
About this episode
Most of us think unforgiveness is something we choose.
But what if it’s actually something that slowly grows inside of us… without us even realizing it?
In today’s teaching, we explore the road to NOT forgiving—how small hurts turn into resentment, how rumination fuels bitterness, and how unforgiveness quietly takes hold of your heart.
Drawing from Scripture, personal reflection, and the research of Everett Worthington, this message exposes the hidden patterns that keep us stuck—and offers hope that change is possible.
Because unforgiveness doesn’t just affect others…it shapes you.
📚 Today's Resources:
Workbook resource by Everett Worthington (forgiveness process):
https://bit.ly/REACHWorksheet
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