God, Please Change My Spouse! What to Do When Your Marriage Expectations Don’t Match Reality

Are you praying that the person you married becomes more like the person you THOUGHT you married? 

In this episode, you'll discover why praying "God, please change my wife / husband" may not be the right kind of prayer... and how you can build a thriving marriage by focusing on personal growth, realistic expectations, and true understanding.

Marriage can be beautiful, but it comes with some real challenges—especially when the quirks and habits that once seemed cute become real irritants. To help you navigate this common struggle in marriage, Steve and Mary Alessi explore how to identify when a quirk is just that—and when a situation may warrant setting up healthy boundaries. 

If you're looking for practical, faith-based advice to strengthen your relationship, avoid common pitfalls, and find humor in the journey, this episode is for you. Whether you're newly married or decades in, you'll walk away with actionable insights for building a marriage that lasts.

Key topics in this episode:

• Why praying for your spouse to change may be the wrong approach
• The "couch dance": How dating evolves into marriage
• Handling personality differences and minor irritants
• When to set boundaries for serious issues

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