Bad Bitches Go Everywhere ft AJ Holiday

All right, let's make some noise for AJ Holliday, all right, I'm super excited now explain

the wine.

You have to explain the wine.

Did you have me sprinkling fairy dust?

We have logo.

That's the money.

Right over here.

All right, so you built your brand on saying the things that other women would never

think to say out loud.

So when did you realize your voice in the unfiltered version was your superpower birth?

Okay, I was born June 8th, 1984.

The same day as Kanye West.

Oh, okay.

Just a question.

So I've always been me, you know, day one.

And that is definitely a superpower, you know, it's a lot of people like self-awareness.

Yeah.

And can nobody tell you who you are if you know who you are?

Absolutely.

And when we talk about, you're known for your take on sex and sexual freedom.

So what does sexual liberation look like for black women today?

And how do you personally claim yours?

I guess it's just, you know, it gets people upset when black women particularly have bodily

autonomy, right?

We are over sexualized while being silent at the same time.

So it's really weird.

But I guess personally for me, I was raised in a household.

Or my mama, like her favorite we should just say is, I say when, I say how, I say how

much?

Okay.

So that's what I live by.

Okay.

So for your dating rule, so what's a sexual dating rule or something that you think women

should throw away forever like, I'm not going to do this.

I'm not going to do that.

What needs to just be trash completely?

I think sometimes women, they don't state their expectations and desires of front.

In fear of running a man away.

But if you put your boundaries on the table, your expectations and it runs him away, good

riddance, that's not demand for you.

And what if your, what you like, what if it changes?

It does change, especially when you learn and you become a hypocrite.

You know what I'm saying?

When you take in more information, it changes.

But right now in this setting, most women should be able to tell a man what they want

up front.

Because men are not afraid to tell you exactly what they want.

From the first night, so the moment they start talking about sex, start talking about money.

So everybody uncomfortable.

I can speak and talk about money.

I don't know if any of you have been watching the Danish deception on TikTok, yeah, no.

Okay, if you don't know what it is, pretty much this Nigerian girl, she met this Scottish

white man and he pretty much scammed her.

And I can't say scammed her.

I don't think he scammed her.

Because she willingly gave him $300,000 because, yeah, because she wanted him to

love her.

I don't know what it was.

So I started watching it when you asked me about it.

So I think once she actually got married to him, she felt like they were in some type

of partnership.

And a lot of the time, she was offering.

Yeah, so I can't call him a scammer.

No, she scammed herself.

And women will oftentimes sell themselves lies.

So you don't even have to lie, man.

Women would be lying to themselves if they fucked with you.

Okay.

That was like the difference between her recent piece of, recent piece of man was paying

her bills.

He lied about everything else.

But he actually paid her bills.

This man was...

Just stray finesse.

Yeah, no.

Love that for him.

Hate that for her.

And it's crazy.

Because I'm like, you're Nigerian.

Shouldn't you know a scammer?

No.

Bye-bye.

Girl.

What's really to you?

Hi.

All right.

Oh, white man at that.

Oh, no, that ain't me.

And her sauce.

scam you?

My God.

All right.

So you said, you said your relationship advice is unorthodox, but effective.

What's one piece of advice you give women that makes them clutch their pearls, but also

changes their entire perspective?

Lie.

Okay.

Do not tell the truth.

Lie.

Men cannot handle the truth.

Okay.

We handle the truth.

A lot of things happen transpire relationships.

And it's our endowment of bullshit, right?

That allows the relationship oftentimes to linger on way past expiration date.

But lie.

That feel like this is the little, the big sis, little sis.

I'm going to give you an example.

Okay.

I'm not talking about like selling like blatant lies, but say you're a single mom.

And the father is absent.

Just tell a new nigga that your baby daddy's dead.

And there was somebody I know who did that.

No.

Because what don't look better on paper than a baby mama?

I'm sorry.

Okay.

So if he's just straight, and if he comes up, pops out of nowhere, decides to be a father.

Oh, he faked his death.

He faked his death.

You know, I literally just want her, I know she was like, yeah, my baby dad is dead.

And like someone down the line was like, no, he's alive.

Same thing.

He was like, okay.

Daphson is absent.

Dead to me.

From your experience and all the stories you heard, what do you think is the biggest lie?

Women tell themselves in relationships.

Hmm.

I know I can tell mine.

He go finally get some money.

He go get a job.

And he go get some money.

And he'll be able to pay the rent.

That was a lie.

I don't know what camera I'm looking at too.

That was a lie.

I think we compare ourselves to the other women a lot.

Yeah.

Right.

So we tell ourselves lies like, oh, I know I'm better than her.

I got a fat ass.

I got a better job.

All these things.

But that is not usually what keeps a man.

It has nothing to do with you, essentially.

Right.

So if you think you're better than the next woman and you're also better than him,

let that man be with his type.

And I also feel like, you know, sometimes you'll go to the girls page.

I know what your group chats look like.

And you'll send a screen and shout, I'm like, oh, this is new blah, blah, blah, blah.

But I also feel like as a friend, you're going to be like, you know my friend?

She's actually bad.

Like, I mean, I can't flex.

Bad is subjective.

I mean, you like the life together, you bad.

You can look.

It's a lot of nice looking buns out here.

That is so true.

That is.

So not the men.

Okay, I'll clap in a little too hard back here.

You almost put a hole in your hand.

But no, so it was this thing.

I saw on Twitter where it was the UK, UK girlies.

But like a man would be like, hey, how you doing?

It should be like, I need $40.

Now, I've never got anything like that.

What a $40 shit come from.

I don't know.

Because I need $40.

My legs be real big.

Okay.

I mean, I need new tires.

Exactly.

I want to $5,000 for right now.

So like when I see things like that, I'm just kind of like, you know, that's crazy.

Like, I don't know you.

You're asking me for money?

Absolutely not.

You're an inch.

Yeah, no.

No, no, no, no.

All right.

So you are the walking definition of a free black woman.

I'll spoke in confident and hustling.

So what does mean being a bad-ass black woman means to you?

And how do you show up in this energy?

Ha.

You know, good girls go to heaven, but bad bitches go everywhere.

Hello.

Okay.

So that's how I live my life.

Just showing up as a bad-ass black woman is just owning everything about you.

Your boundaries, your body, all your choices.

Never.

You're going to have regrets.

But keep them to a minimum.

Okay.

But yeah, it's just showing up as your true authentic self and let it be unwavering.

So lately, I have been seeing this clip.

It's been my favorite clip.

You were talking about a three-some with a ghost.

So what is one of your stories?

Big sister little sis that you would like to share.

Oh, my God.

My man here.

We don't want him to be upset.

We'll keep it light.

I don't know what type.

I got plenty of stories in here.

You, me.

Then when I told her your podcast, like a dumb bitch story.

Okay.

Okay.

Y'all want to hear my dumb bitch story.

I'll tell you why not?

We're all friends here.

And I told the story on her podcast.

So I was talking to this guy.

And it was one of those things that we're like, we would never go out.

You know, and I should have been the first ray of flag.

It's always like, oh, let me come to your house and add that XYZ.

We always know what time it is.

Yeah.

So that's the thing.

So there was this time he came over.

He's like, oh, yeah, you know, want to be with you?

Blah, blah, blah, XYZ.

All that sounds good.

So maybe a week later, and it's funny because Black Charleston is in here somewhere.

I went to a Black Charleston event, and I was on the red carpet.

And mind you, he told me, him and his girlfriend were over.

When I went to the event, they had a separate repeat in the red carpet.

Do you know that this man was on the red carpet taking a picture of his girlfriend?

But that's not the kicker.

The kicker is he tried to hide behind his iPhone 14.

Like, he saw me and he moved the phone in front of if I could not see him.

Pass the phone.

Yeah.

So I was just like, okay, so I took my coat to coat check and I came back.

And I introduced myself to his girlfriend at the time.

You tell her who I am.

Left, bitch.

That is your responsibility.

So we have a little bit of rapid fire questions.

So quick answer.

Sex on the first night.

Yeah, if that's what you want to do, but just know that it leaves us with consequences, okay?

Like, if you want a relationship with this person you haven't sex with, you know, you could

do it on the first night.

Divides got to be cool and all that, but you may just be meeting his representative.

You really don't meet the real man until after sex.

Okay, so you got to calculate the LATN score.

That's life after the nuts.

That's what I want to say.

Okay, you got to calculate that shit first.

Okay, so you never know it.

It's just a crap shoot in the dark.

I know, but it's just like, okay, if you wait, you're still meeting that person's representative.

Yeah, I mean, you can get it out the way if you want to, but I don't know.

I'm older.

Okay.

It's a problem.

All right.

What's the biggest turn on that people don't talk about enough?

I like conspiracy theorists.

Because why the fuck do you think the earth, round, or flat?

Like, I need somebody who's been questioning all things.

Are you serious?

A lot of people.

True.

I do like one who can have a conversation.

Yeah, like, I need you to question things.

What's another turn on?

I know what you're doing warrior.

Do not what you're doing me all day every day because I'm doing the same thing.

You can turn on though.

Oh, you're right.

I'm pink.

I like it.

I like nice teeth.

Oh, nice teeth.

Nice teeth are a thing.

If you got nice teeth, you can smell a microphone.

A handboard and nice pillows.

Not an ear mattress.

Don't be trying to smash me on a bouncy house.

A living room set.

A car.

These are all, these are all.

That is the bare minimum.

All that shit is our fault, right?

Right.

If all women required men to have the bare minimum shit, a house car job, then what's next?

They would have all those things.

It's always something allowing somebody to be on a couch.

Okay.

So it's our fault.

We set the standards.

Worst dating red flag in one word.

Hmm.

Can I mesh mine together?

Baby mama.

Mama.

I really like niggas with mamas.

I'm beyond.

No way.

Now.

Now.

See.

Now.

Friend.

If your mama or a sister is not in a healthy relationship.

I can't fuck with you.

All right.

And we go down.

You, everybody's man.

Now I got the battle for resources.

All right.

And our last question.

What is your favorite Charleston slang word?

Garant.

Oh my gosh.

Let's make some noise for AJ.

Holiday.

Thank you.

I win.

I win.

She's so nice.