#9: Raising Secure Kids: From Theory to Practice with Eli Harwood

Today, I am thrilled to have Eli Harwood, a leading expert in attachment relationships, join us. With 17 years of experience as a licensed therapist, Eli has devoted her career to understanding how we connect and heal. Join us as we embark on a journey from theory to practice, exploring the importance of secure attachment and its impact on relationships and parenting. In this episode, Eli shares her extensive experience and expertise, offering insights gleaned from years of attachment research. From debunking cultural myths surrounding attachment parenting to defining the core concepts of attachment theory, Eli guides us through the intricacies of forming secure bonds with our loved ones. Discover practical strategies for navigating modern parenting challenges, including realigning with your children after conflict, and striking a balance between attachment and independence. Explore the CALM approach to regulating a child's emotions and learn how to address the legacy of insecure attachment with compassion and understanding. Let’s dive in. 00:00 Introduction 02:01 The Importance of Secure Attachment 05:58 Eli Harwood’s Journey in Attachment Research 08:29 Debunking Cultural Myths of Attachment Parenting 12:05 Core Concepts of Attachment Theory 22:02 Defining Secure Attachment 22:49 Modern Parenting Challenges in Achieving Secure Attachment 27:24 Realigning with Your Kids After Conflict 30:12 Balancing Attachment and Child Independence 35:00 Benchmarking Secure Attachment 37:22 Repairing the Parent-Child Bond After Conflict 38:03 Regulating a Child’s Emotions: The CALM Approach 42:21 Addressing the Legacy of Insecure Attachment 43:40 Building Secure Attachment 46:15 Final Thoughts Follow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/ Follow Eli Harwood here: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd?igsh=ZGdraWpkYnJnOG90 Purchase her latest book 'Raising Securely Attached Kids' here: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0CPDP7DT5/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?ie=UTF8&qid=&sr=