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3122: Am I a "Good Enough" Parent? by Dr. Jack Stoltzfus of Parents Letting Go on Parenting Young Adults
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Episode 3122:
Dr. Jack Stoltzfus explains why chasing perfect parenting produces guilt in parents and perfectionism in kids, and why psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott's idea of the good enough parent is a healthier standard. He describes how the pressure shows up again when young adults choose careers, values, or lifestyles their parents did not expect, and argues that parents cannot control their young adults but can still influence them by shifting from caretaking to encouraging independence. He closes with a parent report card for measuring parenting against love, consistency, apology, and letting go.
Read along with the original article(s) here: https://parentslettinggo.com/am-i-a-good-enough-parent/
Quotes to ponder:
"Striving for perfection or even excellence is a recipe for a life of guilt."
"Don't strive for perfection in your parenting because your kids will also believe they must be perfect."
"Forgive ourselves for not being perfect parents and forgive our kids for decisions or actions we don't support."
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