998. Q&AF: Waiting For Recognition, Gaining Control In Business & Stuck In Life

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5:14That's ever been developed. Yeah, so I'm using it for the good. It's so it's so big that I think eventually That's what people will know before So I think it's gonna be the biggest thing Fucking ever on it. Yeah, yeah People are fucking winning too, bro. Yeah, they are. It's awesome. Yeah, they are. It's awesome dude I did a I did a live stream in there with the with the people The other day and like I was asking about their wins dude. It was it was crazy. Yeah, like 30 pounds down 20 pounds down Making more money got this going on like it was just it was fucking cool, man Because look dude We're gonna fix what's going on in the world which everybody is frustrated about we have to build better human beings That's the bottom line. Yeah, so you know, it's easy to set that goal out there But being able to walk it backwards. That's where I think a lot of people miss it. Yeah, well You can't give away the fucking before secret. Yeah, all right no secret sauce. It's very helpful Very very fucking hell. Yeah, you're in there. Yeah

6:14You got your little crew in there. Yeah, that's crew calls and everything. Yeah, it's cool Um, but yeah sick, man. Well, let's uh, let's let's let's try to help some people Let's try to make some people better how we can Guys know how this works. I got three give ones for you. All right. Yeah, let's do it Guys Andy question number one Andy. I've made some decent progress so far No payoffs, no massive payoffs, no big wins just yet though Part of me feels proud and part of me wonders if I'm just settling because nothing looks impressive from the outside How do you measure winning when no one's clapping for you? I know the horse goes before the cart man But how does how big does the win needs to be before you get the clips? Well, if you're doing it for the collapse You're doing it for the wrong reason Okay, because let me tell you a little secret Right now you're looking for people to celebrate winning and unfortunately in the culture that we live in People will pretend to celebrate winning and then feel jealous and spiteful and bitter and frustrated about their own lives

7:20So what will happen and everybody needs to just accept that this is the reality You Will get to a point where your success is recognized, but once you get to that point people Do not clap the way that you expect them to okay, and if you're doing everything that you're doing for the admiration or the validation externally you need to realign and think about why you're doing it because Building something is a lonely process especially in the beginning But I'm telling you None of you this man or woman or anybody else needs any Fucking validation from the outside world and to expect it is a false expectation that creates this This extra weight that you have to carry that you don't need to carry. There's other stuff to carry That's right. It's gonna be hard enough, dude So you you have to understand most of your outcome comes for I would say 98% of your outcome

8:25Comes from you controlling the things that you can at such a level that the 2% of the time that it's not in your control The people who are quote-unquote they have the connections or they have the gatekeeping or they've built something That you guys all want to be at those tables everybody's worried about networking You don't understand that unless you are controlling the things that you can control at the highest level possible Those people won't even have the conversation to bring you to the table because they see the holes in your game so When I say 98% of it It's really a hundred percent Okay, because once you become that person The other people that are like that recognize that because it's so rare That they start asking you to come to the things and go on this trip and come to this meeting Or I got this opportunity and that's where things start to materialize and when that happens You create a whole new network of people that

9:28think nothing like the people that you came from Who are there to not instill doubt in you anymore Now they're gassing you up now. They're saying hey, man You you're a fucking stud, bro. You just got to keep going you got to keep Moving down and they start to mentor you and they start to help and they start to push you forward And that's where you want to be you want to be surrounded by people who are going to help you win And those people that you knew from back in the day From high school or college that are living completely different lives You can't expect them to even understand why you want what you want because they are perfectly fine where they are That does not make them bad people That makes them On a different journey than you're on. Okay, so you can maintain Relationships with people from the past you can still have friends you can still have Family you can still have all that shit But you can't get them to understand something that they've never even thought about

10:32Okay, these people have never thought about what they are actually capable of They have never thought about actually wanting more They look at success as this thing that's out there that is Reserved for certain people and they believe in their heart that they are not one of those people Which means they will never become one of those people But I am here to tell you that that is not the truth the truth is you've got to become that person first And then you get your way into the door the doors start to open so In between those two things, you know, I call that no man's land, right And the beginning of your journey you're surrounded by let's say you're 20 years old. Okay, you're surrounded by your high school buddies And so maybe some college friends is the people that you've known your whole life and That's comfortable all right, but the minute that you start to say I'm going to go do this or I'm gonna be this or I have these dreams That's where the chirping starts. That's where the doubt is seated

11:32That's where it's it appears like they're carrying but they're not actually carrying They're trying to keep you in the circle and when you start to move out That's why they say shit like Who the fuck does Andy think he is, you know, he thinks he's better than everybody No, I don't think I'm better than everybody. I think I want better for myself and you're interpreting it that way So we have to understand what we're dealing with here and it's it's It's just a part of the process dude. Yeah, it's like breathing the air Having people chirp having people talk shit having people not like you having people You know that you used to know now, you know Want to see you that is normal shit that is normal shit that every single person who's ever built anything deals with that all of them and if you can't get through that you don't have what the fuck it takes So you got to understand dude. It's a requirement. It's like

12:35It's literally like Hey, Steve. Here's the path come with me. Oh, man. There's that one part there. It looks really tough How can you know, I don't know if I want to go through it Okay, well, you're not gonna get over here then like there's no other path. You've got to go through it So you guys who are young you have to understand this is part of the process But I'm telling you as someone who's been through that process that continues to go through that process because it never stops Because once you outgrow that next that next group of friends in the middle area And that next group of friends in the next middle area and you're moving your way up as long as you go It's always the same behavior the minute you start to escalate from the successful group the same shit starts to happen in a different way So you have to be okay with other people having opinions that you Don't think you're good, but they have them. Okay, and this is why like when you guys watch me on CTI or You know you you say like people say I don't care bro. You don't have to agree

13:38I don't give a shit if you agree with me. That's this is my shit This is what I think this is what I know. This is what I'm seeing and if you see it a different way cool Yeah, and like legitimately I don't care and In the beginning you care a lot because you don't understand it, but that's a useful thing We have to learn to use that because there's way more negativity out here than there is positivity And if you lack the ability to take the negativity and turn it into productive action Then you lack an essential tool that is that is required for success So your job in this part of the phase is to take all the shit and people say all the doubt all the Ship talking all the things they say and fucking remembering Build a massive chip on your shoulder and then when you feel lazy or you don't feel like doing it Or you don't feel like you know, this is the right path you think back on all the shit people say you say fuck them I'm fucking doing it. Okay, so it's a useful thing

14:40But you got to learn to use it and when you get to that point like You're in the upper levels. You don't hear it as much But When you do hear it your condition to use it So it's always useful for people to hate it's always useful for people to talk shit It's always useful for people to say you can't do shit if you know how to use it properly And using it properly is a requirement for success Regardless of what any of the fucking feel good guru motherfuckers on the internet say Negative energy is far more powerful for progress than positive energy You will move faster away from you don't want then towards what you want that's the reality You will move faster away from pain than you will Towards pleasure. That's a normal thing for human beings So if you learn how to use it you accept the game for what it is it becomes irrelevant But you got to understand dude

15:41You got to go through it. It's it's required. So your expectation of You know people are going to clap and cheer and oh bro. They're not. They're just fucking not They're until it's so undeniable and it's so obvious That you're a fucking winner and anything you say and do is going to fucking happen Bro To this day, okay, I've been winning for 20 fucking seven years All right To this fucking day when I say oh, I'm going to do this there's still people that are like oh, I don't know I don't know about that. Yeah, and I'm thankful for those people I like it Okay, because I bank that shit and I'm like all right. We'll see motherfucker. We'll see. I'm gonna make you eat that shit okay, and and That's how it works. Yeah, so um I feel like you you speak a lot too on my you know how important it is having Awareness as an individual right like being able to like truly just look Where are you you I'm saying what are you actually doing right and I bring that up because I feel like with the validation thing

16:45So you're telling me like you need other people Clapin for you telling you that you're doing it the right way like can't you just look at your shit and tell yourself if you're doing it the right way Yeah, I'm saying. Yeah. Yeah. Isn't there awareness to this? Yeah, yeah, for sure man, but you know, I think the last 25 years of Everybody getting a trophy for every little thing and everybody getting a celebrated for fucking you know doing shit that they're Supposed to do every day anyway has changed the perspective with a lot of people. Yeah, so like When they work hard for a week they want to be like I worked hard this week with fuck welcome to the club Yeah, right. That's what the fuck we do right where's my pizza party. Yeah, like I worked hard for five years. Yeah, nobody cares right here. Here's what you got to understand Bottom up here's the bottom line You ready? Nobody fucking cares You care just because you care doesn't mean they care Okay, nobody fucking cares. They got their own shit going on. They got their own drama going on. They got their own lives going on

17:48you might Be a comment And they might say something and and two seconds later. They're worried about something else They don't care no one cares and they don't care about you You think that people care about you. They don't fucking care about you. They care about themselves They care about themselves that goes for every fucking person on the planet. Okay I'm not saying your mom doesn't love you. You're right. I'm not saying your dad doesn't love you I'm not saying your brother doesn't love you But I am saying outside of that nobody gives a fuck and the harsh reality of the world is this People really only care about things that benefit them and until you become someone To where your mere existence is benefiting thousands of people Nobody cares and by the way the minute that stops no it cares again It's not caring again. Okay, and that's reality and people will say shit like this So you're saying that old people only care if you if you're successful. Yes No, that's what I'm saying. Okay

18:51But it opens your options for life Okay, it opens your options and into you know furthering your ability to take care of The people that you love it opens your options for your future mate It opens the options for you to have the choice of how you want to live your life and the reality is You either want it or you don't Okay, so You know you got to accept the cost up front bro. You got to understand like this is the way it is. This is what I'm prepared to do and I'm gonna do those things. You know, that's real dude. That's real man. Let's get to let's get to question number two Uh Andy Andy I started my business because I hated feeling controlled But now it feels like the business controls me correct I'm reacting all day instead of leading and every problem feels urgent. How do you get back into the driver's seat? Uh, when the thing you built starts running you Well, oh man that well look dude

19:51That's the big misconception about owning a company or starting a business or being an entrepreneur You know, like this saying that people say Oh, man, I want the freedom to be an entrepreneur. What the fuck are you talking about? It's a make my own there's no fucking freedom in entrepreneurship until maybe you've sold your business or maybe you've Made it to such a point that you can hire people to potentially run it for you And even that is not really that real if you really want to make it So this idea of starting a company or a business for the idea of freedom Is not a real thing So Again, you've got to accept the reality of front you're not getting more freedom You're trading one kind of control for another kind of control. You're trading the ability to make Uh, the ability to not make the decisions for your own existence For the ability to make your decisions for your own existence But that's not actually freedom. You just answered a different people. Okay. Now instead of answering to your boss

20:52You're answering to your customers now instead of uh, you know answering to a company You're answering to your team. All right, so this is a different it's just a different thing You're trading one sort of control for another and yes, it provides certain decisions Certain luxuries certain certain outcomes that you wouldn't be able to have Working in this first time But those only come after years and years and years right yeah, so This idea that You're going to be freer It is not a real thing All right, so that's the first thing you got to understand in order of like getting back into control This is about understanding what drives the business forward and letting the other shit taking the other shit off the table Okay Motion comes not from adding more but some subtracting things that don't move the needle

21:53So what are the things that you're doing every day that You think are urgent because you're hypervigilant about winning But won't actually move the needle forward and you've got to become very discerning at where you spend your time Because we only have a certain amount of time and we only have a certain amount of capacity to make the decisions and you want to spend That time and those decisions and your energy when it's fresh on the things that matter most So this is it I this is prioritization, okay? What's critical and what is not critical what is going to move the needle forward today and then The fires get priority after that now if the fires big enough and it's going to derail the business Then that would become a higher priority type of situation right but go you learn this instinctually um Through the experience of going down the path, you know back when I was early in business You know I can relate to this question because things would happen and I'd be like oh fuck the world's gonna fuck crash

22:58Everything's a part right and dude that's hard, okay? And by the way in the beginning things Are much more critical because you don't have the momentum moving forward So when you're in that beginning middle phase It's very hard to identify the difference because everything feels critical And I think that's a good thing. I don't think that's a bad thing I think it's a great thing to be hyper-vigilant about your business Because everybody else is and that's you're competing against all right No nobody that's winning is casual nobody that's winning is taking it easy Nobody that's winning is like saying oh well that doesn't really matter No, they have the same attitude you have But they understand how to prioritize those situations into what continues to move us versus what needs to be addressed now So you you will learn this as you go and it will become much easier for you to deal with like for me At this point in my life I have my critical task to move the business forward or move my my initials forward it might be for this or it might be for something else

24:03I've got going on but then I have My firefighters, okay, right and that that is all day every day Okay, so in between my critical things that are moving forward I am addressing these things that are going on throughout the day and Obviously, I have teams and people around which allow that to happen Quickly to solve problems quickly, but at the end of the day man You know you you have to just continue to go and learn How to prioritize things that are going to move you forward versus things that aren't the end of the world right now Okay, but those things still have to be addressed because if you allow them to grow and spread They can be the end of the world. I would do that was going to be my follow-up I'm like how many how many how many how many times have you seen people just simply because of delaying addressing something It's all time ruins everything. Yeah, happens all time You know, and it could be it could start off as so Lack of virgin like everybody talks about a thucking hustle culture in this and that and this broke those people lose

25:07Those people all lose all of them They don't get it not nobody says anything about that. That's actually built something or if they have They've exited that company and they've forgotten what it's like to run it rebranded themselves is this clear No, I'm not even saying that when you get out of the fucking fight It you start to like think differently and you you think you're still thinking like you used to but you're not okay, so This idea that you hear on the internet You know about urgency being a bad thing or hypervigilance being a bad thing or not You know being less urgent and people knocking that shit bro listen none of those people have built a real business They might they might be a fuck they might be building a coaching business off of a bunch of people that are never gonna win And victimizing them and telling them oh take it easy and you'll win, but they ain't gonna fucking win either Okay, so you got to understand dude. This is what the fuck it takes it takes that

26:07So when you hear like all these do getters and these fucking fluffy nice things on the internet You got to realize that's for other people bro. You're here to fucking win. You're here to build You're here to create you're here to become and if that's a serious thing for you and that's seriously what you want You're entering into the most vicious competition that exists on the fucking planet More than fucking baseball more than football more than MMA and it also is longest it last your whole life Okay, so you are voluntarily entering into a competition with other people that are willing to fucking die In order to win and if you don't have that fucking in you You're gonna lose that is how fucking competition works So if you're one of these people that's like man, I think I want to start a business because it's I get more freedom and this and that and this and that Bro, don't you'll get killed You'll get some in a ruin your life It'll ruin your fucking life because you'll leave your life now you'll get into this and you'll get fucking destroyed

27:10You'll spend all your money and you'll be fucking broke and you won't know what to do So I'm just being real with you guys if you think that this is anything other than a fucking Gauntlet that you're going to run down your entire life in order to create a different sort of existence for yourself And you're willing to go to fucking battle every single mother fucking day for the next 20 fucking years at a minimum If you can't do that you shouldn't do it You should not do it you will get fucking crushed now You might be able to be one of these internet scammers and come up with some sort of bullshit in the meantime and make a little I'm talking about building something fucking real. I'm talking about real company. I'm not talking about a fucking hustle Get it absolutely you have to do it. You have to do it. It's required There's other people doing what you do that will eat your fucking food right off of your table and laugh You don't understand that. Yeah, people don't understand that like it's vicious, bro Now I'm not saying you should be vicious. You can become very successful by being

28:12great And what you do and being a good person But you got to be prepared for what it's going to take can be naive. No, yeah Let me actually this because I feel like this would also be something that like somebody would want to try to do like alleviate these problems by making somebody else or Designating somebody else to go handle the bullshit, right? Well, I mean obviously, but like How important it is it I guess learning those lessons of you know figuring out if this problem big Rather than just passing it off the delegating. It's in one of your employees or something What do you mean? So like you got the problems coming up you feel like you're out of out of control, right all the shit You have an employee who's really good. Just hey you go handle that and just put it all off on them Meanwhile, you're missing all the lessons that you're supposed to be learning by handling well I mean what point do you you assign little firefighter first of all If you're actually The kind of person that's going to win Other winners will be attracted to you people who are also willing to go down that path with you

29:14But those winners and this is the fucking mistake people make There are fucking savages that are not entrepreneurs Not every savage becomes an entrepreneur. There are tons of savages that work within the framework of another company Those people the people that you're asking about will only work with the the former that I described Because they want to fucking win too and they're not going to attach all of their effort all of their life All of their shit to someone who's casual about it. It's not gonna happen. Okay So in order to even have the kind of person That you can hand things off to and have it fixed you have to be that same kind of person Otherwise you end up with some a bunch of incompetent dumbasses that you know Don't really give a shit because let's be real dude. What's the workforce made up? Okay Our workforce here because we have stringent cultural standards that we've abided by for a long time

30:17We are fucking savages everybody in this motherfucking building. Okay Normal culture. What is it? It's fucking people who have low standards non-files. It's not the attitude is I'm not doing that fucking It's 501 right You know, I'm not doing they're not paying me for that And then you wonder why you know, they're a hundred pounds overweight and the biggest excitement of their entire life is when they throw Fucking pizza party and the corporate office and it's fucking Karen's birthday. Yeah, right Karen's birthday. Who's got the daughter? Everybody we got fucking cake Oh, you got cake I'll be there, right? I was gonna start my diet today, but oh well, you know Monday. Yeah, right like it's loser shit Bro, so you got to understand that most people out there they don't want it. They're not trying to Achieve the highest fucking standard for themselves. They're trying to get paid so they can buy their shit And then ironically those same people who have very low standards blame the company for not paying them enough because they don't fucking provide any real value

31:25Okay, but again that usually comes from the leader if you go into a company where you see the people I'm describing and then look at their leader Their leader usually looks the same They usually act the same. They usually talk the same. They usually get extra excited about the cake. Yeah, right? Okay These are losers. They will lose That I'm not saying these are losers like they're bad people. I'm saying Factually, they are going to lose over and over and over and over and over. That's just reality, dude So you got to ask yourself what are you actually trying to do? What are you actually willing to do to get there? And If you buy all the way in you will attract other people that are willing to go down that path with you Okay, when you do that those people are more than willing to step in and help And they will help you with the fires and they will help you with the minutia and they will help you with the shit But that's never in the beginning, bro

32:26That's only after you've proven yourself to be battle tested to where you're gonna go through the fucking gauntlet And other people are gonna say god damn that's tough motherfucker. I'm gonna fucking I'm gonna hitch my wagon to that motherfucker Okay, because you're asking them to trade their life For your fucking mission. Do you understand that? People spend more life and work than they do at any other place Okay, if you don't have a fucking worthy mission if you don't have a A mission that's big enough that means something that allows them to cultivate all of their desires and all of their dreams and all of the things that they want to become inside of that You can't do it Okay, the days of of recruiting high talent to to to to Build a fucking, you know, landscape company that has no ambition to grow and they're just gonna stay the same That doesn't happen dude. The winners don't go there Okay, it's just it's like college football. I always bring it back to this

33:27The real win. Where are the real winners want to play? They want to play places that are fucking proven to win. They get the best talent. They get the best recruits Same for you the best shit. It's the forms. It's the set. Yeah, that comes later though. Yeah, okay When you are When you're not that kind of a person, you know, I'll play in a community college. Yeah, I'll play D3 It's cool. I like the game. Yeah, right? Those motherfuckers at Alabama or Indiana They ain't playing for the fucking love of the game. They're playing a fucking win Okay, and there is a big difference I'm not saying you can't build a small company that could provide But if you do build a small company and you keep it small You're gonna have massive turnover over and over and over and over again And you're never gonna have real killers want to work for you because there's no fucking outside for them Like why the fuck would a real killer work for someone who's happy where they are They fucking won't it doesn't work that way So you have to be committed and the vision has to be big

34:29And it has to be big enough to where they can provide for their families the way they want to inside of that Okay I could have stopped my company 15 fucking years ago Okay, but If I did that I would not have the great people around me. I would not have all these young people who have come in learned all these skill sets And by the way some of them moved on to other things and they become successful in other ways All right, but if you stop and you just say oh, I just want enough for a bass boat and a fucking this or that wrote You're setting yourself up To get your fucking ass beat worse than if you went for the big vision Does that make sense? Because now you're dealing with fires all the time now you're dealing with disgruntled people all the time now you're having people come in and be like oh, this sucks and quit Now you have more headaches when you have a big fucking vision and people can clearly see that you are very intent on accomplishing that vision

35:37The the great people come to you bro They come they'll they'll fucking they'll come from other dude We got people here that are from fucking Europe that have moved here to work here. Yeah, you understand crazy Right because it's crazy when you know because the fucking mission is worthy and it's big and People want to be a part of shit like that. Yeah, so And you could do that in any company dude. You can set you you've just got a fucking think about it You know what I mean? Yeah, I love it man. Oh, we got one more for the people Andy guys Question three Andy I don't even know how to word this right, but I feel stuck in a life I chose No one forced me into it. I'm 32 years old. I'm single no kids I do have a really good career that I love. I'm not miserable Just boxed in Responsibility stack up and it feels like there's no room left to change direction without screwing everything up So how do you make a move when nothing feels safer

36:38But staying put feels even worse What kind of responsibilities could you have at 32 years old with no kids? You're as free as you're ever gonna be brother The moves you need to make are gonna be like right now is the time to make them If you're gonna make them. Yeah, okay And very simply you have to ask yourself and you already answered it Is it Worst staying where you are or is it worse going down the path to get where you want to be And I think you already answered the question you said I feel boxed in I don't like where I'm at I don't like what I've got well, I could promise you if you stay there. It's only going to get worse You know, and this comes down to how people evaluate risk, right? Yeah, most people evaluate risk from You know, what if I do this and this happens and this happens and this happens and this happens Instead of the proper way of evaluating risk, which is what happens if I don't

37:40What happens if I don't you already know what happens if you don't because you're fucking living in it and you fucking hate it So you answer your own question bro and to be completely honest with you the fact that you're not married The fact that you don't have kids Bro, you think you you think you've got responsibility now Go get fucking married and have some kids and then feel how fucking trapped you're gonna feel in a place that you can't escape Okay, so you're in the perfect position to pivot to who you want to become what kind of life you want to live and and You know a lot of people that are 32 say I'm fucking 32 bro. You're still a fucking kid You're still a kid You know To me the question's answered in the question. I mean this guy already knows you just want to hear it Here's the answer go fucking do it or you're gonna regret it your whole fucking life And it's gonna get worse wherever you're at If you don't take action forward, it's not going to maintain because everybody else is moving forward society is moving forward

38:43If you try to stay where you are You're automatically going backwards by default Because everything's moving forward. So the key is you have to move forward faster than everybody else So the truth of the matter is for this dude is uh, yeah, if you stay where you are you're gonna hate your fucking life forever. Yeah Yeah, so you better do it That's a pretty simple one there to answer the question in the question. Yeah, he already knows You already know you already know how you guys all know like what the fuck are you listening to me for you all fucking know You know that your life sucks right now. You know that things need to change Go change them you are in control of those things you are in control of all the things to create the outcome Not someone else Not magic Not the president not your fucking mom not the kids from high school None of that shit matters, bro It's simple inputs and outputs what actions are you taking to create the result And if you take enough actions over the course of time the result changes

39:47And things get better and that is fucking it man. It's not this is not Hard it's it's it's not hard to understand. It's hard to do and a lot of you guys ask questions because You're trying to ask for a hack around the heart. Well, I'm sorry dude Um, I don't have one okay now. Maybe all these other smart people who have built real things in real life Uh, you know that you see on the internet offering advice for fucking free You know Maybe they know a way to hack around but uh, you know, I would highly consider looking at their actual Results and how they actually make money because right now we are Interdated with a bunch of people that make money by selling people on ideas of how to make money with they never made money any other way Okay, and I'm telling you as someone who's built multiple things in real life and I'm talking about things that exist Things with employees products that ship okay, in many different industries. I'm just fucking telling you There is no hack. It's a long journey. You have to go through it every single day

40:47You need to win every single day along the way and eventually your external reality starts to materialize Okay, and a lot of people don't even understand that they don't understand that To change your identity of who you are It is very simple. You just got to make a decision All right, the life that you're living in right now When you look around and you see like the house you're living in or the apartment or the car you're driving All of that shit was dictated and by the way, this goes if you're winning too If you're winning and you're looking around like man got a nice car or a fucking nice house from winning right This is not just for people that are losing Whatever you're living in your physical reality right now was created by a past version of you Okay Today whether you're winning or losing you have the opportunity to say I want to do this. I want to become this I want to take this further. I want to do these things. I want to become this kind of person I don't want to be fat anymore. I want to be fit. I don't want to be broke anymore I want to make money. I don't want to be a dumbass anymore. I want to get educated

41:50That's a decision Okay, and then all you have to do is model the behavior of the people that fucking do those things and eventually your external reality materializes to look similar to theirs so This is not Magic, bro that and this is the thing People think this is magic or it's luck or it's circumstance or it's this or it's that because that's all they've ever heard From all the people around them their whole lives. How many of you have seen someone Who's successful who's driving a nice car who's got their shit together who's built a nice company or whatever and you're like man That's pretty cool and then you have a friend or a parent or somebody that you hang out with be like yeah, but fuck dude You know that guy fucked everybody over along the way. I'm not willing to do that because I'm real no you're a bitch Okay, you're hiding behind your own Pre-conceived which are inaccurate assumptions about anybody who's built anything because I'm gonna tell you something in today's world the way that word amount spreads

42:54You have to have integrity. You have to provide real value You have to be the real deal to even win otherwise you get found out on the internet and your shit goes away And your reputation's ruined and you can't do shit All these motherfucking coach coaches I coach coaches the coach coaches the coach coaches They're learning that lesson very fucking hard right now. Yeah, okay, so It's a long game You have a choice right now to decide that you want different and all you have to do is behave differently from here on out It's it's not magical. It's just fucking hard Okay, and if you're willing to gut through the hard It will become easy Just like when you get into a cold swimming pool and you're like the for you know You guys are all in the cold plunges the first time you do a cold plunge you're like Fuck You know, but after like six or seven days you're like The sucks and then after like a month you just get right in and it's normal

43:56Okay, that's the same way this works You were at the beginning You start to move. It's very hard Then it just becomes your life It's no longer hard you acclimate to it like when I wake up it like dude I have a big life man like I have a lot of responsibility. I have a lot of projects going I have a lot of shit that I have to do okay. I don't wake up every day and and think Fuck this is so hard. I now some days I might wake up and say I don't feel like doing that today, but It's not really hard like it's just shit. I got to do. Yeah, right. You know what I'm saying like I don't You get acclimated to it guys and that's what you got to understand and the reason that you don't understand is because you haven't been doing it long enough Eventually you get used to it and it becomes just your your standards and that and the cool thing is is that when you model winning for long enough You know eventually you're not chasing winning anymore winning is just what the fuck you do that's who you are

45:01So when it becomes that Winning isn't even hard. It's just what the fuck you do. You see what I'm saying absolutely dude. Absolutely man Well guys ended that was three. Yeah, that was three big dog. Yeah, we got special guests tonight. Yeah, yeah We do join us 7 p.m. Central tonight for CTI live and we will see you there. All right. Don't be a hope Counting millions in the cold bad bitch. Who did stroke got a own bank row can't fall does a note here shot case