#3584: Men: Why You Are Getting NO Pussy [Part 3 of 7]

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When a woman offers any former resistance again, don't argue, don't persuade, don't try to overpower handle it calmly.

There's a test of your containment. Can you deal with it? Yes or no?

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Today's topic is, as if we never left, picking up on part 3. Why?

Man, why? You are getting no pussy. We already did part 1 and part 2.

As you can see, this is part 3. If you miss part 1 and part 2, if you are a man, and you are suffering from this,

GNP disease, GNP stands for getting no pussy.

Then I will suggest you go back to parts 1 and took part 2 so that you have full context.

Because I'm giving you different reasons in every episode to show alone with the context for those reasons in each episode in this series.

So I don't want you to miss anything. You get the episodes of the series and you miss the seventh part,

which actually is the missing piece that you don't have. You have to make sure you get all of these pieces.

Any one of these, by the way, just to be clear.

Any one of these is enough to disqualify you from getting any pussy.

Any one of these. So this is not a combination lock, gentlemen.

You go wrong on any one of these that can cause you.

So, was this pickup where we left off?

Was it now a point number 7?

Today's topic, once again, is men. Why are you getting no pussy?

This is part 3 of a 7 part series. Number 7.

You overshare too much and too early. What is oversharing me?

Well, it's exactly what the internet was created for. Internet was created for oversharing.

For people taking your business, your thoughts, your ideas, your lunch, your travel plans, your random musings, your complaints,

your celebrations, the things you're happy about, the things you wonder about, the things you notice, see, question, observe, and consider.

And you can now share them on the internet with a bunch of people who you don't know, who don't know you,

and who you will never meet and will never meet you. And some people who maybe you know them,

quote unquote, through the internet, but no matter what you're doing, you're creating a record online for everybody in world

to come through for all of eternity if and when anybody decides to care.

Internet was created for oversharing. I'm saying all that to say, some of you do this in real life.

The same way you do it on the internet. You overshare.

Man, one aspect of containment, gentlemen, because I talk about containment a lot is when it comes to your energy, thoughts, and words.

Containment is not just keeping control of your emotions and not allowing someone else's emotions to control the way that you execute on or use your emotions.

That is a big part of containment is emotional control.

It's one of the most cornerstones of being a powerful person is being able to control your emotions and direct them as you see fit when and how you see fit.

But another piece of containment is controlling just overall energy, any energy.

It is controlling your thoughts, not allowing your thoughts to run wild on you.

Now, we know that thoughts are things that only happen internally.

That means, in your mind, do not keep replaying movies of things that have already occurred.

Do not rehearse movies of things that have never occurred and may never occur.

Do not allow anything to happen in the outside world or come from an outside person to hijack your train of thoughts

or where you are thinking about that more than you're thinking about whatever the next execution point is in your life, career, or business.

This is containment of thoughts.

And also containment is with reference to your verbiage, how you talk.

In other words, not talking too much, not saying too much, knowing when to be quiet and just not talk.

Talk about this in episode 3486.

Literal title of the episode is, men, you are talking too much.

Many of you are talking too much.

You talk too much to other men.

You talk too much to yourself.

You talk too much when you're dealing with women.

You talk too much even in your online interactions.

All of these be lie, a lack of containment.

You are practicing not being able to contain your words when you're by yourself.

Well, guess what happens when you get around other people.

Same thing.

As our coaches use to tell us when I play sports, you play how you practice.

So, if you practice talking too much with yourself, guess what you're going to do when you get around other people.

Talk too much.

If you can't control your energy when you're alone, guess what you won't do when you're around other people.

You won't control your energy.

So, whatever you practice is what you do.

Episode 3465 gave you a two-part series.

How to intimidate without talking.

Episode 2939.

I explain to the sales people out there male and female that many of you are talking too much.

Selling is not about your ability to dazzle with your words.

It's about actually about your ability to listen with your ears and your eyes.

Episode number 2249.

I told you to talk to yourself intentionally.

But there is a process of talking to yourself intentionally.

It's not just talking, just to say something, just to say it.

Episode 1738.

I explain the skill of brevity.

Making your point without talking too much.

Many of you overshare too much too early.

You overshare your energy.

You overshare what you're thinking.

Many of your thoughts need to stay right there where they are in your head.

And you overshare with your words.

And when you do this around women, it belies their lack of containment.

As I've told you already in the series, most women could not point it out and say,

Hey, Mike, you are showing me that you can't contain yourself.

No one is going to say that to you most of them all.

But unconsciously, nonverbally, they are reading.

This guy doesn't have control over himself.

Some way, shape or form, that's what is being said to them.

That translates into their consciousness.

And it causes them to have less trust in you.

They don't trust your authority as much.

They will not look.

They will not have the same polarity with you because you appear to not have as much control over yourself.

Therefore, you can't exert control over for or with her.

And that causes her to lose attraction.

Even though you're still cute and you still got nice shoes on and you still got a good job

and all the other things that made her like you.

And the first place, remember folks, liking and respecting are not the same thing.

And they don't necessarily arrive together.

A person of authority does not need to explain anything.

As I've already told you many times here, especially in the series.

When you're a person of authority, you don't need to explain anything.

And therefore, when you're in a position to where you don't need to explain anything.

What are you sharing?

If you really think about it, what are you sharing if you don't need to explain anything?

The reason why I talk on this show is because it's a solo show.

I designed this show.

I do this show on purpose as part of my business and I do it as a way of getting my points across

to an audience of people who needs and wants to hear it.

But if this mic was taken away and I didn't have this show or when I'm not on this mic

and I'm not doing this show, you will never get this much explanation from me on anything

unless it is part of some type of business relationship that we have.

And that point, I will give you enough material for you to move forward, resolve, and issue

and to take the next step, but not so much just for the sake of satisfying my or your ego with information.

I'm not in the professional information gathering or giving business.

A person of authority does not need to explain you as a person of authority, you as a man of authority

who wants to have a certain level of asymmetry and polarity with the women that you want to date

and get pussy from.

Guess what you need to do.

Stop explaining yourself.

You're not explaining yourself to a woman.

You're all going to go eat.

Okay, here's what time I'm going to come pick you up.

This is the way that you need to dress.

You can pick her up, you take her to the place.

That's it.

Don't explain how you did it.

Don't explain your thought process.

Don't explain how many restaurants you call before you found a woman with a reservation.

If she asks, answer the question, but be brief.

Long story short here on this point.

Gentlemen, talk less.

Yes, talk, but talk less.

You want to engage with more women who you are attracted to?

You want them attracted to you?

You want to get more pussy?

Talk less.

A man who explains too much and the eyes of the woman you're interested in, it reads as neediness.

That's the reason you're explaining.

Remember what happens when you explain things, gentlemen.

When you explain something to another person, you are implicitly asking them to accept your explanation.

You're asking them to understand what you're explaining.

Well, now they have the power because now they get to choose whether or not they wish to understand it

or they wish to accept it and if they don't accept it, they don't understand it.

Now, what do you have to do?

Keep explaining.

Now, you put yourself in a subordinate position just by the act of beginning to explain in the first place.

See, if you never explained in the first place, you can never be in this position.

Now, some of you may be thinking, well, what if there's a misunderstanding?

What if people have the wrong idea?

What if a bunch of people think they understand, but they actually have it wrong,

and I know they have it wrong because they're talking about what they think they get,

but I know they're wrong and I just want to clear things up and set the record straight with these dummies

who have the wrong information.

What do I do then?

Here's an answer.

You do nothing.

Now, why is the answer you do nothing when people don't understand?

The reason you do nothing when people don't understand is because a person of authority doesn't need anybody's understanding.

So what if they misunderstand?

What changes?

What tangibly changes when people don't understand?

If you're a person of authority, you're a person in power, you're a boss.

Why doesn't matter if people don't understand.

Well, there's no answer to that question.

That's a rhetorical question.

Why?

Because a person of authority, if you don't understand me and I have the authority, then why do I care if you understand or not?

All I need you to understand is the person of authority is what step I need you to take next.

So whether you understand everything else around it is a relevant to me,

and I'm going to render it such that it is a relevant to you, because guess what?

You're still going to do what I'm asking you to do next, whether you understand everything else or not.

Why?

Because I'm a person of authority.

If you don't want to do it, then I'll get rid of you.

That's how authority works.

And men, you're a man of authority.

Again, you don't need to explain anything to anybody, because as soon as you start explaining now, you need something from them.

As soon as you start explaining yourself to another person, you flip the dynamic from them needing something to you needing something.

So stop explaining so the dynamic never flips.

Especially with women.

Point number eight.

Today's topic once again is men.

Why you're getting no pussy?

This is part three of a only going seven part series number eight.

You talk more than you listen or you listen with indigent.

I just told you this that I have an episode where I told salespeople that you are talking too much.

Some of you salespeople out there talk too much.

That was episode number 2939.

And if you who's in sales, you want to get better at selling what you need to get better at is not talking or giving your presentation or whatever.

You think you need to do when it comes to exporting communication.

You need to do is get better at importing communication.

Communication is both importing and exporting.

Exporting is what you say.

Importing is what you take in.

You want to be a better salesperson.

Get better at asking good questions, which requires not too much export.

There's no explanation in a question.

And then listening really well.

You get really good at listening.

You should be importing about three times as much as you export when you're selling.

And that will actually make your sales go up.

Why?

Because the person to whom you're selling now feels better about your understanding of them.

Not their understanding of you.

You don't need them to understand you.

You need them to understand that you understand them.

You need them to feel that you understand them.

That's what leads to sales.

Not your ability to talk circles around an audience.

Anyway, we're still on point number eight here.

Many of you men are talking more than you listen.

When you are as a man, dealing with a moment, a masculine man, dealing with a feminine woman,

you should never ever ever be talking anywhere near as much as she thought.

I think I have enough experience in life too.

I'm just trying to think.

I'm just quickly in my mind just searching through my mental role with decks of female experiences

that dating level experiences where I ever talked more than a woman has never come close.

Take any woman I've ever dealt with on any level, whether it was one date or a long relationship

and you add up all the words that she said to me versus all the words that I said to her

is nowhere near close to 50-50 men.

It should be somewhere around conservatively 60-40 in her favor.

You get even better 70-30, even better 80-20.

Not her talk.

Ask questions about her talking.

You must actively listen.

That's the challenge for some times with men.

I won't go into that here too much today.

But you have to actively listen to her talking.

So if she's talking a whole lot, you've got to listen a lot.

So you've got to get good at listening.

And just listen in an open-minded way.

Don't listen with an agenda.

See, if you listen with an agenda, that means you're just waiting for her to finish talking

so you can talk.

But understand, as a man, where you're dealing with a woman is not a equal back and forth

of talking between you and her.

I gave you the analogy of tennis before.

So this is like she's sitting three tennis balls across the net.

You only got to hit one back.

And that's enough for her to hit three more back towards you.

And that's the way it's supposed to be.

By the way, that's the way it's supposed to be.

Everybody heard me?

In my experience, women tend to talk a lot more than men.

Especially a woman who was interested in a man.

She will talk a lot more than a man's talk.

If you're a man who talks more than a woman, especially a woman who you're dating or you're interested in,

one of two things are happening.

Either you are gay, which means the series is not for you.

And you would be interested in a woman if you're gay.

Or you just need to stop talking so much.

Usually for most of you is probably a second.

You just need to stop talking so much.

You do not need to equal her in verbal output.

And remember, I just gave you the point about sales people.

Understand as a man, when you are gating a woman or you're interested in a woman or you're trying to take a step closer towards a woman,

you want her to take a step closer towards you.

This is a sale.

This is a sales process.

You may not want to call it a sales process.

That's okay.

I will call it a sales process because it is a sales process.

What you need to get better at is letting your prospect, and that's the girl, letting your prospect talk.

I just told you this.

This is how you close sales.

Let them talk.

Ask opening the questions.

Let them talk.

Listen.

See when you're in a sales conversation, it's easy to listen because you need the material that's coming from your prospect to better position,

whatever you're offering as a solution to their problem.

You can't do that if you don't know what their problem is.

The only way you know what their problem is by listening.

Sales is easy to listen.

It's the same thing when you're dealing with a girl.

You are selling.

You're always selling.

No matter what stage of the relationship is, you're selling.

So if you're talking just as much or more than a woman, something's going wrong.

Ask opening the questions.

And listen.

Two steps.

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Point number nine.

Today's topic.

Once again, men, why you are getting no pussy?

Number nine.

You do not handle resistance calmly.

This one comes up often.

And this is especially important for men.

Whether we're talking dating, whether we're talking meeting, whether we're talking running a business,

whether we're talking dealing with yourself, or just dealing with another individual, whether you're dating them or not, male or female,

you must be willing and able to handle resistance calmly in a contained way.

Resistance.

What does resistance mean?

It means you're at work and you're the leader and you tell someone on the team what needs to happen next and they resist question or challenge you on the thing that you asked or told them to do.

That is resistance.

Can you handle it in a contained way?

Not can you handle it?

Can you handle it in a contained way without getting out of control without blowing your stack, without getting emotional, without pleading or explaining?

Because all of those things undermine your authority.

But if you handle challenge the right way, it can actually bolster and strengthen your authority and solidify your authority in the eyes of everyone, including the person who is challenging or questioning you in that moment.

If you handle it the right way, most important thing is control your emotions.

If you remember one thing about containment, that's all it is.

Control your emotions.

Any emotions don't just mean the negative ones is also the positive ones.

You're excited to control that emotion.

You're happy to control that emotion.

You're anticipatory.

Control that emotion.

You're anxious, you're nervous, you're afraid, you're scared, you're angry to control those emotions too.

A man must be in full control of his emotions at all times.

That doesn't mean you cannot express any emotion.

It just means you're in control of your emotions.

I want to make sure that distinction is clear.

When a woman offers any form or resistance, back to my reason that I'm making this point here number nine.

When you know if they want me to offer any form or resistance, don't argue.

Never argue with resistance.

Because now it becomes an argument.

You decide to play tennis with resistance.

Don't play tennis with someone else's resistance.

When you're in sales, for example, and a prospect offers an objection.

Yes, you can, quote unquote, overcome the objection, but the better play.

If your property prepared is what you do is you handle all the possible objections before the prospect even gets to the point of voicing the objection.

That's what your sales presentation is designed to do.

Handle all the objections before the objections come up.

And sales presentation does not just mean a 15-minute solo of you talking.

Sales presentation can be part of the conversation.

It says you bring up all the things that could be objections during the conversation.

So when you get to the end and you name the price, they don't have any objections that they're at you because you already handled them during the conversation.

You understand?

The sales presentation can be a conversation.

But it's just to be clear.

Presentation does not just mean one person told me.

When a woman offers your resistance, do not argue.

Do not argue.

Do not try to persuade.

Trying to persuade someone is a form of an argument.

Maybe a one-way argument, but it's an argument.

Do not try to overpower her resistance.

All right, no, no, and no to all three of these.

What you do is you handle the resistance calmly as a test of your containment.

Sometimes, many times, actually, when a woman not only likes you, but is attracted to you,

she will offer some form of resistance, not because she doesn't want to give in to whatever it is that you're pushing for asking for moving towards.

Not because she doesn't want to do it.

Simply because she may want to take her time.

She may want you to sell a little bit more.

She is enjoying the sales process, if you understand what I'm saying.

She wants the process to continue.

She is testing you to see not only how do you handle the resistance.

Can you handle it in a calm, controlled manner because there will be more resistance in the future if you continue engaging with this woman?

How do you handle resistance on a slight level before there becomes a bigger resistance?

And how much material do you have?

One woman wants to see.

And I've had a woman tell me that they've done this to me.

That there'll be in some type of communication with a man.

The man will offer some form of proposition pushed forward next step proposition.

The woman, either already knowing her answer.

I've had women tell me this whole thing.

They already know the answer.

A woman already knows that this guy who just asked her out.

She's not interested in this guy.

The answer is no, but she doesn't tell no.

Or let's say same situation.

Guy asked her out and she knows that the answer is yes.

She doesn't tell him yes.

Know what the woman will do?

She will offer some form of resistance, maybe in a playful way.

Maybe in a delaying way.

Maybe in a procrastination is not the right word, but in a way of extending the conversation with.

Let's just call with that.

Not because she's not sure of her answer.

She already knows that she's going to give you her number.

She's not going to give you her number.

She's doing it just to see how you handle it.

Just to see what else you said.

I had a girl once tell me the situation.

Actually, I know who this girl is and I know who the guy was involved.

There was an event taking place.

I was at this event, but I was not at this conversation that was happening.

But the girl told me by the way, she's talking to some guy who's at the event.

I know the guy too.

And the guy approaches this girl and he's small talking to her a little bit.

And he, according to her, awkwardly asks her out.

He asks her for a day.

And the girl was surprised by the question and her response.

She asked him, can I take you out or have you phone them or something like that?

Some type of clues that he asked for.

Her response was in a surprised way.

She looked back at him and said, why?

As she said, she said, why?

Not in a negative way, but almost as if she was surprised by the question.

And she stood there looking at him, waiting for him to give his answer.

And he completely fumbled the ball at that point.

He did not have any material ready for that question.

He was not prepared for that question.

And he ended up fumbling the ball and nothing happened.

And the conversation kind of ended right there because he had nothing else to say.

And I was pretty much it.

And I was her way of getting rid of him, turning him down without actually having to say the word no out of her mouth.

I'm saying all that to say this.

And she offered him some form of resistance.

He wasn't prepared for the resistance.

I don't think she was expecting the question.

But even then, according to what she told me, I got all this from her.

The man did not tell me this.

I never spoke about this with the man.

This is what she told me that when a woman offers resistance sometimes,

she just wants to see how you handle it.

She just wants to see what you're going to do.

Can you calm me deal with it?

I gave another example.

About 2016-17, something like that.

This is in a time when I was doing a lot of professional speaking.

And I would do a lot of cold outreach to events to get myself booked to speak.

And when I say cold outreach, I mean, literally calling people on the phone who were not expecting my call,

calling the network, and pitching myself.

I remember I called this one.

Then, I don't know who it was.

It was one company.

I knew they had an event coming up.

And a woman answered the phone.

Then I gave my quick pitch.

My name is Dre Baldwin.

And I'm the speaker.

And I talk about X, Y, Z.

And I'm reaching out about whatever.

And she listened to what I said.

And she took a breath.

And she said, we don't hire speakers.

And I could tell by the way she said it that she was smiling.

You can hear a laugh or a smile with so much voice.

And I could tell by the way she said it that she was laughing.

She was just testing me.

She was just testing to see how I was going to respond to it.

And I handled it.

Definitely.

The conversation kept going.

I don't remember what ended up happening in that event.

But the whole point is this.

Women will sometimes do this with men, especially a woman with a high level of confidence.

She'll do this with a man, especially if she wants to test and see if his confidence can match hers.

Oh, and by the way, men while we're on the subject.

If you're looking to date or you're interested in a woman whose confidence outpaces yours,

you have an uphill climb that you might not make it.

That you may not make it through.

First and then high confidence will test other people whose confidence they're not sure of,

just to see if you can match them.

And if you as a man cannot match the confidence of a woman and you're trying to date her,

well, how do you think she's looking at you?

I only had to tell you that.

You must be able to handle resistance.

Even playful resistance.

Now, serious resistance.

If a woman is seriously rejecting you then you can just turn around and walk away.

It's not in hand.

But if she's kind of playing with you just to see and testing you,

you've got to be ready for that.

Because women will do this.

I just gave you two examples.

Women do this.

When a woman offers any former resistance again, don't argue.

Don't persuade.

Don't try to overpower.

Handle it calmly.

There's a test of your containment.

Can you deal with it?

Yes or no?

Recap into today's class.

Part three of our ongoing seven-part series.

Men while you're getting no pussy.

Number seven.

You overshare too much or you overshare too early.

Containment is not just about emotions about your energy, your thoughts and your words.

You're not allowed these two weak out of you unnecessarily.

And that person of authority, if you're talking a lot, that is unnecessary.

Point number eight.

You talk more than you listen or you listen within a gender.

A man dealing with a woman, she should be talking at least 60% of the time.

Aim for 80% of the time.

And you talk the rest.

And your talking is really for the most part.

You play a little bit of tennis and give her a little bit of material.

But then really, you hit the ball back over to the other side of the net

so that she can do her favorite thing with this talk.

All you gotta do is listen.

And my experience with women talk a lot more than men.

All you have to do is let them do what they naturally want to do.

Which is not listen to you.

Number nine.

You don't handle resistance calmly.

Understand it.

Women will test.

Faithfully.

Women will test seriously.

And especially if a woman has a high level of confidence that she's not sure about yours.

She's going to test you just to see how you handle things.

And your ability to handle a test.

Especially under stress.

Again, stress being an unknown situation pressure.

An unknown situation that where the equilibrium is thrown off or your expectations are defied.

How you handle it there.

Is a test of your certainty.

It's a test of your containment.

You pass that test.

Now that contains the entire dynamic of the situation.

That can go from her not being interested to actually being intrigued.

That's a different conversation that maybe we'll get to in this series.

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