998. Q&AF: Waiting For Recognition, Gaining Control In Business & Stuck In Life

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People are fucking winning too, bro. Yeah, they are. It's awesome. Yeah, they are. It's awesome dude

I did a I did a live stream in there with the with the people

The other day and like I was asking about their wins dude. It was it was crazy. Yeah, like

30 pounds down 20 pounds down

Making more money got this going on like it was just it was fucking cool, man

Because look dude

We're gonna fix what's going on in the world which everybody is frustrated about we have to build better human beings

That's the bottom line. Yeah, so you know, it's easy to set that goal out there

But being able to walk it backwards. That's where I think a lot of people miss it. Yeah, well

You can't give away the fucking before secret. Yeah, all right no secret sauce. It's very helpful

Very very fucking hell. Yeah, you're in there. Yeah

You got your little crew in there. Yeah, that's crew calls and everything. Yeah, it's cool

Um, but yeah sick, man. Well, let's uh, let's let's let's try to help some people

Let's try to make some people better how we can

Guys know how this works. I got three give ones for you. All right. Yeah, let's do it

Guys Andy question number one Andy. I've made some decent progress so far

No payoffs, no massive payoffs, no big wins just yet though

Part of me feels proud and part of me wonders if I'm just settling because nothing looks impressive from the outside

How do you measure winning when no one's clapping for you?

I know the horse goes before the cart man

But how does how big does the win needs to be before you get the clips? Well, if you're doing it for the collapse

You're doing it for the wrong reason

Okay, because let me tell you a little secret

Right now you're looking for people to celebrate winning and unfortunately in the culture that we live in

People will pretend to celebrate winning and then feel jealous and spiteful and bitter and frustrated about their own lives

So what will happen and everybody needs to just accept that this is the reality

You

Will get to a point where your success is recognized, but once you get to that point

people

Do not clap the way that you expect them to okay, and if you're doing everything that you're doing for the

admiration or the validation

externally you need to realign and think about why you're doing it because

Building something is a lonely process especially in the beginning

But I'm telling you

None of you this man or woman or anybody else needs any

Fucking validation from the outside world and to expect it is a false expectation that creates this

This extra weight that you have to carry that you don't need to carry. There's other stuff to carry

That's right. It's gonna be hard enough, dude

So you you have to understand most of your outcome comes for I would say 98% of your outcome

Comes from you controlling the things that you can at such a level that the 2% of the time that it's not in your control

The people who are quote-unquote they have the connections or they have the gatekeeping or they've built something

That you guys all want to be at those tables everybody's worried about networking

You don't understand that unless you are controlling the things that you can control at the highest level possible

Those people won't even have the conversation to bring you to the table because they see the holes in your game

so

When I say 98% of it

It's really a hundred percent

Okay, because once you become that person

The other people that are like that recognize that because it's so rare

That they start asking you to come to the things and go on this trip and come to this meeting

Or I got this opportunity and that's where things start to materialize and when that happens

You create a whole new network of people that

think nothing like the people that you came from

Who are there to not instill doubt in you anymore

Now they're gassing you up now. They're saying hey, man

You you're a fucking stud, bro. You just got to keep going you got to keep

Moving down and they start to mentor you and they start to help and they start to push you forward

And that's where you want to be you want to be surrounded by people who are going to help you win

And those people that you knew from back in the day

From high school or college that are living completely different lives

You can't expect them to even understand why you want what you want because they are perfectly fine where they are

That does not make them bad people

That makes them

On a different journey than you're on. Okay, so you can maintain

Relationships with people from the past you can still have friends you can still have

Family you can still have all that shit

But you can't get them to understand something that they've never even thought about

Okay, these people have never thought about what they are actually capable of

They have never thought about actually wanting more

They look at success as this thing that's out there that is

Reserved for certain people and they believe in their heart that they are not one of those people

Which means they will never become one of those people

But I am here to tell you that that is not the truth the truth is you've got to become that person first

And then you get your way into the door the doors start to open so

In between those two things, you know, I call that no man's land, right

And the beginning of your journey you're surrounded by let's say you're 20 years old. Okay, you're surrounded by your high school buddies

And so maybe some college friends is the people that you've known your whole life and

That's comfortable all right, but the minute that you start to say I'm going to go do this or I'm gonna be this or I have these dreams

That's where the chirping starts. That's where the doubt is seated

That's where it's it appears like they're carrying but they're not actually carrying

They're trying to keep you in the circle and when you start to move out

That's why they say shit like

Who the fuck does Andy think he is, you know, he thinks he's better than everybody

No, I don't think I'm better than everybody. I think I want better for myself and you're interpreting it that way

So we have to understand what we're dealing with here

and it's it's

It's just a part of the process dude. Yeah, it's like breathing the air

Having people chirp having people talk shit having people not like you having people

You know that you used to know now, you know

Want to see you that is normal shit that is normal shit that every single person who's ever built anything

deals with that all of them and if you can't get through that you don't have what the fuck it takes

So you got to understand dude. It's a requirement. It's like

It's literally like

Hey, Steve. Here's the path come with me. Oh, man. There's that one part there. It looks really tough

How can you know, I don't know if I want to go through it

Okay, well, you're not gonna get over here then like there's no other path. You've got to go through it

So you guys who are young you have to understand this is part of the process

But I'm telling you as someone who's been through that process that continues to go through that process because it never stops

Because once you outgrow that next that next group of friends in the middle area

And that next group of friends in the next middle area and you're moving your way up as long as you go

It's always the same behavior the minute you start to escalate from the successful group the same shit starts to happen in a different way

So you have to be okay with other people having opinions that you

Don't think you're good, but they have them. Okay, and this is why like when you guys watch me on CTI or

You know you you say like people say I don't care bro. You don't have to agree

I don't give a shit if you agree with me. That's this is my shit

This is what I think this is what I know. This is what I'm seeing and if you see it a different way cool

Yeah, and like legitimately

I don't care and

In the beginning you care a lot because you don't understand it, but that's a useful thing

We have to learn to use that because there's way more negativity out here than there is positivity

And if you lack the ability to take the negativity and turn it into productive action

Then you lack an essential tool that is that is required for success

So your job in this part of the phase is to take all the shit and people say all the doubt all the

Ship talking all the things they say and fucking remembering

Build a massive chip on your shoulder and then when you feel lazy or you don't feel like doing it

Or you don't feel like you know, this is the right path you think back on all the shit people say you say fuck them

I'm fucking doing it. Okay, so it's a useful thing

But you got to learn to use it and when you get to that point like

You're in the upper levels. You don't hear it as much

But

When you do hear it your condition to use it

So it's always useful for people to hate it's always useful for people to talk shit

It's always useful for people to say you can't do shit if you know how to use it properly

And using it properly is a requirement for success

Regardless of what any of the fucking feel good guru motherfuckers on the internet say

Negative energy is far more powerful for progress than positive energy

You will move faster away from you don't want then towards what you want that's the reality

You will move faster away from pain than you will

Towards pleasure. That's a normal thing for human beings

So if you learn how to use it you accept the game for what it is it becomes irrelevant

But you got to understand dude

You got to go through it. It's it's required. So your expectation of

You know people are going to clap and cheer and oh bro. They're not. They're just fucking not

They're until it's so undeniable and it's so obvious

That you're a fucking winner and anything you say and do is going to fucking happen

Bro

To this day, okay, I've been winning for 20 fucking seven years

All right

To this fucking day when I say oh, I'm going to do this there's still people that are like oh, I don't know

I don't know about that. Yeah, and I'm thankful for those people

I like it

Okay, because I bank that shit and I'm like all right. We'll see motherfucker. We'll see. I'm gonna make you eat that shit

okay, and and

That's how it works. Yeah, so

um

I feel like you you speak a lot too on my you know how important it is having

Awareness as an individual right like being able to like truly just look

Where are you you I'm saying what are you actually doing right and I bring that up because I feel like with the validation thing

So you're telling me like you need other people

Clapin for you telling you that you're doing it the right way like can't you just look at your shit and tell yourself if you're doing it the right way

Yeah, I'm saying. Yeah. Yeah. Isn't there awareness to this? Yeah, yeah, for sure man, but you know, I think

the

last 25 years of

Everybody getting a trophy for every little thing and everybody getting a celebrated for fucking you know doing shit that they're

Supposed to do every day anyway has changed the perspective with a lot of people. Yeah, so like

When they work hard for a week they want to be like I worked hard this week with fuck welcome to the club

Yeah, right. That's what the fuck we do right where's my pizza party. Yeah, like

I worked hard for five years. Yeah, nobody cares right here. Here's what you got to understand

Bottom up here's the bottom line

You ready?

Nobody fucking cares

You care just because you care doesn't mean they care

Okay, nobody fucking cares. They got their own shit going on. They got their own drama going on. They got their own lives going on

you might

Be a comment

And they might say something and and two seconds later. They're worried about something else

They don't care no one cares and they don't care about you

You think that people care about you. They don't fucking care about you. They care about themselves

They care about themselves that goes for every fucking person on the planet. Okay

I'm not saying your mom doesn't love you. You're right. I'm not saying your dad doesn't love you

I'm not saying your brother doesn't love you

But I am saying outside of that nobody gives a fuck and the harsh reality of the world is this

People really only care about things that benefit them and until you become someone

To where your mere existence is benefiting thousands of people

Nobody cares and by the way the minute that stops no it cares again

It's not caring again. Okay, and that's reality and people will say shit like this

So you're saying that old people only care if you if you're successful. Yes

No, that's what I'm saying. Okay

But it opens your options for life

Okay, it opens your options and into you know furthering your ability to take care of

The people that you love it opens your options for your future mate

It opens the options for you to have the choice of how you want to live your life and the reality is

You either want it or you don't

Okay, so

You know you got to accept the cost up front bro. You got to understand like this is the way it is. This is what I'm prepared to do and

I'm gonna do those things. You know, that's real dude. That's real man. Let's get to let's get to question number two

Uh Andy

Andy I started my business because I hated feeling controlled

But now it feels like the business controls me correct

I'm reacting all day instead of leading and every problem feels urgent. How do you get back into the driver's seat?

Uh, when the thing you built starts running you

Well, oh man that well look dude

That's the big misconception about owning a company or starting a business or being an entrepreneur

You know, like this saying that people say

Oh, man, I want the freedom to be an entrepreneur. What the fuck are you talking about?

It's a make my own there's no fucking freedom in entrepreneurship until maybe you've sold your business or maybe you've

Made it to such a point that you can hire people to potentially run it for you

And even that is not really that real if you really want to make it

So this idea of starting a company or a business for the idea of freedom

Is not a real thing

So

Again, you've got to accept the reality of front you're not getting more freedom

You're trading one kind of control for another kind of control. You're trading the ability to make

Uh, the ability to not make the decisions for your own existence

For the ability to make your decisions for your own existence

But that's not actually freedom. You just answered a different people. Okay. Now instead of answering to your boss

You're answering to your customers now instead of uh, you know answering to a company

You're answering to your team. All right, so this is a different it's just a different thing

You're trading one sort of control for another and yes, it provides

certain decisions

Certain luxuries certain certain outcomes that you wouldn't be able to have

Working in this first time

But those only come after years and years and years right yeah, so

This idea that

You're going to be freer

It is not a real thing

All right, so that's the first thing you got to understand in order of like getting back into control

This is about understanding what drives the business forward and letting the other shit taking the other shit off the table

Okay

Motion comes not from adding more but some subtracting things that don't move the needle

So what are the things that you're doing every day that

You think are urgent because you're hypervigilant about winning

But won't actually move the needle forward and you've got to become very discerning at where you spend your time

Because we only have a certain amount of time and we only have a certain amount of capacity to make the decisions and you want to spend

That time and those decisions and your energy when it's fresh on the things that matter most

So this is it I this is prioritization, okay?

What's critical and what is not critical what is going to move the needle forward today and then

The fires get priority after that now if the fires big enough and it's going to derail the business

Then that would become a higher priority type of situation right but go you learn this instinctually

um

Through the experience of going down the path, you know back when I was early in business

You know I can relate to this question because things would happen and I'd be like oh fuck the world's gonna fuck crash

Everything's a part right and dude that's hard, okay? And by the way in the beginning things

Are much more critical because you don't have the momentum moving forward

So when you're in that beginning middle phase

It's very hard to identify the difference because everything feels critical

And I think that's a good thing. I don't think that's a bad thing

I think it's a great thing to be hyper-vigilant about your business

Because everybody else is and that's you're competing against all right

No nobody that's winning is casual nobody that's winning is taking it easy

Nobody that's winning is like saying oh well that doesn't really matter

No, they have the same attitude you have

But they understand how to prioritize those situations into what continues to move us versus what needs to be addressed now

So you you will learn this as you go and it will become much easier for you to deal with like for me

At this point in my life

I have my critical task to move the business forward or move my my initials forward it might be for this or it might be for something else

I've got going on

but then I have

My firefighters, okay, right and that that is all day every day

Okay, so in between my critical things that are moving forward

I am addressing these things that are going on throughout the day and

Obviously, I have teams and people around which allow that to

happen

Quickly to solve problems quickly, but at the end of the day man

You know you you have to just continue to go and learn

How to prioritize things that are going to move you forward versus things that aren't the end of the world right now

Okay, but those things still have to be addressed because if you allow them to grow and spread

They can be the end of the world. I would do that was going to be my follow-up

I'm like how many how many how many how many times have you seen people just simply because of delaying addressing something

It's all time ruins everything. Yeah, happens all time

You know, and it could be it could start off as so

Lack of virgin like everybody talks about a thucking hustle culture in this and that and this broke those people lose

Those people all lose all of them

They don't get it not nobody says anything about that. That's actually built something or if they have

They've exited that company and they've forgotten what it's like to run it rebranded themselves is this clear

No, I'm not even saying that when you get out of the fucking fight

It you start to like think differently and you you think you're still thinking like you used to but you're not okay, so

This idea that you hear on the internet

You know about urgency being a bad thing or hypervigilance being a bad thing or not

You know being less urgent and people knocking that shit bro listen none of those people have built a real business

They might they might be a fuck they might be building a coaching business off of a bunch of people that are never gonna win

And victimizing them and telling them oh take it easy and you'll win, but they ain't gonna fucking win either

Okay, so you got to understand dude. This is what the fuck it takes it takes that

So when you hear like all these do getters and these fucking fluffy nice things on the internet

You got to realize that's for other people bro. You're here to fucking win. You're here to build

You're here to create you're here to become and if that's a serious thing for you and that's seriously what you want

You're entering into the most vicious competition that exists on the fucking planet

More than fucking baseball more than football more than MMA and it also is longest it last your whole life

Okay, so you are

voluntarily entering into a competition with other people that are willing to fucking die

In order to win and if you don't have that fucking in you

You're gonna lose that is how fucking competition works

So if you're one of these people that's like man, I think I want to start a business because it's I get more freedom and this and that and this and that

Bro, don't you'll get killed

You'll get some in a ruin your life

It'll ruin your fucking life because you'll leave your life now you'll get into this and you'll get fucking destroyed

You'll spend all your money and you'll be fucking broke and you won't know what to do

So I'm just being real with you guys if you think that this is anything other than a fucking

Gauntlet that you're going to run down your entire life in order to create a different sort of existence for yourself

And you're willing to go to fucking battle every single mother fucking day for the next 20 fucking years at a minimum

If you can't do that you shouldn't do it

You should not do it you will get fucking crushed now

You might be able to be one of these internet scammers and come up with some sort of bullshit in the meantime and make a little

I'm talking about building something fucking real. I'm talking about real company. I'm not talking about a fucking hustle

Get it absolutely you have to do it. You have to do it. It's required

There's other people doing what you do that will eat your fucking food right off of your table and laugh

You don't understand that. Yeah, people don't understand that like it's vicious, bro

Now I'm not saying you should be vicious. You can become very successful by being

great

And what you do and being a good person

But you got to be prepared for what it's going to take can be naive. No, yeah

Let me actually this because I feel like this would also be something that like somebody would want to try to do like

alleviate these problems by making somebody else or

Designating somebody else to go handle the bullshit, right? Well, I mean obviously, but like

How important it is it I guess learning those lessons of you know figuring out if this problem big

Rather than just passing it off the delegating. It's in one of your employees or something

What do you mean? So like you got the problems coming up you feel like you're out of out of control, right all the shit

You have an employee who's really good. Just hey you go handle that and just put it all off on them

Meanwhile, you're missing all the lessons that you're supposed to be learning by handling well

I mean what point do you you assign little firefighter first of all

If you're actually

The kind of person that's going to win

Other winners will be attracted to you people who are also willing to go down that path with you

But those winners and this is the fucking mistake people make

There are fucking savages that are not entrepreneurs

Not every savage becomes an entrepreneur. There are tons of savages that work within the framework of another company

Those people the people that you're asking about will only work with the the former that I described

Because they want to fucking win too and they're not going to attach all of their effort all of their life

All of their shit to someone who's casual about it. It's not gonna happen. Okay

So in order to even have the kind of person

That you can hand things off to and have it fixed you have to be that same kind of person

Otherwise you end up with some a bunch of incompetent dumbasses that you know

Don't really give a shit because let's be real dude. What's the workforce made up?

Okay

Our workforce here because we have stringent cultural standards that we've abided by for a long time

We are fucking savages everybody in this motherfucking building. Okay

Normal culture. What is it?

It's fucking people who have low standards non-files. It's not the attitude is I'm not doing that fucking

It's 501 right

You know, I'm not doing they're not paying me for that

And then you wonder why you know, they're a hundred pounds overweight and the biggest excitement of their entire life is when they throw

Fucking pizza party and the corporate office and it's fucking Karen's birthday. Yeah, right

Karen's birthday. Who's got the daughter? Everybody we got fucking cake

Oh, you got cake

I'll be there, right? I was gonna start my diet today, but oh well, you know Monday. Yeah, right like it's loser shit

Bro, so you got to understand that most people out there they don't want it. They're not trying to

Achieve the highest fucking standard for themselves. They're trying to get paid so they can buy their shit

And then ironically those same people who have very low standards blame the company for not paying them enough because they don't fucking provide any real value

Okay, but again that usually comes from the leader if you go into a company where you see the people I'm describing and then look at their leader

Their leader usually looks the same

They usually act the same. They usually talk the same. They usually get extra excited about the cake. Yeah, right? Okay

These are losers. They will lose

That I'm not saying these are losers like they're bad people. I'm saying

Factually, they are going to lose over and over and over and over and over. That's just reality, dude

So you got to ask yourself what are you actually trying to do?

What are you actually willing to do to get there?

And

If you buy all the way in you will attract other people that are willing to go down that path with you

Okay, when you do that those people are more than willing to step in and help

And they will help you with the fires and they will help you with the minutia and they will help you with the shit

But that's never in the beginning, bro

That's only after you've proven yourself to be battle tested to where you're gonna go through the fucking gauntlet

And other people are gonna say god damn that's tough motherfucker. I'm gonna fucking I'm gonna hitch my wagon to that motherfucker

Okay, because you're asking them to trade their life

For your fucking mission. Do you understand that?

People spend more life and work than they do at any other place

Okay, if you don't have a fucking worthy mission if you don't have a

A mission that's big enough that means something that allows them to cultivate all of their desires and all of their dreams and all of the things that they want to become inside of that

You can't do it

Okay, the days of of recruiting high talent to to to to

Build a fucking, you know, landscape company that has no ambition to grow and they're just gonna stay the same

That doesn't happen dude. The winners don't go there

Okay, it's just it's like college football. I always bring it back to this

The real win. Where are the real winners want to play?

They want to play places that are fucking proven to win. They get the best talent. They get the best recruits

Same for you the best shit. It's the forms. It's the set. Yeah, that comes later though. Yeah, okay

When you are

When you're not that kind of a person, you know, I'll play in a community college. Yeah, I'll play D3

It's cool. I like the game. Yeah, right? Those motherfuckers at Alabama or Indiana

They ain't playing for the fucking love of the game. They're playing a fucking win

Okay, and there is a big difference

I'm not saying you can't build a small company that could provide

But if you do build a small company and you keep it small

You're gonna have massive turnover over and over and over and over again

And you're never gonna have real killers want to work for you because there's no fucking outside for them

Like why the fuck would a real killer work for someone who's happy where they are

They fucking won't it doesn't work that way

So you have to be committed and the vision has to be big

And it has to be big enough to where they can provide for their families the way they want to inside of that

Okay

I could have stopped my company 15 fucking years ago

Okay, but

If I did that

I would not have the great people around me. I would not have all these young people who have come in learned all these skill sets

And by the way some of them moved on to other things and they become successful in other ways

All right, but if you stop and you just say oh, I just want enough for a bass boat and a fucking this or that wrote

You're setting yourself up

To get your fucking ass beat

worse than if you went for the big vision

Does that make sense?

Because now you're dealing with fires all the time now you're dealing with

disgruntled people all the time now you're having people come in and be like oh, this sucks and quit

Now you have more headaches when you have a big fucking vision and people can clearly see that you are very intent on accomplishing that vision

The the great people come to you bro

They come they'll they'll fucking they'll come from other dude

We got people here that are from fucking Europe that have moved here to work here. Yeah, you understand crazy

Right because it's crazy when you know because the fucking mission is worthy and it's big and

People want to be a part of shit like that. Yeah, so

And you could do that in any company dude. You can set you you've just got a fucking think about it

You know what I mean? Yeah, I love it man. Oh, we got one more for the people

Andy guys

Question three

Andy I don't even know how to word this right, but I feel stuck in a life I chose

No one forced me into it. I'm 32 years old. I'm single no kids

I do have a really good career that I love. I'm not miserable

Just boxed in

Responsibility stack up and it feels like there's no room left to change direction without screwing everything up

So how do you make a move when nothing feels safer

But staying put feels even worse

What kind of responsibilities could you have at 32 years old with no kids?

You're as free as you're ever gonna be brother

The moves you need to make are gonna be like right now is the time to make them

If you're gonna make them. Yeah, okay

And very simply you have to ask yourself and you already answered it

Is it

Worst staying where you are or is it worse going down the path to get where you want to be

And I think you already answered the question you said I feel boxed in I don't like where I'm at

I don't like what I've got well, I could promise you if you stay there. It's only going to get worse

You know, and this comes down to how people evaluate risk, right? Yeah, most people evaluate risk from

You know, what if I do this and this happens and this happens and this happens and this happens

Instead of the proper way of evaluating risk, which is what happens if I don't

What happens if I don't you already know what happens if you don't because you're fucking living in it and you fucking hate it

So you answer your own question bro and to be completely honest with you the fact that you're not married

The fact that you don't have kids

Bro, you think you you think you've got responsibility now

Go get fucking married and have some kids and then feel how fucking trapped you're gonna feel in a place that you can't escape

Okay, so you're in the perfect position to pivot to who you want to become what kind of life you want to live and and

You know a lot of people that are 32 say I'm fucking 32 bro. You're still a fucking kid

You're still a kid

You know

To me the question's answered in the question. I mean this guy already knows you just want to hear it

Here's the answer go fucking do it or you're gonna regret it your whole fucking life

And it's gonna get worse wherever you're at

If you don't take action forward, it's not going to maintain because everybody else is moving forward society is moving forward

If you try to stay where you are

You're automatically going backwards by default

Because everything's moving forward. So the key is you have to move forward faster than everybody else

So the truth of the matter is for this dude is uh, yeah, if you stay where you are you're gonna hate your fucking life forever. Yeah

Yeah, so you better do it

That's a pretty simple one there to answer the question in the question. Yeah, he already knows

You already know you already know how you guys all know like what the fuck are you listening to me for you all fucking know

You know that your life sucks right now. You know that things need to change

Go change them you are in control of those things you are in control of all the things to create the outcome

Not someone else

Not magic

Not the president not your fucking mom not the kids from high school

None of that shit matters, bro

It's simple inputs and outputs what actions are you taking to create the result

And if you take enough actions over the course of time the result changes

And things get better and that is fucking it man. It's not this is not

Hard it's it's it's not hard to understand. It's hard to do and a lot of you guys ask questions because

You're trying to ask for a hack around the heart. Well, I'm sorry dude

Um, I don't have one okay now. Maybe all these other smart people who have built real things in real life

Uh, you know that you see on the internet offering advice for fucking free

You know

Maybe they know a way to hack around but uh, you know, I would highly consider looking at their actual

Results and how they actually make money because right now we are

Interdated with a bunch of people that make money by selling people on ideas of how to make money with they never made money any other way

Okay, and I'm telling you as someone who's built multiple things in real life and I'm talking about things that exist

Things with employees products that ship okay, in many different industries. I'm just fucking telling you

There is no hack. It's a long journey. You have to go through it every single day

You need to win every single day along the way and eventually your external reality starts to materialize

Okay, and a lot of people don't even understand that they don't understand that

To change your identity of who you are

It is very simple. You just got to make a decision

All right, the life that you're living in right now

When you look around and you see like the house you're living in or the apartment or the car you're driving

All of that shit was dictated and by the way, this goes if you're winning too

If you're winning and you're looking around like man got a nice car or a fucking nice house from winning right

This is not just for people that are losing

Whatever you're living in your physical reality right now was created by a past version of you

Okay

Today whether you're winning or losing you have the opportunity to say I want to do this. I want to become this

I want to take this further. I want to do these things. I want to become this kind of person

I don't want to be fat anymore. I want to be fit. I don't want to be broke anymore

I want to make money. I don't want to be a dumbass anymore. I want to get educated

That's a decision

Okay, and then all you have to do is model the behavior of the people that fucking do those things and eventually your external reality materializes to look similar to theirs

so

This is not

Magic, bro that and this is the thing

People think this is magic or it's luck or it's circumstance or it's this or it's that because that's all they've ever heard

From all the people around them their whole lives. How many of you have seen someone

Who's successful who's driving a nice car who's got their shit together who's built a nice company or whatever and you're like man

That's pretty cool and then you have a friend or a parent or somebody that you hang out with be like yeah, but fuck dude

You know that guy fucked everybody over along the way. I'm not willing to do that because I'm real no you're a bitch

Okay, you're hiding behind your own

Pre-conceived which are inaccurate

assumptions about anybody who's built anything because I'm gonna tell you something in today's world the way that word amount spreads

You have to have integrity. You have to provide real value

You have to be the real deal to even win otherwise you get found out on the internet and your shit goes away

And your reputation's ruined and you can't do shit

All these motherfucking coach coaches I coach coaches the coach coaches the coach coaches

They're learning that lesson very fucking hard right now. Yeah, okay, so

It's a long game

You have a choice right now to decide that you want different and all you have to do is behave differently from here on out

It's it's not magical. It's just fucking hard

Okay, and if you're willing to gut through the hard

It will become easy

Just like when you get into a cold swimming pool and you're like the for you know

You guys are all in the cold plunges the first time you do a cold plunge you're like

Fuck

You know, but after like six or seven days you're like

The sucks and then after like a month you just get right in and it's normal

Okay, that's the same way this works

You were at the beginning

You start to move. It's very hard

Then it just becomes your life

It's no longer hard you acclimate to it like when I wake up it like dude

I have a big life man like I have a lot of responsibility. I have a lot of projects going

I have a lot of shit that I have to do okay. I don't wake up every day and and think

Fuck this is so hard. I now some days I might wake up and say I don't feel like doing that today, but

It's not really hard like it's just shit. I got to do. Yeah, right. You know what I'm saying like

I don't

You get acclimated to it guys and that's what you got to understand and the reason that you don't understand is because you haven't been doing it long enough

Eventually you get used to it and it becomes just your your standards and that and the cool thing is is that when you model winning for long enough

You know eventually you're not chasing winning anymore winning is just what the fuck you do that's who you are

So when it becomes that

Winning isn't even hard. It's just what the fuck you do. You see what I'm saying absolutely dude. Absolutely man

Well guys ended that was three. Yeah, that was three big dog. Yeah, we got special guests tonight. Yeah, yeah

We do join us 7 p.m. Central tonight for CTI live and we will see you there. All right. Don't be a hope

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