59: Stop Asking “What’s Wrong with Me”: Understanding Healthy vs. Unhealthy Shame

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For years, I carried an invisible weight — one that whispered, “What’s wrong with me?”

When I froze in meetings, when I couldn’t leave a painful marriage, when I burned out and couldn’t make myself care anymore… I thought I was broken.

What I didn’t realize was that what I was experiencing wasn’t weakness — it was shame. And shame is one of the biggest barriers to healing and growth.

In this episode, I share how unhealthy shame quietly drives perfectionism, people-pleasing, and burnout — and how you can begin releasing it through awareness, nervous system regulation, and safe connection.

You’ll learn:

• The key difference between healthy and unhealthy shame
• Why shame lives in the body, not the mind
• A four-step process to release shame and reconnect with your worth
• How to move from self-attack to self-compassion

If you’ve ever asked, “What’s wrong with me?” — this episode will remind you: nothing is wrong with you. You are not broken. You are enough.

💬 If this resonates, share it with a friend who’s been carrying shame silently — and let’s start healing together.

Want to go from Good Girl to Badass Leader—calm, clear, and deeply self-trusting?

I offer a free 60-minute consultation to help you get clear on where you are, where you want to go, and what’s holding you back.

From there, we’ll explore what working together could look like.

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