993. Q&AF: Building A New Identity, Work Vs "Me Time" & Progress Paralysis

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Open up

Guys any question number one

Andy I'm doing things now that the old version of me wouldn't even attempt better habits harder conversations bigger goals

But internally I still feel like the same person

How long does it take before your identity actually catches up to the life you're building and is there anything you could do to speed it up?

Huh, all right look first of all

White okay

Consider this the reason you're moving so good is because you remember what it's like to be the old you

That's not a bad thing

Okay, when people fail in life whether it's a business or whether it's their personal development or whether it's their fitness

They fail because they forget what life was like before all right

We see this all the time in business people make money they get

In a comfortable spot and then all of a sudden they're broke all right, so

The reason this happens is because their identity changes from someone who is

Being a hard worker who is thinking who is solving problems who is

Innovating who's pushing themselves down the path to this place where they start to take it for granted and they assume that

It's always going to be there which it will not and

and

the most

common types of people that lose are not actually people that just never try

It's actually people who won once and they win once and they attach their identity to that win and

Then they lose all of the habits and all of the work and all of the discipline and everything over the course of time because they

Identify with that win

People who win long-term people who win over the course of their life over and over and over and over and over again

They never forget

Who the fuck they actually are?

Okay, so it's this nuance that you have to learn to master

Which is being grateful for where you're at being grateful that things are going good

But also remembering that things are not going good because you're you or you're gifted things are going good

Because the old you was willing to do things that produce the current reality that you live in and

When you lose side of this and you lose the perspective that

The current reality that you live in was built by someone who used to exist

You want to keep them other fucker that created all this shit moving, okay?

This is makes sense. All right, so a lot of people

Completely fuck their entire lives up

By thinking that their success is

The result of them when in reality

It's not the result of them. It's the result of the actions that the previous version of them have taken which have produced this reality

Okay, so now you're in a reality of comfort. You've got some money in the bank. You're pretty fit things are going well

And then you stop you stop doing the things that hungry person did you stop doing the things that fat person did to get the shape

You stop doing the things that broke person did to fix that problem and then what happens the problems start to happen again

Okay, and slowly and surely you go back down to who you used to be in reality not just in your mind so

When we think about this, what is this problem, right? This is actually an ego problem, okay?

And when we talk about being humble, this is where humility is applicable. We have to understand and

Detach our results from our identity and

Understand that our results come from the actions

so

What most people do is they go through this situation of life where like if you imagine a

Bell curve for those of you who are listening on audio and you start on the left hand side of the curve and you don't know shit

You don't know anything you are very willing to learn you are hungry. You are a sponge

You're willing to do things that other people won't do you are willing to work harder you're willing to work smarter

You're willing to pour into yourself because dude you're a blank slate and you know you're a blank slate

So what happens is you start to move up the curve and things are going good and and you're

Continuing these habits because they're still fresh for you and you're you're like, fuck yeah, this is working. This is going good

And what happens is you get to the to the top which you perceive as a top which is not actually the top

You get to the top of this curve and what happens for most people is they start to believe that the reason that they are at that curve is because

They are great. No, you're you're not great. None of us are actually great

We're the result of great actions over the course of time and so when your identity actually switches from

You know, you're this hungry individual who doesn't know shit to I'm great because I breathe the air and I walk you know

I'm the fucking man. What happens is you start

Losing the perspective of what it took to get where you are and you stop doing those things and then you slide down the

Backside of the curve, okay, and you don't notice that at first that first is just a cut corner at first is just a you know

Mr. Workout a missed workout or you know a missed meeting or

Something like that right and then before you know it your life's fallen apart and you can't figure out why and then you find yourself

Back at ground zero, which people at this now what people call this part is it's no longer ground zero

It's rock bottom. There's right. Okay, so now you're back. You're at quote unquote rock bottom and

You have to start again

So you get you get hammered so hard that you humble yourself and

Then you're like, okay, well fuck. I got a I got to get back to this and then what happens the process repeats and you start to go up the curve and

For most people they make the same mistake again when things start getting good

They get comfortable and then they go down the curve so most people live in this in this series of curves, okay up down

Down and the goal is for you when you get to the top of that first curve when everything is going good

You're making some money. You're fit. You're kicking ass. You are the fucking man

But you have to remember

That the reason that you're there is because there's the actions that you took and if you continue to take those actions when you're at the top

That's where you continue to escalate and the the mountain actually never ends

You just keep going up and up and up and up and up and up and so this is the difference between people who

When consistently and continue to level up and people who kind of like

Live this up and down, you know lifestyle whether and this this could apply to any area of your life

And it should apply to all areas of your life, right because success isn't just money money is very important

But it's a bunch of different shit. So

It's such an interesting thing man. I guess fun like now hindsight. I've you've I've heard you say this many times

And I never really understood it but you're like, dude, I'm still a lazy dude. I'm still a fucking exactly

But like that makes it man. Yeah, I think the thing too is like dude

I can understand why a lot of people get in that because for a lot of people

They're probably afraid of that old version of them. They want to get so far. You should be afraid of it

Yeah, that's what should push you down down the road. They forget should read that's right

Yeah, you should like I do I know like I know that 350 pound fat lazy mother fucker that I used to be is still in there

He's still in there man. He's just fucking waiting

He's waiting for his time. He's waiting for his opportunity to come out

I'm aware of that because I'm old enough to have gone up and down that curve. Okay, so

At 36 years old I decided hey, I'm fucking not doing this shit no more

I'm just gonna stay on the gas and you know what's happened everything. I just told you I continue to go up

And even you know my buddies who are successful. They're like fuck dude. All you do is win

Yeah, because I behave like a broke person all the fucking time and

You know people get around me and they're like, why is he so urgent? Why does he get so fucking intense?

What is his deal? Why does he do this or that? Why doesn't he just relax because bro?

I know what fucking happens when you do because I know who the fuck I am on the inside and I know

My propensity just like most people is to be lazy as fuck

To to waste my time to not be productive to not train and

I don't want that

So I keep it very very close and I let my identity be nuanced, okay?

Like if we're having a real conversation and they say, okay, you know, like how do you feel about things?

Fuck dude. I feel good. I'm pretty much the fucking dude. Okay. I've done a lot of shit

Built a lot of companies built a bunch of podcasts two number one podcasts

Fucking biggest mental transformation program. I've done a lot of shit, okay?

But when I show up every day I

Act like it's day one like I like all my goal is is to win the fucking day, okay, so

You know I know what I am and I'm okay with that and I'm aware of that and I don't try to hide that and I let that drive me down the path

And so when you say like when this person says well, when does my identity catch up?

You really don't want it to if that makes sense, okay?

You want to get to a point where you understand that the actions produce the result and you are you are

Feeling good and proud and confident and you developed, you know, the grit and the fortitude and the mental toughness to push through

But you also understand

That those things have to be applied every single day to maintain or escalate from that point. Yeah, so what you was still there always is it always is

Yeah, I love it man. I love it. Yeah, let's get to let's get to question number two

This is why people that gain weight and lose weight go back and forth back and forth back and forth

Because they're not solving the real problem, bro. This is why 75 hard and live hard such a big deal

Everybody tries to make it about your your weight and your body fat percentage and your training and all this shit

When in reality, dude, it's training your brain. It's getting your brain condition to be highly disciplined to be able to

adhere to a plan all the time not just when you feel good, right and when you switch that

When you switch your

Understanding that everything comes from your mental toughness your ability to succeed in life every fucking area

And it becomes a mental game

It's just it's just it changes your life and anybody who's done 75 hard knows this

This is why people who do 75 hard and live the live hard lifestyle continue to escalate up if they're doing it correctly

I love it, ma'am

Guys, Andy question number two

All right, Andy Andy I'm the person everyone counts on at work at home and my family if something needs to get handled

It usually falls on me. I chose this life and I'm proud of that but some days I'm exhausted and I feel like there's no

Space left for what I want how do you keep pushing

To win without resenting the very life you worked so hard to build I don't want to be selfish

But it's like okay guys you guys are good. Yes. Okay. It's my turn now

How do you balance the I guys get into that point of you talk about it in selfishness and selflessness, right?

Yeah, where does that what does that cross? Well, you know look dude

Success comes with real responsibility

Okay, and when you start to win and you start to do things other people around you become

Depending on you and you become responsible for their outcomes

in certain situations and

You have to understand that there's no world where anybody's built anything significant especially significant wealth

Where the responsibility isn't much greater when they have it than it was before

So this is a reality of becoming successful like this is just part of it other people are going to depend on you

You are going to be responsible for other people and if you're not you won't be able to get where you want to go

It's impossible because it takes more than just you so

You have to understand that the reason

You are in the life that you have is because you've handled shit so well for so long now

I can understand what you're saying because I've struggled with this as well and I still struggle with this

Okay, there's a reason that I don't travel all over the place. There's a reason that I'm not at every fucking you know big event

And yes, I like to work and I like to create and I like to build and I prefer that over doing all that other shit

But yeah, it'd be cool to be able to do some other stuff and I could do those other things and

the reality of doing those things is as simple as

You understanding that having time

For yourself is a matter of being effective

Or ineffective and if you have a company and you're making money and things are going well

And you still don't have time for yourself and you still don't have the ability to

Live a life

You're not running your shit right. You're running your shit inefficient. Yeah, okay, and this is why the what I talk about the 24-hour game and the power list is so important

Because when and by the way you get the power list podcast for free. It's called win the day episode 16 on real AF. You want to go listen to that

It'll give you the the play to run

But the whole thing is it's like dude you can only do so much in a day

So if once you do your five five critical tasks in a day

You the rest of your day is free for you to live your life. That's the whole idea of the power list system

Which by the way all these other motherfuckers are trying to steal now and pretend like it's there

Core five or whatever the fuck they call it look dude

I've been running this system for damn near 30 years

Okay, it fucking works and the reason I created the system was because I understood very simply that I needed to enjoy the process along the way

so the whole point

And by the way

If you're in operator standard if you're in the operator standard app you understand you're starting to understand this very well

We're playing a 24-hour game

And there's only so many things that you can get done in a day and as an entrepreneur

There's gonna be a list a mile long

Whenever you choose to address it. It's gonna be there

Tomorrow it's gonna be there the next day the list never gets shorter

So you have to decide what a win is for me a win is very simple

Five critical tasks a day those do not include my to-do's these are critical tasks that move my business forward my goals forward

Once those things are done the rest of the day is

Mine to to do with whatever I want now. I choose usually to like

Continue to work and reinvest that time back but when I was yeah because because dude

I like being here and I like being around the guys and I like doing the the things right

But when I was younger, you know

You know, I this is even when we were building the business like I I would do the five critical tasks if I got done by noon

Bro, I'd fucking leave I'd go fucking do whatever I want drive my car or you know fucking whatever. Yeah, so

You have to come up with a way for you to enjoy your life

As you go down the process because here's the thing dude this this place that you're trying to get to where you're like

When is it gonna be my time if you don't adjust?

How you see your day? It'll never be your time. There will always be a list. There will always be shit to do

There's always gonna be problems. There's always gonna be people and you have to

Understand

That true happiness is not this destination that you're trying to get to

Enjoying your life is not this destination. Enjoying your life is something that you do on a daily basis

Right, so this idea and a lot of people have this especially

When it comes to winning and making money and shit or running a business, you know, once I get here

Everything will be great, but dude you're never gonna get there

And I'm not saying you won't get to your goals

But when you get to your goals, you're gonna have new goals because that's what fucking winners do

So if you're constantly stacking new shit on new shit on new shit on new shit

You tell me when you're gonna live your life the answer is fucking

Never yeah, and by the way your business should be built in a way where you enjoy it

I was about to say you like the people yeah, you like the people you work with you like dude

I love coming here every day honestly dude

like

I could be in the worst mood ever in the morning and once I walk in here. I fucking love being here. This is this is

You should build your business

Understanding that you are going to spend a lot most of your time there

So you want to work with people that you like you want to do things that you think are cool

You want to build things that you enjoy building you want to create things that you're proud of

These are important things to being happy long-term and because money's not gonna be the only thing that does it

Now I could promise you this you're never gonna be happy with no money

Like all your friends are gonna say stupid shit like oh you're gonna live your life

Well, how are they living their life? Oh, they're living it in the fucking basement playing call of duty or they're living it in a bar stool

That's not living a life bro

so

You know you got to reframe how you think about it and you got to reorganize your effectiveness and make sure that you're looking

At your life on a 24 hour basis and

Just stacking wins win win win win win win and part of those wins every day is

Being effective enough to have a fucking life. Okay, like dude really

Um, if you're in a place right now where you're like oh, this is consuming me and I'm working

17 hours a day like dude. Yeah, that's sometimes you have to do that stuff

Sometimes it lasts for a couple years when it through two three years, especially when you're starting

But the reality is is that you have to build a life and a business that you enjoy

Because that does become your life, right? Yeah, absolutely dude. I love it. Yeah, I love it dude

I thought it was a tough thing. It is. It's a new one thing. Yeah, it is. It's a it's a fucking there's new

Rats to everything in business and life and performance um

But it's you know

If you're a driven person, okay, here's the thing if you're a driven person like I said you're gonna you're gonna

You're gonna get 90% to where you want to go and then you're gonna be have a new set of goals

It's gonna be grow the business bigger. It's gonna be do this thing

And that's the only way to win long-term is to continue to reset the bar, okay?

Because if you become one of these people that just gets to the point and they say oh, I got it

Now you're like we talked about in the first question

Okay, because here's what you don't understand and a lot of people fail to understand this

Everybody else is continuously moving forward. They're innovating. They're pushing. They're working. They're trying

So the market is always shifting

forward, okay?

Advancements are always happening

The minute you say oh, I'm good man. I got I got my you know

$500,000 house of the lake and I got a BMW and you know, I got a bass boat or whatever to fuck you're into

That listen you're gonna get killed because you're gonna stop right where you are and everybody else is gonna pass you by

And this is how the game works

So the only way to win long-term is to be like the first guy who's always stacking on top expanding new

innovative

Pushing harder getting bigger scaling out which means more responsibility

Which means the place you're trying to get to is mythical. It doesn't actually exist

It exists every single day and you have to be aware of that once you're aware of that

Your life perspective changes and it becomes you know like because people are always asking me to be like well

Dude, how do you balance work in life? It is my life like it's just my life

You know like it's that doesn't mean that

Work is my life or life is my life. It means it's all one thing. Yeah, you know what I mean?

It's also a day-to-day thing like you said man like yeah, there's gonna be some days where yeah

I did I did I had great balance today. Yeah, there's some days where like that fucking scales chip to the other side

Yeah, it's just is what it is. Yeah, let's try again tomorrow. Listen dude. The balance is a macro balance

It's not it's not microbalance. You know people people

misunderstand like

They they think they got to have a certain amount of time every day like you know

At four o'clock, I got to walk out the door because that's this time. Well, if that's the life you want you shouldn't be an entrepreneur

That's not reality

That's never gonna happen and you're never gonna win in that in that situation. It's not gonna work

you should be an employee

That gets a job and comes in and goes home is happy with staying exactly where you are

Okay, because there's three kinds of people

There's the people who come in and you know, they they do their job and

They get paid and then they go home

Then there's the people that come in and they progress they improve their skill set

They do more than to ask they anticipate needs they contribute to the winning those people move up

And then there's the people who create from the ground the ground zero, which is an entrepreneur, okay?

All three are needed all three of those things are needed and valued

You have to decide what you want you want to be but you don't get the benefits of being an employee

And the winnings of being an entrepreneur. It doesn't fucking work like that

So you got to understand dude what you're signing up for

You know, you're signing up for a different kind of life

You're signing up to play a different game and all this shit that you see online and all these posts and all this

Fucking nonsense. That's for other people dude. That's not for you

You know that applicable. It's not I love it. Yeah

That's real man. That's where we got one more question for you Andy guy guys Andy question number three

And my question to you is

I've been a general manager for restaurant for three and a half years now

I started in the restaurant industry eight years ago and I've worked my way from a line cook to the position

I'm in now. I'm only 25 years old and I have turned the restaurant

I'm running now from a 1.3 million operation to a 2.3 million dollar operation in three and a half years

I mean this with respect to the owner, but he is more of an investor. I am the

Day in day out running the operation no exaggerations. I know I'm young

But I have this calling of being great. I mean that with 100% confidence

I know I can run a restaurant and make it successful

My goal is to start my own restaurant due to the fact that my boss does not believe in raises

I've not received one in three and a half years even with the growth of the company we're in

We are about to open up our second location. There's still no talks of more compensation

I'm in the position where I know I could be successful and do my own thing

But I have paralysis that's keeping me from doing I'm not scared to fail

I'm sure there will be some failures in my future, but one thing is I won't quit

What advice would you give to a 25-year-old who has a wife and a newborn baby to get out of that paralysis

And kick open the door then start their own thing and become one of the great business entrepreneurs in this country. It's very simple

What you're going to life going to look like if you don't do it

If you say right where you are and this dude pays you right where he pays you

Which you clearly said he was going to and you stay five more years there

What's your life going to look like?

Very simple. You already know the answer. Okay, and by the way

If you are who you say you are

And you are one of these people that's called to be great

And you are one of these people that has always known like I'm meant for something more

I'm supposed to be winning

I'm supposed to be doing this and you you feel that on the inside because no one's going to come tell you that like that's a calling

How much money would it have for him to pay you how much money would he have to pay you for you to give up on that

He couldn't even fucking afford it bro

Okay, like if he came and said hey, hey, there's a million bucks a year

And you truly have what you say you have it wouldn't be enough. I don't know

Okay, so you're not this isn't even about the money

This is about what the fuck you're going to do with your life

And yeah, clearly you do know how to run a restaurant

But running a restaurant isn't the end all be all can you create a brand out of the restaurant can you can you

create a place

Where it provides the financial outcome that you actually want to provide or you like

Managing something and starting something for scratch are two different fucking things, okay

You have a great perspective because you've grown up you went through the line cook you went you learned all the jobs

Huge deal still not the same thing

Still not the same thing is putting your balls on the line and and fucking writing checks not knowing if you're going to be able to pay him

Okay, it's still it's it's not the same thing dude at the end of the day

That guy who you say is an investor his ass is on the line yours isn't all right

And that's why those people get make the most money because they can handle the uncertainty and most people can't

What most people understand is that they're living in a situation of uncertainty anyway

Because what if the restaurant fucking tanks?

What if it get what if something happens? What if someone finds a mouse head in the fucking steak

And it makes the news, okay, like you're like one fucking thing away

From being unemployed you just don't understand that

So

How I would look at this if I were you is what's my life going to look like if I don't do this, okay

Because if you are truly called to become

What you say you want to become which is one of the greatest entrepreneurs and I'm assuming

restaurant doors

You can't do that where you're at yeah

And every day that you fucking stay there is a day that you're not going to get to live that out

So you got to be real about what you're trying to trade and I understand

Yeah, it's fucking scary

But you know what the game is you know what the game is the game is fucking jump and figure it to fuck out

That's the entrepreneur game, okay, and not everybody's built for it dude. There's a lot of great managers

There's a lot of great managers that cannot do that part of it that cannot fucking do it

It is a different I was actually just getting my haircut and I was thinking about this

And dude, I was thinking like

Like I just be honest exactly what I thought

Exactly what I thought was if people actually knew what goes on in my head

And a daily basis they would never be an entrepreneur. No, no, they'd be in therapy somewhere

Yeah, for real because like legit

I'm sitting here and I'm thinking about

The new arcane tech

Then I'm thinking about first form

Then I'm thinking about S2 then I'm thinking about cannabis then I'm thinking about tequila

Then I'm thinking about fucking the show then I'm thinking and he starts

All fucking like trying to organize themselves in my brain and my fucking head is hurting like legit

I'm sitting in the chair. I'm like I got a fucking headache and then I thought well fuck

I think everybody's head would fucking ache if they had all this shit going on at one time

Okay, and

It's just not

For most people it's just not

Because it consumes you dude and then like on top of it

Try to have a normal relationship

It's almost fucking impossible because here's the thing dude

I'm always there. I'm always there. I'm always there. I'm all my brain is always

It's so hyper vigilant to solving problems that when there aren't problems guess what that's a problem

I try to find a fucking problem. That's right. Okay, so my my so your mind becomes so conditioned

To executing and solving problems that it's almost impossible to be at peace

Because even when you're everything is calm and everything is

Going okay

You're still in this place of like all right something's gonna happen

I got to fucking what what's gonna happen? I'm gonna anticipate because true entrepreneurs are anticipating needs

They're not reacting. They're anticipating. So when I'm sitting on the beach somewhere doing normal rich guy shit

You know what's going through my head

All right, this could happen

Here's how we protect against this this could happen

Here's how we do this and I'm doing that for fucking all these different things at once

And do the sounds it sounds insane to people like right guys are about start playing on it

That's not a problem. Oh, yeah, you guys know you guys fucking know these dudes will guess dude

These dudes will get texts in the middle of fucking night and have nothing to do with fucking anything that we talked about

And we're like hey

We got to do this in this and you and the you guys here the podcast team will be like I know you're thinking it

You don't say it, but like what the fuck you know like

It sounds insane to the average person. It sounds insane to my own fucking team. Yeah, but like bro

I'm looking way down the pipe. I'm looking way down the pipe. I'm looking all right

Here's where where things are going

Here's where we got to be positioned. This is what needs to happen

And when that's going on on multiple projects, bro your brain doesn't have the capacity to process other kinds of information

And luckily god blessed me with a pretty good fucking brain, you know what I'm saying like so I think

You know for most people like dude, that's a miserable life. It's miserable

But for the people who are built for it, that's all they fucking want and that's all they want

Okay, like when I when I sit down and you know Dana and I talk right or I talk with fucking her mosey or any of my buddies

Who are hyper successful ed my let

We're all we're all like that

We're like dude when you sit down like you sit down have us a guard with Ed

You might sit there and fucking silence

And that's the cool that is a cool thing like when you're other around around other high achieving people

You could sit there and like super fucking silence for an hour

Just thinking and then you know Alex will say something like have you ever thought of this

Oh, what about that

Right and like it's just it's it's a it's just a different kind of dude bro or or woman

It's just a different person and for most people they can't fucking handle that dude

And that's not me saying

Beating my chest saying oh, I have this no, that's just what I'm built to do

Not everybody's built for it bro, and that's one of the biggest problems with entrepreneurship

And I don't want to discourage people by saying this

But you have you have to be built for fucking war bro. You have to be built for it

You know, and I hate to use the example because like I don't want to disrespect like what actual warriors

But your mind sets the same

Okay, I'm thinking of all my people

And I'm thinking of like because at this point, dude, it's really not about me anymore. Okay, it's about my fucking people

I'm thinking of all the things and I'm like, okay, I got to protect

It's just like being it being a battlefield. Yeah, you know, I've never been on one

But I imagine this is what it's like. Okay, here's what could happen

This is what could all right. I need you guys to move over here because they're gonna fucking hit here

And if you don't move

You're gonna get fucking killed and that's the same concept in business. You're moving chest pieces

To win this game and

Uh

You know most people look at that and they say well, that's no way to live your life

But like dude, you know, and you've been there when I've been talking to Dana

You know what fucking Dana said I fucking love it. I fucking love this shit with a smile right and dude

They do love it and I love it. Yeah, but like I

Most of you would be fucking miserable and I don't mean that out of disrespect. I just mean that

As a fact like you just what it's not for you

Pick one thing be good at it make some money

Keep moving down the pipe don't do 500 things do the what you know like

There's levels to entrepreneurs, bro. Like there's there's like

Inside

Okay, so it's it's basically

8% of the populations actual entrepreneurs and less than 1% are actually successful and inside that less than 1%

there's like

Levels in that 1%

Okay, and like the true fucking killers

Like these mother all they want to do is fucking hunt bro. That's all they fucking want to do

They're built for it. They're built for conquering. They're built for building like bro if I was if I was in the fucking

you know the

1200 year you know if I was living in the year 1200 bro

I'd be conquering fucking world

You know what I'm saying like I'd be riding in on horses and we'd be killing mother fuckers and it would be straight up

Conquering because that's what I'm fucking built to do. I get to do it in business, which is great and safe

Yeah, yeah, not always not always like people ain't dying, you know, yeah, man not always

Not always, bro. You get you get in there and you get into big money shit and you start fucking with people

They don't they don't they don't like like this is another thing like

When you get into big money and there's big money on the line people do all kinds of fucked up shit, bro

They'll hire people to go get a job at your company and try to corporate espionage. They'll try to sabotage you

They'll try to fuck with you. They'll threaten you like these are like it's a different world, bro

It's like fucking old school gangster shit and you gotta be a real fucking gangster to deal with it

That's real so and you know you know that

So I did it you know

And I don't say that to discourage people because you can condition yourself

But it's all about what the fuck you actually want like what the fuck do you want right do you do you

Like you have to be real about what you want and nobody really ever asked themselves. What do I really want

They see the car they see the house they see the they see the fucking garage

They see the the private travel they see the hobnavon with other people and they say fuck I want that

But they want that they don't want the fuck a shit that comes with it right because

There's 20 years of backstory for these dudes all of them 20 30 years of just eating fucking shit

To get to that point and like dude that's not for everybody man. Yeah, it's just not and uh, but but it's achievable for everybody

That's the thing you can do it

Do you want to do it is the is the question so like to this guy who's saying I want to be one of the greatest ever it bro

You're gonna trade a lot for that. There's a lot

uh

The greatest rest restaurant doors in the world

They're they're no different than Dana White in their world right they run their fucking world Dana said something to me dude

He when we were talking about Trump one time

He's like

You know how you run you run your world, right? I'm like yeah, and he goes I run my world

He goes Donald Trump runs the world

So but there's levels. Yeah, okay, so like

Like you could criticize Trump all you want and that's why like I get a good read on what's going on with the dude

Because I understand the level of where the fuck he is he that dude's a straight-up fucking warrior, bro

You can't get where he got without being that way required it

It's dude. It's a different kind of dude and it's just not something that most people can fucking do

Because and not because they can't do it

They can't survive the process of doing it. They'll fucking go crazy

so

I believe that you could become who you want to become and I believe that you think you want to be great

But you have to ask yourself are you willing to pay the price of greatness because that is the most important question

I want to do one little final follow-up on this for you

Uh, no, I know we're running out of time, but I want to ask you this because the money aspect

They're not getting the raise aspect. You mentioned right? Okay, who like and again, what if you don't do it you stay there

How realistic do we need to be like he's not about to start this entrepreneur path? Okay, it's very simple

It makes a money either very simple you know I'm saying very simple

You work

Okay, I worked two three other jobs the first ten years. I was in business

I worked those jobs to support myself so the business could stay open. Yeah

This is the part nobody talks about

So if you're going through an adjustment of

Working for someone else, but then starting your own thing

You got to minimize your life. You got to get rid of that nice car. You got to get a piece of shit

You got to get rid of that nice condo or that nice house and go live in a shithole

Okay, you got to downsize your life to where you can just function

Then when you're to that place you're working towards the thing

And then when the thing starts to pay a little bit of money and you can survive over there

Like you start a restaurant think start going well. You're able to start making a little bit of money

When you're able to replace the income that comes from

That you are doing the other jobs of support. That's when you make the full jump. Yeah, okay

Not a moment before no no, but most people aren't willing to take that step backwards because it's a little embarrassing

So that's where the hang-up is for most people

Most people don't want to go from driving a you know

Fucking Tahoe or a Denali to driving a fucking 1987 beater. Yeah, Ford Ranger right exactly

People don't want to do that and and that ends up costing them their entire lives like that's fucking crazy

That's part of that process you for sure

Crazy and by the way

I just want to hit on this too and this goes for everybody who's an entrepreneur or an employee

No one's giving you a fucking race like that doesn't that's not what happens, bro

Like very few companies will proactively come and say hey, there's the fucking race. Yeah, your job is you understand like you work for you

Okay, now you might be part of a team, but you're bringing something unique to the team

What's that worth you have to start thinking of it as like the operator thinks of it?

What is my value here and if your value is not really strong

You got to build value if your value is strong and you're not getting the recognition

Then you have to be very tactful and say okay, here's what I do

This is what I believe it's worth and you have to go have a conversation and say with the fucking facts

By the way, not bullshit

Here's the facts. I do this. I do this. I do this. I do this

I think it's worth this I'm currently getting paid that I would like to have a talk with you about this

That's where the conversation starts and a lot of people ride away and what would otherwise be great careers

Because they're afraid to have a conversation like that

You know how many people quit their fucking jobs because they're like oh, I'm not getting paid enough

Well, did you fucking ask you to pay more maybe we had a meeting

Did did you did you display your value? Are you being honest with yourself about your value?

Right like dude, and then what happens is these people quit and they go somewhere else and they have the same habit

They think that everybody's going to just reward them and

part of being successful is

And like everybody likes to say oh I feel good know my worth the motherfuckers that say that don't have no worth

They just don't your job should be to be so fucking good so good

so good

That the company couldn't operate without you and when you can get to that point

You could write your own fucking check and that's the way you should think about it as an entrepreneur or as an employee

If you just consistently get frustrated because you're not making enough money and go from thing to thing to thing to thing to thing

You're no different than the entrepreneur that quits over after two years

And they end up wasting their whole lives and seven different fucking businesses that never work

all right, so

Part of maturity and part of like and by the way a lot of people are full of shit

Okay, a lot of people will come in and they'll say I'm so worth this and that doesn't mean anything dude

That doesn't just because you feel like you're supposed to make more money doesn't mean you're worth more money

Okay, you have to come with the facts. You have to show your worth and it's your job not the employer's job

To compile that

And display that worth and an ideal situation you work for a good ethical company

They will recognize your value beforehand

But that's not most places

Most places you're gonna have to go and you're gonna have to say hey boss

Here's what I do. This is what I've done. These are the things that I handle

This is how good it gets done. Do you agree that gets done well? Yes, I agree

Well, here's what I'd like to be paid and that's a normal conversation that a lot of young people just fucking won't ever have

That's a grown up adult. That's it dude. You should never be embarrassed

To talk about money. You should never be embarrassed to talk about money. That is a fucking real thing

Okay, and so many young people will ruin their lives because they cannot have a conversation about fucking money

It's a normal thing, but it's on you

And if you aren't willing to put those things together and display it in a way that makes sense or actually be valuable

You're gonna fucking rot. That's the reality dude. So you have

You you have to be undeniably great

You have to

Display that you're undeniably great if a good company you work for a good company and I say fuck I love that guy

We got to fucking keep him, but not every place is like that

So it's on you to market yourself

You see what I'm saying? Absolutely. There's got a situation. You got something scratching on the inside of you

Oh, it doesn't matter for that guy if for for this dude particular. I was just addressing everywhere. Yeah

Yeah, no for sure for this guy in particular

If that's true what you say and it's true you need to leave that fucking job and

Figure it to fuck out because you will fucking ruin your life. I love it man

I love it dude. What guys Andy? That was three. All right guys. We'll see you tonight

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