Episode 123149: 3/15/26 Autobiography: Who Will You Be?

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The Lord be with you.

He reading from the Holy Gospel according to John.

Chapter 9 verses 1 through 41.

As Jesus passed by, he saw a man blind from birth.

His disciples asked him, Rabbi, who sinned this man or his parents that he was born blind?

Jesus answered, neither he nor his parents sinned.

It is so that the works of God may be visible through him.

We have to do the works of the one who sent me while it is day.

Night is coming when no one can work.

While I am in the world, I am the light of the world.

When he had said this, he spat on the ground, made clay with the saliva,

and smeared the clay on the eyes, on his eyes, and said to him,

go wash in the pool of psalome, which means scent.

So he went and washed, and came back, able to see.

His neighbors, and those who had seen him earlier, as a beggar said,

isn't this the one who used to sit in beg?

Some said it is, but others said, no, it just looks like him.

He said, I am.

So they said to him, how were your eyes opened?

He replied, the man called Jesus, made clay, and anointed my eyes, and told me,

go to psalome and wash.

So I went there and washed, and was able to see.

And they said to him, where is he?

He said, I don't know.

They brought the one who was once blind to the Pharisees.

Now Jesus had made clay and opened his eyes on a Sabbath.

So then the Pharisees also asked him how he was able to see.

He said to them, he put clay on my eyes, and I washed, and now I can see.

So some of the Pharisees said, this man is not from God, because he does not keep the Sabbath.

But others said, how can a sinful man do such signs, and there was division among them?

So they said, again, to the blind man, what do you have to say about him, since he opened your eyes?

He said, he is a prophet.

Now the Jews did not believe that he had been blind and gained his sight,

until they summoned the parents of the one who had gained his sight.

They asked them, is this your son, whom you say was born blind?

How does he now see?

His parents answered and said, we know that this is our son, and that he was born blind.

But we do not know how he sees now, nor do we know who opened his eyes.

As Kim, he is of age, he can speak for himself.

His parents said this because they were afraid of the Jews, for the Jews had already agreed

that if anyone acknowledged Jesus as the Christ, he would be expelled from the synagogue.

For this reason, his parents said, he is of age, question him.

So a second time they called the man who had been blind and said to him, give God the praise,

we know that this man is a sinner.

He replied, if he is a sinner, I do not know.

One thing I do know is I was blind, and now I see.

So they said to him, what did he do to you?

How did he open your eyes?

He answered them, I told you already, and you did not listen.

Why do you want to hear it again?

Do you want to become his disciples too?

They ridiculed him and said, you are that man's disciple.

We are disciples of Moses.

We know that God spoke to Moses, but we do not know where this one is from.

The man answered and said to them, that is what is so amazing,

that you do not know where he is from, yet he opened my eyes.

We know that God does not listen to sinners, but if one is devout and does his will,

he listens to him.

It is unheard of that anyone ever opened the eyes of a person born blind.

If this man were not from God, he would not be able to do anything.

They answered and said to him, you are born totally in sin and you are trying to teach us,

then they threw him out.

When Jesus heard that they had thrown him out, he found him and said,

do you believe in the Son of Man?

He answered and said, who is he, sir?

That I may believe in him.

Jesus said to him, you have seen him,

and the one speaking with you is he.

He said, I do believe, Lord,

and he worshiped him.

Jesus said, I came into this world for judgment,

so that those who do not see might see,

and those who do see might become blind.

Some of the Pharisees who are with him heard this and said to him,

surely we are not also blind, are we?

Jesus said to them, if you were blind, you would have no sin.

But now you are saying, we see, so your sin remains,

the gospel of the Lord.

Praise to you, Lord, Jesus Christ.

I should have a seat.

So our 23rd President, the 23rd President of the United States

is a man named Orangey Harding. He was President,

sorry, 29th President of the United States,

was Orangey Harding.

President from 1921 to 1923,

and apparently Orangey Harding was a decent human being.

But at the same time, since he was President,

he has been consistently on the list of

worst presidents that we've ever had.

And apparently, Orangey Harding even thought this about himself.

There's a quote that he set up on himself.

He said, I am not fit for this office and never should have been here.

So how did Orangey Harding get elected?

If he wasn't fit for the office, he wasn't competent for the office.

And even he said, I'm not competent for the office,

how did he get elected?

So Malcolm Gladwell wrote a book about the book,

a number of years ago, called Blink.

And in it, he tells the story.

And this is his perspective.

His perspective was that how did Orangey Harding get elected?

How did it become the 29th President in the United States?

And Malcolm Gladwell maintains that just people looked at him.

That's how he got elected.

That he would walk into a room and he was a tall man.

He was handsome.

He had broad shoulders.

He had this deep resonant voice.

He had this very, very dignified presence.

If people saw him,

in the problem for Orangey Harding was people looked at him and he looked exactly

like what people thought a president should look like.

Even if he said himself,

I'm not competent, I'm not qualified for this, but he looked like he was.

Here's the question, what are we looking for?

Like when we look around the world, what are we looking for in the gospel today?

Here's the blind man and the people looking at him,

and they say, the Pharisees say, well, he looks like a sinner.

That's why he's in this situation.

He looks like a sinner.

He looks like a man who must have done something wrong.

So he's blind.

In the first reading, the first Samuel,

you have Samuel comes to the Jesse's family, looks at his sons,

and sees Eliad, he's his oldest son,

and he's like, okay, he looks like he looks like the person,

kind of like Orangey Harding.

He looks like a leader.

He looks like a king.

Of course, we then heard how God stopped Samuel and said,

actually, that's not how God looks.

He says, man sees the appearance,

but the Lord looks into the heart.

We started this series a couple of weeks ago

with the beginning of Lent,

called Autobiography, and the reality of Autobiography

is that every life is a story,

so every person is an author.

The question we have is,

who will you become at the end of the story?

So we looked at every story as a title,

that we know that every story has a beginning.

Last week, we looked at the fact that every story has a middle.

But if you've ever thought about what would you include,

have you ever thought about what would you include

if you had to literally have to write down your Autobiography?

What would you include?

Like, what kind of things, what kind of circumstances,

what kind of events would get your attention?

If you look over your life, what do you see?

And then looking at your Autobi, what do you find?

That when you examine your life,

the question is this, what do you look for?

How do you look?

Again, we heard this.

The Lord doesn't look as man looks.

The Lord looks into the heart.

So we have these questions.

How does the Lord look?

But also the bigger question in some ways right now,

is how do we look?

Like, what do you and I mostly look for?

I meant the way to ask it is this,

what do we most easily find?

When we look at our lives, what do we most easily find?

For this, this is me, I'm not sure if this is you,

but every time I meet someone or talk to someone,

or just saying, hi, I just greet someone,

and they say, hey, how's it going?

My brain scans my story.

My brain scans my day, my week, my whatever, my life,

and reports all that's gone wrong.

I don't know if you've had this experience too,

or someone's like, how are you doing?

And they're like, don't buy brain scans through.

And 95 said this before, but 95% of my life could be like,

oh, it's great.

It's actually really, really good.

But what do I talk about?

Like, what do I see?

What do I look for?

I report on the 5%.

Well, this is really hard right now.

This is kind of a struggle right now.

Even if 95% of life is great,

how rarely do I take the opportunity to report on the great

and just look for the negative?

And not only look for the negative,

I remember the negative, I don't remember the situation,

where I can get in notes or messages.

People give in, tell me positive comments.

If I got one comment, one negative comment,

one critical comment, that's the one that stays with me.

In fact, I'm not alone.

There's a psychologist named John Gottman.

John Gottman talks about this.

He says, actually, to balance out the negative comment,

one negative comment need at least five positive comments.

I've heard the number up to, for every one negative comment,

we need up to 12 positive comments.

So when it comes to what I look for in my life,

man, I oftentimes look for the negative.

I've sometimes looked for this thing to complain about.

And maybe it's this.

Maybe that we're biologically hard-wired

to look for the negative.

I think at some point, looking for the negative,

kept our ancestors alive.

That you see the rustling in the bushes

and like, I'm not gonna examine that.

I'm gonna run away.

Because it might be some good,

might be some food, might be something nice.

It probably also could be a saber-toothed tiger.

So our biological hard-wired to look for the negative,

in the past, I think, kept us alive.

But in the modern world, it keeps us stuck.

Define ourselves always looking at the negative

is to be stuck on the outside looking in.

To always look for the negative

is to find ourselves on the outside looking in.

We've been following the story of the parable,

the prodigal son.

And there's a moment, right, in the story that Jesus tells,

where the younger son has come home

and his father's ran out to meet him.

He brings him in.

They've slaughtered the fat and calf.

They're celebrating.

There's a party going on.

And for this point of the parable,

the older son walks up and realizes, he realizes,

a celebration is happening.

A party is going on right here.

He realizes, my brother is alive.

In this moment, he realizes there is a reason to rejoice.

And the older brother is stuck.

He sees a moment of real joy.

And all he can see, all he's looking for

is a reason to be angry.

So life, in our life, what are we looking for?

In our story, in our autobiography,

there are so many times we're faced with the invitation

to enter into joy.

But we're stuck on the outside looking in.

Sometimes so often, we're looking for all the reasons

not to celebrate.

Okay, maybe there's something good going on,

but here's all the bad things going on.

We're faced with the invitation into joy.

We find ourselves looking for all the reasons

to be angry, just like the older son.

All the reasons not to love.

In the older son in this moment,

he's on the outside looking in.

This is incredible description,

incredible image of what hell is.

In this moment, the older son

invited into joy, but refusing to enter into joy.

This is a description of he's choosing hell.

Not saying he's sinning, but if heaven is love,

if heaven is rejoicing and joy,

and I refuse to enter love,

I very refuse to enter into rejoicing.

If I refuse to only look for the things

that make me angry, for the reasons not to celebrate,

the reason not to love, choosing hell.

During this series, pray 40.

It's our following, the prodigal.

Some are also following

I do a Stewsky's book, the brother of the scarred Matsov,

and one of the lines, do a Stewsky writes,

he says that he says, hell is the suffering

of being unable to love.

Hell is the suffering of being unable to love.

And in this parable, that's the older son.

And in our lives, that's us.

That we're invited into joy,

but we're looking for something else.

We're invited into joy,

but we're looking at something else.

You know imagine, I imagine the older son,

I imagine the older son, things he's being sensible.

I imagine the older son thinks like, no,

I'm not gonna enter into this, why?

Because I know him, I know him, I know him.

He's just gonna take this,

and he's gonna run away again.

And the reality is, yeah, maybe.

And caveat to this, we have to be wise, right?

When it comes to these kind of things,

there's a psychologist in John Deloni.

John Deloni says this, he says, behavior is a language.

So how someone behaves like,

if someone has told you by their actions,

that they can't be trusted, believe them,

some behavior is a language.

So yes, be wise, but here's the danger.

There's a difference between being wise and being cynical.

There's a difference between being wise

and being stuck on the outside looking at,

there's a difference between being wise

and choosing to look for a reason to be angry

instead of a reason to rejoice.

I think though, sometimes we sometimes conflate.

We've concluded that cynicism

is actually a mark of intelligence.

That's someone who I won't be fooled.

Like, I'm not gonna get my hopes up.

I'm not gonna get excited about this.

I'm gonna stay back because, listen, my eyes are open.

Again, we think that cynicism is a mark of intelligence

because like, no, I see the game, I see the trick.

I'm not gonna be fooled.

In fact, the opposite is true.

There was a study, a study of 30 countries

with almost 200,000 adults.

And they found this, they found that cynicism

is not a mark of intelligence.

It's a defense mechanism to avoid being exploited.

That those who are cynical,

this is those with poor reasoning skills

were more likely to see human nature as selfish

and untrustworthy.

In fact, it's a lack of wisdom

that leads to cynicism.

Believe more than that, it's a lack of courage.

There's another psychologist,

he's a psychologist at Canada.

He once said that he said,

being cynical is preferable to being naive.

So it's not like, well, you need to be cynical or naive.

No, it's being cynical is better than being naive

because once you've been hurt,

there's no going back to naive.

Once you've been betrayed, you're not going back to naive.

But also, there's no point in staying at cynical.

It requires a degree of courage

to get past cynical to something better.

Why? Because it takes no effort to be cynical.

It takes no courage whatsoever to be cynical

because what's cynicism?

Cynicism is pessimism plus suspicion.

It's pessimism plus suspicion.

And if there's any word that might define the older son,

it's that word suspicion.

He comes and hears the party, he suspects what's going on.

And we've all been, and we've all been in this place

where we come upon a situation, a person, anything,

and we tell ourselves a story.

The story is, okay, this is what someone thinks of me.

And every time they confirm that,

every time they act in a certain way, I think, yep, there it is.

We have this suspicion of how hard something's going to be

or this event I'm going to go to is going to be miserable

or that person that roommate I have,

they're going to leave her mess again

because they always leave a mess always.

They never do their dishes.

All the suspicion, we tell ourselves a story,

and then we look for proof.

It's one of the reasons why CS Lewis once said,

suspicion often finds what it suspects.

Another way to say it is, you find what you look for.

Here they're going to fail again.

Yep, see, there it is.

Suspicion often finds what it suspects,

and there's the reality in our lives.

We find what we look for.

There's a comedian named Theo Vaughn.

Theo Vaughn has a podcast,

and relatively recently he had a man named Tony Robbins

on his podcast.

I like both of these guys.

Theo Vaughn's super funny.

Tony Robbins cares a mad guy.

At one point, Tony Robbins walked Theo Vaughn

through this exercise.

He said, okay, Theo, I want you to look around your room.

This is your studio.

He said, look for red.

So, looks for all the red things.

It's going to close your eyes.

Okay, name all the blue things.

And it was kind of this trick.

And Theo was like, oh, I can't think of any.

He's like, yeah, because why?

Because this room has a bunch of blue things,

but you were looking for red.

So you didn't see the things that were blue.

And even then, he said, but how many red things

he said, this, this, when this one,

he's like, I bet you even found things

that weren't red, but you counted them as red.

He's like, yep, that orange truck over there.

Because why?

Because we find what we're looking for.

So here's our autobiography.

The question is this, what am I looking for?

Because I'll find it.

And your autobiography, what are you looking for?

You'll find it.

Am I looking for a reason to be miserable?

Am I looking for a reason to be angry?

Am I looking for a reason to be suspicious?

I'll find it.

Or am I looking like the father looks?

Because this is what we remember the whole point.

Man sees the outward appearance,

but the Lord looks at the heart.

How does the father look in this parable?

What we see is the father looks for hope.

I mean, the fact of the matter is here's the younger son.

He's been gone for who knows how long.

And the father is at the furthest outskirts

of his property scanning the horizon

for the return of his son.

That kind of hope takes courage.

And the father looks for joy.

Say it like this, the father looks for an opportunity

to celebrate.

I mean, if we look at this, here's the younger son comes back.

The father looks for joy.

And when he finds it, when he sees it,

he steals the moment as an opportunity to rejoice.

The father steals joy.

If you want to know how the father looks,

this is how he looks.

He looks for joy.

He looks for a reason to celebrate.

He looks for a reason to rejoice, and then he does it.

Again, how does the father love you?

How does he love me?

He loves us like this.

Now, notice this, the younger son at this point,

the younger son is done nothing.

There's rejoicing happening.

The father's looking for joy.

He finds it, he's stealing joy.

And the younger son at this point has done nothing.

We don't know if he's learned his lesson,

like we don't know if he's changed his ways,

we don't know if he promises to be a good boy

from now on, right?

We don't know if he feels badly.

All the son is, all the son who's being rejoiced over,

all he is is not dead.

That's it.

All the father knows is my son was dead,

but now he's alive again.

He was lost, but he's found.

And the father takes that fact

as an opportunity for joy.

He takes that fact as an opportunity to steal joy

in this moment.

What do I look for?

What should we look for?

We have to look for joy.

And every place we find it, we have to steal joy.

We have to steal it.

We have to steal it for ourselves.

We have to steal it for the people around us.

We have to steal it for the Lord.

We have to steal it because our stories

actually meant to be a story where we look for joy

and then steal joy at every opportunity we have.

And the reality, of course, is that we could lose.

We could get our hopes up.

We could try to find joy in a place

we could look for joy, we could not find it.

We could find joy and celebrate it, rejoice over it,

steal it and lose it again.

But that's what we're called to be, right?

Because ultimately in this whole parable,

the prodigal son, ultimately this lent in our lives,

we're not called to stay as the younger son

who gets welcomed back.

We're not called to stay as the older son

who's invited in, we're actually called to be the father.

This is, this is, who will you become

at the end of your story?

We're called to become the father.

The younger son who, yes, he came home and was celebrated,

he has to become the one who must welcome

and celebrate others.

The older son who's angry has this resentment.

And he, he was pursued, he was invited into joy.

He has to become the one who can face the anger

and the resentment of other people

and invite them into joy.

This story doesn't end with us being the one rejoiced over.

It ends with us being kind, the kind of people

who can look like the father

and steal joy wherever we find it.

This pray 40, this lent, this life,

you and I are called to become the kind of person

who's like the father, who's courageous enough

to look for hope, who's courageous enough

to look for joy and to steal every opportunity for joy.

Because this is your story, this is your life,

this is your autobiography.

Every life is a story, every person is an author,

the only question is, who will you and I become

at the end of our story?

And who will become is dependent on what we pay attention to.

Who will become is dependent on what we see

and what we see is dependent upon what we look for.

So we look for joy.

And like the father,

we steal it every chance we get.

Look for joy.

And like the father,

steal it every time you find it.