
About this episode
What if the biggest problem isn’t “out there”… but is actually within?
In this episode, John speaks directly to a familiar figure, “Uncle Billy," the person whose words are harsh, sarcastic, and condemning. Everyone knows an "Uncle Billy."
But then he turns the question back on each one of us.
Drawing from Ephesians 4 and the words of Jesus, John explores:
- why condemnation often disguises itself as righteousness
- how outrage and sarcasm shape our hearts
- what the Bible really means by “unwholesome talk”
- how our words can either rot or restore relationships
- why kindness is central to following Jesus
You’ll learn:
- how to recognize “unwholesome talk” in everyday life
- why it’s easier to judge others than examine ourselves
- how to begin changing the tone of your words
- what it looks like to speak in a way that builds others up
Before we send this message to someone else, we’re invited to ask:
“Is that me, Lord?”
Because there is now no condemnation...even for the parts of us still being transformed.
📚 Today's Resources:
N.T. Wright, Ephesians (For Everyone Bible Study Guides)
Samuel Johnson, example of wit without malice
James Boswell, The Life of Samuel Johnson
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