Arousal Gap: Why She's Not Turned On—And How to Fix It

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Ever wonder why she’s not as turned on—or as fast—as you are?
 You're not alone. And she's not broken.

In this episode, I’m joined by sociologist, intimacy coach, and TEDx speaker Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus to unpack one of the most misunderstood issues in sex and relationships: the arousal gap.

We’ll break down:
 ✅ Why men often feel ready in seconds—and women don’t
 ✅ What’s really going on when she “seems like she’s not into it”
 ✅ The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire
✅ How mental load, emotional safety, and shame kill arousal
✅ What you can do to actually close the gap—in bed and beyond

Whether you’re a man trying to better understand your partner, or a woman wondering “what happened to my libido?”—this episode is for you.

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