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#156 How To Know If You’re WINNING In Life
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How do you know if you’re winning in life?
It’s easier in sports where there’s a scoreboard—but even that doesn’t always reflect true winning. You might lose the game but still be winning in personal improvements, performance, effort, giving your best, sportsmanship, integrity, grit, etc.
What about each area of your life?
How do you know if you’re winning?
Do you have a scoreboard? Are you keeping score? In what ways?
Are you competing with others, yourself, or with an ideal?
Some aren’t keeping score at all. They have no idea how they’re doing. They don’t think about it, measure it, or reflect on it. They’re distracted, unconscious, in survival mode, or on autopilot—with no clear picture of how they’re doing.
Some are even against keeping score altogether.
They don’t like the idea of tracking, measuring, or scoring.
You can’t master what you don’t measure!
I’m choosing to win as a man.
That includes several roles.
I’m not trying to win only in business—that would be a loss as a man.
I’m not trying to win only as a husband or father—that too would be a loss.
So I’ll necessarily “lose” on other people’s scoreboards.
Some will see me as average in their field—and that’s okay.
I’m keeping score differently.
Stop getting caught up in other people’s scoreboards.
Stop measuring your worth by someone else’s standards.
Create your own scoreboard—or you’ll always be living by theirs.
That’s one reason why epic failures seem to come out of nowhere—people were trying to win on someone else’s scoreboard.
What does winning look like in each of your roles?
What does losing look like?
It’s impossible to win if you’re not clear what winning means.
Creating your own scoreboard takes time, effort, research, discernment, and wisdom—wisdom not easily won.
You’ll want to study sacred texts, learn from the greatest men who ever lived, and analyze the real outcomes of their lives.
The last thing you want is to win on the wrong scoreboard.
That’s like climbing a ladder leaning against the wrong wall.
Nor do you want to fear being wrong so much that you never set any scoreboard at all.
You can’t wait until you’re 90 to decide. Make the best choices you can now—and refine them as you grow.
There are countless great books—and just as many filled with terrible advice. Blogs, podcasts, and posts overflow with some of the worst ideas ever shared by human beings.
I recently saw a sincere question in a men’s group from someone seeking meaning in life. The advice in the comments was some of the worst I’ve ever seen. Unbelievable.
Take advice only from people whose whole life you’d want to emulate.
Otherwise, you may follow the words of a man who’s financially successful—but morally bankrupt and overdrawn in his most important relationships.
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