442: The Way to Be More Self-Aware, with Tasha Eurich

Tasha Eurich: Insight

Tasha Eurich is an organizational psychologist, researcher, and New York Times best-selling author. Thinkers50 has named her one of the top 30 emerging management thinkers in the world and a top 50 world leader in coaching. She was selected by Marshall Goldsmith for his exclusive “100 Coaches” project to advance the practice of leadership.

Tasha’s TEDx talks have been viewed more than three million times. She is the author of the book Insight: The Surprising Truth About How Others See Us, How We See Ourselves, and Why the Answers Matter More Than We Think.

In this conversation, Tasha and I discuss the critical nature of self-awareness and the tendency most people have to stay mum about the truth. She shows us how to discover loving critics who will help you get better — and what you can do and say to support useful feedback coming your way.

Key Points

• Internal and external self-awareness are both critical — and different. Improving both is important for most leaders.
• “Research shows that people are perfectly willing to tell white lies when they’re easier than the cold, hard truth.”
• Loving critics are people who have mutual trust with you, have sufficient exposure to the behavior you want feedback on and a clear picture of what success looks like, and are willing and able to be brutally honest with you.
• It’s critical to be specific in the questions you ask, seeking feedback. Prime the pump by zeroing in on only one or two areas at a time.

Bonus Audio

• What Others See

Resources Mentioned

• 5-minute Insight Quiz
• Insight: The Surprising Truth About How Others See Us, How We See Ourselves, and Why the Answers Matter More Than We Think* by Tasha Eurich

Book Notes

Download my highlights from Insight in PDF format (free membership required).

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