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2:34 This reception had an alphabetical seating arrangement https://www.reddit.com/r/weddingshaming/comments/1ozovwd/i_recently_went_to_a_wedding_reception_where_the/
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13:57 My cousin faked her own wedding to get money and gifts https://www.reddit.com/r/weddingshaming/comments/1lnj7ps/my_cousin_faked_her_own_wedding_to_get_money_and/
23:58 I had a "no ring, no bring" wedding https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1p1clk7/aita_for_having_a_no_ring_no_bring_wedding/
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34:15 Best man speech was incredibly insulting to the couple https://www.reddit.com/r/weddingshaming/comments/1lq2q4q/best_man_speech_was_incredibly_insulting_to_the/
44:35 They want my daughter to be the flower girl but I'm not invited https://www.reddit.com/r/weddingshaming/comments/1m1nztb/they_want_my_daughter_to_be_a_flower_girl_at/
57:52 He won't dance at our wedding https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/pz9qil/he_wont_dance_at_our_fing_wedding_i_think_ive/
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Hello, welcome to Smoshreads Reddit Stories.
I'm Shane and today's theme is wedding and I'm joined by two people who are about to get married
right now.
Courtney and Rasha.
It's us, yes.
Actually, guys, I have to tell you something.
This is so crazy.
I'm actually not getting married.
Wait, what?
I know.
I know.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
What if you're going by a Russia and only a Russia so that one day you could be a Russia?
Miller.
That was the plan.
Actually, though, I don't know if I told you guys too because Rory the other day was here
and saw the save the date on the fridge and came over and was like,
oh my god, I didn't know you were getting married.
You got one last person.
Oh, I get last casualty.
But I was like, oh, that saved the date so hideous.
And that's that's wow.
Are you offended that they thought that was real?
Yeah.
That's tough.
Yeah, they were like, I wasn't going to say anything, but green.
Oh my god.
Well, today we have a ton of wedding stories.
We've done wedding stories before and they're always the best.
Yeah.
They're the most drama-filled.
Emily and Bailey have found a new subreddit that they've been scouring
called Wedding Shaming.
Ooh.
They've had some stories from there in the past,
but they've really delved into it.
And boy, do people make some choices at weddings?
Oh, yeah.
So I've heard.
I wonder if there would be like ring talk in it, too.
Ring talk.
You know, like ring talk.
Ring, ring.
I'm assuming there's some of that.
I'm assuming someone's going to wear a white tool wedding.
Oh, of course.
Oh, but I never understand that choice that people make.
They know it's such a blatant rule.
Yeah.
But people go for it.
I assume with those rules, maybe there are just outliers, though, right?
Like genuinely, people that haven't caught up with.
Some people don't know.
Some people just think they're above rules sometimes.
That's true.
But I'm special, though.
Yeah, that's true.
But it's a really cute white dress.
But it's so cute.
It's so cute.
Shane, can I say the joke?
Can I say the joke?
Say the joke.
Welcome to Weeding Wedded Wedding Stories.
Let's just cut that and put it into the beginning.
Into the beginning.
They'll fix it in the edit.
Yeah.
That was what you're going to make it work.
Yeah.
Um, shall we hop into our first wedding story?
Okay.
Yes.
Let's just all get married at the end of this.
Yeah, that'll be great.
Yeah, I've never been, I've never been.
Okay.
And then you know, we could leave Shay now.
Just okay.
Okay, we're good.
Okay, yeah.
Our first story comes from wedding shaming.
This was posted a few months ago.
I was in recording this.
I recently went to a wedding reception
where the seating arrangements were alphabetical
by first name.
Oh, fun.
All the ants and bobs at one table,
all the Joes and Katie's at another,
regardless of whether or not any of them knew each other.
If you came as a plus one and didn't know
anybody besides your date, too bad.
No exceptions.
Strictly alphabetical.
Except for my one friend, Caitlin,
who was seated at the K table for some reason.
No, I still don't know why.
Sounds like a typo.
Okay.
There was one table that was pretty much just
women named Sue, Susan, Suzanne,
who didn't know each other.
There was one table where a guy I know,
his current girlfriend and his ex
all got seated together.
Oh.
Basically, everybody ended up standing
around the edges of the room all night at it
because I've answered this 10,000 times already.
Caitlin's name was spelled correctly
on the seating chart and on her place card.
That's why it's funny that she was seated at the K table.
No, it wasn't a hastily corrected spelling error.
The seating chart was hand-inked calligraphy
without any awkward crossouts.
They wrote Caitlin on purpose in the middle of a bunch of K names.
That's why it was worth commenting on.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
And at number two, can we please all chill out a little?
Nobody died.
Nobody cried.
Some people swapped seats around
and it made for a good story.
At the end of the day, it was a nice wedding.
Also, we all know the one thing that really matters
that a reception is that the food was damn good.
Okay. Wow.
I'm gonna be honest after all of this
because the wild choice, after all of this,
I have a couple thoughts just about O.P.
I love this.
I love this.
It wasn't their wedding.
It was just a wedding they went to.
That's supposedly that was not a shaming,
but it has me wondering if O.P.
If this was their wedding and they're like,
ah, this is crazy.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, they did this.
And then it's like, edit too.
Stop!
Guys, they're gonna chill out!
Stop!
But even regardless of that,
I love when people post things,
this goes for anywhere on social media.
When they post things and then they're surprised
by the internet being the internet.
Right, yeah.
You see it a lot on TikTok,
where they're like, guys, my boyfriend's so crazy,
he doesn't wash the dishes.
And then the next one's like,
guys, stop being mean to my boyfriend.
Don't make these actually great.
He loves me very much, just teasing him.
You put this out?
Yeah.
The internet was the internet.
100%.
That is so interesting.
It very much could be.
Because it feels like a bold choice
that's almost like a joke.
Like, it was meant to make everyone mingle.
Exactly.
Yeah, yeah.
It was supposed to be like,
a cute, quirky, everyone get to know each other.
Yeah.
Maybe Caitlin was at the wrong table
because it's like,
K-tlin.
Like, K-tlin.
Oh.
Oh.
K-tlin.
Like, it's because it's K-tlin.
K-tlin.
Yes.
Yes.
K-tlin.
That's really good.
See, and that tells me that these people are funny.
They have a good idea of like,
oh, wait, that's like smart.
Yeah.
Wait, K-tlin.
This is really quirky and cool.
Oh.
But it is.
I think that's really funny.
That is something that like from our view,
not attending this wedding,
not having to sit by your ex or anybody like that.
It is funny from afar.
It's all, yeah.
It has been thinking of a lot of fun ways
to have seating arrangements
that are also extremely messed up.
But like, to organize the entire seating chart
by height difference.
So, tallness to shortest.
And you just, please don't tell anybody.
And they'll show up and they're all there.
They're like, I think everybody at that table's really tall.
And we're all really short.
I know what table I would want to be at.
Yeah.
You organize it by like hottest to least hottest.
And nobody knows that every time they're like, wait a second.
It was like funniest.
Yeah, you don't tell people what it's ranked on.
It's just like, at some point in the day,
the groom is just like, just so you know,
we see that you all in a specific order.
You must figure out what the criteria is.
Oh my god.
Let me have an ensue.
Honestly, really fun.
A really awesome.
Really awesome.
No, no, so awesome.
Because at the table,
then it makes everybody be like, okay,
so what do we all have in common?
What are we?
What are we?
What are we?
So wait, what are we?
Yeah.
It's like we were all placed here for a reason.
Why?
Ugh.
Could be a really fun, horrible game to play.
Yeah.
Murder mystery in the night.
I like it.
Yeah.
Courtney, you and I would not be sitting close together at all.
No.
I'd be so far away.
No, that's fun.
Who would have you with?
How would you have a chance?
Oh, yeah.
I'd give you Damien.
Let me be my Spencer.
Lucky.
I'd be my, I'd be my, I'd be my, you'd be the triple A.
I'd be by Amanda and Angela.
My triple A.
Triple A would be there.
A scratch-letting, chance, Courtney, Damien, Bailey.
Let's make this, let's make this the video.
Tommy would be close, just got your eye.
Let's just build the Smosh Table assignment.
Yes.
Somebody went out there and designed this.
Someone won't make it.
I remember planning an event similar to this
where I thought a version of seating with some mingling
involved would be fun, but it seemed like at the end
that people preferred just to be with the people they knew.
Because you know, people are anxious
and like to be with their friends.
And you're also stuck there, kind of.
Yeah.
Lettings are designed also, I mean, not designed,
but they're a great opportunity for a family to get together.
So you kind of remove that element.
It's like a reunion.
It, yeah.
Yeah, I think it's also particularly
cruel to separate the plus ones.
Oh, that's a rough.
That's so messed up.
Like, you came with somebody to this wedding,
and then you're like, have fun with them.
With the steak, you know?
Yeah.
Because weddings, like, people plus ones to a wedding,
it's kind of like a romantic thing.
People like see it as a cable.
You go to this wedding with me and you're like,
oh, so we're in a rom-com now.
Yes.
So that, and then you show up and then you can't sit with them.
And then, but that's also the funny scene in the rom-com
where you like, I guess I'm stuck with these weird people.
Yeah, I see the day across the place being
funny with the other people.
And you're like, he's really great, isn't he?
Yeah.
And then we were eventually.
Yeah, you know.
He's really cool, huh?
Yeah, I think he's going to be the one.
You bet his name starts with his...
Too bad his name starts with the Z.
Zander.
Zander!
Oh, that's an X.
They spelled K-1 with a K.
Zylophone.
We have comments here.
Someone said, this person loves an icebreaker
at a professional meeting.
Icebreakers mentioned.
Someone said, I'll do you one better.
I once was at a wedding where, at one point,
all the guests had to form two circles,
one inside the other.
So you would face another guest, every couple,
then had to hold each other's hand,
and everyone sang a little song about how happy they were
that the other person was here today.
And then the inner circle rotated,
so you had to do the exact same thing with a new person.
Okay.
And again and again and again.
What are you doing?
That's a, that's a, that's a cult.
No, no, see, that's not fun.
That, no, I'm not a couple, please.
You are here.
I, I love how, I love how I am really,
I was like, hello?
I love how I immediately know that that was a dry wedding.
Like, I'm like, that was a dry wedding.
That, you're not doing that shit when you're dry.
They were all so stoned.
Hammer.
And that was not in the plan.
And they all collectively did it.
So happy.
Guys, the T-dos is telling us to do this.
Someone said, why on, why on earth would anyone do this?
Laziness and lack of emotional intelligence is my guess.
OP said not laziness and not ill intentions.
Yeah.
This was, oh, this was OP's wedding.
I think this was OP's wedding, yeah.
Not laziness and not ill intentions.
I think the groom genuinely thought it was a fun way
to get all the different people.
He and the bride.
Okay, I think the groom was really fun.
The groom was really handsome.
Who's really hot and has a huge dick, by the way.
I think, I think it was, I think it was a great idea.
Yeah, yeah.
Just completely out of left field to these comments.
You're like, I think the groom is packing.
Just, you know, I got that sense.
It's like great, but the alphabetical thing.
So the alphabetical thing was weird, though.
It's like, no, that was fucking weird.
Only someone who's packing heat can do that.
Okay, someone else said, if my wife and I went to a wedding
with this BS, then we would just ignore the seating chart
and sit together.
Oh, he said we did smiling face.
Okay, so it didn't, it didn't matter.
Huh, huh.
We did smiley face.
We did smiley face.
We did smiling face.
This was OP's wedding.
Yeah, that was your fucking wedding.
Yeah, OP, we know.
You abandoned the seating chart
because you were up at the altar.
You wanted to put a post on wedding shaming to see
that everybody thought your idea was actually amazing
and they weren't going to shame it.
And it didn't work.
That's slipping past us.
That's right.
Fuck you, next story.
Oh.
Just kidding, I hope is a lovely ceremony.
If I did go to a wedding, I think I'm the type
if I went to a wedding and it was seated that way
which is so absurd and chaotic,
I don't think I'd be mad about it.
I'd be like, this is crazy.
Yeah.
Like I would get mad if it was like,
if it was designed in a way,
like very intentionally that also split people up,
this was just a pure chaos move.
I do, I'd like a break in the simulation moment.
Yeah, when you break the simulation,
you're like, what is even his seating?
Yeah, you know?
Your outies come out.
Your outies are out, the ines are in.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
And these are, they're like.
Wake up.
I'm here.
They're like, all right, you're seating chart.
You will find your name on a table.
There will also be another name on the table
that is your target.
Find them, find them, kill them.
They're searching for you too.
Yeah, they're packing the group.
The group, it'll only the group as it goes.
As a big gun.
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Our next story comes from wedding shaming.
My cousin faked her own wedding to get money and gifts.
That's just wrong.
That's just wrong.
That's so, so bad.
I can't even touch Horrible.
I can't even touch Horrible.
That's just so wrong.
Pranking about being married is horrible.
Like what?
Did she like make save the dates and stuff?
That's awful.
Did she do it on April Fool's Day?
What a best.
That's the worst of it.
What a huge piece of shit.
Yeah.
Yes, you read the title correctly.
This happened almost 20 years ago
and is still talked about amongst my family.
My cousin declared to all of us
that she met this great man.
Six months or so later, they were expected to be married.
Now, my cousin had lucked out
because my mom and aunts agree to prepare all of the food.
The wedding venue was at my uncle's house, not her dad.
He has a huge amount of land,
so the ceremony was set up outside with chairs
and there were tents put up for the reception and the food.
My mom's side of the family is big.
We have people all over the country
and some even overseas.
So we had over a hundred people
who agreed to travel far in Yonder,
rent cars and get hotels in order to attend this wedding.
Oof.
See, I didn't do that.
The morning of my cousin, the bride,
was acting so sketchy.
She was so reluctant to get ready.
She kept taking off her gown
and putting on casual clothing.
We were all so confused.
We thought she had cold feet.
Meanwhile, my mom and aunts were sweltering
in the kitchen, preparing all of this food
for all these people.
Someone noticed she kept making trips to her car
and would come back to the house,
but we were all so busy setting everything up
that we didn't focus on it too hard.
What made matters worse, the groom was nowhere to be found.
People kept telling her to call him.
She did and apparently it kept going straight to voicemail.
Guests are arriving, preparations are being made
and the groom isn't here for his wedding.
We are questioning her and asking her
what the hell is going on
and she says he had a meeting yesterday in New York
but he was supposed to come back last night but didn't.
Making it seem like he stood her up.
Instantly, we deflated because we could tell
that she was lying.
She went outside for a moment.
My aunt took her phone and looked at her call history.
She never called him once.
We all started screaming,
wondering what the hell is she trying to pull here?
My aunt calls him and he picks up.
She asks him where he is.
He says, I'm in New York for business.
She's questioning him.
How are you on business the day of your wedding?
I'm sure none of you are surprised by the fact
that he had no idea there was a wedding.
Let alone a wedding.
She was supposed to be getting married in.
He was in shock and couldn't believe
my cousin did all of this.
But he said he never proposed to her
and planned to be away this weekend
and she knew that.
We all go outside to confront her
and she's gone in the wind.
Gone in the wind.
Gone in the wind.
Gone in the wind.
She's gone in the wind.
She's gone in the wind.
Those trips to the car she was taking,
we found out later from her son
she was taking gifts and money off the table
as they arrived and stowing them in her car.
My uncle said when she came outside,
she tried to grab more,
but he stopped her from grabbing them so soon
because it looked tacky.
Not having any idea that was the whole point
for this entire charade.
He made a joke later that night.
Well, yes, this was just another family reunion.
Moments after that people were just going back and forth
about all the money they spent.
My mom spent over $700 on groceries for the wedding.
$300 rents in a car and money for a hotel.
My dress was, I don't even remember how much
from David's bridal.
I was her flower girl who never got to do her job.
Whenever I share this story with people,
they find it insane.
I absolutely agree.
But looking back on it,
it kind of makes me chuckle at how ridiculous it is.
She's still very much as the black sheep of the family.
Unfortunately, this is not the worst thing
she's done at our expense.
What?
Whoa!
This isn't the worst.
Don't still talk to her?
How did she show back up?
That's why.
How do you show back up after that?
That's why.
The reason I thought it was going to be like a heist
and her and the boyfriend did it together,
but no, he was none the wise.
No, he had a meeting in New York.
And she was gone in the wind.
It's actually, it's so sad to think about
all the stuff that she did wrong.
Like, incredibly inappropriate for her
to just involve her family overall.
What a terrible heist.
Rava Bank.
Like, at least Rob, someone you're not going to see again.
Right, it's wild.
You don't care about your family at all.
Not at all, at all.
I get infuriated when people do bad things.
I get really mad when they do them really stupidly.
Because I'm like, not only are you doing a bad thing,
you're also insulting everyone's intelligence.
You're doing a bad thing, too.
You're doing it badly and stupidly.
Yeah.
But I'm like, you're trying to get free gifts and money.
So you staged a wedding with your entire family there.
That's why.
To rob your family and just leave.
I'm like, you, okay.
But she kind of pulled it off.
I hope those gifts and money were worth losing your entire,
she didn't lose her entire family.
They're back.
They were fine.
She showed up the things giving and she was like,
hey.
Yeah.
And they were like, hey, that wasn't okay.
She's like, I'm sorry.
This is the last time she's ever going to see them.
It's truly like, I would never,
like, how could you do that with any inkling
that you might see them again?
Yeah.
It seems like they don't care.
That's just attached to her.
And it's not even her worth defense.
And this family is, seems very forgiving.
They're like, yeah.
It's been $700.
Well, that's not even the worst thing she's doing.
I know.
I'm sure they were like willing to go this far.
Like, I'm sure I'm sure they have any trust for her.
Does she have a name?
No.
I don't believe it.
I don't remember.
Caitlin.
Oh, there.
Classic Caitlin.
Classic Caitlin.
OP did comment other offenses.
Worse offenses to name some.
She's taken scholarship money for college from her son
and used it for her own benefit.
He never ended up going to college.
She stole Social Security checks from my aunt with dementia,
who was in her care, and has gotten involved
with grimy people just to make money.
Why are you talking?
Oh, well, there you go.
No, why are you talking to her?
She's a scammer.
She's a famously known scammer and a family.
Wow.
Holy crap.
How did they fall for the wedding?
Wow.
She has a kid?
I'm just saying.
Old school.
Yeah.
Like, I'm having a hard time being with her.
Like, hey, I'm good for the money.
Come on.
She made a couple thousand.
She made it.
Make you look like a pastor.
A saint.
You got to up your game.
I did nothing wrong.
You got zero money out of my life.
She's an honest woman.
You did it for the love of the game.
No.
Honestly, I'm having a hard time not being impressed.
This is, she pulled off a lot.
Awful person.
A terrible.
Kind of cool.
Like, but awful.
Yeah.
Like terrible.
Like terrible.
No, robbing your children, robbing your aunt with dementia, like you're the worst kind
of thief.
Horrific.
And the fact that her family is still keeping her around, it's really sad.
It's so interesting.
I know.
I'm like, wait.
Yeah.
Come on.
Maybe at that point.
Sorry, the sun.
The sun's in college now.
So she's like.
Well, the sun can't.
Well, the sun can't.
He can't go to college because she took the scholarship money.
Yeah.
Okay.
But she said he never ended up going to college.
He never went to college.
This person is not just like a girl in her early 20s, get a little cash, get it back.
Like, this is a grown, grown woman doing this stuff.
And she's just continued to do this.
That sucks.
Yeah.
Someone commented, is the groom still with her?
Or did he leave her after that stunt?
Oh.
Oh, he said, luckily he ended things very quickly after that.
So at least he had the sense to-
She was probably taking money from him too.
Yes.
Someone said, so a whole wedding was planned without anyone really knowing the groom, meeting
his parents or anything like that.
Someone said, due to living in different cities, my mom and sisters-in-law didn't meet until
the wedding day.
It is rare, but it happens.
Oh, he said, like I said, we have family from all over and don't live close.
A lot of us have never even met the man, let alone knew what he looked like.
My cousin's dating history is pretty terrible in itself, so we weren't surprised that she
agreed to get married shortly after meeting him.
But you're entitled to believe what you want.
Last time someone said, love granddad, well, at least we had a family reunion.
Yeah, that's true.
That's an upside.
That's true.
Can't be came an impromptu family reunion with food.
Yeah.
They got to collectively.
Well, guess it was just another family reunion.
Yeah.
We love a common enemy.
Yes.
Yes, she's doing him a favor.
Jesus.
She actually might be a saint, actually.
Yeah.
Honestly, not the asshole.
Honestly, best person we've ever heard.
Wow.
I'm just picturing her with a silk scarf around her hair, and it's flowing in the wind,
and she's driving away on the convertible, and there's a blender in the passenger's seat.
Yeah.
It's gone in the wind.
It's gone in the wind.
It's gone in the wind.
You didn't even get good shit out of this, really.
She got a blender.
You could have gotten a blender.
You could be a better thief.
Right.
She's like Robinhood, except she just steals from her family and gives it to herself.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I'm now trying to think of life events that you can fake and get more money out of.
Um.
Not for me.
Sweet 16.
Do you think anyone's ever faked their own death and gotten their own life insurance money?
Oh, 100%.
People go all the time.
They drive the car off the cliff, leave the license, the driver's license on the car.
But then how do they pick it up the life insurance money?
Because they're dead.
Pretend they call me their mom.
You get a really big treasure.
Hi, this is his mom, and I really need that money.
Yeah.
My son is gone in the wind.
He's gone.
He's gone.
And he's not.
And he's packing.
And he's packing.
You mean, you just want to make sure you know that.
Just need you to know that.
All right.
That's, that's going to be hard to top.
That was a, that was a crazy one.
All right.
Eighteen.
Our next story.
This is comes from Am I the asshole?
Yes.
Am I the asshole for having a no ring, no ring, wedding?
Huh?
No wing, no wing.
No wing, no wing.
Oh, I know this.
I know this.
I think it's, I think it's, I think it's if you're not married to your plus one, they
can't be there.
Oh.
I've never heard of that.
No ring, no ring.
I think.
That's what it sounds like.
Hotline.
Hotline, hotline, ring.
I loved it.
I loved it.
I loved it.
I loved it.
I loved it.
I loved a weird place today, guys.
This is a great discussion to have, so I can't, I can't wait to hear the story.
No ring, no ring, no ring, wedding.
What?
They okay.
Welcome to Weeding, what a story.
All right.
No wing, no wing.
No wing.
Gone into wind.
Using a throwaway account for this, I'm a 32-year-old woman getting married to my
fiance, a 35-year-old man next summer.
We've been together since this January, which might seem sudden, but have been living
together since Easter, and both know that this is the relationship we want to be in forever.
This was posted in November, so they've been living together since Easter, so a half
a year maybe.
I am the last of my core friend group to get married and have, playfully, of course,
been teased about being the last one standing since the second to last friend got married
last year.
That, along with being the youngest sibling and youngest cousin, means that there is
no one important in my life who isn't already married or engaged.
When discussing wedding plans originally and in line with our budget and venue size,
we realize quite quickly that we wouldn't be able to have many if any plus ones.
To me, a plus one is a friend of a friend or unmarried slash not engaged partner.
From everything I knew about my fiance's friends that I'd met, they were all married,
and there is one couple engaged to be married next spring.
He had often mentioned a friend, a 33-year-old man, who lived at the other end of the country
and his partner, 29-year-old woman.
I clarified they were not married or engaged, and so only included the friend on the invite.
What my fiance failed to tell me in advance was that this couple had been together for ten
years, and will never get married due to some kind of trauma that the girlfriend has
from her parents' marriage growing up.
In the no plus one rule, unfortunately I couldn't make an exception for this once I was
made aware.
I was contacted by the wife of my fiance's best man to ask why this friend and girlfriend,
where the only couple to not be invited together, and despite explaining the above, she thinks
I could have been more flexible.
My fiance is concerned that his friend won't attend the wedding.
We are close to the RSVP deadline and we haven't yet had his response.
But my own friends don't see an issue with the no-ring, no-bring as a rule, given how expensive
weddings can be, especially with guests I don't really know.
I personally just don't want to make things awkward at my fiance's friend's wedding in
the spring as we have been told this couple will be attending.
Okay.
That's...
It's like, I made this rule and I can't, I'm sorry, I can't break my, I can't break this
rule.
It's like, you're, it's your wedding, do whatever the hell you want.
Totally, totally.
This is a clear indication of the concept of like keeping something just because it's
a rule or a ritual or a tradition, when it's like, there's exceptions, there's outliers,
like there are reasons to break this made up rule that you made up.
Yeah, like the fact that these people have been together for over 10 years, like, and because
they haven't assumed a traditional role of their relationship, they, like, I'd be like,
dude, there's, there's an imaginary ring, like, like, like, they've been, they've been
together 10 times longer than you guys have, yeah, so, like, that's very silly to even
though the RS U.K. deadline has, haven't, has not happened, like, I thought, like, oh,
it's too late and, like, literally, the wedding's today, but it's like, no, there's time
and you're just choosing to, that just feels very black and white and white and not.
Yeah.
It's like, it's like, you're putting so much value on this concept of marriage and the
ring is so big when it's like, I think when people are trying to use that rule usually,
it's to signify a strength and relationship and a commitment.
And I get the idea of, like, oh, we want people at the wedding who, like, will probably
stick around in our lives, like, eventually they'll get married or, like, we'll see them
down the line.
It may be their wedding, like, that kind of thing.
Right.
But to strictly just be like, if you don't have a ring, then you don't come into the wedding,
like, that rule of string.
Yes.
It's bullshit.
She's trying to remove any responsibility by acting like, oh, this rule was placed upon
me.
It's like, yeah.
You made it a fun rule because you thought it would be in line with everything you were
already going to do.
Turns out that's not the case.
You're going to exclude one couple.
Just let them come and call all your friends who aren't married and say, like, hey, here's
the number that can attend.
So, like, I had to, in order to get everybody, I can't have plus ones for all of you.
I personally think, I think that they're just super into the marketing idea of no ring,
no bring.
So, clearly, she wasn't saying no plus ones unless you have a ring.
It sounds like she was checking if people were engaged or not, married or not.
I was like, okay, they're not.
Okay, I'm only going to put his name on the invite then.
So, it's not even like, oh, it would bring a plus one.
It's like, she's inviting people by name.
Yeah.
It's not like a casual, you can't have a plus one, like, it's just, it's just gymnastics
at that point.
Yeah.
Like, fixated on the expression for some reason.
Yeah.
Like, they like that idea of it.
Yeah.
So, it's really silly.
The verdict is asshole.
But of course.
I also, lastly, I'll say, is like, she's talking a lot about her experience and why this rule
is like funny for her.
We're not hearing much about the groom and it sounds like she's excluding the groom's
friends.
It's sounding selfish, to me.
It seems personal.
Yeah.
Comments.
As someone who had been single for so long, you would think she would be more empathetic
to unmarried people.
She should know better.
You're the asshole.
Someone said, you're the asshole.
I'm sorry.
I thought you and your husband were getting married.
Why is everything about you?
Oh, unfortunately, I couldn't make an exception.
Fuck out of here.
It's your husband's wedding too.
And if he's upset or concerned that his friend can't or won't attend, then why are you
the only one that gets to a say in the matter?
Sounds like you and your friend group put far too much value on a ring.
Someone said, easy fix.
Invite her separately.
I totally get that you don't want people bringing dates just to make up the numbers,
but 10 years is a long-term relationship.
Longer than a lot of marriages.
If it's important to your future hubby to have his friend there, then make this one exception.
Marriage is about compromise.
Who all else is pressuring you for plus once?
This sounds like a non-issue.
Invite their long-term partner and be done with it.
No one else knows the exact nature of everyone who is invited's relationship.
You are impacting your future husband's friendships.
You're the asshole.
Yeah.
I think that's one thing I say too is like, I think whenever we read stories around weddings
and choices made within the wedding, you can't treat it as an isolated choice.
It is a statement toward that relationship.
That choice is a message in a lot of ways.
A lot of choices about weddings are a message.
It's sad that the group's close friend is maybe not going to go because they care about their partner.
They might have been with their partner longer than they knew this friend.
Definitely.
That's just selfish.
I agree.
I think it definitely feels like an individual choice.
What I was going to say earlier that feels peculiar is the way that she described her relationship
to marriage in the beginning of the post.
Talking about how no one pretty much important in her life is unmarried, which I found kind
of strange.
She did declare like, hey, I got teased about being the last one.
Yeah.
As that top comment points out, it's like, hey, you know what it feels like.
Why are you doing this?
Yeah.
It's almost like she wants to turn it around and give some shame to other people now that
she's crossing the finish line.
It kind of reminds me, something that I struggle with a little bit, and I feel like in L.A.,
this is common, of people who are so dedicated to an aesthetic that they're willing to ruin
an event.
You know, it's like, no, this is the theme.
This is the thing.
And it's like, hey, man, due to what you want the optics of it to be, you're making it
a bad time.
Yeah.
Like, that's what she's putting this weird rule on this that is going to ruin it.
It's definitely something deeper, I think, knowing the idea that the relationship that
she has to marriage, this expression, no ring, no ring, I think it is some sort of like
underlying feeling that she has about it, which again, makes sense, but it's important
to dissect and make an exception.
Right.
Yeah.
Update?
Update?
No update.
Save the date?
Gone with the wind update?
Gone in the wind?
Gone in the wind.
Gone.
I see I said it properly that time.
All right.
Well, good luck to them.
Yeah.
Whatever happiness to you, too.
Yeah.
I hope you're happy.
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Can you tell this was written by Angela?
This comes from wedding shaming.
Best man's speech was incredibly insulting to the couple.
Uh-oh, uh-oh, uh-oh, best man.
We love a horrible best man.
Oh, my God.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
For those of you that don't know me.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yo, Bobby.
Yeah.
This guy's crazy.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
All right.
Here we go.
I was a guest at a wedding, knew both the groom and the bride before they started dating,
and they are both very lovely slash kind people.
The groom's family had an attitude of, it's about time, having seen the groom date
people, party in the city, et cetera.
He was not old by any means, early slash mid-30s.
The best man was the groom's brother, and his speech still lives rent-free in my head.
He got up and started off with some jabs about typical family slash brothers, slash athletic
banter, and then turned to the couple.
He goes on to explain that their relationship is similar to how the groom shops at IKEA.
You go through the store, so many options.
What about that one?
What about this one?
Can't make up his mind so you keep moving, and eventually you get to the warehouse area
where you pick up the parts, and then right before the checkout line, you look to your
left and see the return slash incomplete bin, and grab something out of there right before
checking out.
He chuckles at this point, and the entire audience is silent, except for someone who
audibly says, what the fuck?
That would be Spencer.
And then someone came to grab the mic away from him as he was raising a glass to the couple.
His own brother roasted him and her, comparing her to the last possible option, broken or
damaged.
At one point, a family member of the bride had to be restrained from a fight.
I think it was her cousin slash friend, not sure.
The buffet line was super awkward right after that, and everyone was talking about it for
the rest of the night.
Luckily the couple brushed it off and didn't let it dominate the night.
I would have been out for blood, but they kept it classy.
A distant relative said, I've been going to weddings my entire life, ain't nothing is
bad as that crap.
Wolf.
Okay.
I, like, couldn't even grasp what the best man was saying.
So, yeah, he was saying you go through, like, you see everything, you're like, you're
shopping, you're shopping.
You're shopping.
And then right before you check out an akea, there's the incomplete, there's the broken bullshit
stuff.
Right.
That's really cheap, and you just grab it right before you check out.
I know what's so crazy is like, I'm like, oh, so, what are you, so he's checking out?
He's checking out with some, so I have notes.
I have notes.
It's a bad idea.
It's also one bad idea.
It's like, you've found something great and you're checking out, but also you've found
something lost and damaged in this other section.
Yeah.
It doesn't even work on funny, bad writing.
Yeah.
Like, if you're going to insult someone, at least have it be like a good analogy, right?
Yes.
Like a juicier.
Yeah, this was, this was dumb, and also mean.
And, and your brother?
That is heartbreaking.
Was he drunk?
Was he drunk?
It sounds a little planned though.
It was actually too, it was too good to be like, he might have been drunk, but I think he
kind of thought about this before he was drunk.
You think he thought he was going to like, eat?
I think he thought like, this is awesome.
Is he going to like, eat?
It's, well, well, I mean, look, not reading that hard into it.
It is objectifying too.
Like he had the way he talked about like, I'm like, I think I know what this guy thinks
about women.
Just based on how he's talking about women being things that you go through Ikea and
just grab, whatever.
Even just the idea of shopping.
Yeah.
Like, what?
Hello?
He could pick whatever he wanted, and he chose that broken bullshit.
And I thought the speech was going to go like, and then he looked left, and he saw a gorgeous
juicy, shiny, hot dog at the food court.
And that's all you have.
Yeah.
And you all enjoy that more.
Yeah.
And then, and that joke is gone in the wind.
It would have been, that would have been bad.
I think it does need to get a writer's room.
Yeah.
You in the group.
Let's work track that.
I don't know where there's groom.
And the man's the best man.
You can punch him.
It's mad.
I can punch him.
Punch him up.
It is.
Out of all the, all the wedding speeches I've heard on Reddit stories, that's definitely
in the top three.
That's awful.
And it's not even well constructed.
No, it's poorly written.
I, the couple is, I, I'm very impressed by the couple.
Yeah.
I feel like they're like being classy.
Wow.
I don't know.
I don't know.
I also got to give mad props to the person who in the back just, what the fuck?
Yes.
Yeah.
Did I just hear that?
Right.
Someone needs to do that.
I think the, the couple probably were like, well, everyone got to react for us.
And like, maybe they weren't surprised by this color.
Yeah.
You never know.
Totally.
And it does, like, he did his own change.
That was the best man.
Best man and brother.
Right.
He was, so the brother had to have at least had some respect.
Well, I think some.
Or felt pressured.
Sometimes, like, it's, it depends on where it comes from.
The decisions for a wedding.
It's like, well, I have to make my brother my best man because he's my brother.
True.
A lot of people do it out of obligation, just as you're sibling.
There's reasons.
Cool.
Um, comments.
Everyone wants to be the funny man.
In reality, most people should simply be a little sentimental and a lot concise.
Wedding speeches aren't your opportunity to be a stand-up comedian.
Say something nice about the groom.
Say something nice about the bride.
Say something nice about them as a couple.
Toast and put the microphone down.
Nothing more is needed.
4,000 upvotes.
Someone said, I remember one story here, as an on Reddit,
where they made of honor, a childhood friend of the bride,
decided to regale the guests by sharing how,
when she'd sleep over at the bride's house as kids,
they'd go out into the yard late at night and poop.
In the morning, father of the bride would find it and blame the dog.
So she concluded with a sparkly smile.
Now you know, it was us all along.
By this point, the bride's face could not have been deeper in her palms.
That's an awesome story.
That's a great story.
I would rather the best man take a shit on the floor.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And say that to God.
You can pick up the shit and toss it at me in my white dress.
But don't do that.
But don't call me a piece of furniture.
Someone said, my husband has horrible social anxiety.
And was the best man at his best friend's wedding.
He was dreading the toast and went last.
After everyone had given their long, heartfelt, sometimes funny,
sometimes awkward toasts, people were ready for cake and dancing.
He stood up and just said, I'm so happy for you too.
I love you guys. It was perfect.
Aww.
Someone said, best man sucks but kudos to the person who said,
what the fuck?
And to the mic confiscator.
I've read so many stories of situations in which people were too stunned
to call out the asshole behavior.
Yeah.
Someone said, to be generous, I get that he was maybe trying to say,
hey, my brother found something he wasn't expecting at the last minute.
But not the right comparison.
A friend went to a wedding once when the best man said, you know,
I'm happy for them. She seems fine.
That was apparently not what the best man had meant to say.
But he got stage fright and totally blanked on his speech.
Bride and Grude still gave him a hard time.
Lastly, someone said, what if the bride had just left?
Being compared with damaged things picked up as the last option
is not what you want to hear on your day.
No.
He took us on a journey.
He took us on a really bad journey.
Don't even want to go through IKEA on a good day.
Yeah, IKEA.
I like IKEA for like the first half and then it feels like a movie
that goes on too long where I'm like, all right.
Yes.
Oh, we're bringing up rooms that I forgot about.
This makes me think too, how much of a wedding is just what we do
because it's what other people do?
Like, do we need the maid of honor in the best man's speeches?
Do we need like certain things, you know?
To be whatever you want.
When we did like our big family celebration,
we chose to each do a speech and then we were like,
okay, and then we'll just do no speeches.
Just so it's fair to everyone.
And sometimes I look back and I wish like,
what if I just let them might get passed around?
Like, what would people have said?
Just like, because it could be funny.
What do people, I don't know,
but also you might hear something you never wish you had heard.
Yeah.
But yeah, we chose of like, we will thank everyone for being there
and like, we don't want anybody to feel left out.
What I think about though is like, how many times I hear about like,
when people have these opportunities for speeches and stuff
that's like, don't try to be funny.
Like, it's just, it's like, yeah, if there's something
that's a really sentimental funny joke, sure,
but I'm like, the amount of times that people go for the funny thing
and it's insulting, because it's selfish.
It's like, oh, are you trying to get a laugh?
Yeah.
Or are you trying to make that person feel special?
Like, when you're giving a speech, especially at a wedding,
the point is to give the spotlight,
which is kind of opposite in so many other situations
where you're giving speeches,
because it's maybe it's like, oh, you want an award
or like, you're, you know, like maybe a graduation thing,
but this is a very unique one
where you're not trying to have the spotlight.
And the easiest comedy is just shitting on another person.
Right.
The lowest common denominator.
And it's a wedding jokes are marriage jokes.
I feel like they are originally so deprooted
in just like domestic issues
and just like the old ball and chain me old, right?
Yeah, literally.
Yeah, literally old.
With those speeches too, I find it so funny.
I've gone to a handful of weddings where people,
and you know, with the right amount of taste, you can do it,
but a lot of people also choose to go up there
and make jokes about them being single.
Yeah.
You know?
It's just like, once again,
it's like you're taking the spotlight away.
You're talking about yourself.
Like, it's not like, yes, if I'm a guest at a wedding
where I don't know anybody, I'm entertained by it all.
Yeah, right.
But truthfully, it's like, if you're there
and this is someone you care about
and they're getting married, like,
this is kind of almost more of an opportunity
to talk directly to them and be like,
this is a core memory.
Yeah.
Like, what do I want you to remember forever?
Totally true.
Like instead of thinking about like,
I'm in front of all these people.
It's like, no, you're kind of on the spot for your friend right now.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Just you and them.
Yeah.
You and them.
That's sweet.
Our next one comes from Wedding Shaming.
Another Wedding Shaming story.
They want my daughter to be a flower girl at their wedding,
but I'm not invited.
Oh.
Okay.
Well, that's your relationship.
That's your relationship.
Break it down.
Have I been eating crazy cakes?
Am I off base?
I really need to know.
Have I been eating crazy cakes?
Am I going in the wind right now?
Am I going in the wind right now?
Am I eating crazy cakes?
Am I eating crazy cakes?
Is crazy cakes?
I want to be eating crazy cakes.
That sounds awesome.
Damn.
Oh, damn.
Okay.
Damn.
What?
She was that crazy cake.
I go into Susie.
I go into Susie cakes.
I'm like, you guys have any crazy cakes?
They're like, come with them back.
Yeah.
They're like, dude, you're the one that reads reddest to me.
No.
You read reddest to me.
I'm like, just the cakes, man.
Just the cakes.
Just the cakes.
Just the cakes.
Becky is someone I've known for many years.
We're in the same social circle, more like friends of friends,
but we're not super close.
It's really more like an acquaintance I run into from time to time.
I do see them and hang out with them at gatherings,
probably three to four times per year,
but I've never been to their house nor them to mine.
I'm a single parent to an 11-year-old girl
and I received a call from Becky,
who has never called me in her life before this.
Asking if my daughter would do the honor of being a flower girl
because there are no other young kids in her family.
Side note, my daughter would eat that up.
She'd love to be a flower girl.
I asked for the wedding date and where it was,
and she told me that it was at a winery
in the middle of nowhere,
almost two hours driving from where we live,
but she also said that it's an extremely intimate wedding
for family and a few very close friends.
And unfortunately, there wouldn't be room for me
at either the ceremony or reception.
I'm sure you can understand.
Okay.
I told her I'd have to look into it and call her back
because honestly, I was too stunned to reply.
Listen, I have zero problems not being invited to anyone's wedding.
You do you and your day, no problem.
But let me get this straight.
Becky wants me to spend the time and money
on getting a flower girl dressed in shoes,
drive my kid two hours away to a winery in the middle of nowhere,
and drop her off unsupervised with a bunch of adults.
And I should do what, wait in the car,
wait down the road, wait in the bathroom,
wait in the kitchen with the caterers, LOL.
There isn't even a cafe within a 30-minute drive.
Am I off-base thinking this is just totally bonkers?
No, that's crazy kids.
Totally bonkers.
FBI, open up.
Yeah, I'm like, you're sketchy, dude.
Yes, can you send your child to this winery
in the middle of nowhere unsupervised for us?
Like, what?
Yeah.
That sounds insane.
It's actually like, it's like gross.
It's like weird.
You don't have kids here.
Love it?
Let me take yours.
Yeah, you're 11.
You're all just going to be alone here with a bunch of adults.
They don't know.
At a winery.
Where they're drinking.
Yeah, this is atrocious.
No, that's awful.
They want to cast a flower girl for a wedding
and not even have a chap around for this chat.
It's a child.
Yeah.
No, they're making Ikea, man.
Look really good right now.
Truly, truly.
A flower girl doesn't have to be a child.
Let me show you.
Let me show you.
Why would I eat that up?
I think it could be a sleigh.
Honestly, no, get the oldest person there.
That's the ethic move.
That's awesome.
That's gorgeous.
Have her in a goddess wrap.
Oh.
Fabric.
And the flowers are not in a little basket.
It's in the fruit of the loom baskets.
And she's like holding her under the arm.
She's like, cornucopia.
Dude, she's in so gorgeous.
I'll do you one better.
Get a roomba.
Let it just roll down.
It's going to suck them up, Shane.
It's going to suck the flowers up.
A reverse for firework.
A reverse.
Yeah, a different sweet girl that eats them up.
And then you know what they do?
You know what he's about to use?
You know, Rumba's used to do that.
What?
Sucking air.
Those flowers will be gone in the wind.
They use his wind, I know I love this.
No, so I'm thinking, guys.
Be an alarm, be clapping.
No, this is this is someone who I think has just maybe not been around kids in a long time.
This is creepy as hell.
I don't know how kids work.
They're just like, yeah, can we just grab that kid?
Yeah.
They're like, this is your kid.
Move flowers.
Has a kid.
Let that kid just run around.
Yeah.
Whatever.
We'll give him some wine.
Yeah.
There are so many weddings with no flower girl.
Like literally, you know, if the child isn't significant, they're like, it's a really intimate
wedding, except for this strange child.
Yeah.
We'll be throwing plants.
They're calling up.
They're calling up someone they talk to three times a year.
They're going, yo, can I borrow your kid from my wedding?
Yes, absolutely.
You can't.
You can't.
I'm actually thinking about that now too.
Like somebody that you see three times a year and just being like, can I have your stranger
kid?
I don't think I do it.
I don't think I do it.
It's like, who are you bearing?
She's like, oh, my husband's name is William Afton.
Just like, yeah.
I know.
Yeah, no.
It's Phenath.
It's Phenath.
Phenath.
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
I'm like, yeah, okay.
If my daughter wears a body cam, I'm not like that is down the aisle.
So, that is so beyond weird.
I'm reporting you.
I'm recording you with my child's body cam.
Yes.
Um, comments, you're right.
This is bonkers.
I'd be saying no, no matter how much she would love being a flower girl.
I would not be leaving my 11 year old daughter alone with a bunch of people she didn't know
who would be drinking 7,000 up votes.
I think about how scary that is to down the aisle.
Yeah.
Like just a flower girl being like, I don't know anyone.
I mean, she said her daughter would be cool with it.
But the person asking does not know anything about this daughter.
They're just like, yeah, a random kid.
Yeah.
Come on.
Absolutely.
Absolutely.
Of course, I would never want to put a kid in that situation.
No.
I'm sure too, the mom is speaking in a way of like she would love to be the flower girl
surrounded by maybe her relatives, surrounded by like people that she knows and is comfortable
with, but put her in like a strange environment and she's probably like, why am I putting flowers
on the ground right now?
But also like not even having a supervision.
Like, 11 is not even old enough to babysit a younger sibling when the parents are.
Right.
Yeah.
That shouldn't be like-
Look, arguably like kind of the worst age to be stuck at a wedding by yourself, because
you're not like a little tiny kid that doesn't like-
No, it's not.
You're 11.
You're definitely like, what the hell am I doing at this wedding?
Yeah.
But you're also like not a teenager where you're just like, you're like, I don't know, that
would suck.
I would suck.
I'm side eyeing this family for the end of- till the end of time.
Yeah.
I'd be like, you guys are sketchy.
Are you on a list of-
I like that she, I just feel like I have to make note of it.
I like that she was like, let me get back to you.
Yeah.
And so this is like, immediately emotionally reacting and being like, hold on, is this
am I crazy?
Yeah.
And now she has the full wear with all, hopefully to call back and be like, no, definitely
not.
Absolutely not.
Someone else said, it's also a red flag that the bride supposedly doesn't have anyone
closer to her with kids than OP, who's an acquaintance.
If they don't have any kids in their life, why would they want a random one in their wedding
photos?
Someone said, I think the red flag isn't that she doesn't know anyone with kids, but rather
that she wants a child that she doesn't know at all to be part of her wedding for the
sake of aesthetics.
A child is not your prop.
And yeah, obviously not knowing that kids don't just attend weddings on their own is
daft.
I 100% agree that the kid would be completely ignored once their duty was done.
Someone else said, I would suspect OP's daughter is a beautiful child and this entitled bride
wants the appearance of a picture perfect wedding because all of the possibilities are creepy
or just weird.
Right.
Someone said your daughter is not a prop for her Instagram wedding.
Yeah.
Exactly.
I would hope that that's the reason.
Yeah, yeah.
I would say that it's the aesthetics as well, likely she wants that cutie all moment when
the flower girl comes out and she wants everyone to be amazed at it and it's just like,
you can't get that.
No.
You don't have a kid.
Update.
Let's go.
Let's go.
We are open up.
We're here with the wind.
We're here in the wind.
We have the wind with us.
They say you're in the building.
The wind is going to speak to you now.
Honey.
Honey.
Sorry.
Sorry.
Okay.
Sorry, she's in the wind.
She's in the wind.
In the wind.
In the wind.
So this text message string is from a few months ago and I'm just getting around to
posting the updates.
We got screenshots.
We got those screenshots.
Text messages.
Text messages.
All right.
OP writes.
Unfortunately, we are unavailable at that time sending warm wishes that your wedding is everything
you've dreamed of and wish you both the best in your new life together.
Congratulations.
Classy.
Let's go.
Free.
They write back for real.
Two question marks.
You're busy over a year from now.
Let's say you don't want to do it or are broke.
Just say you don't want to do it or are a brokey LOL.
I was trying to do something nice and include your kid in my day and you can't even be honest
so rude.
I don't know why you're acting like this.
OP writes back.
Come again.
WTF.
I tried to take the high road but you had to push it.
So let's get this straight.
You asked me to dress up my 11 year old child spend time and money to drive her two hours
away to a remote winery and hand her off unsupervised to a group of adults she doesn't
know just so she can perform in your ceremony.
While I check notes, wait alone outside like the hired help.
Let's call it what it is.
What you are asking for is a prop, a glorified insta accessory, not a guest, not an actual
human being.
I declined politely and you accused me of being rude.
What the fuck?
What's rude is treating my child like a decorative accessory, a fucking prop.
If that's not bad enough right there but then you add acting entitled to her presence
without extending even the most basic respect to her parent.
The fact that you don't even see a problem with this is exactly why the answer is no.
Yes.
Seriously, what the fuck are you thinking?
You are completely delusional.
Please stop texting because you can fuck right off.
I won't change my mind.
Oh.
Okay.
My queen.
They continue right.
Reader, I have to confess that the two glasses of Cabernet dragon woke up inside me.
Yes.
Yes.
Yes.
You are going to have a rant.
Was it my finest moment?
Absolutely not.
Did I say fuck right off?
Near the end?
Yep.
That was me.
Yes.
And I blame the wine and the fucking audacity of well all of it.
On the plus side she never replied and it has been months so I assume the role of unpaid child
actor went to central casting and this episode is closed.
Wow.
Holy shit.
Holy shit.
Wow.
Yeah.
They went to central casting and got someone who is over 18 to play younger.
Yeah.
I am interested.
Wow.
You can get a Russia.
And I will do it.
What in the world?
That's so crazy.
To see actual texts and be like, damn, this isn't fake.
Like, is this?
Yeah.
This someone really did this.
For real?
For real?
For real?
Like just tell me if you're a croquis.
Like, who there's going to be?
So many casting directors at this wedding.
This is an incredible opportunity for your daughter.
Hate that.
Hate that.
Hate that.
Wow.
Okay.
So she sucks.
She's awful.
Yeah.
And we love a woman who's mad after a couple of glasses of wine.
Yes, we do.
Yes, we do.
Cabernet dragon.
Send a link.
Do not talk to any woman after she said two glasses of wine.
You're not going to get.
No.
Just you wait.
No.
You love me when I'm angry.
But you hate me when I'm two glasses of Cabernet dragon.
I hate that.
And that's our speech.
And that's why Brent and Sidney, you guys are the best.
Wow.
Wow.
Wow.
Wow.
Wow.
Wow.
I'll get out of here.
Still better than Ikea, best man.
I'm.
I'm.
I'm.
I'm.
You guys are.
So Brent, when you went to Chile's and you were to the triple-dipper, but you only found.
You found the one.
And then.
But I'll always be there to finish your meals because I love you.
I love it.
I love it too.
I love it too.
You're sitting in the crowd and you're like, okay, yay, I have a wish.
I would pay money to go to a wedding where the bride and groom are giving those types of speeches
to each other that are so atrocious.
Oh, yeah.
Where it's like, babe, you're so freaking hot.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I can't wait to make you pancake.
Yeah.
For sure, babe.
Yeah.
Yeah, babe.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Oh, it's the best.
Thanks for letting me game.
Yeah.
Okay.
Okay.
We're going to go to Pound Town with you and then play Skyrim.
No, Steve.
She's like, he's like, he's like, oh my god.
All right, we have to go on.
Okay.
We are.
Our next story comes from relationship advice.
He won't dance at our fucking wedding.
I think I've found my deal breaker.
Oh.
It's a 25 year old woman and a 30 year old man.
We've been together five years.
We're engaged, planning a wedding, and he won't dance.
Says he doesn't want to.
He's even pushing for choosing a venue that has no capacity for dancing at all.
What?
Hasn't he been dancing?
No.
Hasn't he danced?
No.
Hasn't he danced?
That doesn't exist.
At our wedding, I know I'm meant to offer a backstory about our relationship, but this
is it.
Our entire relationship in a nutshell, I want to do something because it's important
to me and would take mere minutes of his time, and he won't do it because it's lame
it's slash boring, slash annoying.
He is physically and mentally capable of dancing.
He just doesn't want to.
The same way he doesn't want to do the dishes or cook dinner or clean.
Oh.
Oh.
Oh, wait.
So we're going to back up on that.
So we're getting married.
Yes.
The second he wants to do something, we do it.
No questions asked.
I learned to ski for him.
I put up with his family.
I host parties.
I don't want for people.
I don't like because he wants me to.
And yes, he does dance at those.
I know.
I do all I can to make sure his life is improved by having me in it because I want him to be happy.
And I have asked for one fucking thing to dance with my husband at our wedding over a year
from now.
And he doesn't want to.
And any push for him to do it leads to him saying, I'm pressuring him to do something.
He doesn't want to do.
Despite the rant, I do love him.
He's a good partner and we want the same things.
And we've been together for years and he loves me.
But he won't dance with me at our fucking wedding.
What do I tell him that this is important to me and I need him to do this for me without
making him feel pressured?
And the world pressured to go like this.
We cue back to what we were saying earlier of girls posting their boyfriends and being
like, yeah, so he doesn't clean the dishes and he doesn't respect me.
And then another, like, the second post is, guys, stop leaving hate in the comments.
He's great.
He loves me.
She actually loves me.
She led with that too.
She was like, guys, this is what he's doing and he's done this whole relationship by
the way.
She's like, this is the entire tone of our relationship, by the way.
It doesn't sound like it's been a deal breaker for this person, but it should be.
The wedding is the most important time to show up for your partner, arguably, for a lot
of people it can't be.
So if he can't do this one thing, that he doesn't honor weddings.
She posted this on relationship advice.
And I'm like, what advice are you seeking right now?
Because you give us all this shit and you go, but I do love him and he's actually great.
I'm like, what do you, what response do you want here?
Okay.
I think I've got it.
I think I've got it, actually.
Okay.
It can get tricky when it's in the territory of, like, how much am I changing this person
versus how much are they helping me grow?
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And just because I could see from her standpoint of possibly reasoning her way out of breaking
up with this man, of just thinking like, oh, maybe he is right.
Like I am again, pressuring him or I'm asking him to do something that's uncomfortable.
She has enough evidence, I think, to make the decision of no weight like he's dancing
at other weddings and he's not doing things like household chores that make them on an
equal plane.
So that feels enough to where she should, but maybe that's the gap.
That's where she's struggling is validating herself and feeling confident and separating
from him.
I'm sure he shows up in lots of other ways and she's not just listing that.
I hope so.
So that's probably what like masks over everything?
Yeah, it's hard though.
Like I have to assume there's a bunch that she's not telling us.
Of course.
Because what she's saying is he does all the stuff he wants to do but never wants to do anything
for me.
And I'm like, well, if that's your, she says at the beginning too, that's our relationship
in a nutshell.
And I'm like, so it's bad.
Yeah.
So you're telling us it's not good.
Yeah.
Like, she's being a good partner but he is.
Yeah, he's not there for her.
She's making sacrifices for him but he's not willing to do that.
I also think it's just like knowing that he does dance yet other gatherings and stuff
that are when it's on his terms, it feels like he's making this choice control move.
Like, I will not dance at our wedding because I've been in a relationship where someone
denies me a thing because they know, they almost find it funny that it hurts me so much
that they deny me this one thing that is as simple as dancing out of thing.
And also, I relate to a lot of this.
Like she's like, I learned to ski for him.
I put up with his family.
I hear that and I'm like, oh, so is he not even willing to get to know your family?
And you guys are about to merge families?
Yeah.
I'm obviously like, I have a personal bias in this one so I'm reading into it.
But like, oh, a wedding is, it's an important time.
And like some people get pre-marital counseling to like make sure they're doing the right thing.
Yeah.
So yeah, I think I would suggest that too.
Yeah, I mean, because I think what also she's saying is like, should I make this a deal
breaker?
Could mean a couple of things at once.
It means, should I really hold strong to this and make him choose?
Or is it like, oh, is this the reason that I break up with him?
It's kind of like, it feels like it's both of those things.
Yeah.
That's exactly what I was thinking as well of like, it seems like it's building up.
The wedding is approaching.
And now she's like, now would be a great time for someone to give me permission to get
out of this, if possible, especially because dancing seems to be like, at least dancing
at the wedding, it's something that she's clearly valuing and she's like, well, this
I really, really want.
So now I finally have to ask the question, should I separate?
Yeah.
So it's not about the dancing.
Obviously, dancing is fun and nice, but it's like, it's clearly like, oh, you don't see
how much, when something is important to me, how it should be important to you too.
And like, yeah, I hear you on like, is this my reason, is it okay that this is my reason
to just, to back out?
But it's like, being married and getting married is a big thing.
Like, you don't have to have a reason.
If you don't feel ready, you don't feel ready.
Yeah.
But I think the counseling is a great option, honestly.
It doesn't have to be like an end all be all of like, okay, great, you're not dancing,
that's it.
But it can be a conversation of like, so I've noticed this pattern with this, particularly
it's really important to me.
I'd really like to figure out like this stuff before we get married.
And then in counseling, you can actually break it down.
You might hear more situations or experiences that he's having.
And that might be enough to be like, okay, I can make this decision.
Yeah.
And not do go through with the wedding.
A few comments here, someone put in the quotations.
The same way he doesn't want to do the dishes or cook dinner or clean.
That's a bigger deal breaker for me.
Oh, he said, I can live with that.
It's annoying, but he does earn slightly more and works an extra half hour each day, plus
commute while I work from home.
And he's terrible at all forms of housework.
So I figured that was just something I would have to live with and accommodate it for.
No, you worked extra half hour.
So I figured that was just something I would have to live with.
And accommodate it for it.
But this is just, no, this is the limit.
This comment was downvoted, no surprise.
Yeah.
Someone said, I understand you love him, but do you like him?
Can you happily picture yourself sacrificing your happiness, your mental well-being, your
time just to not upset a grown man over the fact he doesn't want to do the dishes?
It sounds more like you're his mom, to be honest, whether he's aware of what he's doing
or not.
I think this is the moment where you realize that no matter how much you give for him,
he won't do the same for you, even if it's small.
I would consider postponing the wedding until you were on equal footing to the point you
can ask him to do this his part.
And you feel like even your smallest requests are met with respect.
Oh, he said, I like him most of the time.
He's charming and funny and we're really compatible.
But he can be such a pain in the arse when he wants to be.
I do 95% of the housework because he either doesn't want to do things or he does them so
badly that I have to fix it.
I feel like his mother some days because of that.
But then he apologizes and puts it in effort around the house and eventually he slips
back.
I'm gone in the wind.
I'm gone in the wind.
This is something like.
Can we unpack this a little bit?
Can we just unpack that a little bit?
Like, he doesn't want to or is bad at them, which is weaponized in competence.
And she's like, well, he makes a little bit more money than me.
She still works just because she works from home.
Does not dismiss that.
She has a job.
And so she's falling into a dynamic of male privilege.
Sorry, guys.
I'm saying in the word of like, well, because he doesn't want to, I'm going to assume this
role, which people fall into.
And it's not everybody wants to be in that role.
And it sounds like she isn't satisfied with that role.
Like, ooh, and it doesn't sound like she wants to be in that dynamic forever.
But she's fallen into a dynamic of he's in charge and he's in control.
And yeah.
Yeah.
That first comment was really big for me, honestly.
And I think I really like that that person just quoted it and said that would be a bigger
deal breaker for me, because that then doesn't also put words in O.P.'s mouth.
Right.
And it doesn't say, you know, you should do this or like, you know, tell him this, because
you're right.
Like, not everybody wants that role.
Some people do.
Some people find with it.
Yeah.
I think the best advice that this person should take, in my opinion, would be to just like
reflect on her personal values and actually understand what she's looking for in a partner.
If what she says is true that that stuff doesn't bother her, like, that's totally fine.
Exactly.
But then, like, why is the dancing a bigger issue?
What's the difference there?
And really try to dissect.
And I don't want to say negotiate, because it's not like a business deal, but compromise,
maybe.
Yeah.
Communicate with your partner and be like, these are the things that are important to
me.
I understand that you don't want to do these things.
And I don't mind doing them, but can we do this?
This is reading to me, like, one of the stories where we'll get an update and she will then
reveal the worst things that he's done, right?
Because right now, this is sounding very controlling and you mentioned male privilege.
And it seems very much like his values are that he is first priority here.
He gets to do all his stuff.
She's not allowed to get her stuff.
And that's just what he sees as being right, that he gets to determine the rules of everything.
And a lot of it, you know, it's like, it's the unfortunate thing where maybe he's dumb
and really bad at housework, but also a lot of people very carefully, you know, it's
the weaponized incompetence, very carefully and strategically do everything to make the
relationship super cushy for them.
Yes.
And this is just coming across as a real lack of respect for her.
Yeah.
I saw like this.
If what she's saying is true.
Yes.
I saw a TikTok that was basically that too.
I'm sure you guys maybe saw it too, because it went really viral.
It was like this guy like folding a blanket while his wife was like cleaning the rest of
the room.
And he was just like sort of pretending not to like, he was like folding it and then like,
and then like unfolding it and just like doing that for like 15 minutes.
Oh, and she was cleaning like the rest of the room.
And then at the very end, she like comes over and grabs the blanket and like folds it in
three seconds and puts it down.
And all the comments were like, hey, girly, like he's doing that on purpose.
Oh my God.
100% weaponized incompetence is what you said.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah, like that feels like exactly like that.
Yeah.
It was like pretending to struggle.
So he wouldn't have to do that.
And then her next post was like, guys, he's really great most of the time.
Yeah.
He cooked really well.
Yeah.
Um, another comment said, ask him what the difference between dancing at the parties
you have been at versus your wedding.
Why doesn't he feel comfortable?
What's the difference?
Oh, he said, I already asked him that thinking that it was the amount of attention or the
setting or if he thought he'd be a mess on the day.
And I suggested compromises to help with these potential issues, like us dancing alone for
the first three seconds to one minute and then having other couples come to the floor,
or letting him choose the song, or literally just standing in one spot and swaying without
moving our feet.
Just get a little drunk.
Let the music flow through you.
He just says he doesn't want to and dancing at weddings is dumb slash lame.
That's a lot.
Yeah, it's just.
Why are you getting married if you're, if you think it's dumb?
It's just, it's just like there's no, it's, it's what you said, you're just not caring
for your partner to be happy at all.
Yeah.
If you know that this would make your partner smile, naturally, I feel like you would
be like, oh, then let me do this to make them happy.
Right.
And this person's like, no, I don't want to.
Yeah.
It's not, that's not someone you want to marry.
Like, that's not love.
No.
No.
No.
No.
Update.
Huh.
You were wrong.
Run.
Run.
Run.
Run.
Run.
Run.
That's what can happen in three days.
You could be gone in the way.
You could be so gone.
So my ex-fiance, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, so my ex-fiance
got dragged through the fucking mud on my first post and I say that in the most grateful
way possible.
I was alternating between defending him and resignation in the comments, but I ultimately
decided to hash this out with him, thinking that if I restated how important dancing
at our wedding was to me, along with a few other issues the first post brought up, such
as me doing overwhelming majority of the housework, and made clear that I was thinking
of leaving, he might fully get the gravity of the situation and he would either shape
up or ship out.
And I think that from the tone of this post and the title you can tell which one he chose
to do, he was actually angry that I dared to tell him I needed things to be more balanced
between us.
I said it needed to be give and take on both sides, not just me giving and him taking,
and he said, I can't just change everything about us right before.
Over a year, our wedding, he took the ring back and went to stay with his family.
The breakup happened on the same day as my post, so first of October.
I felt really lonely the last couple days, so yesterday, the third, I asked a few girlfriends
to come over tonight, the fourth for a meal or a drink or a movie or whatever.
Two of the four people I invited didn't respond at all, the third was really hostile, and
the fourth asked if I was aware that my ex was telling people he caught me cheating on.
And showed me some screenshots of an Instagram and Facebook post he made.
I have a childhood friend, a guy who I reconnected with last year.
We never dated but were always close and fooled around once or twice as teens.
And my ex had said he was fine with us being friends, but now he's saying that we were
sleeping together.
I've told the friends I contacted that what really happened and while two of them have
accepted that, the other two have left me on red.
I've not even checked my own social media because I have no clue what I'll find.
Show the reddit post.
I might need advice again.
Any ideas on what to do about this?
Regarding my ex, my friend who's been being accused or the mutual friends that my ex has
apparently already told.
Show them the reddit post.
Show them the reddit post.
Yeah.
It's literally timestamped.
Staying, they broke up on Angela's birthday.
Well, this fully turned into what we expected.
He's awful.
Yeah, boy.
Probably was doing worse shit to her.
No, just making up that she cheated.
What a child.
He did that with my dog.
He did that with my dog.
He did that with my dog.
He did that with my dog.
Yeah.
So quick with it.
He was so ashamed and embarrassed.
He was just like, how dare you ask for it?
How dare you is insane?
Yeah.
Like any benefit of the doubt just completely dissipated.
There's one comment here and it's a big one.
What he did as far as accusing you of sleeping with this friend is inexcusable.
He cannot hold his own self accountable for the failures in your relationship.
Your friends should know your character and have responded as so.
Yeah.
If they didn't, they weren't friends or they didn't know you as well as you thought they
did.
Don't worry about what those people think.
You've spoken your piece and there's not much you can do about their reaction.
You know your truth and that's what matters.
Your ex is behaving like a child and I hope you can move on and find someone who is more
emotionally intelligent.
I'm sorry you're going through this but I'm glad you didn't marry him.
Your future sounds like it would have been a nightmare.
Well, he said I think he knows how unreasonable he's being so he decided to make this bullshit
up so he's the good guy to our friends.
Yeah.
I'm glad to.
I was expected to be devastated if we ever split but when he took the ring I felt almost
lighter.
I can't really explain it.
Not better exactly but lighter.
Good.
Yeah.
I know.
Oh my god.
Wow.
Well, that sucks.
I mean that just proves his point.
If what she's asking is so crazy then just tell people that.
Yeah.
The truth of why you guys broke up.
Yeah.
I mean, the red post again, like it is exactly what was going on.
Yeah.
And that's just yeah, the biggest bullet dodged.
Yeah.
And it sucks about the friends too but that is a great point of like I feel like if I
found if I saw something like that about my friend I wouldn't be so quick to just be
like they're done.
I feel like I would also want to hear their side of it or especially if they reached out
and we're like, hey girls night like meet some help whatever I'd be like let's go get
the scoop.
Let's figure out what actually happened instead of just yeah, I think it's important
for people to do that.
Boy.
Boy.
Please.
That's really rough.
I feel bad for her.
Yeah.
I mean I feel really bad but I'm glad she is out of that.
Yeah.
But she like deep down knew because like to go to turn to red it was something like this
like.
Yeah.
That's rough.
You know, but she's out now.
I have a feeling if he's willing to turn to something that
extreme she's probably been pretty gaslit in that relationship and so she's like thinking
she's crazy all the time.
Yeah.
And then like you just look like this angry girl friend when really it's like hey you're
you're being mistreated all the time and this imbalance and then he just goes off and
says like yeah she cheated on this ex.
He was aware of like this person that he could perfectly stage this whole situation.
Yeah.
And if she it sounds like she doesn't have that many friends or like that strong of a support
system so she probably wasn't able to ask other people of like is this okay and what
I'm being told.
Yeah.
I mean we know nothing about it but I just just yeah damn.
All right moving on to our final story.
This is not necessarily a story we have a game to play here.
If you're listening I will do my best to describe the images that we're about to see.
This comes from wedding shaming.
Wedding guest war custom made gown.
Oh okay.
This is mostly a photo post so we're going to play a game.
Guess who the bride is.
No.
Yes.
Oh my god it's like siblings are dating but it's bride or guess so for listeners all right
for listeners we have two women here can I describe the dresses okay Courtney we'll describe
these dresses.
Can I help?
Can I help?
Yes.
Yes.
Okay.
Okay.
Okay.
Okay.
Let's start with.
Okay.
Okay.
So we have a dress on the left.
Okay.
Yes.
And we have a left one.
Oh you said all right.
You said all right.
You said all right.
You said all right.
You said all right.
Now let's start on the left.
Yep.
Okay.
We have a knee length white.
Maybe satin.
Maybe cotton.
Looking gown.
Like a nice but it's like a very plain simple material.
Maybe cinched at the waist.
Like a bubble yeah.
Like rhinestones.
Looks like some rhinestones.
But very small not too shiny.
The bodice is fitted as like some seams at the front.
It's like almost like a corset kind of vibe.
Maybe like I think I'm seeing like shears sleeves.
Yeah it has like tank top straps but it seems like it's connected
to sheer material.
Yeah.
As a long sleeve and then there's a cuff.
A cuff.
So it's a long sleeve dress but the sleeve part is sheer.
And.
And there's a round in those diamonds and.
In the upper gown.
Yes, the other one, the other one.
It's like a beige.
It's offline.
You can make.
Yeah.
Off the shoulder.
A lot of texture.
It's kind of like mermaid scale.
Packed like pattern but it's like not the tiny.
It's like big.
They look like giant.
Yes.
Like beaded sequin.
It goes all the way down and there seems to be somewhat of a veil.
a train of some type, yeah.
Yes, yes, sorry, train.
It is extravagant.
I will say the off-white one looks like something
you'd see at the Oscars.
And it's not like a, it's not like a ball gown.
Oh, yeah.
I thought you meant the other one.
I was like, the white balloon looks like a wedding dress,
but like a simple towel.
It reminds me like what I wore when I looked with you
where it's like, it's like simple, cute.
And then the one on the right, it's like,
it's not like a ball gown or an a-line,
but it's like a fitted kind of gown straight down.
It's giving red carpet.
Yeah, it really is giving red carpet.
It's like the glam bought would eat it up.
Yeah, yes.
Yes.
OK, so we're going to take a wild guess.
I mean, I think I know who the bride is.
I hope the photographer.
Yeah.
I hope, well, it sucks either way.
It sucks.
By the way, it's bad.
I mean, one technically isn't as bad.
It's unfortunate.
The other one is like, because if it's not,
at least it's not white.
Oh, no.
I think that's, it's so insane.
Either way, it's bad.
It's bad, either way, right?
I think the least worst option, so like the better option,
is the one in white is the bride.
I, yeah, there's not one that's good.
Yeah.
So either way, you wore white and that's such a faux pas.
Mm-hmm, right.
Or you wore the most insane, like sight stealing dress
you could possibly wear.
Truly, truly.
Like, really, this is like, oh, this is like
Met Gala.
And it's gorgeous.
And it looks like a wedding choice.
Like some, some people like to do white,
some like ivory or beige.
People do this.
But it's like, man, if you have a dress like that,
why are you wearing it to someone else's wedding?
Save that for the event of your life.
Save it for your own.
Yeah, my God.
Yes, okay.
So this is, this is mean either way.
I'm, I'm, the train is crazy if you're not the bride.
I guess, okay, do you know, okay, here's me.
Yeah, yeah.
The train is crazy if you're not the bride.
I'm lucky.
Yeah.
The train is the bride.
So you're thinking white is the simple white?
Yes.
Now, here's what maybe, here's what's going on.
Maybe this is what happened.
Maybe she knew that the bride was wearing off white
or beige or tan and was like, oh, well,
I'll wear white, because they're not white.
Yes, yes, yes, yes.
Oh, perfect.
I'm not saying it's great.
I'm saying that's the best possible scenario.
That is the best possible option because the train
has to be the bride.
I swear to God, I swear to God, Shane.
The train is the bride.
Okay.
Shane.
White is the bride.
The train is on the gas?
No.
I am so sorry.
Uh-uh.
Uh-uh.
Uh-uh.
The, the girl in white is the bride.
Is the bride.
This is a gas.
A custom gown.
One of the photos.
Oh.
Oh.
Oh.
Oh.
Gurley.
Uh-oh.
What the hell?
What the hell?
What the hell?
That is mean.
All caps.
Left is the bride.
Okay.
Left is the bride.
Text from the original post.
She doubled down and made a Facebook post about how women
shouldn't tear each other down.
Oh, my God.
Oh, my God.
Says the queen of mauging.
How dare she wear a train.
No one hates you more than the women who can't compete with you.
They watch your every move.
Talk nonstop.
Because if they talked about themselves, no one would listen.
Oh.
Let them bark from behind.
Real queens don't tear each other down.
Only mistresses do.
Let's shine, babe.
Keeps being pretty.
Okay.
Literally, not even eloquent in the slightest that all sounded horrible.
It makes you sick.
Yeah.
Makes you sick.
I mean, she is awful.
Girl, why did you need a custom gown to a wedding that you are?
I'm not getting married, too.
First, I'm like, okay.
If you had a gown that you were supposed to wear at this other event,
it happened need to be customized.
How much is a custom dress like that, you think?
Oh, God, thousands.
It's got to be.
It's got at least a thousand stars.
No, and she knew what she was doing.
She knew.
Because she went on Instagram and was like, don't fight me.
Well, she was able to buy this custom dress from all the money
and gifts that she stole from her fake wedding.
You're right.
That's true.
Yes, she's back in the wind.
Yes.
Uh, comments.
Someone said, that's a gorgeous dress, but I thought she was the bride.
10,000 upvotes.
Someone said, I hate the fact that I love that dress.
Honestly, it would be amazing in any situation other than a wedding.
Yeah.
And maybe a funeral.
I don't know why she would dim her own shine by wearing it at someone else's wedding
and becoming the bad guy.
Yeah.
Instead of waiting for a different, more socially acceptable event to break it out.
Well said.
Oh, what the hell?
Some people really go to far lengths just to like make other people feel like shit.
Right?
No, it's actually making me think that that is the goal.
Like, some people just like rage baiting.
I genuinely want to be talking about like that.
And that her Facebook post is projecting big time exactly.
Oh, yeah.
Exactly.
One other comment.
I found the post on Facebook and saw some pictures of her with her husband
from the same wedding.
And her husband was wearing a short sleeve button-down shirt with slacks.
Uh-oh.
Like, you look well put together and everything, but definitely a different vibe
than the red carpet worthy custom gown this main character wore.
Honestly, based on the bride's dress, his outfit was probably more in line
with the wedding dress code.
Wow.
Wow.
His sounds closer to the vibe.
Yeah.
Because she should have taken the train off.
At the very least.
The train is inappropriate.
I can't believe the bride even took a photo with her.
I would be like, yeah.
I think she took the photo on purpose.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Look at this.
No.
This sounds like the bride was like, you know, this person bullied me in high school.
But we seem cool now.
And maybe I'll bring her.
And it's like, oh, no, you're the same person.
Yeah.
Oh, my God.
Oh, my God.
Jesus.
Just a ton of people having to like turn the other cheek at their own wedding.
Yeah.
But no matter how much shit comes between them.
They always stick together.
They always stick together.
They always stick together.
They always stick together.
Well, man, those were some weddings.
We did.
We did.
Wedding wedding stories.
Wedding wedding stories.
We do.
Um, thank you both for being here.
And, uh, you know, both weddings were so great.
Your wedding, which was real.
Yes.
That already happened.
And that already happened.
Yes.
And I just wanted to say that you love me when I'm hangry.
And I do.
I do.
Oh, my God.
Oh, my God.
Oh, my God.
Oh, my God.
Oh, my God.
Uh, before we go, uh, we should let you know that, um,
the next few episodes are going to look a little different
because Smosh is currently moving,
removing studios, getting a new space.
And so, uh, we're going to be in a temporary space for a while.
It's going to look a little different for the next few weeks.
And then we'll be back in a new studio.
And, uh, maybe we're going to revamp it a little bit.
Maybe I'll have a new chair.
Oh.
We need to make sure it's contained for dancing.
Yes.
No dancing allowed.
Because dancing is like, yeah, and boring.
Um, fun anyways.
We'll see you next week.
Next Saturday.
See ya later.
Bye.
See you.
Be gone with the wind.
Be gone with the wind.
Let's get the door open.
Let's get the door open.

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