Go Ask Molly March 31

0:00Go ask Molly, what should you do? She'll understand what you're going through. You need sage advice as you make a decision. You got to measure twice and cut with precision. Sometimes it's yet, sometimes it's no. Sometimes she'll just say, come on, checkers, let's go. So if you can feel as to melancholy, go ask Molly. Always a perfect song. Go ask Molly. People have questions. You have answers. Yes. What are we dealing with today? Well, and we just put it up on the Facebook. So please hop on or you can comment on our text line or you can comment on YouTube now. And we will check it. All right. So I'll check Facebook. You check text.

1:00Quinn will be on YouTube. OK. We'll cover all the bases. So if you want to chime in, please chime in. Here's the question. Light and simple. My friends, kids are rude. I love my friend, but our kids are just rats. She claims that she lets them express themselves. However, they feel fit. They are 8 and 10, and they run their house. No, please, no, thank you. They don't pick up after themselves, and they are rude. I'm all for letting a kid be a kid, but I think she's doing them a great to service, doing them a great to service to them. There's an extra them in there. And of course, they are homeschooled. She always wants us to gather at her house, but none of us want to go there because of her kids. I know it's bad to try to tell people how to raise their kids, but is it OK to tell her that we don't want to go there because of them? I think that's two different things. I think maybe you're not supposed to tell, but you can absolutely be like, look, you can raise your kids the way you want, but we're not coming to your house because they're rude.

2:01But then when do you say to the, I mean, can you say that to somebody? She probably knows their rude. I mean, to me, it's rare that you have an 8 and 10-year-old that aren't a little rude. Unless they're very well parented or coached, and the fact that they're homeschooled, I think that you would think that the parents would have a lot of time with them, too. I would think, you know, sometimes you have school angels home devils, so they're very well behaved at school and then they come home in their jerks. And sometimes, which is even more frightening is if they're horrible at school and come home and they're perfect at home. That's the one that's scary because that means that they're not feeling comfortable at home. But if you're with them all the time, how can you bear it? I mean, if I were homeschooling a brat, that would be ridiculous. You'd think they'd have even more lines, you know, because they're all the time. They're never going to school. I don't, there's a fine line between letting a kid,

3:03I mean, sometimes when Alex was younger, I would allow him to speak in ways that maybe other adults around didn't think he should to me. But that was my choice. We have our own relationship and he can be a smart Alec with me and he can be demanding of me and that's who we are together. Now, I would not let him be that with somebody else. I wouldn't, if he was being rude to somebody else, I would knock it off. But I never appreciated when somebody would step in and say, no, that's not how you talk to your grandmother. Like, well, yes, it is. That's exactly how he talks to his grandmother. I am his grandmother and I told him he could talk to me that way. So that's tricky. But if he started being that way with other people, then you can't do that. And I'm a grandma, it's different, you know? Different. I don't know, what are you guys saying? Thoughts? What do you think? Concerned statements. You can text in your thoughts via the Dutch Post Textline 509-448-3237. And then there's also, you can comment through YouTube

4:04if you're seeing all of this happen. Yes. And the Facebook as well. Yes. Everybody. That's a tough age. I don't know that you can make firm decisions based on some kids' behavior at 8 and 10. I don't know. Well, obviously, they've been a long time since I had little ones. Yeah. And 8 and 10, that's kind of those are feeling there, you know? They can be kind of jorky anyway. I think, personally, I think it's within your reason to say something about at this juncture, where your kids are. Maybe it's best that we don't have a gathering of adults. Doesn't seem like it's fun for them. Definitely not fun for us. So maybe you don't suggest them to that. Debbie on the text line says, yes, say something better to be honest than not saying anything at all. Yeah. Oh, if they're going to wonder. Maybe you can invite the person over to your house

5:05and invite them over and be like, yeah, we're having a no kids type of night and try to do it more in that sense to like, not maybe offend them, because I know, particularly when the kids are at those ages, I agree that it's hard to make any conclusions and things on them, but maybe try to have an adult only night at your house. Or be more specific and say, yes, some kids, but no 8 or 10 year olds. Yeah. So we just, I mean, we just, but all, you know, we just decided, I mean, it may change in a couple. Well, I don't know if this person, it will change next year. Yeah, oh, yeah. I don't know if this person has their own kids or not, either. Because that makes a big difference. If you have your own kids, you totally understand. But also if you have your own kids, you, you have something to base it on. Like, well, I don't want it in my kids acting like this. If you don't have them and you've never been around an 8 and a 10 year old, then really it's kind of tricky. On Facebook, Aaron says, absolutely not unless you want to kiss your friendship goodbye. I suggest a mom's night out or start a book club,

6:06something that the kids aren't allowed to do or attend. I have a friend with an out of control kid and keeps things separate, especially because I don't want my kids around him. Baron up. That's a good, that's a good point. Jesslyn on the sex line, invite her out to a bar for drinking. If she doesn't go for that, when you do something for the kids, say very loud in a strong voice, you're welcome. I think I said it the right way she'd want. Yeah, I'm pretty good. Well, and I know kids go through their different phases. There were times when I was parenting where I just knew that it wasn't going to work. I knew what was appropriate. I knew what my son could handle and I also knew the safe space because I raised him with our friends and their daughters. So I knew anything that happened within that realm we all understood that everybody's going through phases

7:07and everybody's going to be a jerk for a while and sometimes we're not going to want to be around those kids right now. So I understand, but I was also very sensitive to it. I mean, I knew that that was the case. I knew where I couldn't couldn't bring him. He was never rude to people. He would just quietly run away. I was like, where is he? Is that your kid up there in the tree? Oh, thank you. He was more ornery, but he was always polite to other people. But you've got to know what's appropriate for your kids. I don't understand the people who want their kids with them no matter what. It's not always appropriate. Even if they're well behaved, still you don't. It's not you're acting doing things that you don't want them to see you do as an adult and that's not really fair to always bring a kid into an adult environment. Phil says, hire kid actors and then have them around during the get together to show them how to behave. Oh, very simple plan. It's hired the kid actor.

8:08So first get some actors and then pay for them and then hope that they will do as the others do. I mean, I don't know if there's a I do think you're going to have to just make other plans. And if she says, well, why don't you ever come over to my house? Maybe just say it seems like there's a lot going on. You got the kids, your homeschooling. We don't want to add to the burden. Oh, no, no, it's no burden. My kids love having you over. Oh, no, it's a burden. Oh, it's a burden. It's a burden for us. John on the text line says, you can let your kids express themselves. However, basic manners should always be part of that. If you don't like the way your friend is raising their kids, just don't go over there as much, right? Yes. Natasha says, I just tell them, I love you. And I love hanging out with you, but I'm going to be honest.

9:09Sometimes the kid's behavior feels a little rude to me. And it makes it hard to relax. Can we plan some get-togethers outside of your place? Yeah, we can try it. As soon as the word rude comes up, the mom's cackles go up. Mm-hmm. They just say rude. Did you already read your own red events? They're coming in fast, coming in hot and fast. I don't think we've read this one. No. Listen, 1.84, your kids are rude to parents, but never in front of other adults. Teachers, adults always said how well behaved my kids were. And I was so grateful. I would let your friend know that you will not gather at her house and say, adults only. Mm-hmm. All right. Adults only. And again, more specifically, no 8 and 10 year olds. Oh, you have a 12 and a 15 year old. They're invited, but no 8 and 10 year olds not invited. All right. Anything on YouTube that we need to know about?

10:11No, nothing super pressing coming through on the go-ass Molly at the moment, getting some comments about some other things. I think our slate delay. Oh, yes. That's right. People are very excited. The Quinn is back. Look at this. Multiple Quinn mentions here on YouTube. Yep. Yeah, thank you all. Very excited to be back. It's been super fun. It's like old times again, getting back into it. But it's an adjustment in the mornings, huh? Yeah, it is. Getting back to that summer. Yeah, the summer time. Which I don't know if I've ever actually been with you guys through the summer. You haven't. No, I don't think so. You started in September and then I think it was March of last year when. Yeah, so no real spring in summer months. But I'm super excited. Yeah. I already know next Tuesday's going to be tough for me after the national championship game Monday night. Oh, you're being good company though. But I'll be in good spirits after that, so. Your boys can phone it in. I got you. Obviously, obviously before the last bucket scores. I have watched five minutes of basketball

11:12through this entire thing. Wasn't Nebraska? I don't even know that it would make. Maybe. And it was at the casino as I was passing by going to my car. Well, there's only three more games left. We got two Saturday and then the championship game Sunday or Monday, the championship game every time because we used to host a thing. And it would be on and then we would do prizes and stuff. So we'd watch it for different gatherings, different settings. But like, yay, I'll tell you what the most fun I ever had was when who's the gal that it was the it was the women's finals. And it was what's the Katelyn Clark that was that was really fun. We all gathered to watch that. It was that there's a great new commercial capital one commercial. Uh-huh. They've now hired Caitlin Clark. Have you seen that one? I have. It's got it's got it's got it's got all the regular people Charles

12:13Barclay and Samuel L. Jackson everything, but she's, you know, shooting three points with, you know, food and landing and stuff. Yeah. It's very funny. Yeah. Hidden Charles Barclay with stuff and things like that. My face is not a backboard. Yeah. Terrible. Terrible. I like that. I hope she's making big money, too, because she just had a big CBA negotiation deal, my WMBA news. So now that it's still not the same money wise compared to the men, but they're making a ton more from what they were making. So like it's like triple. Yeah. It's like triple. So their max deal is I think up to like a 1.6 million or something like that now, which was only like 350,000 before. So it's a huge jump. So making some progress there. We were talking the other day, because they was quizzing me. But I claimed I knew all the baseball team names. I knew almost none of them when he started quizzing me, but I actually knew more NBA than I thought I would.

13:13So then he started in with the WMBA and then he said, well, Quinn would know all the, you know all the team names. I do. I should. Yeah. And there's a couple that are moving around now and a couple new ones coming soon. So it'll be, but I said, you believe I know them all and you know all the hockey teams. I think so. Yeah. Probably at the top of my head. I don't think I can name all the hockey teams. But if you like listed the cities, I could tell you what their team is. OK. NBA. I can do probably all of them just off the top of my head baseball, not off the top of my head. I think I would know baseball is my like least. The sport that I know the least about to be totally a part of the MLB. So I think if you gave the same to everything, if you gave me all the cities, I think I could tell you what the mascots are, Orioles, Washington, Nationals, San Francisco, Giants, go back. You know, you used to have a team or one of those Canadian cities and he's so proud of her joke. Yeah. All right. Let me see if there's any more comments on the Facebook and then we will call it good.

14:20Any more Texan. I think there were a couple more Texan. Mostly they're about quink hot, wins a hot topic today. Oh, yeah. A lot of heat on Quinn. There's one more teller you'd like to get her out of her busy home for mommy time. That's a good idea. I think you can avoid it until the kids get out of the root face. I mean, I do. I think you can just push them off and push them off and just be not available. And if she wants to do something, then go somewhere else say, oh, let's do it at my house. What if she says do it at your house? Then she brings the root kids with her. Oh, boy. Then we've got trouble. Then we've got real trouble. So well, good luck, D. And the moral of the story is don't have root. That's good. Molly has said so weird to see the person I've heard only by voice. So happy Quinn is there. And I love watching, listening, so they're 30 years strong now. Have they never seen you, Quinn? I guess not. No, maybe not. Because we weren't ever really on video. We'd occasionally post a picture on our social media, but that's probably about all

15:21I've really, my face has been in. Not going to pay bullies a star. Most people would be like, now, is it possible to just do it? We just have Quinn on. We still want you guys to talk. We like your funny banter, but could we just have it be Quinn? Maybe a couple other young people from the building. Just put the camera on that. We need to hire actors to play it. We need Olivia to get it. What if Olivia and Quinn sit here, and then we're off, and then there's moving their mouths and we're doing funny things behind the scenes.