Chasing our Fathers: Knowing when to Stop Seeking the Missing Parts of our Parents in Others

Many of us may think that we have accepted that certain aspects of our relationships with our parents went unfulfilled. However, without realizing it, we may have a lifelong pattern of putting potential parent figures on a pedestal and seeking from others what we did not get in our parental relationships. This inevitably leads to profound moments of disillusionment and disappointment. We will need to stop chasing in the present, what our parents were not in the past. Once that window closes, and we have grown up, we can only meet those unmet needs throug our relationship with God and through ourselves.