
Are you having unhealthy conflict? Here's what science says.
About this episode
This episode will change how you see conflict.
We’re talking about the proven communication patterns that destroy connection and how to replace them with healthier ones.
You’ll learn:
- the Four Horsemen (with real examples)
- how the demand–withdraw cycle keeps couples stuck
- the shocking research: negative conflict literally slows wound healing
- how your nervous system shapes your reactions (before your thoughts do)
- 3 simple questions from Jefferson Fisher that can change the next conversation
This is not about fixing the last fight.
This is about changing the next one.
If you shut down, explode, or get stuck repeating the same arguments this episode is for you.
Read our full blog post about this topic (it has all the research I mentioned in this episode):
https://curiousneuron.com/2025/11/09/the-science-of-healthy-conflict-patterns-in-couples/
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