#3587: Men: Why You Are Getting NO Pussy [Part 6 of 7]

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Because that, again, diffuses the tension.

And when the tension gets diffused,

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Today's topic is men, why you are getting no pussy part six.

Yes, we have to do six parts of this.

It's actually going to be seven.

This is part six of what will be a seven part series for men.

Why you are getting no pussy?

What exactly is happening here?

And of course, what you can should and will do about it.

We are picking up right where we left off,

which is at point number 16.

If you have not heard the previous five episodes

of this series, go back and listen to them

so that there is continuity between investors.

Because I do often cross reference things

that I've said earlier in the series in these episodes.

So picking up right where we were, point number 16.

Why you're getting no pussy?

Number 16, your nervous system is two-hour.

Now we're getting super meta here

when it comes to energy.

Your nervous system is two-hour.

What exactly does this mean is most of you

do not speak in this language.

The way your nervous system communicates

is where presence comes from.

Presence is the signal, the energy that you give out to the world.

Not through words, but through everything other than words.

Body language, pacing, eye contact, control, awareness.

Your nervous system controls all of those things.

The nervous system is just all the nerves in your body,

how they are all communicating with each other

and how it leads to a signal

that you communicate out into the world.

That's the nervous system.

A regulated nervous system, or an irradiated nervous system.

A broadcast of urgency, which is speeding up,

maybe faster than you need to be sped up.

Any type of neediness or any form of instability,

these are all communicated without words.

And their opposites are communicated with words.

High regulation, calm nervous system, low urgency,

moving at your own pace, not needing anything,

a sense of abundance and complete stability.

These are all communicated as well.

Through the way that you communicate

nonverbally with the rest of the world.

Can you sit at a bus stop or at an airport gate

or anywhere where people move around?

I'm making a road in Miami Beach.

And there's lots of people moving around

and you can tell who has a regulated nervous system

versus whose nervous system is at least temporarily dysregulated.

You can almost tell by watching people move around.

You can just tell by the way they conduct themselves,

even if they're not talking.

Their energy broadcasts this.

Now why does this matter?

Because you are a human being as well.

So if you can watch other people, guess what?

Other people can watch you

and they can get a read on your nervous system

and how you're really feeling,

even though you may be saying one thing,

they can get a feel for what your nervous system is saying,

which is more important.

And a much stronger message and communication

between human beings than anything you say out of your mouth,

because remember, 85% of communication is nonverbal.

So if your mouth is saying all the right things,

but your nervous system is saying all the wrong things,

which one are other people going to believe?

They're going to believe the wrong things

that your nervous system is saying,

even though your mouth is saying the right things.

And here's where it gets tricky.

Because in turning you away and turning you down,

a girl is going to tell you all the right things out of her mouth,

even though what you said should not have led

to the thing that she said back.

And the reason for this is because her nervous system

read what your nervous system said.

But neither one of you is well versed

and verbally articulating what the nervous system is communicating.

Therefore, she has to give you an answer that sounds good,

but makes no logical sense.

And the reason is because the things you said out of your mouth

sound good, but based on what your nervous system is saying,

there's no alignment.

There's a complete incongruence.

So when there's an incongruence between your energetic signal

and your verbal communication,

people will say no because the energetic signal

is telling them to say no.

But in their explanation of telling you no,

they can't explain that your nervous system

is the thing that calls them to say no.

So you are listening to their reason to tell you no

that is based on what you said,

when it's really not based on what you said,

it's based on what you communicated energetically,

not verbally, but what you communicated non-verbally.

And since most people don't have the ability to explain this,

they can't help you out by telling you

what the real reason is, they said no.

So you're left in the dark.

They feel awkward because they just told you no in a way

that doesn't quite communicate the real reason

that they said it because they cannot translate

nervous system to words.

And this is how people get stuck.

This is where many of you men get stuck.

Your nervous system is saying something that your words

are not capable.

Actually, your nervous system is saying something

that betrays your words.

I gave you this example a couple of episodes back

in this series where there was a girl I know

if she was out in an event, I tracked the girl.

And a man who was also at this event,

I know both the man and the woman in the situation,

the man approached the girl

and they're small talking in a man,

I don't know blue asked the girl out on the date

and the girl said, why?

But a smile on her face.

So it was a positive Y, but it was a Y.

She was not interested in this guy,

but she just asked why is it to see what he was going to say?

As I told you, men will test, women will test men.

She tested him by asking him why.

He had no answers to the question.

He just completely fell apart and didn't have an answer

and that's where the conversation ended

and therefore he didn't get his date.

What's the point here?

It wouldn't even matter what he said at that point

because as soon as she asked him why

and he stumbled and fumbled and didn't know what to say

and fell to pieces, even if he had recovered

and actually said something,

the moment that he hesitated

when she asked him why was his nervous system communicating,

I did not prepare for that question being asked.

And when your nervous system communicates

that you were not prepared or that you're caught

in to hand it or you don't know what to say back,

especially when you're the one who initiated

this level of the conversation

by asking the girl on the date, you didn't fucked up.

And that's why he ended up not getting the date.

Now, even if he had the perfect answer,

I don't think he would have got the date,

but that's neither here nor there.

The point is, she said why

and his nervous system immediately communicated,

he was dysregulated, he got nervous,

he became mentally urgent,

but still couldn't come up with an answer

and his whole thing fell apart.

Whatever level of confidence he had before that question

just fell completely to pieces and melted right there

into his shoes while he was standing there

and finding the girl and it was over.

That's the way it goes.

All of this noise, ladies and gentlemen,

gets filtered out before any attraction can happen.

So any noise in your nervous system,

all of these things that I told you are nervous system noise.

If you broadcast that you are at a high level of urgency,

if you broadcast neediness,

if you broadcast dysregulation,

if you broadcast the fact that you cannot contain

your emotions and your energy,

you broadcast the jitteriness,

you can't stand still, literally stand still.

If you can't hold eye contact calmly,

not in the face fighting,

staring someone down type of way,

but calmly and softly hold eye contact.

If you can't do these things,

these are all things that your nervous system broadcast

without you even noticing that you're broadcasting them,

that broadcast a lack of certainty,

a lack of congruent sometimes with what you say

and a lack of clarity.

And all of these things come across to women.

If you're a man, they come across to women

as this man's not quite grounded

or stable enough to handle me.

So now I'm gonna move on to a man who looks like

or feels like he's more in control of himself.

And again, you can be really cute to her.

You can be very attractive to her.

So still say no because your nervous system

is telling her to say no.

Well, you're a man.

Again, if you can't stand still without shifting

your weight back and forth,

if you can't sit in a chair

without continuing, swiveling,

continually swiveling in your computer too.

If you can't hold eye contact

without feeling uncomfortable,

if you cannot sit or stand in silence

around other people without feeling the need

to fill the space with words,

all of these are nervous system communications.

Again, most people cannot point out

these nervous system communications,

but everyone can register and feel them.

Even though they can't explain why they feel them

or what they're feeling, people notice this stuff.

I just happen to be a special type of person

who can explain this stuff to you all,

but most people can't, but everybody feels it.

Even if you can't explain it.

So man, if you ever felt like you were in your best outfit

and you brushed your hair, combed your hair really well

and you look good and you smell good

and everything was set perfectly

and then you approached the girl

and she flatly turned you down.

You couldn't quite understand why.

It's probably because something

your nervous system was in conflict

with something that you said out of your mouth.

That's usually why it happens.

Point number 17, today's topic once again

is men while you are getting no pussy.

Number 17, you are trying to gain emotional closeness

before you build sexual polarity.

This goes directly with the point about vulnerability

I said earlier in the series.

When you try to be emotionally close with a woman

before you have established sexual polarity,

you're doing things backwards.

This is the wrong order of operation.

It's like doing the addition outside of the parentheses

before doing the equation inside the parentheses

and algebra if I'm getting that right.

Hopefully I remember that properly.

When you introduce closest before polarity

it neutralizes tension.

Understanding sexual polarity, gentlemen,

does not mean actually having sex.

Sexual polarity means that there is a clear asymmetry

between your feminine energy and my masculine energy.

That's me talking as you and you're talking to a girl.

Are the girls in her feminine, you're in your masculine

and it's a clear asymmetrical relationship

between the two of them.

That's polarity.

I'm all the way over here.

You're all the way on the opposite end of the spectrum.

That is necessary for sexual energy.

That tension is necessary for sexual attraction

in both the man and the woman.

If you're a man and you're doing it with a woman

and she carries herself energetically,

completely like a man, even if she looks good,

you're not going to be sexually interested

because our nervous system is communicating man

and unless you're a homosexual man,

you're not going to be interested.

And if you as a man are carrying yourself

with very feminized energy,

I ain't trying to get emotionally close

before establishing this polarity,

you can be physically attractive on the surface

to a woman she's going to lose attraction to you

because it's almost like two women

and unless you have this to be interested in women

in a body of a man, most women are not.

So you can't introduce this emotional closest

before polarity because it kills the tension

which is necessary instead of building the tension.

As a man, you want to build the tension

sexually between you and another woman.

How do you build the tension

by everything that I've told you about

so far in this series?

Containing your energy while she is allowed

to be a little bit more free with her.

You remaining still calm and listening

while she expresses talks and emotes.

You allow this.

This asymmetry is exactly what you want.

There's not a bad thing.

Don't try to collapse it.

Do not try to match her.

Your job is not to match a woman's energy.

Your job is to contain your energy

and let hers be what it is.

She wanders emotionally and finds her way home to you

because you're in the same spot that you were when she left.

That's the emotional containment that you want to be in.

That tension is necessary for a tracin.

When you try to get emotional close to this first,

what you do is you replace desire with familiarity.

That's a bad move.

You want a woman to desire you.

Then you can't make her feel too familiar,

especially on an emotional level.

Because that, again, diffuses the tension.

And when the tension gets diffused,

there's no more sexual connection.

And sexual connection is very necessary.

Whenever you, all of you are familiar

with the concept of the friend zone.

You ever heard that the friend zone?

When a man is interested in a woman,

but because of the way he's approached

and carried the engagement,

the woman does not look at him as a possible sexual

and she looks at him as a friend.

And that means the polarity has been completely destroyed.

And when the polarity is completely destroyed,

it's very hard to get that back to where she can look at you

with anything that resembles sexual tension again,

because you put yourself into frame position.

So when you replace that desire with familiarity,

that's the friend zone.

I'm familiar with you.

You're my friend where cool.

So there's no desire here with just friends,

which may seem like a good thing for the man,

because you have proximity to the woman,

but you have proximity on a friend level,

not proximity on a tension sexual desire level.

So it's actually the opposite of what you want.

When you have tension sexual desire with a woman,

you actually need the space.

You don't need the familiarity.

You need there to be space.

You need to be time away.

You need to be not available.

We talked about that already in the series.

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Point number 18.

Today's topic once again is men,

while you're getting no plus you number 18,

you are mirroring instead of anchoring.

This was discussed earlier in the series.

I touched on it earlier in the series.

Mirroring is when someone else is in a certain

energetic state and mirroring is when you get yourself

into that same state to match them.

You don't do this as a man.

When you're doing women, your job is not to mirror

her emotional state.

Or even mirror her energy.

She can try to mirror your energy.

She may try and she may succeed temporarily

on a few occasions, but your job is to hold the fort.

You hold the center of gravity

and she comes around to where you're at.

But you don't try to mirror her

because now again, when you're trying to mirror

somebody else's energy, they're leading and you're following.

That's not what a man's role is.

Man's role is to lead, woman's role is a following man, period.

And if you're a man looking to get more pussy

than you need to be in this position,

this is the space that you need to occupy.

You're the center of gravity, she orbits you.

The earth orbits the sun, sun does not orbit the earth.

When you reflect energy instead of anchoring energy,

anchoring is when you're in one spot and she comes back

to you reflecting is when whatever she does you do.

You surrender the frame because you're following her

and you eliminate the asymmetry.

The asymmetry is, I'm here steady holding this spot

and you're there emoting and filling your energies

and doing what you're doing.

You eliminate asymmetry, you surrender the frame

and now you just kill the attraction.

Attraction requires you holding the frame.

It requires asymmetry, it requires sexual tension.

As soon as you start mirroring somebody else's energy,

it signals several things.

Number one is signals that you're following them

and they're leading, a woman does not want to lead a man.

If she is going to be sexually interested in him,

she as soon as you start leading,

she's not sexually interested in you anymore, period, that fast.

And again, it's not because you're not cute anymore,

it's because the polarity, the tension's gone.

The energy's gone because of your energy

because of what you're doing.

And when you're not anchoring and she's anchoring

and you are orbiting around back to her,

then again, you're following your needy.

This is the wrong energy.

She can't follow this man.

She has to go find a man who can anchor her

and she has to orbit his center of gravity,

not you orbiting hers.

That's not the way it's going to go.

And if you think the girl is amazing,

the most beautiful woman you've ever seen in your life,

you cannot orbit her energy.

Under any circumstances,

not if you're looking to take anything further with her

or keep it going with her, it's not going to work.

If it goes, then that means she's just,

at that point, it's just going to be till she's using you.

She's going to be using you until she finds something better

at which point she gives her to be.

That's what happens.

That said, it was a recap today's class,

which is part six of our ongoing series,

Men Why Are Getting No Pussy.

Number 16, your nervous system is bound.

Your regulation, your urgency, your neediness,

or lack thereof, your stability, or instability.

All of these are communicating without words.

All this noise gets filtered out by the selector system

before attraction can happen.

So if your nervous system is communicating one thing,

your words are saying another thing.

People listen to the nervous system,

even though they cannot explain what they're hearing.

Point number 17, emotional closest before sexual polarity.

Hostness introduced before polarity neutralizes tension

when you neutralize tension as a man with a woman,

you become a friend to her, familiar.

You have proximity, but not the type that you're looking for.

That's not what you want in any way.

When you're a man with sexual attention

when you're another woman, you need space.

You need to be aware you need to not be available.

Number 18, you are mirroring a set of anchoring.

It signals that you are adapting instead of directing.

Remember the mask, none, and the feminine.

When you reflect instead of anchoring,

you are surrendering the frame,

you eliminate the asymmetry,

which is necessary for sexual tension.

And necessary for sexual intercourse.

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