How Porn Ruined Men's Foreplay — And the 3-Word Cheat Sheet That Fixes It

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Most men learned foreplay from porn. And porn doesn't do foreplay — it does a sped-up, skip-to-the-good-part performance that taught an entire generation that touching a woman is just a formality. She's lying there wondering why she isn't feeling it. It's not her. It's the script.

Today's guest has spent 17 years collecting real-world data on exactly what porn got wrong — and what women actually need. Cindy Gallop is the founder and CEO of MakeLoveNotPorn, the world's first real-world sex platform, former Advertising Woman of the Year, and one of the most talked-about TED speakers in history.

In this episode:

• Why porn turned foreplay into a formality — and what she actually needs instead
• The 3-word cheat sheet every woman wishes her partner had
• Why lube and toys aren't optional — they're the whole game
• How to talk about sex in bed without killing the mood
• What real-world sex actually looks like versus the porn performance
• Why good foreplay starts way before anyone gets naked

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