
About this episode
Most of us want to be emotionally mature—calm in conflict, clear about our needs, and kind even when we're hurting. But no one really teaches us how to get there.
In this episode, Justin, Abi, and Rachel unpack one of the most overlooked skills of emotional maturity: distress tolerance. They explore how learning to stay present with uncomfortable feelings—like shame, rejection, or fear—can completely shift the way we handle conflict, communicate needs, and repair in relationships. You'll hear honest stories about moments when they wanted to escape, react, or fix things fast—and how they learned to stay grounded instead.
If you've ever been accused of overreacting… or felt powerless to stop yourself from shutting down, blaming, or spiraling in conflict, this conversation offers a compassionate pathway to building inner strength. Don't miss out!
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