436: Attachment Styles Explained: Why We Chase Unavailable People (and What To Do Instead) with Thais Gibson

Why do we want the people who give us the least clarity? Why do situationships feel addictive, and emotionally unavailable partners feel magnetic?

In this episode, Thais Gibson, founder of The Personal Development School, breaks down attachment styles and how they shape attraction, chemistry, boundaries, and relationship patterns. We discuss anxious attachment, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure attachment, when attachment styles begin, and why they can change throughout life.

We also explore the difference between chemistry and trauma bonding, why we’re drawn to our repressed traits, the six stages of relationships, and why nervous system work alone isn’t enough to create secure relationships. Thais shares the five pillars to change your attachment style, common triggers and boundary patterns for each style, and the practical steps to becoming securely attached.

If you’re stuck in mixed signals, repeating relationship patterns, or craving clarity in love, this episode will help you understand why, and what to do differently.

Visit university.personaldevelopmentschool.com and use code PDS2026 for 20% off of the Personal Development School’s 90-Day Attachment Healing membership.

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