Changing How You Look at Your Bank Balance {B'Day Fun D8 Ep 215}

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it gets the message out there and we want messages that are authentic. Today I'm talking

about changing how you look at your bank balance. Yes, that beautiful bank balance, those

finances that we don't want to look at. For a lot of people, checking your bank balance

can feel charged. It can feel scary or exciting. You can feel different things on different

days. There could be tension before you log in. You might have a quick inhale or you might

even embrace your body. I know because I did this and what's interesting here is this is

all just numbers but it really feels neutral. You're sort of panic sometimes. You wonder what's

going to happen. Even when you've got lots of money in there, you still might have the

panic, the tension. Today I want to talk about the relationship that you have with your money.

Not the strategy, not the spreadsheets, the energy. Because if your bank account was a person,

would they feel welcomed by you or constantly judged? Interesting.

And I want you to think about your bank balance being a mirror, not a verdict. Sounds a bit strange

doesn't it? But your bank balance is a mirror. A number that reflects a moment in time. It is feedback

for you, not your identity, not the identity of your business. When you treat it like proof of

your worth, you distort what it's actually showing you. Think about that. Your bank balance isn't

your worth. It's a number, it's energy. And your nervous system reacts to meaning not

math. Think about that. When you look at your bank balance, how does your nervous system respond?

Is it responding to the numbers or is it responding to what you're saying in your head?

If you've tried safety, success or survival to that number,

if it's tight to all of that, your body will respond accordingly.

Spiritually, money is movement. It flows in seasons. When you freeze a single snapshot and assign it

a story, you interrupt that flow. Think about that. When you look at your bank balance every single day,

it's just a moment. It's not the overall picture. It is not what is happening in your business.

Most people don't relate to money as something that moves. They relate it to something that

judges. And you are judging it. You're judging that money. You might be judging it as your

worth. Oh, look, you know, I only got $100 in that a day. Guess what? You've got $100 in there.

How exciting is that? And when you look back, you go, oh my goodness, look at the money that's

constantly coming in. There might be days that nothing comes in. And those are days to really

listen to your body because it will tell you something even more profound, even deeper on those days.

And when we've got the scary judge dynamic, because if you only look at your bank account when

you're bracing for disappointment, you condition your body to associate money with shame.

Now, I've learned to open my app with excitement. There are still some times that I open it going,

oh, you know, I really, there should be money in there. There should have more money in there.

Sometimes that still happens. It happens less and less and less now.

My business isn't where I want it to be. And I'm okay with that. Because I need to be ready,

physically, mentally, spiritually, and my nervous system needs to be ready. And then so does

my business. We need to be ready together to move forward to grow. And I'm open about where my

business is. And as I said, I'm okay with that. It's, it's normal. At the moment, I'm studying,

which means I have less time for my business. And we've chatted about this. My business and I

have chatted and we're both okay. And when you avoid looking at your money, at your bank account,

at your spreadsheets, this creates more anxiety than the actual number itself. Because again,

you're associating that with shame. The longer that you avoid checking, the more power you give it.

When you approach your bank balance with criticism, this isn't enough. I should be further along.

There should be more money in there. You reinforce the scarcity at a subconscious level.

Money doesn't respond to panic well. And neither does your nervous system.

What happens if you shift the role money plays in your internal world?

Let's move from judgment to relationship. Imagine your bank balance, your bank account,

as a partner in your life. How would you speak to it? With hostility, with collaboration.

Relationships strengthen through attention without aggression. Think about the relationships

that you have in your life now. How do they strengthen? Let's do the same thing with your money,

with your bank accounts. You might hear I'm getting quite phoned about this.

I want you to look at your bank accounts on a regular basis, calmly and without dramatising.

This builds steadiness. This helps your nervous system become.

Abundance licks band when it feels safe.

When you feel safe, when your business feels safe, when your money feels safe,

then you are abundant and this abundance will grow and grow and grow.

If every interaction that you have with money is loaded with a disappointment,

you create contraction around that receiving. As a woman, and I'm talking about me personally,

I'm not talking about anyone else, because I was talking to the council and we only speak for

ourselves. That's what I'm doing. I was brought up. I knew nothing about money.

I knew nothing about receiving. I was taught that we give, give, give, give. Women are taught

to over-give, to give to everyone else but themselves. They always put themselves last.

I had to learn how to receive. This is what this is about. It's about you receiving money.

How do you receive it? Do you sort of receive it like, oh yeah, thank you. Yeah, that's kind of

great. All do you go, well, thank you so much business, thank you so much universe,

thank you so much client for this. I'm so grateful. I'm so abundant.

Change the way you receive. Change the way you receive money.

This isn't magical thinking. It's not. It is energetic congruence. When you, your business,

your mind, your body, your spirit and everything is working together energetically,

it's amazing. There's so much alignment. Remember that your internal affects your external

behavior from within to without as above so below. It's a saying for a reason. Whatever you are

feeling and knowing inside thinking, that is what you are going to see in the external world.

The more that you form a relationship with your money, a relationship that is beautiful,

that is amazing, that is abundant. The more that you're going to see that in the external world.

Now where I live, people claim it's one of those suburbs you don't want to live in. You know,

blah blah blah. Guess what? I don't listen to that. I've even had family go, oh you live there.

Guess what? I look around and I see so much abundance because I'm looking for it.

I look at the grass and how green it is. I look at all the beautiful houses down the street going

wow. Look at those houses. Neighbours are beautiful because I look for it. When I go for a walk

to the shops, guess what? I normally have a fantastic time, depending on my mood of course,

but don't go there and have no trouble. I don't see abuse. I don't see any violence or anything

because what is happening in here is affecting my external world.

And once you soften the judgement around money, you can start looking deeper

where some of these reactions begin. Is it money stories that your parents told you?

Is it things that you've heard from coaches? Is it things that you've seen online?

This hustle culture is such a detriment to especially me. It was a detriment to me because not

only did I have the money stories growing up, I then had the stories about women not receiving.

We don't receive. We always give. I had all of those. And I've learnt through so much work

of what feels beautiful for me in relation to my money. And we've also got the ancestral

and energetic imprinting. I've touched on that. You inherited beliefs about money long before

you earned it. Scarcity, hustle, guilt, secrecy. These patterns often travel genetically and

generationally. Our DNA carries generations of information. It is scientifically proven. I'm not

making this stuff up. You can go and research it. Every single cell carries DNA of generations.

We are carrying DNA of beliefs, of everything of our families and not just one side of the family,

both sides of the family. So depending on what they believed about money, that is what we are

carrying. And if your family equated money with stress, power struggles, instability,

then your body may still associate higher income with danger.

Something to think about. Energetically, repetition becomes imprint.

The stories told around the dinner table shaped how safe abundance feels in your system.

How does abundance feel in your system? How does your business feel about abundance because it has

an energy? You birthed it. You gave it energy. You continually give it energy. You grow it.

How does it feel? And I want you to realize this doesn't mean that you're doomed to repeat

whatever you've heard or what your parents believed, etc. It means awareness is required to shift it.

And this episode is the awareness. It is one part of the awareness. When you recognize that

money carries history, you stop personalizing every reaction and you start working with it consciously.

You move from the subconscious to the conscious because of that awareness.

And remember, money is energy, not just currency. Remember, money is not an old thing. Yes, money

was around sort of with Egyptians. Think before that though. Money is relatively new. We didn't have

money before a certain time. Think about that. Money is stored decision making power.

It's neutral until you project meaning onto it. Every decision you've made has brought you to that

bank balance. What decisions are you going to make now from this awareness? When you treat money

as scarce, it feels tense. When you treat it as collaborative, it feels responsive. Your energy

influences how you make, keep and circulate that money. And yes, we do need to circulate it.

We give money a purpose. Even if that purpose is, okay, this money is going away to buy a car

or a house or for a holiday. You are giving that money purpose even if you're putting it away

for something else. It needs a purpose. And gratitude shifts perception. Not this forced

gratitude that you can see out there, but acknowledgement. Even small amounts represent

exchange, value and participation in a larger flow. Now, whenever I go to the shops and I look

at my receipt and it says you save this much, I just go, thank you. Thank you so much for that. I

am so grateful that I saved that money. It means I can spend that money on something else.

That's not forced. That is me being, and I'm getting teary, me being so grateful that I've saved

money. It is truly a beautiful thing, this gratitude. The more I do it, the more I feel abundant.

And this spiritual maturity with money isn't pretending that everything is abundant.

It's engaging with what is present without fear.

And when your internal posture shifts, your behavior follows. Isn't that awesome?

Now, I want you to also look at practicing digital and energetic cleanliness with money.

I want you to check your bank balance intentionally, not impulsively.

Choose calm moments, not emotionally charged ones. When you go to check your bank balance,

be intentional about it and set yourself up first before you check it.

Go around yourself, so make sure you're 100% within your body. Make sure you're feeling calm

and collected. And have a look at your thoughts. What is going on with your thoughts?

Talked one before you open that bank balance. And I want you to speak mutually or constructively

about your finances because the language that you use reinforces the identity you're building.

What identity do you want to build around money, around your business?

And make small aligned financial decisions consistently.

What decisions are you going to make every single day? Because this relationship is built through

regular contact, not grand gestures. When your money feels like a partner instead of a threat,

you make clearer decisions. You stop reacting and you start directing. Because guess what?

Your life is a movie. You are the director. How do you want this movie to go?

Now, if your bank balance has felt like something, you avoid judge your fear.

That is not a character flaw. It's a relationship dynamic. And this relationship can change

because you now have the awareness. Remember, the relationship can change.

Money doesn't need to be worshipped. And in fact, they can be actually detrimental.

It doesn't need to be demonised as well. It needs to be engaged with. Talk to it.

Write down things about it. Work through those belief stories and patterns.

That not only have you taught yourself, but the collected from your ancestors,

from people around you, from coaches. I mean, some of the things I've heard coaches say to people,

well, you know, if you really want this program, you'll take out a credit card or a loan.

Like, when I hear things like that, I just, I get so angry. Because that person doesn't care

about their client. All they care about is money. When you really care about your clients,

you will say, this is the program I've got. This is how much it is. I'm going to leave you with it.

Is it okay if I call you in two days to see how you're going?

Leave the decision with the client. Don't tell them that they don't want success because they

don't want to do your program. Don't tell them that the only way they're going to succeed is

if they take out a loan and work with you or get a credit card. Don't tell them that they don't

need to talk to their partner because, you know, that's just the wrong thing to do. Obviously,

you can't make decisions. Don't worry about any of that. Because when you move from tracking numbers

to building this relationship, something shifts internally. There's less bracing, less tension

and there's more steadiness, more clarity. And from that place, abundance doesn't feel like

something you're chasing. It feels like something that you're learning to work with.

And how beautiful is that? Thank you so much for watching and listening and I'll see you on the

next episode. Are you interested in learning how to receive, trust and believe your intuition

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