75: Why Success Feels So Hard (And How to Change It)

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If you’ve achieved a lot in your career but still feel exhausted, pressured, or constantly “on,” this episode is for you.

I recorded this on Lunar New Year — the year of the Fire Horse, a symbol of momentum, boldness, and ambition. And it made me reflect on something important: for many years, my success was powered by frantic fire — pressure, over-functioning, and constant striving.

Today, my ambition is still alive… but the fire feels different.
 It’s grounded. Regulated. Sustainable.

In this episode, I share why success often feels so heavy for high-achieving women, and what actually needs to change — not in your job, your team, or your workload, but inside you.

We’ll talk about:
 • Why over-functioning and “being the responsible one” drains your energy
 • The hidden beliefs and childhood conditioning that drive success-through-stress
 • How nervous system safety shapes your ability to rest, set boundaries, and lead
 • The simple equation that determines whether life feels hard or manageable
 • And how creating internal safety and expanding your capacity allows you to succeed with more ease

I also share personal stories from my corporate career and examples from my clients who are leading at higher levels than ever — but feeling calmer, steadier, and more grounded in the process.

Because success and suffering don’t have to go together.
You can be ambitious, impactful, and fulfilled — without burning yourself out.

If this episode resonates with you, I invite you to take the next step with me. You’ll find a link in the show notes to book a free consultation, where we can explore how to create more ease, capacity, and grounded confidence in your life and leadership.

I’m so glad you’re here.

Want to go from Good Girl to Badass Leader—calm, clear, and deeply self-trusting?

I offer a free 60-minute consultation to help you get clear on where you are, where you want to go, and what’s holding you back.

From there, we’ll explore what working together could look like.

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