
Elaine Welteroth: You Were Born Enough
About this episode
Elaine Welteroth—bestselling author of More Than Enough and former Teen Vogue Editor-In-Chief—joins Chrissy for a reset on the lie that keeps so many of us small: the belief that we’re not enough. They talk about how confidence gets “chipped away,” how to spot when you’re performing for approval instead of living for yourself, and what it actually looks like to lead (and heal) in public. Plus: Elaine’s “Hell Yes or Hell No” decision framework to help you choose boundaries over burnout—and build a life that fits.
Key Takeaways
- The “myth of inadequacy”: why feeling “not enough” isn’t personal—it’s learned, and it can be unlearned.
- Performance vs. belonging: how to tell when you’re chasing applause (external validation) instead of listening to your own compass (intrinsic desire).
- Confidence peaks early—and how to protect/rebuild it by creating your own “reflections” when the world doesn’t mirror you back.
- Intent vs. impact: what real accountability looks like when you get something wrong, even with good intentions—and how to lead through it without hiding.
- Elaine’s “Hell Yes / Hell No” tool: how to decide what deserves your time, and how to negotiate a “no” into a “hell yes” that actually aligns with you.
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