From Dishwasher to 1,000+ Units — Then Nearly Losing It All ft. Jarek Tadla | Coffeez

I heard his voice and it says like, dude, you have absolutely everything you can imagine and

You want to take your own life?

Like you helping so many other people you cannot help yourself and

I'm not

f***ing you right now

30 seconds later, Jessica, my girlfriend comes into the room and says word for word

I'm like, are you kidding me? And she opened the blinds you done you're coming out like you don't you're not sick

You good you got to get out of the bed. Welcome to another episode of coffees

Yada gets a pleasure having you that we've had some great discussions before the show and you know

What what you've told me so far has been truly truly inspirational

You know coming from Poland

To America not knowing the English language. How did you come to a you know this this country and really break through into

Entrepreneurship so quickly?

It's funny. I I didn't like everything happened unconscious like you know unconsciously because when I got here

I you know start washing dishes and going through school and doing everything and I truly did it no

Like my entire life I was always doing something on my own like selling bottles

You know looking for like like little deals when I was in Poland like you know always looking for something

but I didn't know I have the skill and

When I got when I moved here

And if anybody's listening to this I want to know

One conversation like even the conversation right now one sentence changed my life

Because I was selling my cars and I was like buying cars at the actions

So I was working full time as a dishwasher then I was going to school to college and

Then I was buying and selling cars at the you know after the accident with the you know with the salvage title and

selling them for like you know buying them

Cost me like around five grand selling them for six grand so on each car make a thousand dollars

So there was always a real stay back in my hat

But it was just a real state if I buy a home for five fifty thousand and sell it for sixty I make ten grand right instead of a thousand

There was one conversation one sentence changed my entire life one sentence

There was a family of my girlfriend at that time and they said yeah, they have a full place. They live in one of them and they rent the other three

And I'm like what

See it again. Yeah, we have a fullplex and those three people pay for a rent

That's it. I got home. I told my my girlfriend had by the way

We're getting married and next year we're moving to Colorado because you know

I was in school it upstate New York Rochester if anybody knows where it is. It's a hateful place

It's miserable. He's always raining over there

And move to Colorado by my first fullplex

You know on an occupied then few months later about another old fullplex on an occupied

But the first one I bought it. I have no idea what I'm doing. So I bought it with fifty thousand dollars. I sold all my cars

borrow money and

Buy my first fullplex the second fullplex six months later about on an occupied and I only pay five grand

I could took like you know 97%

Financing that third one I bought using my ex credit and

That's how it started

So those three fourplexes then it turned to 16 12 or 17 units

Then 50 units and 100 units 200 units 500 units thousand two dollars and it's just

To go wow, so you've just been buying multi property multi unit properties for

Decades. Yeah, but I remember I'm a long-term holder. I'm not a I'm not a flipper

I'm a long-term holder. I buy and hold

There's not the

The margins on those aren't much though. You know, you're only making you know after your mortgage and everything

But you what happened is when you buy something and then you hold it

You know and then it's it's pays up because what happened the interest goes up the interest goes up and

uh the rents goes up and

The equity grows and then you just take the money free out you know equity, you know without taxes

And you just reinvesting reinvesting and then you have a if anybody's listening right now have a good track record

Then people will throw you money. There's so many people out there. They don't know what to do with money

You know attorneys are doctors people. They are successful in their own businesses

They truly don't know how to turn money into more money

And you know if if you have a track record and you know how to leverage money, I mean

Skies them it disguised the limit

Yeah

Wow, so what was that 21-year-old version of you? You weren't an entrepreneur. You were just a you know

I got an immigrant. I didn't even know the word brother

You know when I learned the word like maybe when I was 40

I didn't even know what it means. I like I think everybody does

That's what you have to do you have to you know be just

be good in business or there was like I always treated my business like work

uh, you know and and and I was I was sedating with work

You know and like everybody thinks sedating is a drug alcohol

No, I was sedating with work because I looked like 2020-22 hours a day

Because that's the thing I was good at something suddenly like you know, I was good at something and I found

completely

Like a high out of it

Until I completely like you know what I have enough. I think I have enough

You know, I was waiting 2008 came in in 2008. I just bought a lot of properties tensions on the dollar. I want lottery

So I won lottery when I moved to the United States getting green card in that I won lottery with 2008 hop and when lemon brothers

Out of business life just but more and more and in 2010 is like that's a second time. I'm like I'm done

I retire. I don't do this again and then two kids three kids four kids. I'm gonna be a dad. I'm gonna be a dad

Dead didn't pay out, you know, there was not enough like you know

I'm I was built for more than that. So I start doing Ironman

When I start doing Ironman then I start sedating with workouts

But by roots of society you they wow you're doing something good because it's like wow

You're like a successful you're like is doing this

But the only thing I was escaping truly myself

I didn't want to deal with the demons and all the not enough the voices that in a dialogue that I couldn't control

So I need a more more more to prove the whole world that I'm enough that I'm love

And guess what you never happen and in 2020 when COVID happened

I got divorced and COVID happens. So of course in the COVID I knew about COVID that is gonna happen in like in October because they asked me to move my money

So when COVID happened I just went back to work. I started my moral state and 2021. I completely crushed

Like I'm on the top like I'm the top of the mountains

You know, I'm mentally strong. I'm emotionally strong. I found a connection with God. I don't drink. I don't sedate with drugs on alcohol

I found the love of my life. I build relationships. I'm physically fit

And I'm broken inside

You know, I got sick three days six days

Suddenly I'm down in day in in in my bed for 40 40 40 40 days and

It's time to go

The demon got me

You know almost got on my boat and did the list died

But I don't wish anybody

To go through the pain

What was the catalyst for you to have that spiritual awakening?

You know at that when I was laying in bed and

When I was going through

There was a lot of wake-up course where a lot of like niches like touching on me and

And I call it as the voice is that you know like I have a like the good angel the bad angel

But when I almost commit suicide

I heard his voice and it says like dude you have absolutely everything you can imagine

And you want to take your own life?

Like you helping so many other people you cannot help yourself

And I'm not shitting you right now

30 seconds later Jessica my girlfriend comes into the room and says word for word

I'm like are you kidding me and she opened the blinds you done you coming out like you don't you not sick

You good you got to get out of the bed and I'm like

I got to show my journey

You know my entire life I was looking for validation from outside sources you know to to get successes to to get the kudos and I'm empty on the insight

And if I have it none of the none of the hardship hopper none of the death and out of the betrayal not of the loss

None of their financial struggle

I have everything and I go through depression and suicidal thoughts

What about people that truly truly have a reasons to go through it? Yeah, they have no but we have nothing and exactly

and they're happy

So so I started looking for the journey for the happiness and follow my voice

But it took me it took me probably two years to recover from all the stuff, you know, I mean, I'm still I'm still

You know, I'm telling

That I'm like I'm like alcoholic. I'm workaholic

And now I'm recovering depression holic

So it's like, you know, I mean everything I've done it was always to

To more more more and I just realized now the more is less

so you know

Life if like if we could just get our life to be more simple, we'd be more happy

And the more we complicate the more that we desire things that we don't need

To impress people that don't care about us. That's really and uh, but I'm you know what

I

A lot of entrepreneurs because that was my bubble right we are people pleases

Okay, yes, we do this for ourselves like it let you know, but but we just do it

This for employees. This is for the kids. This is for wives. This is we do everything for everybody

We don't do it for ourselves

Can you imagine I'm 53 years old man that I you know, I every single day I date myself

I truly take myself on the date

And it's my time. How do you do yourself? I I'm curious for myself. I truly like this is an hour nobody can interact

I'll do the phone and I stay with my own ties with myself. I don't run the errands. You work out

I don't know yet. No, no, no, I do that anyway. No, that that's what happens when when you

Stillness and boredom for entrepreneur is the best shit ever

But because we cannot we only we think we can only work with chaos. Chaos is our friend. No, chaos is not our friend

We hate to be bored and we hate to be still and this was the best idea the best creative he comes

And we feel uncomfortable when I sit down first time

When you successful you have a lot of you know enemies, right?

So I have a I have a deal the one sour in America Republic and I got under you know the the guy

Got me under red notice in a full notice

So I'm flying to Panama and

You know when I when I landed there's like

You know come with us. I'm like

For what I'm like if you ever business in America public. I'm like yeah, I do I just came back last week

Wow, there's a problem. We have a red notice in a full red notice

I'm like okay. I didn't do shit

So they start me for the interview for 24 hours which 24 hours and up 30 hours in in prison like down the prison. It's like a

Air pro gel

Can you imagine being 50 years old first time in my life? I was alone

For 30 hours the first two hours I was pissed as hell. I can buy desserts for five duels. Well, they don't know who the hell I am

And then I just spend the time with myself when I got home just because like how you doing and crying all this stuff my kids

Dad that that I'm like this was the best time in my life

First time in my life. I was alone without any devices without anything just sit with myself with my own thoughts

my whole life when like

Finally the meditations of everything came in the prayers and I finally like connected with myself

We don't give ourselves a time when we get bored when we get sick of we always want to do something

Especially entrepreneurs. I'm not useful. I'm not

I'm if I don't do anything. I'm not contributing to the society

Shut the fuck up sit with yourself listen be bored be still talk to you spend the time with your own thoughts

Find out who you truly are why you doing all this stuff for

Because there's no amount of money that's gonna make you enough

There's always somebody with the bigger yacht with the bigger jet with the bigger helicopter with more houses more businesses with pretty a wife

you know, it's

stop

You truly got everything within you and and just listen to the voice listening who you truly truly who truly you are

What you're saying resonates so much with me because I am that guy who cannot sit by myself like I just have to be stimulated all the time you sitting

20 minutes though

The only stillness I get is when I podcast okay, and I get to interview someone

You know, yeah, I obviously have my phone for for the questions, but like I don't like I'm on the go

You know, I'm multiple businesses podcasts content this that the other four kids

Activities and they're all in multiple sports. It's like running a million miles an hour

but

When I do get five minutes to sit with myself and reflect when like when I drive home

I don't put music on like it's like therapy just to just be in silence and there's still just a million

sounds in my brain, you know

But for an hour of just pure stillness and which is an incredible

Goal for me

That would be life-changing. It doesn't have to start with an hour getting goosebumps

It doesn't have to be an hour brother because what happened you know how to build new routines

It can start with 10 minutes 10 minutes become 20 20 become story, but it's uncomfortable

Telling grown as man to sit with yourself like what the hell's wrong with you?

And then thoughts are coming and and I'm telling you everything who the hell come up with this shit like I was

When my coach first I'm sending me to the

Do you have a like any any any any any homes your favorite homes? I'm like there's a beach home that I absolutely love it

He said go there for three days and sit there without anything

Well, what are you talking three days like dude? I cannot find five minutes. You know the bullshit store with us

Dude you you you have no idea about my schedule. I don't have five minutes. He goes that's the problem

That's the problem. What do you mean you don't have five minutes? You know all the stuff that I created my head is like

That's what I have to do. This is this. This is this and guess what we cannot multitask

If the men are reasoning to this we men cannot multitask. It's over

We cannot fucking walk and chew the gum because we buy the fucking tongue we cannot

But guess what that's what we're doing

So we don't do nothing we're not present with our kids. We're not present. That's why so many divorces

We're not present with our kids. We're not present with our wives

And that's why we're not present with the employees. We're not present with ourselves. We're not present with anybody

When you connect with yourself brother, there's nothing better

It's like you you you overflowing but what happened is our bucket is getting empty and empty here and you cannot satisfy with all this money

Oh, we're not a businesses

Oh, we're not a book and not a title and out of metal

It cannot you get empty and you break like me. How do you fill your cup? I was having the same discussion

With someone at the dinner table two days ago. It's like this Gen Z

Cannot work in like customer service because they have nothing left in their cup. They're so stimulated

By phones and you know all the the things around them them by the time they go to interact with humans

They're just like they don't know how

Well, that's you know what happiness is we we we want the the instant gratification

And he would up in this when you want the instant gratification you scrolling the phone

That's the instant gratification having a drink getting a you know line of cocaine

You know, that's the the dopamine level it hits so much

The happiness when the dopamine levels for the next 20 30 50 years

That's what the happiness but we are not patient we want everything now

You want to call us by car while you cannot afford it. Well, I can't let's get a credit to buy a home

Let's buy a business like everything and we over leverage ourselves

Financially emotionally mentally spiritually. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I got the time for this read the Bible

Yeah, I got the time for this. What about the kids? Yeah, you know, we're trying to rush it

slower

brother is faster

Try to build a business when you slow down

It's next level

Try to build a relationship with the with the wife or whether you partner or with the kids when you take what you slow down

It's amazing, but the problem we got to find connection with herself

I could not connect with myself. I could not connect it with God. So I could not connect with the wife

And I'm not the guy that gives you like a marriage devices. I'm on third one. So I definitely have I'm zero for three brother

So I don't have a good track record

You know, I mean even my own kids stop talking to me for a year or two. So it's it's

I'm not the guy to give you advices on that. I'm the pro I'm the working progress

I'm the working progress. We're all working progress

Yeah, but your progress is further than mine and your wisdom is much more profound than mine right now

So it's like I'm all in on listening to you and applying it

It's awareness and the conscience is level because we are energy and we got to raise it

You know me having the awareness

And I'm just saying that we the energy and we have to connect with ourselves

It's everybody will benefit from you everybody

Your guys will love to be around you everybody like people how do you slow down? How do you slow down when you're

Fed so much from society and you have so and you're this high performer and your big CEO and you got all this other stuff

And everybody's like asking for this and the other and you got kids and there's how do you slow down boundaries

Look at this shit the boundaries

But if you don't have a boundaries with yourself because you never give a time to yourself

How can you give a boundaries to somebody else

We want a give give give there's nothing else to give

Boundaries I don't even know what it means

I didn't even know what it means and of the problems. I was never present

Everybody need to have access to me. My phone's got to have access to me

This is like like we are addicts and and tell show me it show me any successful person. I can guarantee you he's an addict. I can guarantee you that

It's addicted personality. That's why I don't drink anymore. That's why I don't do drugs anymore because what I start drinking very late in my life very late

I already retired wise

And I knew if I go this way, it's not going to work. I mean now I come to LA and of course I'm in LA

So let's do podcast because this is my new mission. I know I'm an addict

Now I want to serve I want to help 8 billion people to realize that the inner wealth that we create our outer world through the inner world

But we don't take care of ourselves

That's why so much toxicity so much hate in this world so much killing so many more's we we are divided by the politics by the

Religion by men women by transit transgender by color by social status by financial status and I know the day

We just want to be loved and connect with other people

That's what we're born here for

But we're playing this comparison game

Social media is the biggest gift brother and guess what we're just looking with scrolling like I can look at like

That the algorithm and I know who you're gonna be three five years from now

Like I tell my kids give me tell me what you read give me your routines tell me show me what you look at on the on the

Because social media is the biggest gift if you know how to use it

How would you recommend using it based on

Watch your own

Well mostly I give you that for I will go back to the question

And it's a true story and and love your brother

I know you're gonna you know what I'm talking who I'm talking about

I have a my my my amazing friend. He's my attorney, right?

And he's a colombia

Something through my feet came

Our feet as like colombia. Yeah, we don't say papa with a papacito

You know cocaine drugs alcohol blah blah blah what goes to colombia staying colombia and and he moved to colombia

And I saw that the clip and I send it to him

I said joke is like oh, that's why you in colombia

Brother for the next three days my whole algorithm changed

I have only colombia. I have cocaine. I have alcohol and all this stuff

But that's what we do to ourselves

We got to change the algorithm with us what what we what the task what task process we put in you know what love we put in what food

We put in what drink we put in what the exercise we put in what boundaries we put in

And the stillness and what how do we treat ourselves?

You know 53 years old man that goes in the mirror every day like I love him what the fuck. I'm gonna take care of you today

I neglect you for so many years. I will fucking take care of you. I will put a good touch in you. Love all but that's

I will talk to God. I will put a faith in you and it's just

You do the everyday just affirmation every single day

every single day

We do if you are fool

Everybody will benefit

Can you imagine like running on the empty tank in the car and you on the highway?

It's like it's a traffic and there's nothing like fuck fuck fuck. How will I get there?

I don't know how to get full

I don't I don't know how to fill my cup. It's like

Especially where after you get a divorce and you're kind of like searching again for

Meaning because I'm like you. It's like here. I am. It's like

Success money

All that we got that now here. I am like building a brand podcasting. It's like a totally different venture not paying

It's like my contribution to society

You know trying to like impact the world yet you're you're still trying to fill your cup

Because see what happened is when you get to divorce like we're not up and right to meet divorce happen six years ago, right?

You have to understand

I

My definition of love it was my wife and my kids. This was my definition. Yeah

And now suddenly I'm 40 years old man and it was taken away

48 it was taken away from me. Yeah

Anything I ever put a vocabulary in love

That's what is that I need somebody to love

And the little Yarek was fuck you asshole. What about me where you gonna take care of me

But it took me years after divorce after all this stuff to to find out that I'm the most important

If you tell people selfish, it's a bad word. You know what? Maybe but if you don't take care of yourself

You're not gonna be able to keep anybody else

Love is loving you you are love you are abundance you don't need anything from the outside

Anything can be taken away not you

You know if there are banks of see you know, there's bankruptcy. There's you know

You know a hardship anything's going on the kids the wife that you know you lose close one

Just normal it's gonna happen

It's hard but it can take away you

You know the you contextualize it in a way that's so understandable. It's like

Your wife can leave you your kids will leave at some point

Your business partner leaves your everybody

Moves on and it will happen, but God will send you the obstacles

To teach you a lesson God loves you and you you were you were you were you we are on this word on this word to serve

We're not entitled to shit

We already got a body we're already alive. That's the biggest internal you can possibly get

And we're not thankful for that

You know that I start thinking my body after the ski accident when I and I've been hospital six months 13 surgery almost last my leg

I was always grateful. I never think my body. I never think my heart to beat

I never said that I thank you that I have hands that I have a brain that I can comprehend

Never said that

I have to go through tragic accident to like holy shit. I'm alive. I have a leg. I have a hand. I have everything

Was it the ski accident that created this transformation?

Was that a catalyst? I was you know what I was

You know what it was the first obstacle

That I missed that got sent it to me at it's time to wake up

Get out of there bubble the reality that the delusion or reality that

You know from the outside world

There was the first

But I did not get the message

So this was first was the skiing

Then then it was divorce then after divorce was losing my kids for a while

That was like that that that was like how do you lose your kids for all they just decided not to call you or the there's an issue

I remember I have a two older kids

So what happened is you know they remember when I never played the because remember I played the I was never present father

So when I played the world while yeah, yeah, I want to do this this while you got everything

You know, so it's like well, but I want to go to daddy

Father dense. I'm like well, I don't do that. But all the fathers do well. Do they live like us? No, so

You know, I was like that. I want to talk to you and I was like I'm in the men cave. I'm I just did 100 miles on the bike

I don't have time for that

My kids want me so they never have a message for me that always have a you know mom is to to raise you

I'm here to protect you and make sure that you have everything you know provide it

So I did I did my work

The kids language love is not a love. It's time, but I never give them a time

So when the divorce happened and mama have all the dialogue for you know 10 15 16 years. They were older

Guess what they listened to mom. They don't listen to that. Who are you now? You're gonna all know you different your father

Where you were for the last 16 18 12 years of my life

And I own it. I deserve it because I was never present

But I didn't know how to be present with them because I didn't know how to be present with myself

There was always something

So they listened to the dialogue that they've been listening. I was always in raising my kids on the back seat

Not even on the driver's seat on the back seat. Yeah, go to mom. Go to mom. Go to mom

You know, I mean, I just wrote a check

Well

We all you know mom is the primary caretaker. There's not much we can do as as fathers. No, I have my kids know 77 and and it's like

You know what I I bullet eat

Again, that's that's that's what the society wants us to to to believe but what happened is we are the kid because what happened is

We can spend time and be present with our kids and we never are because we're busy

Yeah, you know that my dad. I was going um

Notaka. I love you. So, but I'm gonna say it a year six months ago. I was driving with my oldest daughter. She got a job in montonk

And I was driving to

Montonk long island right montonk, okay, right? And I'm like, let me drive with you. So I can go

You know, I drive with you. I love it. So we and I you know spend you know father-daughter time

She told me a story that she learned how to ride a bike some kind of trick

She remembered detail for detail that she came home. She was waiting waiting for me and and

To show me the trick. I got out of the car out of the garage. I was on the phone

Brother, I have an idea who the fuck I was on the phone. I don't remember that shit at all

I was on the phone and she was waiting to show me the trick finally. She has to go back

She has to go back to bed and go to and and you know

There was a bad time. She never did

She still remembered that I have an idea who was on the phone with who was my client if I make money or not

But she took this experience

16 years later

And live with her my dad never have time was everybody was more important than me

I don't even know. I don't even remember that

But she does

I'm just teaching I'm preaching. I'm telling like all the stuff. I'm going the stages. I'm going to podcast

Six months ago. I'm coming back

I have a podcast with some I don't know. I was in there in my group with Dean Dean and Tony and and

my son text me

That there's a graduation and everybody wants to write a letter, you know for for him for graduations

So that just you know make sure that you guys write the siblings rise, you know

The uncles and and everybody to know my son because they were middle school graduation

When I got out of the the the podcast it was like I have like 380

I remember that I have 300 text messages and there was like probably 20 for my kids

But I just scroll through it about this message

I'm driving for Miami. I was on the stage. I'm driving to Miami with my best friend

My son calls me crying. I can't believe it. I can't believe it

I'm like, wow, what happened and he's crying

That today there was revealing the letters

Everybody got 10 20 letters six letters. I got one

Oh my fuck. I start crying like are you kidding me

Now I have to process this in four months because now imagine like he's not important

He got you know how many uncles he has and he's got four siblings

He got one letter

Just out of my house he could get six

He got one

He trusted me. He sent me the text message because he knew I'm gonna send to my brothers from my brother

He just for my brother who he will get like 100 letters

He got one

Because dad was in prison

That scroll through the text messages because you know, he can now be 278 text messages

And that's what we do

And I could hurt my son for the rest of his life. I wasn't ever important. I was never enough. My dad never cared. My dad never loved me

Dude, I was in the podcast. I got 380 text messages. I can give you a lot of excuses. He doesn't care about them. No

But that's what we do to ourselves. I'm getting goosebumps

That's what we do to ourselves to

The love one I'm waking us up, but we don't listen

Son daughter you don't get it like I have a you know my third wife goes like I don't care about the money

I just want you here because we have all the money shut up

Well, I'm gonna learn the lesson

We want to do everything for everybody nothing for ourselves

When we become priority when I bug when we become present with ourselves

Then suddenly even being at this

I'm present. I have a lot of just go right now. I can be my head somewhere else and be here. I'm like, what the fuck does gonna finish

It took me years to learn this too. I have a high I'm on the high spectral ADHD

Me sitting here. It's like a more than you can imagine. Yeah me too. Yeah, super high performers are always

Yeah, it's a gift

It's a gift, you know, matter fact I was talking to

My son's teacher and I and I by design I tried

Yardic to go to everything now for my kids because I'm like I don't care about money anymore

Like I'm gonna go I'm gonna go to practices. I'm gonna go to this. What do you go when you're on the phone?

That's the problem. So you're not that you see that says that you're not going there

Like I'm still working. Can you imagine like you were doing this process right now I'll be on the phone

Can you imagine that or like going to the dinner and have the phone and be on the phone

I can tell you you go to dinner with me and you on the phone and we can make a hundred or billion dollar deal

I can guarantee you what the deal's not done. We don't

I'm not doing deal with you

You disrespect me

If the phone is more important on you disrespect the server the boss boy the anybody we don't

And we do it. So I'm there and other story. I made my girl

And my son went to the

dentist and I told him that's a good one and I told him son

uh

After the dance we're gonna go rollerblading and we're gonna go for breakfast and now I'm gonna take you to school

We're in rollerblading went for the breakfast. I just met this girl right. It was like five six years ago

and and

We've been dating like six months and she asked him a question

Patrick, so what do you like to do with your father?

I'm like no

Fuck yeah

Watch this shit watch he's gonna say we're going to the you know all the lake like I mean all the Miami heat games

You know we on the floor or the boxes we go to the hockey game to the Dolphus game dump Denver Broncos game

We fly you know our jet we're gonna skink you know and the same day we're gonna skink and and scuba diving like wow tell her

I'm thinking in my head

You're not gonna believe this shit. He goes. I like to watch TV with my dad

I'm like yeah tell her more tell her tell her tell her all the stuff we do the games. There is like no

I like to watch TV with you that

I'm like well there's must be something more

ready

Yes, that I like to watch TV with you when you don't touch your phone

So I can stop the TV and ask you what you see and and I can talk about the movie

brother my tear dropped

Like what the fuck

What the fuck

Like what do we do brother?

What the fuck do we do

We do the shit unconsciously but we do it with ourselves too

So root awakening for me personally

And that's what your kids want you know it's like that undivided

Attention did it

Yeah

And mastering that is so hard y'all

What are you feeling though because I see your bodies who would not right now

This is your podcast. I know brother. I know

By the way, how many people cry on my podcast me too

You know, it's it's always emotional, but it's like I can just hear my son's voice saying that to me

It's like dad get off your phone my five-year-old telling me that

You know like I could see him like at football like

Did you see me pull the flag?

I'm on the phone

But I saw him pull the flag

Give me a thumbs up. I could see the disappointment, you know

sex

Remember we all guilty. Yeah

The devil gives us bribes a little bit this this this and then we just in it and we end the game

Yeah, and remember they're gonna raise the kids

I'm a father of five

Listen consciously unconsciously my parents my teachers hurt me

They didn't know they programmed me the way they were programmed

By the pain by lack of knowledge by lack of wisdom walk lack of awareness. I did the same thing

And now I'm speaking to wake the people up

That we have everything within us and we need to be present we got to connect with ourselves

We got to connect with our kids

So there's less suicides people are happier people don't look for the instant gratification

You know mean and and and because that's

They gonna model exactly what you do

You know like I read 12 books a week

And what happened? I was always reading the books on audiobook so they can you know me and my friend told me few years ago. It's like

Like dude you read so much like dude your kids read right and I'm like no and he goes

You read so much. I'm like oh no, I don't read at the audiobooks like I don't have time for that like I like the other book

And he goes so how does your kids know your kids thinks that you on the phone all the time doing business or scrolling or a social media or something

I'm like what the hell

I'll start reading

Now my kids start like starting books

Are you know going to my daughter 13 went to like a you know once in nobles buying books once like wow

I did not tell him I don't eat sugar for two years

Don't eat sugar. Don't ask him. It's bad for your brother. But yet. I'm eating sugar

my son just last like

Start cutting like you know

17 pounds

Just cutting sugar

I cannot tell the kids don't watch TV you watch TV. Don't watch the you know mean the the phone and then do you watch

They watch

Yeah

They see but I work look at the way you live shut the fuck up like don't complain

They don't care about any of the shit

Seriously

They better be with me with the economy class in the less room of the season on my private jet and it's

That's what I care. That's what I want

Toddler kids don't wait in line

They do now

I met my girl

We flying to Poland we in the first class line and I'm like don't come here. This is online

You know, this is like you know up by 6,000 hours for the ticket to go to Europe and he goes like no

I'm back over there with the economy. I'm like no, no, this is our line right here. I pay for it

This is like this is the and she goes we're still in the same place. We're still going on the one playing

I'm like what that's wrong with you

We entitled to all this stuff

So now with your kids like your present no phone hi brother. I'm still screwing this up

We just don't refund the podcast, right? It's like you you got to do better 1% every day

You will scrub I like I just scrub like a few months ago with the freaking with the letter. I screw up all the time

But catching and like knowing and having the awareness

I want to be present. I want to like I'm trying to do everything. I'm trying to make up the time that I lost

But the problems we cannot change the past we can only change the future and actually the moment is now

I'm trying but it's it's not in my subconscious mind to sit be present and talk to the kids

I have to learn this stuff. It's uncomfortable. I don't know how to ask questions even

How was your day? I don't even know that

I was never present. I have to learn. I have to read books

I have to listen to podcasts. I have to listen to social media of

parenting

I'm learning

Like we learn about stuff about what business? Yeah, you know me this is more important than business

believe me

When you and I can guarantee you who anybody's listen to right now when you connect with yourself and you become present and you really

Figure out that your inner world truly truly in few years creates your outer world

Your business the abundance will come

You

You are love you are wanted and you got everything you need within you

Believe me your your outer world will change

You will get to the plane you will get to not a house you will get to the beach house the ski house

Whatever you want the European house European everything will get there

But take your time

slower is better. We are we are on the journey and the journey. There's no destination

It's who we become on the journey. That's how we have all the hardships

You know for me was the ski trip for me. I mean ski is key accident to me was the divorce first second third

For me was the kids

You know mean financial struggles it was

Was it just the lessons but it was to learn from those the lessons

But we are programmed by our parents. We got to reprogram myself. You know how nice this you know how nice it is to program yourself the way who you want to be

That's what your parents told you to be

I love my parents my parents are still are the 85 maybe two

They have no idea what they want to be

To make them happy they still don't know they're gonna die like that

We are the generational changes

We have the resources to figure out like how to improve and program yourself from with side out

How who do you truly want to be and who you truly are

And it's not gonna take a month or a year. It's a journey brother

But you know we're not we're not people like you don't want to ask people like who are you the first thing?

I'm on to printer. I'm a father. You know, I'm a boss. I'm the husband. I'm people give you all the titles. What?

The identity

Who who truly you are like like like like I and and my question like who who is Yardic it keep changing?

I can't be bothered and keep finding who I am

But you're not gonna hear me. I'm the father. I'm an entrepreneur. I'm a you know business real stick you guru

I'm a little Polish guy trying to figure it out life

I want to share with the world so they don't freaking stop killing themselves. They go through depression or through the burnout

The burnout is a bullshit story. We're just chasing something that we never will chase

You got a couple last questions. This one's about raising your kids

How are you because you know you came dead broke from Poland and you built an empire real estate empire

How are you instilling that same level of grit that mindset into your kids to really work hard to accomplish

The same kind of lifestyle because they've been handed everything

Flying on private jets sitting on you know the floor seats of the Miami. How do you instill hustle into kids that are you know given?

You know a true silver spoon. I mean a silver spoon is not even

It's an understatement

That's a good question actually and I've been as the question a lot

And you know like the question comes a lot around very wealthy families

a lot of the dinner tables when we sit down and talk

And the answer is one we got to teach them. They're not gonna have the grit. They're not gonna have the hunger

They're not

They don't need to

They need to have the emotional intelligence

To be able to use all the resources that we have we give it to them

And that's hard

Not the IQ not the BQ business intelligence not the technology that the TQ

The EQ the emotional intelligence being able to use all the resources and all the knowledge

That you'll buy parents my grandparents the past because there's so many families. I follow so many families

They're wealthy generation to generation

That's what they do

That's what we got to implement bring the awareness

Yeah, like Trump was

Given what $100 million to start but so why yeah, but we can say this but then he took it and took it in the next level

Yeah, and then how his younger in his boys now

Yeah, Eric Trump became a billionaire on his own started you know

It is emotional intelligence

Being able to teach him being able exactly

Being able it's like what you cannot just not give it to them. You got to give it to them. You spoil them

But you gotta you gotta teach him how to use it and when you're not present you cannot do it

You can't use you can do it

You'll kiss will not start like my kids did not not suddenly I'm gonna start listening because the father said so

Couple last questions

This is a goal question. What's a personal goal that you have for yourself?

A family goal that you have for your family

And I don't even know if you have any business goals, but we'll throw that in there too

My personal goals is to reach

8 billion people in this world to

Help them to find themselves find the purpose of fulfillment and

Happy life to get out of the devices and the algorithm for the instant gratification and quick dopamine hits

so reach people to

Enjoy the journey not the destination and that person they become on a journey

So that's my personal. I want to reach 8 billion people

Am I delusional? Maybe I am, but that's my goal

And it wakes me up every single morning

What is it go for my family? Definitely read right them

help them

Make sure the mic is truly know who they are

Not what the father wants them. That's what the mother wants them when that's what the society wants them to do at the

truly truly want and

Find a purpose of fulfillment in life and happiness

for business

I want to change my culture of my companies

So

It's very hard in business be not transactional

But just um change the culture like like my my infancy will be just

Whatever I'm I'm teaching. I'm preaching when I'm gonna go on the stages my books. It just

Change the culture of my company and be more present and spend more time with them

You know me because they have access to me

One last question

When you're in front of the pearly gates

What do you think I was gonna tell you

You're just pretty good during your life, you know big I

It's you know what that's a good it's funny. I talked about it

Two days ago to my friend

I think there are life is preparing us for afterlife

So you better go and serve and whatever you going through hard or good go shared with some people because people need to hear your story and I think

That's the biggest thing that I'm preparing for my afterlife

But I'm gonna still have another 70 years brother. I'm obsessed if it comes to my my health. Yeah, what I put in it

Sorry, I'm completely obsessed with this so

No, we're all biohacking. We're all cutting. Yeah, I'm huge a biohacking. I'm huge on the soul hacking

I want to figure out like more who truly truly I am and

And the longevity

It's huge, but I'm also go deep in the spirituality my soul my spirit my heart my love faith with God faith with

Who literally are that's that's that's that's my goal. No, you look like you're gonna live another 70 years. Oh hell

Yeah, watch me I have more energy right now being 53 than I was 16 or 20

I'm the I'm in the best shape and also the the most energetic. I've ever been myself now 44. Yeah, so I get it

I'm telling you the global

You know like this but financially like globally financially we are connected the same thing with through all the wisdom education and technology

And the biohacking now. There's a guy from India. We we all sharing the wisdom right now

We have access. We don't need the doctor. We don't need the attorney. We don't need anybody anymore

We can access it from everywhere else

So we can live better quality life

You know have and up to I'll I tell people when you fix your inner world and you freaking truly happy

Suddenly you only see happiness outside. I'm telling you your wife is hotter. You have a better sex

Your partner your kids are smarter because suddenly when you truly only have love and positivity and and

and like

Ecstasy in you you only see the good stuff suddenly you don't see the bad stuff

So that's what that would be my biggest goal

Yark this has been one of my favorite podcasts. This is uh, thank you brother lots of profound wisdom

You've been very very inspirational motivational and it's a true testament that you know who cares about money

I mean, I know like we fortunately like money came as a result or by product of our efforts, but

It's our inner self. That's like the most important and you really

Inspired me to really reflect more and

Despite the fact that there's anybody listening like just if you touch one soul

This show was worth it. I'm sure you're gonna touch a lot of soul. Thank you brother

God bless you. I hope you hit all of your goals

You know, and may there be more fruit in the relationship and growth with your children and all the people and I hope you know

You touch 8 10 20 billion people because I know that you're gonna live another hundred years

And that's the funny whoever listens right now

We do have lots of time nothing has to happen now and and why I supposed to be a lot farther than this in life

No, you supposed to be exactly where you are

You don't mean stop with the regret for giving yourself as the biggest freaking gift

And it's not easy to forgive you some more because I shoot in my hood if I don't

Shut off

We are here today with exactly what we're supposed to be. That's it

Yeah, I get people want to connect to them. How did they find you?

Find me on Instagram YouTube Instagram channels the best one

Toddla Yarek is

It's not like my first in a lesson. We're gonna put a link and

YouTube all my social media then you when you put my name you'll be fine

Toddla Yarek and Yarek is J J-A-R-E

Thank you Toddla. Thanks. It's been a thank you to our kids. It's been a pleasure

To have you on the show. It's been an absolute blessing. I'm inspired. I'm pumped up. God bless you

Thank you for for jumping on coffees for closures

Yarek Toddla make sure you connect with him guys. This guy is going to change the world. God bless

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