
264. Why They Seem Emotionally Available Until Things Get Real (Dating Dilemmas)
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Emotional availability is one of the most desired traits in a partner, but it's so hard to find. In this episode, I'm walking through four real listener dilemmas that show how emotional unavailability actually shows up: from being blindsided by a breakup after a seemingly perfect relationship, to oversharing too early with someone you barely know, to getting stuck in a months-long holding pattern, to wondering if your sky-high standards are actually a wall. I'm breaking down what emotional availability really looks like, why "chasing the feeling" keeps people stuck, and how to start recognizing emotional availability so you don't miss it.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
- Episode 152 - a deeper dive on emotional unavailability
- Episode 217 - with Julia Kristina, a therapist and expert on emotional intelligence and maturity
- Episode 255 - healing anxious attachment with Rebecca Ore
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