety. You are left guessing where you stand, managing expectations that were never agreed on, and tolerating behavior you would never accept in a relationship you were willing to call real. What gets framed as “going with the flow” often looks a lot like self-abandonment. Ask yourself honestly, would this feel acceptable if you stopped pretending the label made it different? The episode also turns the focus inward. Situationships are not always about someone else refusing to commit. Sometimes they exist because staying undefined feels safer than being fully seen. They offer connection without real risk and intimacy without accountability. When commitment, honesty, and self-respect become non-negotiable, situationships stop being tempting and start becoming impossible. Episode Highlights: Why calling it a situationship lets you excuse behavior you would never accept in a real relationship How ambiguity keeps your nervous system on edge and quietly fuels anxiety The difference between choosing something casual and settling out of fear How situationships can become a hiding place from real intimacy and vulnerability The moment self-respect turns clarity and commitment into non-negotiables Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Understanding Situationships 06:04 The Illusion of Freedom in Situationships 11:52 How Situationships Lead to Self-Betrayal and Emotional Hiding ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply AirDoctor: The Trusted Air Purifier for a Healthier Home Use Promo Code: READY Up to $300 off + Free 3-Year Warranty Exclusive Podcast Offer Self-Centered Bundle: Built to Support the Real You Three intentional programs that work better together, plus The Daily Journal. Find it here