All College Boys Should Be Like This

0:00What's up you guys welcome back to it's meetings live exclusively on Radio Andy channel 102 as always This is our weekly time to talk to each other with a live ask me anything I want to talk to all of you right now. So call me. It's 844 305 Andy. That's 844 305 2639 Good morning Happy Wednesday. I want to plug that I will be doing a live show in Miami Next week on the 11th of March. It will be so fun. I love Miami so much and it's just gonna be a live taping So come spend the morning with me have some fun If you're in the Miami area just go to serious xm.com forward slash tanks live Miami to enter for your chance to win a seat for you and a friend And it's free obviously people are asking me that obviously it's free So that'll be really fun. I can't wait and And yeah, it's I'm not gonna lie to you guys the winter revives are Pervasive and I honestly I can't take it anymore

1:02I I really and and this is coming from someone who spent all of January in LA. I And has traveled every weekend. I know I'm full of shit. Okay. I'm full of shit. I'm weakest hell and I'm full of shit I cannot do it anymore. I this has just been Down in the dumps. This has just been the worst like I ran I saw Cliff my friend on Friday And he's one of the most bubbly happy go lucky people and he was like I was like I haven't seen you What's going on? How are you he was like tanks the winter and I was like I know it's been really really dark It's been really hard and I'm just oh god, and it's so cold again today I can't go only so many indoor winter activities. You can really do like last time it's not like last weekend It was like I posted up on a Sunday for like eight hours with my friends in one spot just like drink What else do you do nothing else to do? It's it's just so grim It's just I yeah, I've had it. I've had it So I'm very extra excited to go to Miami even for 24 hours. It's gonna be warm this weekend in New York And it's also daylight savings so positive thought turning a corner. We're turning a corner

2:06Yeah, but it's so many things that I want it. We just talked about what was I gonna say? I got a Mercury's in retrograde first of all beyond beyond everything is we're all feeling it here I am really feeling it and it is just like it's beyond and I just looked it up And it's gonna go through March 20th, which is really dark. It's I feel it so strongly and I'm glad to see Vasant here because he'd be rolling his eyes But it is I like my phone's acting up that just everything everything Communication glitching and I I can't I actually will never forget I never really had knew much about Mercury and retrograde and When I first started working for you like you were telling me like oh Mercury's in retrograde Like what the hell does that mean and then we were like walking and I dropped a massive bottle of hot sauce like outside of the garage and Exploded everywhere and you were like see Mercury retrograde and I was like wow you're you're so right I'm right and see these phones are acting up aren't they admit it Jesse admit it Okay, they might be acting up, but we're working on it. I knew it. I knew it like if you if you're on

3:07If you're on the line stand the liner if you're trying to get through please just bear with us because they're acting funky because What we're gonna answer soon But yeah, it's it's been acting absolutely horrendous and I just I it's going on for so long Well, we need it. What can we do to get out of it? I Don't know I don't I honestly don't know it's just I I had a good weekend. I had a very chill weekend. What did I do? I saw I saw some friends caught up with them on Friday, which was nice and then I kind of had a chill Saturday I went to I went to a new steakhouse I went to the Golden Steer with Emmett and because I I am on a new I'm trying to go to new restaurants this year feel like last year I went to the same damn places and this year. I was like I can't I'm really I just can't do it So I'm golden steer just open. It's awesome. I'm actually gonna put forward that we as a team should go to Golden Steer Overstrip House, which is a huge move. I'm down after seeing that baked potato that you posted I'm like I can go in a heart. I would be so down to go. It's a giant big potato the big potato

4:10Literally weighed like five pounds if I don't even know where they found it I've never seen a potato of this size before it was so good. The steak was incredible the mac and cheese was incredible It was just I I really highly recommend it. So I think we should go there. All right. All right. I'm down That sounds good Did you watch the any of the actor awards? I saw some clips. I thought the fashion was amazing I thought everybody looks really good. I thought a Tiana Taylor. Obviously she's just She does not ever wear a bad outfit. I know she brought her daughter She got her daughter and her daughter was on the red carpet like throwing poses I know good and she like fanned her dress out for her. So cute. So cute and law roach said that Zendaya and Tom are married I know very casually very casually, which obviously he must have had approval to do that But I was maybe maybe not yeah, I feel like law roach kind of says whatever he wants I'm just like moves on and he can do it because that was crazy The best but yeah happy for them. Well, honestly, that's so chic if they were able to get married and no one knew and I was like Oh, maybe the post later or maybe they just never will and I kind of love that that's that's so chic

5:14That is so incredibly cool. You imagine like no one ever sees a photo from that and honestly Isn't that kind of what it's about? It's like as long as you're in love I mean, I feel like that's opposite to what most people do is they want the photos more than anything But like I feel like they're if you're so in love and you don't care then who cares, right? Yeah, I really love their relationship I feel like they Just don't really post each other a lot or anything, but but they're not like not trying to be in the public together Like they're just like they do things in the public. They're really cute together, but they're not like yeah Well, I think they also are both serious actors in the sense that they don't want Too much of themselves to be public because I feel like that's what makes a good actor like if you know if you think about all the Great's like Julian Moore like even yeah, you know Brad Pitt whatever they don't Leo even, you know, we don't know anything about him. We don't know anything about that. They they stay, you know They don't want to be associated with other things that they're doing They don't they don't want it. They're not on fucking social media like it's just they are they are Private so that when we see them on screen we think wow they're a blank canvas and they can take on whatever role they want so

6:18Yeah, I I They've really grown on me and and it's so cool that they're married like good for them. Yeah, I love that I Watched love story all this weekend. I'm completely obsessed. I will be doing an entire podcast about it on Friday because I Want to I just I always obsess and for some reason I thought I wasn't gonna like it just because everybody's so obsessed and I just I don't know the whole thing with the Carol and Bessette trend I'm not here to yuck anyone's yoms. Okay. I am not but I Think let me offer this as a thought starter I think part of the reason that it she is such a fashion icon is because she had a personal sense of style and Copying her look well, you know nice That's not gonna replicate her it girlness She was an it girl because she had her own style and it suited her like there's nothing that revolutionary about wearing like simple clothing like a white blouse black pants whatever

7:18All good But she did it because it suited her and it was her own vibe So my wish for everybody is that we all think well, what is my style? Right because I I really I'm done with the micro trends I want everybody to have a cool personal style again Yeah, and it seems like she did it so effortlessly and that kind of takes the point away when you're Totally putting in a huge effort to act like her also. It's just like 90s fashion It's not totally revolutionary. No, no, it's just like and that's kind of been a thing anyway But I will say did like inspire me. I started watching it too. I'm not super all the way caught up But I made me want to go back and watch like sex in the city because I was like I do love that like time in New York City And just seeing the than the work of it all was was really good So yeah, okay, should we go to a call? She got you want to go to grace grace. Okay. Hi grace. How are you? Oh my gosh What's up grace. How are you welcome to the show? Nothing, you know what girl? I'm actually the one who called like a couple maybe weeks ago about like the wedding planning industry

8:23Oh, yes, wait and you were the wedding planner and you were kind of like I don't know I'm kind of like getting over this industry and I don't know what to do Yeah, I mean listen, I really listen to like the advice you gave me and I think I mean definitely the company I'm working for is kind of The biggest issue. I mean, it's kind of related to my question last time, but like I know you didn't episode about like, you know, girls helping girls in the workplace and stuff like that and we actually just hired a new girl And I don't want to scare her You know what I mean like like you need to watch out like, you know what I mean like no one's gonna, you know Make it easy for you in the sense that again in my specific company. It's very like caddy and it's hard to Get away from people that you don't work well with because there's only there's like less than ten of us, right? So I guess if how can I be of like a Help to her while also

9:25Again, like I'm still I'm kind of starting to look for a new job, and I don't want to like Air her that she's at this like, you know toxic, right? But I just want to be like setting a good example of like what's healthy and normal and what's not And I know it might be hard because you have to work like in a in a traditional office in recent years But again kind of similar to the Carolyn the set thing and like how even in like the first episode how that girl was You know putting down Carolyn and say like how then you know pick out the dress, and it's like, you know what like if you're if you have a feeling in your You know like Confident in yourself, and that's gonna hear you further than you know what other people think of you sometimes I totally agree and I think it's like I think that even the fact that you're thinking about how you can be you know A help to this new girl is so kind I think a lot of women in the workplace just feel so threatened by younger women And that's wrong, but in the same time I always think it's because of scarcity mindset

10:26It's not because they're like evil people It's just because from the time we were young we think oh my god There's only a limited number of places for women in the workplace And then on top of that if you leave to have a kid or if you whatever like then you're gonna get pushed out by younger women And it's like the whole system is set up for women to hate each other and to be awful to each other So I think the fact that you're recognizing that and that you want to be like a mentor to this young girl Even if you might leave is so incredible and we need more of that Okay, that is that is absolutely the right attitude in the right vibe to have So I'm obsessed with that I think you can just like be friendly to her It's scary to start a new workplace. It's scary to go into a new company It's really nerve-wracking and I think just being honest with her You don't have to warn her and be like oh by the way babe I'm on the way out this place fucking blows you can just be like You know be honest if she's like oh is that kind of weird how the how we do this here? And you can be like you know it is and this is how I manage through it Or this is how I do this and it's just it's just a really kind thing to do

11:27And I think of the people who were nicest to me in all my different jobs And you remember them that is really such a great attitude to have And you know you by paying it forward that way and it's it's really good karma And it's just like a good energy. So I would be friend her. I would be honest with her And you know I also hope that you find it better a better place to work soon So that you can take your skills elsewhere Yeah, I think the honesty thing is definitely something I struggle with Because especially when you're not super close with your co-workers You just kind of always want to pretend like you're good Like you don't want you know your boss to be looking at you like this girl struggling or she's not happy But like I think being honest really can be powerful in the sense that Pretending like you're okay all the time is not going to help anyone Agreed agreed and also just like I think in general When you're vulnerable with someone and when you're just real with them It's so powerful to just be like

12:29I sometimes people ask like oh how do I make friends like how do I make friends Being vulnerable and being honest is a shortcut to a great friendship It just like it just lets the you know, it just it relaxes everyone when you're like This is the truth and this is how I feel like that just puts everyone at ease And it's it's absolutely the right vibe and this girl is going to Thank you and look up to you and be like wow she's a real one and she made my transition to this new workplace Like so much better even if she ends up hating it like you do Yeah, that's what I want to hear my favorite influencers because I feel like you are really honest and transparent about like These are the great parts of being an influencer and then this is like the reality of Like you think you're traveling all the time, but you can't really you know Set down roots sometimes. So I always appreciate you being honest people I try very nice of you Yeah, I definitely try to be honest. Maybe sometimes too honest

13:31Okay, well, I love you so much. I love you. Thanks for calling back And I'm sending good vibes for you finding a new job This is making me feel like I'm on the right path since you are You'll soon again. You you absolutely are big hug. Good luck. Thanks for being a good Mentor older sister vibe to this girl. We need more of that. And I hope that inspires more people Well, do come to Philly soon. I will I will lots of love have a good one. Bye babe. Bye baby Um, oh my god. It was so cute my friend. I saw my my one of my best girlfriends from college and she has a little girl And she said sometimes she'll be like listening to the show in the car and every time someone goes by baby Her her daughter goes by baby. Oh my god. That's so cute. We should go by because she thinks she's talking. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely the cutest The other word's a by baby merch. We have to get some by baby merch. I know it's on the list Well, we need somewhere about side merch too. We have a lot to do

14:34We really do big merch list. Big merch list. Um, okay. Let's go to Allison. Hi, Allison. How are you? Oh my gosh Hello Hello. Hi. How are you? Oh my gosh. It's so good to talk to you You too. What's going on? I don't know when that's so crazy Um, well obligatory. I feel like I have to say like everyone in it. I just love you so much I always listen and it's just like such a fun show. So thank you Such great stuff. I appreciate it. Thank you What's going on with you on this? Yeah, but I wanted to share just this funny story because I think you would like it Um, so I know you buy your big job in like Yes. Yes. So About nine years ago it was now um, I was in college and over the break I actually got a breast production. Okay, and it was like the best decision ever like it was so great but I did it like on break so I came back and like you like I couldn't work out. Yeah

15:36I'm like such like an avid like but I was always working out like doing like rigorous things and like running and stuff And they were like well, you can't like go to the gym. You can't walk on the treadmill So I was like and kind of walk outside and they were like yeah Yeah, I live in the northeast and like I mean it wasn't like crazy winter But it was obviously cold but like Every day in January like bundled up and like went outside for like my two miles and walked and the other thing I decided to do I was like okay, well if I'm gonna like You know, can't really work out like Feel like I can't do much. I'm just gonna not drink for six weeks. Yeah, so I Took off drinking. I had like turned 21 not fall But I was I'm gonna stay in I'm not gonna go out so like we all went back and my long friends like went back out I think okay, I'm just gonna like that's so hard to do though when you're at that age like to not drink That's very like great control Well, it was I mean, it was fun. There definitely were some moments where I was like like in my being stupid But the best part is which I thought you would appreciate

16:39Of course like me and my friends when I when I was okay like the six weeks up. I can like Work out again. I could do this. I can drink. I'm like I'm gonna like throw like a big party We're gonna like go out and like go crazy So we just like of course we're in college like did it up. It was so much fun I like you know like how did big pregame like I came over like got new clothes like I made it like such a big deal Like it was like my birthday, and I was like I'm back everyone like I'm going out again Of sat I have to send you I put up like an Instagram that year, and it's just like so funny So I'll have to send it to you, but I just want to tell you that story and I was gonna say like you should do this But I know now you're like out of Your recovery, but you could still do it. It was just like such a fun time And I'm like yeah, like I probably would ever do that again. That was the only year. I did dry January But it was just like so funny I should have like I'm gonna call in no, I absolutely love that idea. I should do a I'm back after boobs party Like I think it would be fun And I'm gonna start working out tomorrow actually. It's my first day. I'm so excited. I'm nervous

17:42But I'm very very excited and I love it It's I'm so glad that you thought it was the best decision. I think it's like the best decision I ever made to I'm like so happy with my boobs like it was great And it's been nice, but now it's time to get my ass back in the gym And honestly it could coincide with like the weather getting better as well Like maybe I should just throw a party. I feel like everybody's depressed Everybody needs it kind of a back after boobs party with like a boob cake Would you rent out a venue or like do it at your place? Well, not at my place. It's so small. I would probably I would I would do like a bar, you know, and do like a I don't know Now I'm thinking sponsors. We give everyone a free broth. This is like a very good idea. I love it Very good idea, but I love that so much. That's iconic and I'm so glad you called Yes, thank you so much. It was so funny. I just had to tell you so it was great chatting. I love it Thank you for calling. I love you. Have a great week. Bye. Bye baby Yeah, I I feel like we could use a party honestly. I don't I don't feel back though. I feel I feel ugly

18:49You need a party to get you back. I feel tired. I feel so lethargic and I just feel I was I felt good after London And now I feel depressed again. I feel really depressed again So I don't know guys. I mean, it's good to be honest, but not too honest Well, that's what you know grace was saying she was like thank you for being honest I don't know. It's like such a fine line to tow being an influencer because it's like you know I don't I think you're like bringing anyone down though. It's not like you're not having I always worry about that though Yeah, but you're not I don't know I think people are also everyone else is feeling it especially people that are living on these coast like Just having a tough winter. Yeah, that's a tough winter. Yeah Okay, you guys we are gonna take a super quick break. I will be right back after this. Don't go anywhere Well Come back to spitting's live exclusively on radio and D guys I don't know what in the mercury and retrograde is going on that with the phones But if you're calling just keep calling where we're troubleshooting and we're gonna we're gonna get to them ASAP

19:49We're gonna figuring it out if you want to call it's eight four four three five any that's eight four four three oh five two six three nine I am currently in a de ugly a vacation process of from winter It's not going that well so far. It's actually going. It's a slow process, but I I am on my way Let's talk about it. Also, I love when people do these on TikTok when they're like come get like unagly with Yeah, yeah, and they go and I go see all their like steps that they do take it like they're they're there They're they're eyebrows or spray tans like whatever they're lymphatic like I love seeing all the little things that like Women love to just splurge on just to feel just a prettier better in the dead of winter. I okay So what's your what are your steps? So I am today going to get soft wave, which is a laser for my face I am tomorrow getting Botox and and whatever else she might have to offer me Maybe a little sculpture. I don't know what that is, but I'm interested in learning about it. Yeah I got a haircut last week. I got my hair colored in London

20:52I am gonna get a spray tan on Thursday and I'm starting to work out tomorrow. Oh, that's yeah So I'm attacking I'm attacking it with bigger, but it's just it's it's a bit difficult honestly It's it's hard to beat the winter ugly's if there is anything else that I should be doing. Please please let me know everybody spray tan is key. I'm actually getting my eyelashes tinted tomorrow. Have you ever done it before? It's been years Okay, and I'm not doing the the the curl okay, you know, we'll do that. Yeah, I'm not doing the perm because I don't know Sometimes I don't like people's eyelashes look like they're like flipped back into their head Um, but I'm gonna get my eyelashes amazing I need that. I need to get my eyebrow. I need to get all I need to go to Aussie brow Um, and get my brows done, but I'm very very excited for the laser laser gonna do to your face It's gonna make it better Jesse. I will not all of us have the college that you full college in the resources that you do Evenness texture. Yeah, just it makes you look like you see is it like a like a red laser? Yeah You wear goggles and then you and then you they like I think they get like really close to your face and like

21:52Individually zapped like small small areas. Yeah, you have beauty is pain. Have you heard it is painful? Oh, yeah, yeah I mean they numb your face so but I have another random question for you. Yeah, I've been meaning to ask you I know how you feel about moody. Oh, yeah, I know what you're gonna ask me. I don't like it Punch. I don't like him one bit. I don't know how we haven't talked about him yet because everyone's freaking out about this little monkey Six months. There's a there's a you know viral animal and I don't know why when puppies and kittens exist People pick ugly weird like freaky animals. First we had Moodang who was slimy Slimy hippo and also hippos can kill you Hippos are really dangerous. I've seen the like the safari video. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. I'm chasing the boats number one Most lethal animal. Okay, by the in Africa and have you seen the videos of people putting on a giant watermelon and a I do like those that's satisfying to watch but they're they're Massive their jaw like I don't know but that's crazy their teeth. So

22:56Then they pick punch and it's not really his fault. I Okay, basically let me back up when I was younger I used to watch like all of Oprah's interviews and Oprah interviewed this woman who had gone to her friend's house Who had a pet monkey and the monkey ripped her face off and and it was like I should not have watched this But it is like burned into my memory and I have been terrified of any sort of monkey ever since this interview Also, like that's that's a testament to being like monkeys in captivity You know like you should not have a pet monkey that they're for the wild and like the zoo is kind of the same thing Although like I don't I think depending on the zoo like sometimes they're rescued. So it's maybe yeah But like that's it's the same thing. It's a monkey in captivity But punch is kind of cute. I can't I can't do it. I just can't I just feel sad for him You know like they're all the other like monkeys are so mean to him Well, they make it we don't know what's going on behind closed doors. He could be very manipulative You think he's like terrorizing them. He could be like teaching now or like being rude to them or something. We don't know Okay, he's being rude to them

23:59I think they're being rude to him. Okay, I think this is gonna work. I really hope so let's try to go to Joey Let's try to hi Joey. How are you? I'm good. Thanks. How are you? I'm good. What's going on? Thanks for calling welcome to the show This is so exciting. I literally have been like a long time listener for so long. Oh, thank you. I appreciate it I love you. You're like an older sister for me. That's a lot. Thank you. Thank you. What's going on with you? Um, I was listening to a caller last week and she was saying that she went on like a few dates with this guy And she's kind of like having like the nerves of being like maybe this is the one But like I don't want to give up my single life. Yes. Yes. I remember And I just kind of wanted to touch base on that because that was me for literally the longest time I just enjoyed being like so single and having my single life. Yeah And I met my boyfriend and he's a literally like an angel But I was talking with my friends and like dude. I cannot be

25:02Like in a relationship that just doesn't fit my aura. Yeah I just don't want to give up being single But I think if you're not dating a loser Being in a relationship, there's actually one of like the best things. I love your take You can't like unless you're dating someone your friend. Hey or like he isn't adding to your life Why wouldn't you want like your best friend by your side and you can still do all your single activities Like now he's gonna be like the designated DD like he can pick you up Like he's just there and he's just like an add-on for you No, I agree with you and I think it's such a you raised such a good point It's like if you're not dating a loser like I I agree like I think that There's like a trend on tiktok right now, which is like obviously these trends are a little bit sensationalist and like silly But there's a trend on the tiktok where it's like It's like a flash cut of like all these good things and it's like my life because I didn't marry a loser And I'm like yeah, and it's like okay, that's that's true like if you're you're absolutely right like I have a couple friends

26:05Who are in relationships where I'm like wow this is actually bolstered you and made you cooler and made you made you happier And it's just it's kind of a vibe and I think you're you're so right It's just like don't date a loser which reminds me of that article by Sean T Joseph and Vogue last year Like is having a boyfriend embarrassing now and my my thought on that like if you read it and like super distilled down the point It's like Know having a boyfriend isn't embarrassing now But having a boyfriend who treats you like shit or doesn't support you or is weird about xyz like That is that's embarrassing But if you have an amazing man who's like Just only making your life better like that's the best like you said It's just like don't don't date a loser, which is by the way why I am single like I I'm scared to be in a relationship I admit that but like if I met someone who actually made me better and like pushed me and wanted to do all the cool shit And was on my level of course I would date them and I would love it Exactly like that article actually came out when I first started like talking to my boyfriend

27:07I was like this is the last thing I want to see like I do not have a crush and this article is coming out And then I read it and I was like yeah, this just not relate to me like what so ever because I wouldn't date someone That isn't adding to my life and like this person like I love going on like my rocks and having like my little hobbies And I love doing that by myself, but sometimes like he just He's like an extra person. They're just like exercise my thoughts. They're like kind of enhanced like my life style in a way I feel like dating is super scary But also it's like you need to kind of date around and Get rid of those losers to kind of find the last. I'm not scared. No, I agree Yeah, it's all it's all part of it Like obviously you have to date around and like keep it casual and until you meet someone great Like it's it you're just totally right. It is all part of it And the most important part of your message is like if you are love yourself and if you know your worth

28:08And then someone great comes along like allow them to come in and it's it's a really good message and I like it Yeah, I just listened to that call last week when I was on my walk and I was like I kind of want to Call in for the first time. No, I love it. I just did my little idea out there. I love it Absolutely, you deserve the best and I'm glad you have a cool boyfriend who makes your life better Well, thank you for calling. It was so nice talking to you. Thank you. Thank you for calling Hey, you got you Oh my god, I'm sorry. I'm driving and I'm like trying to do things I love you. Now you're good. You're good. Thank you for calling. I loved your call And um drive safe. Have a great day Bye you guys too. Bye. Bye babe Maybe we should be calm people maybe we should yeah Yes, we should call like the icy guy and be like what we should call the mercury and retrograde person and say what the hell is going on Um, no, but she's right like I

29:09I know that like when I am with someone the next person I'm with they are gonna be super dope like they're gonna be so cool Into your point we talked about this when that article came out like about having a boyfriend embarrassing like the girls that were reacting poorly to it like If their boyfriends probably are in bearer exactly the girls that are like that's hilarious like yeah I didn't think anything of it like they have cool boyfriends. Of course. I mean the girls that are in relationships that have that reaction You know, like you're only ever triggered by something if it's like a kernel of truth in it right You know what I mean so true I always think about that with like the hate comments I got like the only ones that saying I'm like Because it's a little trick or it's because I believe it about myself right which is fucked up so Um, but yeah, I mean I I'm I feel like it seems like I am obsessed with talking shit about them But because I caught up over the weekend. I will say a perfect example of that is Kyle and Amanda Mm-hmm. I caught a caught up over summer house like it is embarrassing that I mean I kept dating Kyle like that It is but now, you know, we're we're we're we're back, but you know, they broke up, but um

30:10That's that was a very simple. Yeah Um, so do we have this call? Nope. It's not working still. I'm going to scream Did you catch up on other bravo? I caught up on Beverly Hills. Oh, I had something to say Okay, and then I couldn't help myself in a way to take talk about it, but I'll I'll reset here for anyone listening um Okay, so Amanda I find it very disturbing that there are that many people in America or the world who are I'm going to go ahead and say it dumb enough to buy her manifestation course Her manifestation book and this is coming from someone who absolutely believes in manifesting sure There is something so dark to me. I'm not going to mince my words about the money manifesting thing. Mm-hmm. Because Manifestation with money Something about spending money to buy a book about manifesting more money Doesn't sit right with me Manifesting is kind of like an energy thing to write so like and like

31:10Making money is about hard work exactly. So it's kind of different if you're like manifesting like they're going to cancel you for that learn By the way people saying the like the manifest or making money is about hard work It is I agree with you, but like now, you know, but yes, I think that I just think that there's it's more complicated And the fact that she sold that many books and courses right to buy Kyle's house Which is like a beautiful mansion in Beverly Hills or wherever it is Is insane like that's insane and she said she was making she made some off-hand comment that she was like making a million dollars a month or something And I'm like okay someone wrote on TikTok that her course was like three thousand dollars or something So she knew no, it's it's like crazy. I don't know the whole thing. I'm like wow people bought this Like just I don't know it just it reminds me of like I don't know. I'm not articulating it, but it scares me I think it's like if you really want to make more money you have to make a plan You know, whatever it may be and be like okay, this is it why am I gonna get canceled for saying that oh

32:12Because of remember when Kim Kardashian was like it's like nobody wants to work anymore and then people were like Well, I can't work because I have a broken leg right now Okay, fine nobody does want to work these days true. I agree with you. I remember being like so quiet at that because I was like Wait, why are people mad at her? Yeah, okay, that was like a really bold statement, but like I just mean To make money sometimes you got to put in some work Well, that's what I'm saying. You can't just manifest it. You can't just pray for money. You can't just that's I guess you can But you got to also put in some work. I guess that's exactly what I'm saying is like you can't pray for it It's not something where you can just like buy the book and read it and be like yeah I would love to be richer and then like you know, whatever And I think it's really dangerous to tell people You know and and I will hold my hands up and say I haven't done the course. I haven't read her book So, you know, who who am I to fully speak on it? But I just think it's a very dangerous thing to tell people who need to make more money like oh, well buy my Course and that will solve all your problems. Yeah, you can say people get really sucked into it. Yeah And the other thing is

33:13um, which is kind of dark the Denise thing broke my heart Erica too and Erica too, you know Like and I will say you know you can They did the flashback to how he was speaking to people and you know Sometimes I feel like I'm too alarmist on this show and I'm I'm like you guys never the most and scary thing is an insecure man Or whatever it's like, you know, even with the guy You know the mom who called last week about her her daughter who got shoved You know, you kind of have to look for those early warning signs because when I did not remember the way that Denise's husband Had spoken to the other woman at those at the parties. I didn't either I didn't either and I've seen him post some like crazy TikToks kind of just like exposing her like Post just put yeah, I've yeah, oh for and then Erica like I just felt so bad for her as you know her You know saying that she had been abused since her time with mom crazy post divorce or yeah and then on top of everything

34:17She's like they're assuming her for 25 million. I know she's really going through it She did you watch the most recent episode from last year she had a breakdown with her in a therapy session? I get nervous I'm not kidding you when when I go to a group dinner and someone's like oh, I'll pay in like I'll bend among you I feel I'm not gonna gonna lie to you I feel like I've done something wrong immediately if I don't bend both them or even if I'm like I'm like I need to pay you right now like the thought of owing someone money is like my worst nightmare And the if someone was suing me god forbid for 25 million I I What the fuck is she gonna do? I don't but I don't get what the point is they know she doesn't have 25 million dollars So I mean, I don't know the ins and outs of it, but um, okay, okay. Wait. Sorry. The phones are back. Let's take let's take a call while the phones are working Oh, let's go to Kim hi Kim. How are you? Hi, I'm good. How are you? I'm good. Thanks for calling. What's going on? Okay, so I have a switch and like I said I told you're screened that I'm way out of your age bracket. I'm No, we're for everybody What's going on? I'm good. Okay, so I have a friend of like 25 years

35:22I have to keep this little bag because I There's there's reasons why um, but she's been off and on dating someone for like seven years Okay, and from the beginning, I'm like this is a bad dude. This is a bad dude. This is bad dude But you know what if you want to do this? This is you and every time it's gone on The rails I've been the one to pick up the pieces when she comes crying to me over and over and over or ever again And so the final straw was like this last. Oh, it's like last spring She went on She went on one of those Facebook pages called are we dating the same guy? Okay, yeah posted at picture of his bedroom And it's like this list. So it I forgive me. I have a call um, so this voice is crunchy But posted a picture of his bedroom and was like this is look familiar to anybody And this woman messaged her and said this is my boyfriend of like a year Bedroom stop and she was like well, this is my boyfriend of seven years now wasn't really her boyfriend

36:27Because they were kind of off and on and I have to be very vague about this because he has a job that's easily identifiable Okay, he works in affiliation with a professional sporting team and he travels all the time And so He's basically got chicks like following him all around the country and it has a chick in every different city probably Probably credit. Yeah more than likely and so She's you know calls me devastated and she's like what do I do? I'm like you never talk to him again Like correct what can he what can he say to you? You're done. You're done. You're done And what she was devastated and she had talked to the woman and their stories lined up just you know like Yeah, yeah, yeah, well, I was just here with him in Portland Well, I was just here with him in San Francisco and just lined up like a lot of similarities and she's devastated But also new things were going on to the point where she's posting this on a public Facebook page, right? Oh yeah and

37:31um, and so She was done and I'm like you have to just be done. You never talk to him again. You're done. You're done. You're done. Well Recently I found out she got mapped together with him. Oh, I mean, I'm again and has lied and has lied to me about it and that's the that's the hard thing for me is that we've been friends 25 years We don't lie to each other, you know and and I was so hurt I was like I can't believe you'd lie to me about this and I I don't know what level of humiliation you have to reach before you're just like enough to enough But she's like well, I'm not putting myself in the same position this time and here's where I'm at I'm a die hard like I go hard for you as a friend Even if you're wrong, I'm gonna be like look you're wrong, but I'm gonna back you up And I've told her I will not be here for you when this falls apart and that's just not who I am and it hurts to have to be that way

38:31Of course I don't know if that's if I'm coming from this from a really harsh angle because I'm so I'm just one of my best friends We're always gonna be friends, but I cannot hear about this anymore And I know here for to take up the thesis when it falls apart because it will of course it will No, you're not you're not coming at it from a hard place at all. You've reached your limit And I think that's so fair. I mean this man is cheated on her so aggressively and you know on again off again and now to this point where she's Imagine going through all the trouble and like the public humiliation of posting on that group finding out that he's cheating on you Finding out he has another girlfriend and still getting back with him like she has Low self esteem clearly and it is it's awful and it's frustrating But I'm glad you set the boundary like enough you've had enough and it's okay And you don't have to stop being her friend like you said, you know But the fact that she lied to you and she didn't have you know the balls to just come to you and say look

39:34I know you're gonna disagree with this, but I want to be honest with you. We're getting back together I'm obsessed with this man xyz, you know She didn't do that she lied after you have been there for her time and time again And I think that you are more more than right to set a boundary and you know again You can still talk to her still hang with her, but you're not gonna be Her free therapist and a place for her to trauma dump when he inevitably fucks up again Well, here's the thing and so within a week of that happening So somebody else another really good friend of ours who was with her when she found this out So when she found this out They were on a trip abroad together and Other friend was like dude. This is what's happening And so just three of us were like kind of going together through this right right and so friend other friend Called me and she's like I think she's seeing him again And she's like she's going to this city that she has no place no, you know Reason to be and I'm like what's it's hard to figure out? We just have to Google this sports team schedule and right

40:38Enough. That's where they were going to be. Oh my god Caller so I called her I'm like are you going to see him? And she's like well, yeah, and I was like what are you doing? What are you doing and so within Two weeks of this happening we had to go on a trip abroad together And there was no way I could back out of it and it was horrible. I didn't want to be there I didn't want to be a rounder. I bet But I wasn't going to ruin two other people's trips that we've been looking for to for a year And it was it was awful. It was awful And I was like I'm just not ready to be around you right now And it didn't have enough time to process this, you know, yeah, and I just like we're always going to be friends and I just I just don't know how to reconcile like How do you leave that part out of a friendship, you know Yeah, it's hard your relationships are so important Yeah, and also it's like you view her in a different way now like you just do and that's that's human Like I would view her in a different way too if I were you and it's so it's hard

41:41But that's I think like the true meaning of a boundary is like Knowing your limit and so you can't Unsee what you saw you can't unfeel what you feel like she's made this decision She's made her bed. She needs to lie in it And if you and if that makes you act a little differently around her that's okay Okay, that's okay because that's you know what that is. It's a consequence of her actions and actions have consequences And her lying to you and her going back to the sky time time again You know what it has consequences. So my opinion is if you want to spend a little less time with her If you want to talk to her a little less if you can't find a way to view her the same way That's kind of how the cookie crumbled and she and she made it crumble that way You know here's the thing. I don't you were in a different way because um Like the I don't know three years ago when she got back together with him I'm like I don't want to hear his name. I don't want to hear anything about it And so I'm like this is just I'm just gone about hearing about this and you know

42:43And she's like okay, that's fine. I don't view her in a different way But now she's lying to her friends. She's lying to her family She's lying to her kids about this and I'm like oh, I almost said her name But it's like what red flag do you have to have for this to be like This is wrong that I have to lie to everyone in my life about this Yeah, here's her reason why Well sex is really important to me and he knows my body. Oh, that is so Do there's plenty more dicks in the sea, you know, there's plenty more good dick in the sea I yeah, I just I really sympathize with you. You've been a great friend We have to go to a quick break, but you are in the right okay I know you know you are But just give yourself grace because you've done a lot and you've been through her Been with her through a lot and if you need to take space you need to take space because you deserve it Yeah, okay. Thank you. Love you. Love you. Thanks for calling. You're a good friend. Bye, babe Thank you. Bye. Okay, super super quick break. We're gonna take more calls right after this

43:52Welcome back to smiting's live exclusively on radio and the channel 102 guys. Thanks for bringing with with us today um Let's go to Jake. Hi, Jake. How are you? I'm good. How are you doing? I'm good. Thanks for calling what's going on Okay, so little bit of a situation here. Okay, so for the past like six or seven months I was in this like friends with benefits just no exclusivity thing And we told each other like throughout the length of our Situation ship essentially is what it's starting into throughout the length of it We would constantly check in with each other and be like hey, are we doing okay? There's no romantic feelings If there is then I would like you to tell me you know making it known that We were good and we could still continue doing this But about a month ago I started talking to somebody else and obviously because of that I'm not going to continue on with

44:55Um The whole situation ship thing because that's just extremely disrespectful right because I'm interested in pursuing this new girl And I don't feel comfortable being in a more intimate relationship with somebody else Okay, but when I tell her this she starts lashing out she starts throwing shit at me and like accusing me and yelling at me And I'm just like what did I do wrong? Yeah, and that night she just storms out and it's only until like a week later That I figure out why she was upset. Well, she had feelings for you Yeah, yeah But my issue is that like It's difficult for me to accept that she had feelings for me when she Consistently told me she didn't and so it's hard for me to like justify her actions when she just consistently lied to me Right because after I started talking to this new girl She starts lashing out even more and like turning my friends against me by saying that I used her and she has that she has that like

46:03She's very charismatic and she's got that pretty privilege So it works against me a little bit and on top of that She actually gets in contact with the girl that I'm talking to no bad melting me too That's and that's really fucked up and I'm sorry that's actually so fucked up You did nothing wrong. You did absolutely nothing wrong. I mean, I just I think this is like the problem with situations is Someone inevitably catches feelings even if there is this like high level of communication and like you said You guys checked in with each other you were very honest. I think you did the noble thing I think what your behavior is like top tier for especially today is dating the fact that you were super communicative The fact that you didn't want to you know sleep with two girls at once is all great It's all fantastic a plus and I hate to say it but this girl you know She caught feelings and now she's making it everybody's problems and she should have just told you when she initially caught feelings Or if she couldn't handle the heat get out of the kitchen with the situation chip But I'm really sorry that she's contacted this other girl that's beyond bad and making you turning your friends against you beyond fucked up

47:10Oh, yeah, and and it gets even worse because I'm actually I'm in college right now and I'm stuck with the same like 80 people For like two and a half year And so she's like told a good bit of them and now every time I interact with somebody It's just like in the back of my mind Somebody knows that like oh, I used her or like they they have this preconceived notion that I'm just like this horrible person When they haven't even had a conversation with me, you know That's a horrible feeling to have and I'm really sorry What I will say is that I think that the truth always comes out about people And I wouldn't worry too much about like vindicating yourself or whatever because first of all, you know Things move fast in college like people will be over it in a week second of all people will see over time And people who already know you will know you're a good person and that will put that narrative will prevail eventually And thirdly if she's acting this crazy with you She will act this crazy with other people and then people will be like huh like she we can't really trust her word since she's got this insane behavior

48:10So you did nothing wrong. I'm very impressed with your Your morality when it comes to dating and how you carry yourself especially that you're so young and you're in college And I hope other guys out there can hear this and be inspired by the integrity you have Wow, thank you so much I feel I feel very like um, I don't know like big sisterly right? I'm just very proud of you Like it's very nice and I'm very it's great And I know you're gonna have an amazing college experience because of how you carry yourself So keep doing you and keep um, you know, keep living in authenticity with with your with your morality Thank you so much. I appreciate that and I hope it all works out with the new girl. She deserves you That's the best thing you said Well, thank you for taking my call of course have a good one. Bye You as well bye Wait guys, I love him. That was really sweet. Yeah, a young college boy call you listen

49:15I absolutely love it and I'm I'm sad that that girl acted that way to him because he doesn't deserve it I mean, how many guys out there do you think would go? Oh, well, you know, I need to wrap close up my Situationship because I met someone that I like like no one no one. Yeah, I mean the fact that she was like throwing shit I mean, she's she has some like growing pains towards for sure College college guys sorry about the phones today mercury and retrograde What can I for can say but we got there in the end? I love you all and we will be back on Wednesday with another live show until then be good Bye