E167: The Real Meaning of Life—Inner Evolution

What does it mean to live a truly meaningful life?

The way, I'll call it, worldly people, but I really don't make a distinction, is you're

successful.

What does it mean to be successful?

You have a good relationship, good finances, you have a career, people are impressed with

you.

That's called a pretty good life.

Let me take you away, God, and you realize, and then go last, you don't never last, if

nothing else, you get old, you can't do it anymore, you may even die, and you just get

a bigger view of what it means to be born here on the planet Earth.

You can't possibly mean that you have a lot of money, because you will not have a lot

of money when you die.

Maybe your kids will, but you will not, period.

The Pharaohs tried it didn't they come up, they built these pyramids, they buried their

wives and everybody, their dogs and cats inside, so they'll go to heaven with them.

The grave robbers did real well with that, because then the rest of them went anywhere,

they had a bunch of bones, pay attention, but what about relationships?

They're really beautiful, they certainly are, and when you die, though we like to talk

about the fact that they last forever and so on, certainly the physicality of it does

not transcend death, and we can talk about how we like to think about it, okay?

But that's not what we're talking about tonight.

We're talking about what does it mean to have a really meaningful life.

If it ends, when you die, I don't know what to say, I mean, if you'll say he who dies

at the most toys wins, I doubt it, they just die.

So what we call a meaningful life, people of the world, is, ready?

I didn't suffer too much.

I was happy during the time that I was here, okay?

I built a building in my name.

They're not going to know your name later, how many people's names do we know thousands

of years ago?

You're not leaving it behind, do you understand that?

If you go so big that you think you're named a building after you, where you're donated

to a charity, and they used your name, that's somehow that major life meaningful.

That's not the meaning of life.

It comes and it goes, they all came and went.

What is the meaning of life?

You're born and you're going to die.

In between that period of time, you have problems.

You have problems.

I don't want to list them because there's lots of ones you can have, all right?

And you struggle, who do you call this suffering?

You struggle to be okay.

I wouldn't even call it struggling, I have problems.

You do have problems, but you struggle to be okay.

Some people say the best you can do with your problems is cope.

To me, cope is a four-letter word because you can do a lot better, but they cope.

They say, distract yourself.

You can have a nice relationship, you can do something, you can get proud of your kids.

You can do all these things, but they're conditional.

If the kids don't behave the way you expect them to, if they don't go to the college you

want them to, if they don't support you and you get older, some people have kids, they

have kids, so the kids will support them.

They sound strange, are they?

Our country is kind of strange because they won't do it anyways.

But there's just all these traditions, all these things that try to give meaning to life

that basically says, I want to be okay.

I thought I wanted to do my life.

I want to be okay.

I may just be marginally okay.

I may be better than the rest in terms of having a good relationship or having finance and

so on, but I guarantee you, the richest people in the world, we're very blessed now with

the web and everything we see.

We get to meet the richest people in the world.

You sure want to change places?

Does it look like much fun?

They suffer, they're defensive, they are afraid of what people think about them.

Anybody see that?

Do you see that they still have problems?

Lots of problems.

Do they do drugs?

Do they drink?

Do they constantly try to get acceptance and accolades?

Well, why if a money is answered all things?

It's tons and tons and so much more than not enough zeros, all right?

It doesn't matter, it doesn't.

I'm telling you, if you are the richest man in the world of Forbes last year, you know

for two this year bothers you.

I'm glad you're laughing, this is true.

Okay, there's nothing wrong with these things.

That's what happens.

You'd take extremes.

They say, well, that's the meaning of life.

No, it's not.

You should pronounce money and renounce relationships, you know, to extremes.

Neither one.

How can the meaning of life be not to do anything?

Or how can the meaning of life to be?

I visited every country, almost I haven't got them all on my bucket list.

What are you saying?

You're limiting the meaning to such a little bit of time and space and the events and

it doesn't ever work the way you expect it to anyways.

Do you understand that?

They don't stand together for the kids.

But I'm not saying there's nothing wrong with these things.

There's nothing wrong with having money.

There's nothing wrong with having children.

There's nothing wrong with having a good relationship.

There's nothing wrong with having a name and a building, right?

It's not the meaning of life because it's transient.

It comes and goes and you have to work hard to keep it by the way.

So it's not the meaning of life.

If you're living from your ego, you're living to not get bothered.

The ego is always getting bothered.

Do you understand that?

If you're accepted by the whole crowd of things you're grading the clap, then you go to

another concert.

If they don't clap, you're bothered.

There's no end to ego.

Look at me.

It's not like, okay, I made it.

No, there's not such a thing.

All right.

So now we're going to talk about how to find the true meaning of life.

Now, there will be some groundwork.

Okay.

Why is there ego?

Because I discuss this all the time.

To me, there are 8.3 billion people on planet Earth right now.

You're one of 8.3 billion.

I bet you don't like what I tell you that, do you?

Okay?

I'm special.

You're the same as the rest of them.

It came out of a womb, all right?

And you ended up walking around the planet, trying to be okay.

And you did die.

You don't want to die.

You're just like everybody else.

Be a breather, your heart beats.

Things happen.

Ego is formed as follows.

You don't know who you are.

You say, I'm Sally Wilson.

You know, that's a label and name that somebody gives you.

I don't know who you are.

I'm the person that had this experience and that experience.

And this experience, no, you're not.

You're the person that had the experience.

You're not the experience.

You would still exist if that experience didn't happen.

Is it true that any experience that ever happened in your life,

if it didn't happen, you would still exist.

That's not who you are.

It's something you define yourself as.

Because I had this experience.

I played this piano at Carnegie Hall when I was five.

That's who I am.

Well, you're 55 now and your fingers don't even work anymore.

But that's who I am.

I'll show you the article.

In other words, I don't know who I am,

but I have to find myself either in ways I don't like

people do that.

You know what I mean?

Don't they?

You get all depressed and I'm a terrible person.

I did this.

I did that, right?

Or they're finding someone wonderful person.

You're defining yourself because you don't know who you are.

You're back in there trying to be somebody

that you can live with, that people will accept.

Is acceptance a big deal?

Do you like being rejected?

Okay?

Acceptance is a big deal and you don't like being rejected.

Ego.

What does that mean?

It means I defined something I'm not.

Ego is called a self-concept.

Something you made up.

And it's like how do you call it your self-concepting?

Concept of yourself.

That's not a self, but you made this up in your mind

and now you're presented to people.

This is who I am.

What if they don't like it?

I can change.

I can change.

Tell me what you want.

In other words, you just made this stupid stuff up

and then you devote your life.

You're saying the meaning of your life

is to be accepted, to be loved,

take a thing highly of you and so on and so forth.

And yet you just realized,

you're not going to admit that you made something up

and you can change any time you want.

The meaning of your life is self-realization.

We just get it all out of here once and for all.

What do you mean?

You're not your ego.

You know that.

Your ego is like a mass that you created

in your mind and emotions that you hold out

in front of the self, in front of you who you are

and you put it out there and say, please like me.

Please accept this.

Please don't mind that I burped.

Please don't mind that what I wore didn't match the party.

Please don't mind.

It's okay.

I'll change it.

Wait, I'm going home to change.

Yes or no?

That's hiding who you are.

You are in there afraid.

You're in there, I don't want to say in there insecure.

That, which is even there doesn't know anything

about insecure, grinning like that.

It's just lost.

The self is lost.

It doesn't know who it is.

It got to drop down into this body.

You know, what the heck?

And it's trying to process it.

And the way it does it is by building a concept of self.

And that's what it builds.

And then it remains an entire life.

Your concept of self is changed throughout your life.

You used to like Barbie.

You used to like your first husband.

Now you don't.

You're just making it up along the way.

For what?

To try to be okay.

I'm just trying to be okay.

That's what you've made the meaning of your life.

I'm trying to be okay.

And if I can insure my money and I can get marriage vows

and all kinds of things that guarantee me that what I have

I'll keep.

You like that, don't you?

You like the idea that you manage to achieve something

and then it goes away.

No, no, no, no.

Can't go away.

So what we're trying to do with our life

is to be okay.

That's all I can tell you.

That's the best you can label it.

I have a beautiful relationship and he died.

Or you left me with my best friend.

Now how are you doing?

Ah!

See, you're not okay.

You are what's called conditionally okay.

How's that?

If conditions match what your ego likes and wants,

you feel okay.

But you know it won't stay that way.

Everyone of you knows it.

That's what insecurity is.

The fact that you know that's fake

it can go away at any point, can't it?

So what's the meaning of your life?

I told you, behind this whole mess,

behind all this noise, behind all these thoughts,

behind all these emotions,

behind all these attempts to be okay.

There's a consciousness that's in there

aware of what's going on.

The problem is it's so intense what's going on,

the fears, the anxieties, the desires, et cetera, et cetera.

That the consciousness gets absorbed into them

and you end up being a fake you.

If you ever sat down and had true therapy,

it would take three minutes for you to understand your fake.

As somebody says, no, I'm perfectly happy with my life.

Okay, what if your wife leaves you tomorrow?

Why did you say that?

She would never leave me.

You're not okay.

You're conditionally okay.

Fair enough?

I mean, toughly right.

You're conditionally okay.

So that's the meaning of your life

to be conditionally okay.

To go out there and manipulate people placing the things

so they match what you made up that you are

and you worry about it.

I was sleeping at night.

You wake up in the morning.

Was it like when you wake up in the morning?

Oh boy, I'm back.

I don't think so.

Oh my God, did I really say that yesterday?

Do I have to face that?

Oh, I don't want to face that.

I won't go to work today.

No, no, we can relate.

Have you ever had a conversation with somebody even a friend

when you walked away?

Your mind didn't stop.

Come, she just always said that.

I can't believe it and say that.

I can't believe it.

In other words, you're not okay.

You're trying to make yourself be okay

by making the meaning of your life

to manipulate and control the outside environment

when it comes in so that you feel okay inside.

But that's tough, isn't it?

That's a lot of work.

Creates a lot of tension and anxiety.

That's not the meaning of your life.

That's why.

You're not even close.

So what's the meaning of life?

I told you, self-realization.

What does that mean?

It's like a different tact.

I've quoted you time and time again.

I read it back in the early 70s once.

Earth is a place that souls are sent to evolve.

Again, earth is a place that souls are sent to evolve.

Maybe Mars is, not I don't think so.

Howard Jupiter, Saturn.

How'd a galaxy far, far away?

I don't know.

All I know is you're going through some stuff down here,

aren't you?

Maybe the meaning of life isn't to avoid the stuff

but to grow through it.

Go to school, be in 11th grade, you know,

take a geometry or take it in algebra

and just say, if I can get this,

I'll be fine for the rest of my life.

And then you realize, I got it.

I got the A. No, it's got the A, right?

Don't go to calculus.

Oh, that's a stupid thing to do.

Because if I wanted to be okay,

you were okay with that A.

And algebra, weren't you?

So stay behind.

Stay back.

Take it over and over again.

That's what you're trying to do with your life.

You want the relationship to say the way you wanted it to be.

You want your job to stay the way you wanted it to be.

You want your finances to stay the way you wanted it to be.

You want your health to stay the way you wanted it to be.

You want your body to not age so much, right?

And you start realizing, this can't be this,

not the meaning of life, to try to be okay like that,

to try to make the conditions outside match

as you decide it inside.

So then what does it mean that earth is a place

that stores a sense to evolve?

And you start stepping back and I hope you do.

And you realize, I have problems.

Guess whose problems they are?

Mine.

Guess why I have problems?

Because I defined life as a problem.

I said that if I'm practicing the piano

and I go to do a recital when I'm six years old

and I make a mistake, that's wrong.

That shouldn't happen.

I did something wrong.

So I better not do that.

And I better not think about that ever again.

As opposed to playing the piano is an evolutionary experience.

You start with the scales and you're going to make mistakes.

Otherwise, don't bother.

Let's just some prodigy that just comes out of the womb

that way, okay?

But that's not our norm.

So basically, you come down to evolve in the world of piano

is to play the scales and do what?

Get better at it.

Why do you get better at it?

Because I think everyone if you understand it,

practice makes it perfect.

Practice makes you better.

How's that?

Don't say practice makes you perfect.

That's an ego thing.

But practice will always make you better,

well, not in a sport and an instrument, anything.

If you practice, you get better.

That is evolution in that field.

You're getting better at it, okay?

What does it mean in an earth of places

or is it going to evolve?

You're getting better at evolving.

Not to revolve, don't do that.

Is it place you were sent here to evolve?

Yes, supposed to be evolved.

You're sent here to evolve.

What does it mean to evolve?

It means adaptability, just like Darwin said.

It means the ability to handle the situations

that life presents you.

If you're not good at handling the situation

and life presents you, how are you doing?

You're freaking out.

And so is everybody around you.

Let's say you get better at handling the situations

you have evolved.

You're a very jealous person.

You've been that way since third grade

when somebody hurt you and ran off with your other friend.

And you've carried that.

And so now you're in a relationship in college

and you're very possessive.

And you're sitting there being afraid of getting hurt again.

And you're being jealous.

And you're where you've been and where you're sitting.

And maybe you're higher detective to check

to make sure where she's been, where she's been.

Right, don't laugh, they do it.

You know what I'm saying, okay?

Well, that's not very evolved in the field

of relationship emotions.

So you have to be very possessive

and very controlling.

It's a problem, is it not?

It's a problem for you and it's a problem for the other person.

Evolution means that you change

by going through the situations you're put through.

You're playing the piano, you evolve by practicing.

You're playing tennis, you evolve by practicing.

You're dealing with jealousy within security,

you evolve by practicing the relationship

to be able to get past that.

How does that sound?

That's evolution.

Earth is a place of souls that are evolved.

But you say that if I feel jealousy,

somebody's doing something wrong.

If I feel insecure about my finances,

it's not fair, it's not right.

And it's really wrong.

Some people have money and I don't,

as opposed to every single situation

that life presents to me.

Notice I didn't say that life that you do with life.

You're not control of life.

You're not heart attack tomorrow.

You lose all your finances.

You're going to age, you're going to get sick.

All kinds of things are going on.

You're not asking for those.

You don't get to write the script of your life.

Evolution means that you can handle reality.

That's what evolution means.

What is reality?

Open your eyes.

It's a funny.

But it's not fair.

I ain't saying it's not fair.

I ain't saying it was just.

I ain't saying it was right.

Wrong.

A hurricane's right.

Are they wrong?

A tornado's right or wrong.

It's birthright, death wrong.

What are you doing?

You're taking human concepts

that were built with the ego.

And you're saying, if I'm going to be okay,

things better be fair.

Who would define fair me?

But somebody else doesn't define fair like you

but they're wrong.

Okay?

So I painted a picture of ego in there.

Evolution is getting past that.

Evolution is realizing, wait a minute.

I'm not so evolved in here.

I can't help things really well.

If they're happening, I can't handle them.

If they're not happening, I worry that something they will.

And if they did happen,

and they're done happening,

I'm still bothered by the fact that they happened.

Well, that's quite evolved.

You can't not only handle the rallies in front of you,

you can't handle the one that you make up.

It hadn't happened yet.

You make up a future that bothers you.

And you can't handle the one that already happened

because you say, no, I can't handle what happened.

Well, no wonder a mess.

Evolution means working at that level, period.

Under all circumstances at all times,

we'll get more to detail because I know it's scary.

It's so different than the way we live.

We live to try to make it so nothing happens

that bothers us.

Don't we?

Whereas the bothering means there's something

that needs to evolve.

I don't want the piano teacher coming

because I'm making mistakes.

I don't want her to see me.

I think you got it wrong.

I think they want to see why you're making mistakes

and help you evolve.

Have we get better?

It goes for everything.

But that's not how we look at it, do we?

I don't want happening which makes you uncomfortable.

And I want happening which makes you comfortable.

I've now painted a scope of life that is so small.

I don't want it to rain tomorrow.

I don't want my husband to not call me

when he's supposed to or whatever.

I'm gonna get concerned if it's 10 minutes late.

I know I need you to call on time.

I get concerned.

I don't know what happened to you.

Maybe you got killed.

Maybe you got a fine.

Okay, we're very involved.

We can't handle 10 minutes late on phone call.

And you start noticing,

I want you to compare it against the sport,

compare it against an instrument.

Are you willing to evolve in the sport?

Of course I am.

I have a coach.

I do things.

I practice.

I want to evolve in an instrument.

Yes, of course I have a teacher and I go and I practice.

Are you willing to evolve, period?

Evolve you.

Evolve your interstate.

Evolve your heart.

Evolve your mind.

Evolve your being.

That's the meaning of life.

Evolution.

So what does that mean?

It means that you catch on,

which I hope you do with the teachings.

You catch on that life is not supposed to be what I want.

I don't want the piano teachers to come in

and say when you're playing Do, Remy, Faiso Latido

and you hit a rock at the wrong time,

we'll just change the scale.

So you're right.

No, that's not what it's about.

It's not about making it be the way you want it to be.

So there's two aspects.

We're talking tough.

Okay, there's two aspects to realizing that life

is not supposed to be the way you want it to be.

One aspect is why is life the way it is?

Well, I'm not going to be the lecturer I've done before.

There's this law called cause and effect.

Things happen that cause the next thing to happen

or 40 things happen and they call this together

to create the next moment.

That's what's going on.

There's nothing with you.

I said do it physics and science and psychology

and weather and meteorology.

I said do it science.

I said do it with the reality of what's unfolding in life.

But no, I was supposed to be in charge.

Are you in charge of what's happening on Mars?

Are you in charge of what's happening in Tim Bhaktu?

Are you in charge of happening next door?

Are you in charge of squat?

You didn't make believe that stuff's under your control.

But the little dot right there in front of you

and that little tiny little dot

it told you 1.3 million earths been set to sun.

1.3 million the entire earth and everybody on it

fit inside the sun.

And it's one of 300 billion suns stars in your galaxy.

What exactly in the troll of?

How about nothing except for the part

that you decided you want to be in control of

cause you can't handle it the way it is.

I said I told you once.

You are 99% in light.

If in light means you have to handle life,

handle everything and be free,

liberate it to enjoy the experience of life.

99% of every single thing that passed through your senses

throughout your life made it right through.

The trees, the white lines of the road,

the clouds, the people talking at your own.

No, you're taking a lot of stuff.

You're just making a right through it.

But one person saying one word at the wrong time

ain't good anywhere.

That's that point 1%.

What stayed was the part you can't handle.

In other words, the parts are not evolved enough to handle.

There I said it to you, right?

If earth is a place that's supposed to send to evolve,

don't ask me where you need to evolve.

The parts you worry that they might happen.

The parts you can't handle cause they did happen.

That's not evolved.

That's not evolved.

As many as they say and there are things I can't handle.

On a tiny little planet, spend a little nowhere

for a few years.

Come on guys, you know, you'll be a fun 89 to years.

Hello, there's a planet in here.

4.5 billion.

How much room did you take up?

How can you make yourself the center of the universe?

That's ego.

I am what matters.

No, you're not.

You want to pay 0.3 billion on here right now.

And that's the tiny planet.

And there's hundreds of, oh, wake up.

No, no, you can't.

Why?

Because there are things that happen on this planet,

on a daily basis, forget the planet.

The things that happen in front of you,

in front of you, whether you're a frame of reference

on this planet, that you're not okay with,

which causes you to be manipulative and controlling,

to have fears and anxieties and desires.

People are like my included desires in that.

What is a desire?

I have made up inside of me a way

I want the world to unfold in front of me.

How's that for a definition?

Because he ain't got the same one,

she ain't got the same one.

No one's got the same one, okay?

But you're proud of your desire.

They would make me up in the morning.

And that was you're not okay.

And you're trying to create a world that makes you be okay.

And you devoted your life to this thing

that just comes and goes.

You're not evolving.

That's the same thing with your fears.

Yes, if a lion jumps on you,

it's absolutely natural to feel fear.

It's stupid not to.

But if somebody didn't say hello,

who you thought looked like someone you knew once,

the fact that that's bothering you for three days,

that is not very evolved.

Or the fear that somebody told something

I said once, five years ago when I was in high school,

did she tell her that I had said that

about her now?

I'm so scared, should I ask her?

No, maybe it didn't happen.

This would remind her that it happened.

I don't know what to do, called neurotic.

Have I come close to what's like to live in there?

It's not very evolved, is it?

If evolution means what Darwin said,

adaptability to your environment,

we are not doing so well.

Physiologically we do very well.

But psychologically you're never evolved.

I'll pay to comparison,

there are pictures hanging on this wall.

You may not get to know any of these guys, right?

If you read the life story,

if you're coming home with him,

you realize they're evolved.

They're evolved.

They have faced situations.

They would have thrown anyone for a total loop.

They handled exactly the same as you do white lives in a road.

Oh, that's what it realized being is.

They've realized who they are.

And they are not this mess that we collected inside of ourselves.

This ego,

it has to have everything exactly the way we want.

And they're call liberated, Jivan Mukta, a liberated soul.

Do I know that each one of them is high as the other?

I don't know, I don't care.

They are very evolved from every tradition.

I want every tradition.

Right, obviously I'm not getting every evolved being,

but you symbolically, there's a Buddha, there's Islam.

There's these different things, all right?

There are great beings very high in the Sufis.

Oh my God, the great Sufi masters

from the Islam tradition.

Very fully evolved in light beings, that's all,

and it allows you.

So it's a state that you can reach.

And that is the purpose of your life.

Earth is a place of social sense to evolve.

How are you doing?

In most people's cases,

you're doing every single thing you can to not evolve.

Listen to me.

You're doing everything you can

to see what used to hurt you and bother you

and make sure it doesn't happen again.

Not, can I learn from it?

Not can I learn that the next time that comes around,

I'm better off.

I did better, I grew,

you may be crying,

because I'm talking to you seriously, understand it?

I grew from the situation.

Somebody died who I love.

Am I supposed to be joyous?

Of course not to be joyous.

It's sad, it hurts.

Does it say it's a loss?

Are you okay with that?

Not do not feel it.

Have we evolved enough that these emotions,

these human feelings are respected?

They're not denied, they're not suppressed,

they're not hated, they're afraid of.

In other words, if you did well

when someone you love when your parents died

and you grew from it, you felt closer to them.

You're not afraid that the other one will die.

Now hoping for it or anything, right?

But why would there be fear you?

You know, afraid of the white lines in the road

and afraid of the people you drive by,

you learn to be okay with things.

Can you learn to be okay with things?

If I say to you,

can you learn to have somebody die

and not have any feelings?

I know terrible teachings.

You do have feelings.

I'll tell you a secret.

If someone who really harmed you in the past

and caused all kinds of trouble in your life,

if they die, you try not to smile.

But if someone you're very close with dies,

you can't handle the pain.

That's his death.

That's the stuff you're doing.

You're the one who made a mess in there

because you couldn't handle it

the person did to you five years ago.

You're the one that can't even think

about what it'll be like

to live without this person

so much part of my life out of friend ones.

And his wife died of like 50 years together forever.

And he just said to me,

he said, I talked to a friend of mine.

It had a similar situation.

And he said to me,

you'll never ever be okay again for us to your life,

but you'll learn to live with it.

Maybe cry.

That's not true.

That is not true.

Do you have to understand evolution?

If they're to stand, why?

You feel these feelings that are so strong

and have so much trouble

and you learn to evolve enough

to where they become part of your natural life flow.

Doesn't mean you don't feel them.

It means you honor and respect your right to feel them.

That's what evolution is.

It doesn't mean that things don't happen to bother you.

It means you can handle the things that happen that bother you.

They asked for a Christian of us, fully lying being.

Doesn't lighten master ever feel anger?

He shocked me.

I read this back in the 70s.

He said, yes.

But it's like riding a water.

When you ride a water, how much trouble does it cause?

Who can read it?

It's gone as it passes right through.

Doesn't mean it didn't happen.

It means you just said it.

You were able to handle it.

It came through.

You felt the anger.

You felt the fear.

You felt the loss and it processed.

And you got out with your life.

I don't know what to tell you.

It's like you're afraid to be involved.

It's not socially acceptable to handle things.

It is socially acceptable to deny,

to press the denial of suppression or repression.

That's not socially acceptable.

But when I was talking about that,

we're talking about the natural emotions,

human emotions, even spiritual emotions, whatever.

They come, you naturally experience them

and you honor and respect the fact

that you got to feel that pain.

You got to feel that loss.

You're not afraid of it.

You're evolved enough to be able to deal with it.

You're able to handle it.

Okay, you're not wishing what happened,

but you're not afraid that it will happen.

You don't look back.

And I'm so sorry.

The only happens I ever had in my life

was when they were with me.

Well, I feel sorry for you for that.

Because now they're not with you.

They're not going to have any happiness.

Young will be loyal.

I don't know if I can talk about that.

You show me the relationship with someone

that says to you, I'm dying.

Make sure you stay happy.

Make sure you find somebody else if you need to.

You have all my blessing.

Don't ever feel guilty.

There, that's someone who loves you.

Not you better not ever get married again.

You better not find somebody

of a jealous in heaven.

Anybody see the difference?

The level we're talking about, right?

That's evolution.

That person evolves enough past their personal self

to care more about someone else

than they care about themselves.

Even though they're going to be dead,

it doesn't matter.

I don't want you to do it anyways.

You know what I'm saying, that's all right?

That's just, wow, that's okay.

We're not highly evolved, it's okay.

But understand, that's not very evolved.

To sit there and say,

I'm going to manipulate the world after I die.

Right?

And to make sure it'd be the way I want it to be,

et cetera, et cetera.

It just means you didn't evolve much while you were here.

You were caught, you were caught.

You couldn't handle stuff.

You tried to cement it down.

So you feel like it won't happen again.

I don't know what to tell you.

Evolution means what it says.

I am here to change.

Einstein once had a say,

I wish I remember these act words

because one of his quotes says something like,

I am not meant to be tomorrow the way I am today.

I am meant to change.

Right or wrong?

Although I just cemented down.

What are you doing here, my father?

You wasted your life.

Get a whole bunch of experience that you really like.

I think it was called Groundhog Day.

It was in the movies, all right?

Except those weren't all ones they liked, all right?

Just get a whole bunch of experiences you really liked.

Write them down and go to God and say,

here, this is what I want to feel.

Every experience, every day of my life,

for the rest of my life.

You wasted your birth.

I want to play the piano the same as I did

in my fifth grade recital,

even the mistakes I made,

so I feel okay about them every day.

Well, you didn't grow.

You didn't evolve.

You didn't learn.

Earth is a place of social sense to evolve.

So you don't try to nail it down

and say it has to be the way I want it to be.

Yeah, it has to be the way you want it to be

for you to be okay.

No, you're supposed to be okay all the time.

I don't, the new interpret that as meaning

is sort of the happy joy of the,

oh boy, they died.

No, no.

There's this piano piece, right?

It goes.

Dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun,

dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun, dun,

I heard it.

I think it's what the funeral march is.

Very sad, very moving.

Who wrote it?

Chopin.

Where the great composers ever captured

what it felt like to feel that.

That makes it a very great piece.

Does the art does?

But no, you can handle it.

It's wrong, it's bad.

So instead of sitting there and saying to life,

Ramakrishna said,

help their sculptor come with me.

You're here to grow, I'm gonna cry.

If I assure you to not grow, you'd say no,

but you're trying not to grow

by having the things that made you feel good

before happening again

and not having the things that have before

made you feel bad, not happen again.

You've made that the meaning of your life to not grow.

I just define it a way you don't want to hear it.

You want things that happen before

that made you feel good to happen again.

And you don't want things that have before

made you feel bad to happen again.

So you want to manipulate the world

so you don't have to grow, you know, to change.

A great being is open to life.

They go through what they need to go through.

Again, nice to show you quote in Christ.

He said, if you're called to court,

don't think what you're gonna say.

The words will come out naturally.

It's like, don't plan this stuff.

Just be real, be real, grow, grow.

Don't go to bed with an argument with your neighbor.

We're working out before you both go to bed.

In other words, challenge yourself to grow.

I don't know what words can I use.

Isn't that growth?

I challenged myself to be better than I was yesterday.

And was that mean to be better?

To do better and win more?

No, that's still your stuff.

You wake up in the morning, you will come to the point.

If you understand the teachings,

the real growth, real evolution,

you wake up in the morning,

so you wake up and you sit there and say,

okay, I made it through yesterday.

How do you know?

I'm here.

I obviously made it through yesterday.

Congratulations.

Are you bringing all the problems and difficulties

and non-evolved states that happened yesterday into today?

I don't want to.

So you wake up in the morning and you look and you see,

do you have all this junk in your head

that you're afraid of what you said yesterday?

What's going to happen today?

So on.

And you don't just suppress it.

These are real teachings.

People don't have witnessed consciousness.

Here is my experience.

I mean, it's a 55-year-old.

You're best not good every day.

You don't suppress your mind.

You don't hate your mind.

You don't blame your mind.

You look at it and you sit there and say,

we're going to do better today.

There.

We're going to evolve.

Not your bad go away.

Take my hand.

I'll rise you.

You had trouble with that conversation you had with somebody.

You got to be in a test that you thought you'd driven a

and you got all kind of freaking out going on in there.

Well, that's not very evolved.

You're supposed to be able to handle stuff.

Doesn't mean you don't deal with it.

We'll come back down in a minute.

There's a big difference between evolving

through the situation you're put in

and not doing anything to raise the situation.

All right?

So you sit there and you're in an airport

and some mother's yelling at the kid.

It's really terrible.

All right?

And it freaks you out because you were treated that way,

going over and over and over so

because you had problems with your parents, all right?

You're going to get angry.

You're going to feel, God knows what you're going to do.

You're going to feel reactive.

Well, that may not be the highest way to deal with that situation.

You have no idea what the mother's going through.

You have no idea what the kid did.

You have no idea about anything.

Do you?

You just know about your reaction.

And if you act out of it, you may get arrested.

You may cause all kinds of trouble to understand that.

OK?

So you say, well, what are you supposed to do?

You're supposed to first handle it.

That's your evolution.

Can I handle this moment that is in front of me,

not my interpretation of the moment,

not how I wanted to be or don't want it to be?

This is obviously in front of me.

Be here now.

Can I come to some level of peace with this moment,

not with the mother and not with the kid?

Can I hear me with myself?

Can I let go more than I was able to before?

That may very well be.

Then when you come and come, even for two seconds,

is evolution.

There's that.

Because before you were able to, it's model, OK?

It's center.

You look at it.

Then look at the situation with as much clarity as you can.

It may well be you go in there and interfere

and tell her, stop changing your kid down.

Hear me?

But you're willing to accept the consequences

because you were clear when you made the decision.

That's very different than reacting.

I always get that way because when my mother did,

well, then you got a problem.

No, my mother's a problem.

Mommy ain't alive anymore.

You know, with her, don't do that.

Can you handle what happened?

Can you handle what happened in your childhood?

Why do you think it's a whole field of psychology

and mostly Freudian?

And why do they say developmental years

determine the rest of your life?

It's ridiculous.

You had experiences.

You did not handle them well.

Of course you did it.

You were a child.

Said you weren't given the right guidance.

Of course you did it.

But what happened when you started to wake up?

And you look back and say, yeah, my sister got the blue bike

and I wanted it.

And I haven't talked her for three years.

Maybe I should give her a call.

Congratulations.

I'm so proud of you.

You just evolved.

Can you handle the call?

Don't think.

You're going to be able to?

Not after all.

I jumped the store down there.

You understand that?

You practice just like, I've to just let it be out.

You practice.

Maybe the first call doesn't go well.

Maybe you sit there and say, no, I'm not saying.

I'm not going to talk about that bike.

How are you talking about red or blue or bikes?

And again, I've been there when I was younger, right?

You get in a situation where the first thing

you talk about is the bike.

And a big thing blows up.

It's okay.

That's okay.

You're evolving.

You're not evolved.

Earth in the place of soul is sent to evolve.

All right?

You look at it and you laugh.

Oh, boy.

Did you do so good there?

And you talked to your lower self.

The one that said, oh, I jumped in there.

And you say the same thing every time.

We'll do better next time.

Just like when you play tennis in the ball,

because then that, okay, coach,

we'll do better next time.

You have the right to evolve.

Don't protect yourself from your revolution.

And you have the right to have nice experiences.

Don't sit there and say, it's wrong to have a nice experience.

But if you have a nice experience

and you feel it opening you, get calm.

Don't go weird on me.

And then look and see,

is this in harmony with the rest of my life?

Or is there some infoxuation thing

that you're going to run away from your kids

and the husband or run off of your job?

Because it looks like more fun.

You just with clarity, you look, but then you act.

Nobody said you don't act.

Your life is an interactive sport.

And the truth is, because we're talking so honestly,

you will make wrong decisions.

Who says it's wrong?

Well, maybe there's not such things wrong.

You will make experiences that make you grow.

You will react.

They hit somebody, you run away or say something mean, okay?

Because you didn't say centered.

Is that growthful?

Everything is for your growth.

Every single thing that you're tired universe forever

is for your growth.

Earth is a place of social devolve.

And when you leave Earth and before you came,

you're still evolving.

That's what it's all about.

It's an evolution game, all right?

Until you reach the highest.

You go through which you need to go through.

You have evolution to go through.

And your life on this planet is a stimulus for your evolution.

And what you're doing is fighting it

every single step of the way.

And basically saying, I don't want anything

to happen that bothers me.

And that will include all the things

that ever bothered me before.

That's why I know it'll bother me.

And I want to happen everything that doesn't bother me

that makes me happy.

In other words, I don't want to evolve.

I want to stay the way I am and get away from me.

And you're going to pay for it if you bother me.

And you'll probably pay for it if I like you.

Okay?

But can you relate to what I'm talking about?

The difference.

As opposed to you wake up in the morning, take a breath.

Doesn't matter what happened yesterday.

No shame, no blame, no guilt.

Just do my best.

Okay?

How do you make sure you did your best?

You wake up in the morning.

You're quiet down as best you can.

And you say, I'm going to handle today.

I'm going to handle today.

I'm going to go through today.

What's going to happen?

I don't know.

All right?

But I'm going to do my best with whatever's put in front of me.

How to get put in front of you?

Cause of the fact you did not get your job.

Somebody lost theirs and then they looked in the paper and they saw your name.

Cause of the fact cause of the cause.

You didn't do these things.

Life isn't folding.

It's billions and trillions of causes creating one effect.

And then the next effect, it's like you're inheriting the experiences of your life.

You're not creating them.

And it's me, me the biggest proof is that Sierra is a beautiful, big and full grown person.

It started as a single cell.

And it made that body by itself.

Well, you sure come or looks like, don't you give me a break and it will keep making

itself.

Wouldn't it?

They get older and older and start off too feeding.

It was five, you're not the door behind just don't know how you can think like this.

You are the experiencer of the experience you're having.

Did you understand why I used the example of a single cell turning to your body?

Did that happen?

Or do you think your mother did it or your father?

No, life did it.

The same life that when you're driving down the road and you're stopping at a stop light

and a car's running to stop light and the exact moment that your brakes won't stop

enough and their brakes don't stop enough and you get in this thing called an accident.

How many causes had to be exactly right, starting to who made the brakes?

And I told you what happened is the guy had a fight with his wife the night before and

didn't torque exactly right, the brake pad because he was upset, didn't pay full attention.

And five years later, that's why it did not stop enough, you're not to hit.

Whose fault is it?

Everybody's, nobody's, I don't know what to tell you.

There's no such thing as an accident.

All the forces and creation had to come together over all of time to culminate in that moment.

Did it not?

So you start catching on.

I guess I can handle it.

Well, I guess it happened.

And in the morning you say, I'm going to handle today and you won't be able to do it.

And I love it.

And I love for you to see you can't do it.

How do you know you couldn't do it?

And you'll know.

How can they tell when I handle or not believe me, you'll know, all right?

And then in the evening, I don't want much time.

Some people say, 15 minutes more, 15.

You can do more, you can do less, whatever you want.

And even you sit down.

How do I do?

Well, y'all did this, I did that, I threw this, I did, I avoided this.

All right, I argued about this.

I defended myself even on those lines.

You don't need to get down to detail.

You just sit there and say, we can do better.

Can't we?

That's how you get better at tennis.

You practice.

I'm begging you, understand you're not meant to be perfect.

You're meant to get it right.

You're meant to grow and learn.

And that's what life is about, every moment of your life, every situation.

The ones that hurt you, the ones that lift you.

All of them, they're just, they're just teachers.

They're your teachers.

But what have you really heard?

It meant you weren't really ready to handle that.

Is that wrong of blaming you?

Y'all was doing perfectly a born or you wouldn't be here to evolve, right?

You were not able to handle that.

It tore you to pieces, you got upset.

You bothered you for months.

You're hard to let go and you can't see the person ever again.

I can't even live in Gainesville anymore.

Because I drive by, reminds me of the restaurant we used to go to.

And then we used to go to and so on.

You got to evolve.

I don't want to.

Okay, fine, don't.

Because you're given up to me in your life.

So I said that.

I used to teach this, but I realized that people don't understand it.

You're meant to go back with less than you came down with.

Less stuff, less unevolved aspects of your being.

You used life properly.

You became a greater being.

Perfect.

You don't need perfect.

It should be better.

You just have to be better.

In each time that you practice, you will get better.

If you're a very, very jealous person, you're afraid of what your husband or wife

are doing and so on.

And when you want to call for the detective, you're going to challenge every time they can

where were you?

Right?

You just listen to a talk like this and you say, how do I know what's going on?

Obviously, I know what's going on inside of me.

I have a problem.

I have a problem with jealousy.

Okay, be honest.

Don't deny it.

Don't suppress it.

Please don't suppress it.

It just gets worse.

Suppressing it.

You understand?

I don't pop out one way or another.

Just look at it.

You say, I think I can do better.

I think I can do better.

I could just once not ask him or her, where were you?

Why are you so late?

Handle it.

And then find out nothing happened.

The world didn't fall apart because I didn't manipulate or control it.

They were trying to take care of the part of me that wanted to manipulate and control

it.

And the probability is I guarantee you the vast majority of the time, the stuff that's

going outside of you is just inside of you.

You dare, you dare to face it, you're to face yourself.

Not beyond what you can do, just what you can.

You let go.

That's called letting go.

Let go.

You realize, hey, I'm okay.

It's like somebody who can't handle the wind.

Oh my God.

I can blow me away.

I can't touch the kids.

Oh, oh my God.

Right?

And then all of a sudden, the person just stood up for a second.

No.

For a second.

Really?

Yeah.

But I didn't like it.

Were you okay?

Yeah.

Then two seconds.

I don't care.

Whatever pace you want to move at, just every single day is a different person who woke

up than or to woke up the day before because you use that day to evolve.

And if you do that, you're going to be stunned to find out how much absurdity you created

for yourself by doing that inside your head.

And you'll start to let go and you'll be better off.

And so will your husband and wife, and so will the kids, and so will the job, so will

everything.

Right?

People write me from all over the world.

We get somebody else.

And they all say the same thing.

You changed my life.

I did not change your life.

You changed your life.

If you didn't do it, it would not have changed.

You dared to face this junk that got built inside of you that says, winning means getting

what I want, but winning means handling what is.

Start letting go.

And where do you see?

And then you can actually help raise it.

All right.

Earth is a place that's so sent to evolve.

That's how you measure success.

How are you doing?

Good.

Jaiber.

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