#90: How to Stop Sabotaging Your Love Life

Think you’re “too much,” “too independent,” or “too intimidating” for love? You’re not. You’re just done playing small! In this episode, Hilary Silver sits down with Ready for Love grad Kara Judd, a powerhouse executive who finally got honest about what was really holding her back in relationships. Kara opens up about how she stopped blaming her success, her height, and her “strong personality,” and started doing the deeper work, rewriting the stories that kept her settling for less. Now she’s in a healthy, equal relationship built on respect, communication, and growth. This isn’t a fairy tale, it’s what happens when you heal your patterns and show up as your real self. Episode Highlights: Why accomplished women still feel insecure in love How subconscious beliefs shape attraction and dating patterns Kara’s process for rewriting old stories and showing up differently What a truly equal relationship looks like after doing the work Why being “too much” is actually your greatest strength The difference between being chosen and choosing yourself Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Kara’s Love Story and Dating Breakthrough 03:10 How Childhood Beliefs Sabotage Love 05:26 The Wake-Up Moment That Changed Everything 08:45 Attracting a High-Quality Man After Healing 12:30 Boundaries, Space, and Real Connection 15:22 From Self-Sabotage to Self-Worth 18:44 How Confidence Changes Love 21:10 Real Love Starts with Self-Honesty Tune in and find out what really changes when you stop settling and start showing up fully. ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply Connect With Kara Judd: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kara-judd-4477a01/ Cozy Earth: Luxurious Bedding Up to 40% Off + 100-Night Sleep Trial Use Promo Code: READYFORLOVE AirDoctor: The Trusted Air Purifier for a Healthier Home Use Promo Code: READY Up to $300 off + Free 3-Year Warranty Exclusive Podcast Offer