Homaira Kabir On Transforming Negative Beliefs Into Positive Action & How To Build REAL Confidence That Lasts

Today's guest is Homaira Kabir. Homaira holds Master’s degrees in Coaching Psychology and in Positive Psychology—the science of human flourishing and wellbeing—from the University of East London and has over a decade of experience as a life coach. She is the founder and CEO of the Goodbye Perfect Project, which she launched with the mission to bring science-backed, soulful support to help people break free of unhelpful patterns and own their purpose, voice, and impact. In this episode, Homaira shares valuable insights on how to build real confidence that lasts, and how to recognize the signs of being disconnected from our authentic selves. She provides tips on maintaining optimism and confidence during challenging times, and how to transform negative beliefs into positive action. We also discuss the differences between real confidence and fragile confidence and how to avoid becoming addicted to outcomes and so much more!   What to Listen For: 00:00 Intro 01:26 Don’t fall into THIS confidence trap 03:14 Are you disconnected from your authentic self? 05:09 Where does someone’s “fragile confidence” come from?  07:43 How to remain optimistic during difficult times 11:40 How to avoid becoming addicted to the outcome 14:21 Homaira was “hooked” on external validation 18:53 Did she feel pressured to succeed? 20:47 Transforming your relationship with external validation 23:57 Remaining confident during adversity  26:39 Turning self compassion into action 29:05 The science of building confidence  31:18 Letting go of what people think of you 34:14 Receiving criticism in a relationship  38:44 How to build REAL confidence that lasts 44:15 Transforming negative self talk into empowering beliefs 46:50 The perfection trap Episode Resources: Homaira | Instagram, Website, Book     ⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠ Please be advised; the topics related to mental health in my content are for informational, discussion, and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your current condition. Never disregard professional advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard from your favorite creator, on social media, or shared within content you’ve consumed. If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately. If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help: Emergency Medical Services—911 If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.  SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices