Five Suggestions for Primordial Confidence

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In this very, very crazy world, it’s easy to feel powerless. But from my decades of Buddhist practice, I've learned that it’s not just an inside job– you can actually arrange your outer world to give you strength.

1. Clean Up Your Space I know this sounds like a scold but it isn’t. When you walk into chaos, you feel chaotic. When you walk into a space that's been tended to—not perfect, just cared for—you feel elegant. Your care then perfumes the environment.

2. Wear Nice Clothes Not fancy or expensive—just clean clothes that you actually like. When you pick something off the floor (and we all do this sometimes), you're already starting your day feeling a little defeated. But when you choose something you love—the color, the fabric, how it makes you feel—you're clothing yourself with respect.

3. Eat Good Food This isn't about being vegan or gluten-free or whatever diet advice everyone's shouting about. It's about getting the best quality you can afford and eating it with kindness toward yourself. If you want smoothies, get good ingredients. If you want a cocktail, make it carefully. Appreciate the details that go into preparation and clean-up. Most important, as best you can, relax aggression (from self or others) about food.

4. Spend Time with People Who See You Clearly We all have people who make us feel small—your boss, that difficult sibling, the friend you don't know how to break up with. Minimize time spent with such people, as you are able to do so. Maximize time with people who, when you look at yourself through their eyes, you see someone lovely and smart and kind. That's very empowering.

5. Connect with the Natural World When I swim at Barton Springs here in Austin, even in the midst of Texas political insanity, I remember that there's a power at work that has its own logic, that doesn't care what I think. Being part of something larger—even feeling small in it—is actually delightful.

Friends, these aren't just good habits. They're ways to create a world that holds you, that gives you strength instead of requiring you to manufacture it from scratch every single day. And right now, when everything feels shaken, that might be exactly what we need.

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