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On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how big your success needs to before getting appreciated by others, how to stay in charge of your business without becoming trapped by it, and how to break out of "feeling stuck" when the path ahead feels unclear and risky.
What is up guys it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realist say goodbye to the lies to fake this and delusions of my
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Fucking ever on it. Yeah, yeah
People are fucking winning too, bro. Yeah, they are. It's awesome. Yeah, they are. It's awesome dude
I did a I did a live stream in there with the with the people
The other day and like I was asking about their wins dude. It was it was crazy. Yeah, like
30 pounds down 20 pounds down
Making more money got this going on like it was just it was fucking cool, man
Because look dude
We're gonna fix what's going on in the world which everybody is frustrated about we have to build better human beings
That's the bottom line. Yeah, so you know, it's easy to set that goal out there
But being able to walk it backwards. That's where I think a lot of people miss it. Yeah, well
You can't give away the fucking before secret. Yeah, all right no secret sauce. It's very helpful
Very very fucking hell. Yeah, you're in there. Yeah
You got your little crew in there. Yeah, that's crew calls and everything. Yeah, it's cool
Um, but yeah sick, man. Well, let's uh, let's let's let's try to help some people
Let's try to make some people better how we can
Guys know how this works. I got three give ones for you. All right. Yeah, let's do it
Guys Andy question number one Andy. I've made some decent progress so far
No payoffs, no massive payoffs, no big wins just yet though
Part of me feels proud and part of me wonders if I'm just settling because nothing looks impressive from the outside
How do you measure winning when no one's clapping for you?
I know the horse goes before the cart man
But how does how big does the win needs to be before you get the clips? Well, if you're doing it for the collapse
You're doing it for the wrong reason
Okay, because let me tell you a little secret
Right now you're looking for people to celebrate winning and unfortunately in the culture that we live in
People will pretend to celebrate winning and then feel jealous and spiteful and bitter and frustrated about their own lives
So what will happen and everybody needs to just accept that this is the reality
You
Will get to a point where your success is recognized, but once you get to that point
people
Do not clap the way that you expect them to okay, and if you're doing everything that you're doing for the
admiration or the validation
externally you need to realign and think about why you're doing it because
Building something is a lonely process especially in the beginning
But I'm telling you
None of you this man or woman or anybody else needs any
Fucking validation from the outside world and to expect it is a false expectation that creates this
This extra weight that you have to carry that you don't need to carry. There's other stuff to carry
That's right. It's gonna be hard enough, dude
So you you have to understand most of your outcome comes for I would say 98% of your outcome
Comes from you controlling the things that you can at such a level that the 2% of the time that it's not in your control
The people who are quote-unquote they have the connections or they have the gatekeeping or they've built something
That you guys all want to be at those tables everybody's worried about networking
You don't understand that unless you are controlling the things that you can control at the highest level possible
Those people won't even have the conversation to bring you to the table because they see the holes in your game
so
When I say 98% of it
It's really a hundred percent
Okay, because once you become that person
The other people that are like that recognize that because it's so rare
That they start asking you to come to the things and go on this trip and come to this meeting
Or I got this opportunity and that's where things start to materialize and when that happens
You create a whole new network of people that
think nothing like the people that you came from
Who are there to not instill doubt in you anymore
Now they're gassing you up now. They're saying hey, man
You you're a fucking stud, bro. You just got to keep going you got to keep
Moving down and they start to mentor you and they start to help and they start to push you forward
And that's where you want to be you want to be surrounded by people who are going to help you win
And those people that you knew from back in the day
From high school or college that are living completely different lives
You can't expect them to even understand why you want what you want because they are perfectly fine where they are
That does not make them bad people
That makes them
On a different journey than you're on. Okay, so you can maintain
Relationships with people from the past you can still have friends you can still have
Family you can still have all that shit
But you can't get them to understand something that they've never even thought about
Okay, these people have never thought about what they are actually capable of
They have never thought about actually wanting more
They look at success as this thing that's out there that is
Reserved for certain people and they believe in their heart that they are not one of those people
Which means they will never become one of those people
But I am here to tell you that that is not the truth the truth is you've got to become that person first
And then you get your way into the door the doors start to open so
In between those two things, you know, I call that no man's land, right
And the beginning of your journey you're surrounded by let's say you're 20 years old. Okay, you're surrounded by your high school buddies
And so maybe some college friends is the people that you've known your whole life and
That's comfortable all right, but the minute that you start to say I'm going to go do this or I'm gonna be this or I have these dreams
That's where the chirping starts. That's where the doubt is seated
That's where it's it appears like they're carrying but they're not actually carrying
They're trying to keep you in the circle and when you start to move out
That's why they say shit like
Who the fuck does Andy think he is, you know, he thinks he's better than everybody
No, I don't think I'm better than everybody. I think I want better for myself and you're interpreting it that way
So we have to understand what we're dealing with here
and it's it's
It's just a part of the process dude. Yeah, it's like breathing the air
Having people chirp having people talk shit having people not like you having people
You know that you used to know now, you know
Want to see you that is normal shit that is normal shit that every single person who's ever built anything
deals with that all of them and if you can't get through that you don't have what the fuck it takes
So you got to understand dude. It's a requirement. It's like
It's literally like
Hey, Steve. Here's the path come with me. Oh, man. There's that one part there. It looks really tough
How can you know, I don't know if I want to go through it
Okay, well, you're not gonna get over here then like there's no other path. You've got to go through it
So you guys who are young you have to understand this is part of the process
But I'm telling you as someone who's been through that process that continues to go through that process because it never stops
Because once you outgrow that next that next group of friends in the middle area
And that next group of friends in the next middle area and you're moving your way up as long as you go
It's always the same behavior the minute you start to escalate from the successful group the same shit starts to happen in a different way
So you have to be okay with other people having opinions that you
Don't think you're good, but they have them. Okay, and this is why like when you guys watch me on CTI or
You know you you say like people say I don't care bro. You don't have to agree
I don't give a shit if you agree with me. That's this is my shit
This is what I think this is what I know. This is what I'm seeing and if you see it a different way cool
Yeah, and like legitimately
I don't care and
In the beginning you care a lot because you don't understand it, but that's a useful thing
We have to learn to use that because there's way more negativity out here than there is positivity
And if you lack the ability to take the negativity and turn it into productive action
Then you lack an essential tool that is that is required for success
So your job in this part of the phase is to take all the shit and people say all the doubt all the
Ship talking all the things they say and fucking remembering
Build a massive chip on your shoulder and then when you feel lazy or you don't feel like doing it
Or you don't feel like you know, this is the right path you think back on all the shit people say you say fuck them
I'm fucking doing it. Okay, so it's a useful thing
But you got to learn to use it and when you get to that point like
You're in the upper levels. You don't hear it as much
But
When you do hear it your condition to use it
So it's always useful for people to hate it's always useful for people to talk shit
It's always useful for people to say you can't do shit if you know how to use it properly
And using it properly is a requirement for success
Regardless of what any of the fucking feel good guru motherfuckers on the internet say
Negative energy is far more powerful for progress than positive energy
You will move faster away from you don't want then towards what you want that's the reality
You will move faster away from pain than you will
Towards pleasure. That's a normal thing for human beings
So if you learn how to use it you accept the game for what it is it becomes irrelevant
But you got to understand dude
You got to go through it. It's it's required. So your expectation of
You know people are going to clap and cheer and oh bro. They're not. They're just fucking not
They're until it's so undeniable and it's so obvious
That you're a fucking winner and anything you say and do is going to fucking happen
Bro
To this day, okay, I've been winning for 20 fucking seven years
All right
To this fucking day when I say oh, I'm going to do this there's still people that are like oh, I don't know
I don't know about that. Yeah, and I'm thankful for those people
I like it
Okay, because I bank that shit and I'm like all right. We'll see motherfucker. We'll see. I'm gonna make you eat that shit
okay, and and
That's how it works. Yeah, so
um
I feel like you you speak a lot too on my you know how important it is having
Awareness as an individual right like being able to like truly just look
Where are you you I'm saying what are you actually doing right and I bring that up because I feel like with the validation thing
So you're telling me like you need other people
Clapin for you telling you that you're doing it the right way like can't you just look at your shit and tell yourself if you're doing it the right way
Yeah, I'm saying. Yeah. Yeah. Isn't there awareness to this? Yeah, yeah, for sure man, but you know, I think
the
last 25 years of
Everybody getting a trophy for every little thing and everybody getting a celebrated for fucking you know doing shit that they're
Supposed to do every day anyway has changed the perspective with a lot of people. Yeah, so like
When they work hard for a week they want to be like I worked hard this week with fuck welcome to the club
Yeah, right. That's what the fuck we do right where's my pizza party. Yeah, like
I worked hard for five years. Yeah, nobody cares right here. Here's what you got to understand
Bottom up here's the bottom line
You ready?
Nobody fucking cares
You care just because you care doesn't mean they care
Okay, nobody fucking cares. They got their own shit going on. They got their own drama going on. They got their own lives going on
you might
Be a comment
And they might say something and and two seconds later. They're worried about something else
They don't care no one cares and they don't care about you
You think that people care about you. They don't fucking care about you. They care about themselves
They care about themselves that goes for every fucking person on the planet. Okay
I'm not saying your mom doesn't love you. You're right. I'm not saying your dad doesn't love you
I'm not saying your brother doesn't love you
But I am saying outside of that nobody gives a fuck and the harsh reality of the world is this
People really only care about things that benefit them and until you become someone
To where your mere existence is benefiting thousands of people
Nobody cares and by the way the minute that stops no it cares again
It's not caring again. Okay, and that's reality and people will say shit like this
So you're saying that old people only care if you if you're successful. Yes
No, that's what I'm saying. Okay
But it opens your options for life
Okay, it opens your options and into you know furthering your ability to take care of
The people that you love it opens your options for your future mate
It opens the options for you to have the choice of how you want to live your life and the reality is
You either want it or you don't
Okay, so
You know you got to accept the cost up front bro. You got to understand like this is the way it is. This is what I'm prepared to do and
I'm gonna do those things. You know, that's real dude. That's real man. Let's get to let's get to question number two
Uh Andy
Andy I started my business because I hated feeling controlled
But now it feels like the business controls me correct
I'm reacting all day instead of leading and every problem feels urgent. How do you get back into the driver's seat?
Uh, when the thing you built starts running you
Well, oh man that well look dude
That's the big misconception about owning a company or starting a business or being an entrepreneur
You know, like this saying that people say
Oh, man, I want the freedom to be an entrepreneur. What the fuck are you talking about?
It's a make my own there's no fucking freedom in entrepreneurship until maybe you've sold your business or maybe you've
Made it to such a point that you can hire people to potentially run it for you
And even that is not really that real if you really want to make it
So this idea of starting a company or a business for the idea of freedom
Is not a real thing
So
Again, you've got to accept the reality of front you're not getting more freedom
You're trading one kind of control for another kind of control. You're trading the ability to make
Uh, the ability to not make the decisions for your own existence
For the ability to make your decisions for your own existence
But that's not actually freedom. You just answered a different people. Okay. Now instead of answering to your boss
You're answering to your customers now instead of uh, you know answering to a company
You're answering to your team. All right, so this is a different it's just a different thing
You're trading one sort of control for another and yes, it provides
certain decisions
Certain luxuries certain certain outcomes that you wouldn't be able to have
Working in this first time
But those only come after years and years and years right yeah, so
This idea that
You're going to be freer
It is not a real thing
All right, so that's the first thing you got to understand in order of like getting back into control
This is about understanding what drives the business forward and letting the other shit taking the other shit off the table
Okay
Motion comes not from adding more but some subtracting things that don't move the needle
So what are the things that you're doing every day that
You think are urgent because you're hypervigilant about winning
But won't actually move the needle forward and you've got to become very discerning at where you spend your time
Because we only have a certain amount of time and we only have a certain amount of capacity to make the decisions and you want to spend
That time and those decisions and your energy when it's fresh on the things that matter most
So this is it I this is prioritization, okay?
What's critical and what is not critical what is going to move the needle forward today and then
The fires get priority after that now if the fires big enough and it's going to derail the business
Then that would become a higher priority type of situation right but go you learn this instinctually
um
Through the experience of going down the path, you know back when I was early in business
You know I can relate to this question because things would happen and I'd be like oh fuck the world's gonna fuck crash
Everything's a part right and dude that's hard, okay? And by the way in the beginning things
Are much more critical because you don't have the momentum moving forward
So when you're in that beginning middle phase
It's very hard to identify the difference because everything feels critical
And I think that's a good thing. I don't think that's a bad thing
I think it's a great thing to be hyper-vigilant about your business
Because everybody else is and that's you're competing against all right
No nobody that's winning is casual nobody that's winning is taking it easy
Nobody that's winning is like saying oh well that doesn't really matter
No, they have the same attitude you have
But they understand how to prioritize those situations into what continues to move us versus what needs to be addressed now
So you you will learn this as you go and it will become much easier for you to deal with like for me
At this point in my life
I have my critical task to move the business forward or move my my initials forward it might be for this or it might be for something else
I've got going on
but then I have
My firefighters, okay, right and that that is all day every day
Okay, so in between my critical things that are moving forward
I am addressing these things that are going on throughout the day and
Obviously, I have teams and people around which allow that to
happen
Quickly to solve problems quickly, but at the end of the day man
You know you you have to just continue to go and learn
How to prioritize things that are going to move you forward versus things that aren't the end of the world right now
Okay, but those things still have to be addressed because if you allow them to grow and spread
They can be the end of the world. I would do that was going to be my follow-up
I'm like how many how many how many how many times have you seen people just simply because of delaying addressing something
It's all time ruins everything. Yeah, happens all time
You know, and it could be it could start off as so
Lack of virgin like everybody talks about a thucking hustle culture in this and that and this broke those people lose
Those people all lose all of them
They don't get it not nobody says anything about that. That's actually built something or if they have
They've exited that company and they've forgotten what it's like to run it rebranded themselves is this clear
No, I'm not even saying that when you get out of the fucking fight
It you start to like think differently and you you think you're still thinking like you used to but you're not okay, so
This idea that you hear on the internet
You know about urgency being a bad thing or hypervigilance being a bad thing or not
You know being less urgent and people knocking that shit bro listen none of those people have built a real business
They might they might be a fuck they might be building a coaching business off of a bunch of people that are never gonna win
And victimizing them and telling them oh take it easy and you'll win, but they ain't gonna fucking win either
Okay, so you got to understand dude. This is what the fuck it takes it takes that
So when you hear like all these do getters and these fucking fluffy nice things on the internet
You got to realize that's for other people bro. You're here to fucking win. You're here to build
You're here to create you're here to become and if that's a serious thing for you and that's seriously what you want
You're entering into the most vicious competition that exists on the fucking planet
More than fucking baseball more than football more than MMA and it also is longest it last your whole life
Okay, so you are
voluntarily entering into a competition with other people that are willing to fucking die
In order to win and if you don't have that fucking in you
You're gonna lose that is how fucking competition works
So if you're one of these people that's like man, I think I want to start a business because it's I get more freedom and this and that and this and that
Bro, don't you'll get killed
You'll get some in a ruin your life
It'll ruin your fucking life because you'll leave your life now you'll get into this and you'll get fucking destroyed
You'll spend all your money and you'll be fucking broke and you won't know what to do
So I'm just being real with you guys if you think that this is anything other than a fucking
Gauntlet that you're going to run down your entire life in order to create a different sort of existence for yourself
And you're willing to go to fucking battle every single mother fucking day for the next 20 fucking years at a minimum
If you can't do that you shouldn't do it
You should not do it you will get fucking crushed now
You might be able to be one of these internet scammers and come up with some sort of bullshit in the meantime and make a little
I'm talking about building something fucking real. I'm talking about real company. I'm not talking about a fucking hustle
Get it absolutely you have to do it. You have to do it. It's required
There's other people doing what you do that will eat your fucking food right off of your table and laugh
You don't understand that. Yeah, people don't understand that like it's vicious, bro
Now I'm not saying you should be vicious. You can become very successful by being
great
And what you do and being a good person
But you got to be prepared for what it's going to take can be naive. No, yeah
Let me actually this because I feel like this would also be something that like somebody would want to try to do like
alleviate these problems by making somebody else or
Designating somebody else to go handle the bullshit, right? Well, I mean obviously, but like
How important it is it I guess learning those lessons of you know figuring out if this problem big
Rather than just passing it off the delegating. It's in one of your employees or something
What do you mean? So like you got the problems coming up you feel like you're out of out of control, right all the shit
You have an employee who's really good. Just hey you go handle that and just put it all off on them
Meanwhile, you're missing all the lessons that you're supposed to be learning by handling well
I mean what point do you you assign little firefighter first of all
If you're actually
The kind of person that's going to win
Other winners will be attracted to you people who are also willing to go down that path with you
But those winners and this is the fucking mistake people make
There are fucking savages that are not entrepreneurs
Not every savage becomes an entrepreneur. There are tons of savages that work within the framework of another company
Those people the people that you're asking about will only work with the the former that I described
Because they want to fucking win too and they're not going to attach all of their effort all of their life
All of their shit to someone who's casual about it. It's not gonna happen. Okay
So in order to even have the kind of person
That you can hand things off to and have it fixed you have to be that same kind of person
Otherwise you end up with some a bunch of incompetent dumbasses that you know
Don't really give a shit because let's be real dude. What's the workforce made up?
Okay
Our workforce here because we have stringent cultural standards that we've abided by for a long time
We are fucking savages everybody in this motherfucking building. Okay
Normal culture. What is it?
It's fucking people who have low standards non-files. It's not the attitude is I'm not doing that fucking
It's 501 right
You know, I'm not doing they're not paying me for that
And then you wonder why you know, they're a hundred pounds overweight and the biggest excitement of their entire life is when they throw
Fucking pizza party and the corporate office and it's fucking Karen's birthday. Yeah, right
Karen's birthday. Who's got the daughter? Everybody we got fucking cake
Oh, you got cake
I'll be there, right? I was gonna start my diet today, but oh well, you know Monday. Yeah, right like it's loser shit
Bro, so you got to understand that most people out there they don't want it. They're not trying to
Achieve the highest fucking standard for themselves. They're trying to get paid so they can buy their shit
And then ironically those same people who have very low standards blame the company for not paying them enough because they don't fucking provide any real value
Okay, but again that usually comes from the leader if you go into a company where you see the people I'm describing and then look at their leader
Their leader usually looks the same
They usually act the same. They usually talk the same. They usually get extra excited about the cake. Yeah, right? Okay
These are losers. They will lose
That I'm not saying these are losers like they're bad people. I'm saying
Factually, they are going to lose over and over and over and over and over. That's just reality, dude
So you got to ask yourself what are you actually trying to do?
What are you actually willing to do to get there?
And
If you buy all the way in you will attract other people that are willing to go down that path with you
Okay, when you do that those people are more than willing to step in and help
And they will help you with the fires and they will help you with the minutia and they will help you with the shit
But that's never in the beginning, bro
That's only after you've proven yourself to be battle tested to where you're gonna go through the fucking gauntlet
And other people are gonna say god damn that's tough motherfucker. I'm gonna fucking I'm gonna hitch my wagon to that motherfucker
Okay, because you're asking them to trade their life
For your fucking mission. Do you understand that?
People spend more life and work than they do at any other place
Okay, if you don't have a fucking worthy mission if you don't have a
A mission that's big enough that means something that allows them to cultivate all of their desires and all of their dreams and all of the things that they want to become inside of that
You can't do it
Okay, the days of of recruiting high talent to to to to
Build a fucking, you know, landscape company that has no ambition to grow and they're just gonna stay the same
That doesn't happen dude. The winners don't go there
Okay, it's just it's like college football. I always bring it back to this
The real win. Where are the real winners want to play?
They want to play places that are fucking proven to win. They get the best talent. They get the best recruits
Same for you the best shit. It's the forms. It's the set. Yeah, that comes later though. Yeah, okay
When you are
When you're not that kind of a person, you know, I'll play in a community college. Yeah, I'll play D3
It's cool. I like the game. Yeah, right? Those motherfuckers at Alabama or Indiana
They ain't playing for the fucking love of the game. They're playing a fucking win
Okay, and there is a big difference
I'm not saying you can't build a small company that could provide
But if you do build a small company and you keep it small
You're gonna have massive turnover over and over and over and over again
And you're never gonna have real killers want to work for you because there's no fucking outside for them
Like why the fuck would a real killer work for someone who's happy where they are
They fucking won't it doesn't work that way
So you have to be committed and the vision has to be big
And it has to be big enough to where they can provide for their families the way they want to inside of that
Okay
I could have stopped my company 15 fucking years ago
Okay, but
If I did that
I would not have the great people around me. I would not have all these young people who have come in learned all these skill sets
And by the way some of them moved on to other things and they become successful in other ways
All right, but if you stop and you just say oh, I just want enough for a bass boat and a fucking this or that wrote
You're setting yourself up
To get your fucking ass beat
worse than if you went for the big vision
Does that make sense?
Because now you're dealing with fires all the time now you're dealing with
disgruntled people all the time now you're having people come in and be like oh, this sucks and quit
Now you have more headaches when you have a big fucking vision and people can clearly see that you are very intent on accomplishing that vision
The the great people come to you bro
They come they'll they'll fucking they'll come from other dude
We got people here that are from fucking Europe that have moved here to work here. Yeah, you understand crazy
Right because it's crazy when you know because the fucking mission is worthy and it's big and
People want to be a part of shit like that. Yeah, so
And you could do that in any company dude. You can set you you've just got a fucking think about it
You know what I mean? Yeah, I love it man. Oh, we got one more for the people
Andy guys
Question three
Andy I don't even know how to word this right, but I feel stuck in a life I chose
No one forced me into it. I'm 32 years old. I'm single no kids
I do have a really good career that I love. I'm not miserable
Just boxed in
Responsibility stack up and it feels like there's no room left to change direction without screwing everything up
So how do you make a move when nothing feels safer
But staying put feels even worse
What kind of responsibilities could you have at 32 years old with no kids?
You're as free as you're ever gonna be brother
The moves you need to make are gonna be like right now is the time to make them
If you're gonna make them. Yeah, okay
And very simply you have to ask yourself and you already answered it
Is it
Worst staying where you are or is it worse going down the path to get where you want to be
And I think you already answered the question you said I feel boxed in I don't like where I'm at
I don't like what I've got well, I could promise you if you stay there. It's only going to get worse
You know, and this comes down to how people evaluate risk, right? Yeah, most people evaluate risk from
You know, what if I do this and this happens and this happens and this happens and this happens
Instead of the proper way of evaluating risk, which is what happens if I don't
What happens if I don't you already know what happens if you don't because you're fucking living in it and you fucking hate it
So you answer your own question bro and to be completely honest with you the fact that you're not married
The fact that you don't have kids
Bro, you think you you think you've got responsibility now
Go get fucking married and have some kids and then feel how fucking trapped you're gonna feel in a place that you can't escape
Okay, so you're in the perfect position to pivot to who you want to become what kind of life you want to live and and
You know a lot of people that are 32 say I'm fucking 32 bro. You're still a fucking kid
You're still a kid
You know
To me the question's answered in the question. I mean this guy already knows you just want to hear it
Here's the answer go fucking do it or you're gonna regret it your whole fucking life
And it's gonna get worse wherever you're at
If you don't take action forward, it's not going to maintain because everybody else is moving forward society is moving forward
If you try to stay where you are
You're automatically going backwards by default
Because everything's moving forward. So the key is you have to move forward faster than everybody else
So the truth of the matter is for this dude is uh, yeah, if you stay where you are you're gonna hate your fucking life forever. Yeah
Yeah, so you better do it
That's a pretty simple one there to answer the question in the question. Yeah, he already knows
You already know you already know how you guys all know like what the fuck are you listening to me for you all fucking know
You know that your life sucks right now. You know that things need to change
Go change them you are in control of those things you are in control of all the things to create the outcome
Not someone else
Not magic
Not the president not your fucking mom not the kids from high school
None of that shit matters, bro
It's simple inputs and outputs what actions are you taking to create the result
And if you take enough actions over the course of time the result changes
And things get better and that is fucking it man. It's not this is not
Hard it's it's it's not hard to understand. It's hard to do and a lot of you guys ask questions because
You're trying to ask for a hack around the heart. Well, I'm sorry dude
Um, I don't have one okay now. Maybe all these other smart people who have built real things in real life
Uh, you know that you see on the internet offering advice for fucking free
You know
Maybe they know a way to hack around but uh, you know, I would highly consider looking at their actual
Results and how they actually make money because right now we are
Interdated with a bunch of people that make money by selling people on ideas of how to make money with they never made money any other way
Okay, and I'm telling you as someone who's built multiple things in real life and I'm talking about things that exist
Things with employees products that ship okay, in many different industries. I'm just fucking telling you
There is no hack. It's a long journey. You have to go through it every single day
You need to win every single day along the way and eventually your external reality starts to materialize
Okay, and a lot of people don't even understand that they don't understand that
To change your identity of who you are
It is very simple. You just got to make a decision
All right, the life that you're living in right now
When you look around and you see like the house you're living in or the apartment or the car you're driving
All of that shit was dictated and by the way, this goes if you're winning too
If you're winning and you're looking around like man got a nice car or a fucking nice house from winning right
This is not just for people that are losing
Whatever you're living in your physical reality right now was created by a past version of you
Okay
Today whether you're winning or losing you have the opportunity to say I want to do this. I want to become this
I want to take this further. I want to do these things. I want to become this kind of person
I don't want to be fat anymore. I want to be fit. I don't want to be broke anymore
I want to make money. I don't want to be a dumbass anymore. I want to get educated
That's a decision
Okay, and then all you have to do is model the behavior of the people that fucking do those things and eventually your external reality materializes to look similar to theirs
so
This is not
Magic, bro that and this is the thing
People think this is magic or it's luck or it's circumstance or it's this or it's that because that's all they've ever heard
From all the people around them their whole lives. How many of you have seen someone
Who's successful who's driving a nice car who's got their shit together who's built a nice company or whatever and you're like man
That's pretty cool and then you have a friend or a parent or somebody that you hang out with be like yeah, but fuck dude
You know that guy fucked everybody over along the way. I'm not willing to do that because I'm real no you're a bitch
Okay, you're hiding behind your own
Pre-conceived which are inaccurate
assumptions about anybody who's built anything because I'm gonna tell you something in today's world the way that word amount spreads
You have to have integrity. You have to provide real value
You have to be the real deal to even win otherwise you get found out on the internet and your shit goes away
And your reputation's ruined and you can't do shit
All these motherfucking coach coaches I coach coaches the coach coaches the coach coaches
They're learning that lesson very fucking hard right now. Yeah, okay, so
It's a long game
You have a choice right now to decide that you want different and all you have to do is behave differently from here on out
It's it's not magical. It's just fucking hard
Okay, and if you're willing to gut through the hard
It will become easy
Just like when you get into a cold swimming pool and you're like the for you know
You guys are all in the cold plunges the first time you do a cold plunge you're like
Fuck
You know, but after like six or seven days you're like
The sucks and then after like a month you just get right in and it's normal
Okay, that's the same way this works
You were at the beginning
You start to move. It's very hard
Then it just becomes your life
It's no longer hard you acclimate to it like when I wake up it like dude
I have a big life man like I have a lot of responsibility. I have a lot of projects going
I have a lot of shit that I have to do okay. I don't wake up every day and and think
Fuck this is so hard. I now some days I might wake up and say I don't feel like doing that today, but
It's not really hard like it's just shit. I got to do. Yeah, right. You know what I'm saying like
I don't
You get acclimated to it guys and that's what you got to understand and the reason that you don't understand is because you haven't been doing it long enough
Eventually you get used to it and it becomes just your your standards and that and the cool thing is is that when you model winning for long enough
You know eventually you're not chasing winning anymore winning is just what the fuck you do that's who you are
So when it becomes that
Winning isn't even hard. It's just what the fuck you do. You see what I'm saying absolutely dude. Absolutely man
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