60: You Can’t Stop the Waves—But You Can Learn to Surf Them: How to Stay Calm in Chaos

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I recorded this episode from Lombok, Indonesia — a small island next to Bali — where I’ve been surfing twice a day for two weeks. Between the salt water, the wipeouts, and the stillness of the ocean, I realized something simple but profound:

We can’t stop the waves.
But we can learn to surf them.

In this episode, I share three “real-life waves” I’ve surfed lately — from unexpected home repairs to an injury on my first day at surf camp — and how nervous system regulation and parts work helped me stay grounded instead of spiraling into panic or frustration.

You’ll hear how I applied simple somatic practices to move through chaos with calm, how I befriended the inner voices that used to drive me, and how I now lead from my wise adult instead of my worried parts.

If you’ve ever felt like life keeps throwing you one wave after another — this episode is for you.

🌊 Listen in to learn how to find calm in the storm, not after it — and to remember that confidence isn’t the absence of waves, but the ability to ride them with grace.

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