EP #48 How Come I'm Not Doing the Things I Want to Do - Part 2

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In EP 42 we talk about – How come I am not doing the things I really want to do? 

In that episode we talked about some things that stop us:

1.    Modal operators: must, have to, want, need, should
 2.    Submodality maps
 3.   Don't know how or missing information
 4.    Lateral or mismatched criteria
 5.    Values
 6.    Confusion with goals and tasks

 In today’s episode, we are going to continue adding to the list and then talk about how to use a basic swish to change triggers.

 What are triggers (anchors)? 

We see, hear or feel something that triggers us into behavior or feeling. We see a dog or cat and we have warm feelings, or a loved one’s face, or cop sitting on the side of the road. Our reaction to these things and many others is automatic.  Or we hear something – a song, or jingle, and we remember someone, a certain time in our life or a product. We hear train whistles or boat horns, ocean waves and we are transported to another time and place.  Or a siren, etc. Or we feel velvet or a pet’s fur, or the silky feel of a child’s hair, or sandpaper, or a pat on the back. Crisp sheets in the summer or gentle breeze on our face. We also taste and smell things that we have an immediate response to.  

What are some more things that stop us from doing what we want to do?

• We are afraid
• We are not committed. 
• We are lazy, irresponsible, or want someone else to do it. –
• Beliefs – we’ve talked about these before. In order to do something, especially something you haven’t done before or something that challenges your skills level, you have to believe it is possible, it is possible for you, you are capable or capable of learning it. That you deserve it and that it is worthwhile. If any of these beliefs are not present, then you may find yourself avoiding the behavior.
• We are not clear, no focused, or have no purpose for doing it. no clear goal. 
• Do you know what level of belief stops you? if you know how to do something but don’t do it: you know how to make calls but you don’t do it, then you are capable but you may not think it is possible.
• What do you mean by becoming “not me”. 

So how would I use new triggers to change my behaviors – if I am capable and deserve it, it is worthwhile but I seem to be running on automatic?

The Basic Swish works on removing triggers that steer us in other directions..

You can learn how to adjust your pictures in your head to encourage behaviors and discourage others. If I want to look at my phone when I need to be doing something else, I push the mental picture of my phone away from me, make it dark and small so I can’t see it. then make a picture of me doing what I want to do.

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