How to Get a Guy to REALLY Love You

0:00Let's talk about love. In fact, let's talk about how you can make a man fall in love with you, and how you can get him to love you in a way like you never loved another woman. That's what I want to talk about today, and I can talk from my own experience, because I know I didn't make a man fall in love with me, but my girlfriend made me fall in love with her. In fact, she made me fall in love with her in a way like I've never been in love with a woman. So what are some of the things that she did, and what are some of the ways how she set herself apart from other women that completely opened my heart and made me fall in love with her? And this is actually a key phrase that I just mentioned. Open is hard. If you manage to open a man's heart, if you are the first woman who ever accomplishes that or whoever tries to do that, then this man will fall for you.

1:02At least, and I want to make this clear, at least if he has done his trauma healing. I mean, if we're talking about a man who has never done any trauma healing, who's completely avoidant in his relationships, who whenever there's a little bit of intimacy runs away, closes the door, leaves you immediately, freaks out, then of course with this man, it won't work. But let's face it, that's not the man that you want to attract, that's not the man that you want to have in your life, you want to have a man who's ready to love, who's willing to love, who's able to love, who's able to open his heart for you. And that's a man who has done his trauma healing, or at least who's on the journey of doing his trauma healing, because I met my girlfriend, I would say somewhere at about 80%, and that's just the rough estimation of my trauma healing journey. I was still doing some inner work to heal that inner child in myself, to heal my trauma,

2:05and I was already at a place where I was willing and ready to open my heart. And in a lot of ways, she was also the key to making this happen, because she demonstrated to me in a very early stage of our relationship, that she is the right woman to help me to open my heart, to connect with my emotions. And if you provide this safe space for a man, he will fall in love with you. And yes, this requires honest communication and an honest conversation style, because what you can't do is to simply expect him to open up. And the reason why you can't do that is because, well, we men have been conditioned for centuries, for lifetimes, for decades, forever basically, to not listen to our heart, to disconnect from our heart, and to always be strong, to always be, in a sense, invincible, and by pretending that we are invincible, by pretending that we are stoic, by pretending

3:07we don't have emotions, because remember, boys don't cry, man up, because of all this conditioning, we then bottle all these emotions up, and at some point, well, we can't take it anymore. And I don't want to digress too much, but that's also why I believe that man, or let's say the suicide rate of man, is higher than that of women, because women are way more willing to talk about their emotions, they are more willing to do the work to heal their emotions, and to, in the first place, actually acknowledge that they have emotions, and if you are providing him with that safe space by letting him know that you want a man in your life, who's emotionally available, that you want a man in your life, who shares his emotions with you, that you are actually more attracted to him. In fact, this is the most powerful sentence you can ever say to a man. I am more attracted to a man who is emotionally available, who opens up, than to a man, who bottles up his emotions, and pretends that he's all right, or who pretends that he's

4:10overly confident. If you say that to a man, and you really mean it, I mean, I don't want you to say this in a way where you don't mean it, because I don't want you to break his heart, I don't want him to then open up to you in the new go, okay, now I don't like you anymore. Of course, I don't believe that you are like that, but I just want to make clear that it should come from a place of honesty and authenticity, but if you communicate to him in the beginning, that you are ready to be that woman for him, to help him to open up. And yes, you can talk about it in this direct way. I mean, I still remember how my girlfriend looked at me when we were not boyfriend and girlfriend yet, and she just looked at me, and she placed her hand over my chest, and he said, I'm going to help you to open your heart. She really said that, and back then for me, this was a very emotional moment. I was like, oh my God, inside of me, and yeah, they were also tears, and this is something that if you do that for a man, then he will fall for you. If you combine the effort and the ability to help him to open up with a supportive communication

5:16structure, which means where you also share your thoughts, you also share your feelings with him, and you of course also encourage him to do the same, and you are then a reliable and empathetic listener. This will make him fall for you even more, and if you are then on top of that, treat him with kindness and respect, then this man will be all over you. And by now you might be asking a question that so many of my clients have asked me, no matter of them talking about the clients who've joined the Love Magnet coaching program, which is my 8-week coaching program and a one-on-one coaching program by the way, where teach you how to fall in love with yourself, how to fall in love with life, how to use specific dating techniques to attract the man of your dreams, but to also use your energy to become more attractive to the right man. Or if I'm talking about women who have booked individual coaching sessions with me, I can confidently say that a lot of them were convinced that the fastest and easiest way to make

6:19a man fall in love with you is through sex. But the truth is that through sex you might make him fall in lust with you, but it has nothing to do with making him fall in love with you. And don't get me wrong, yes, an active and fulfilling sex life should be of course a part of your relationship, but it's not what makes a man choose you over another woman. That's not the case at all. It's about you providing him with this safe space. It's about you being the supportive woman that you always dreamed of. And especially when we're talking about very successful men, men who have climbed the hierarchies in the corporate world, for example, they even more are craving for a relationship with a woman where they can finally be themselves, where finally they can have a woman in their life who is supportive, who is a reliable and empathetic listener, and also somebody who they can share their emotions with, because the more successful a man is, especially when

7:22we're talking about very high demanding jobs, email dominant environments, the more he has to be, or at least he thinks he has to be, the stoic emotionless robot, and the more he craves and he might not even be consciously aware of it. I mean, I wasn't consciously aware of it for a long time that I had this desire, but subconsciously, from the bottom of his heart, the more he will crave this emotional intimacy that in other parts of his life, he doesn't allow himself to live and to experience. So share your vulnerabilities and encourage him to share his, and if you then provide the safe space for him, by actively communicating that you respect him and admire him and that you are attracted to him for being emotionally available, then he will also follow this conversation pattern, he will follow this invitation to open up, because emotional intimacy is absolutely crucial for a strong connection, it deepens the bond that you have with him

8:24and it also creates it in the first place. But this of course also requires for you to open up, for you to let go of your fears of intimacy, for you to let go of your love blocks, and this is something that we will be doing together in week number three of the Love Magnet Coaching program, because in week number three, I reveal the real reasons why you might tend to get attached to quickly and fall in love too fast and maybe even with the wrong man, and what you can do to change this, while simultaneously, staying wide open for love to enter your life, and you learn ways to identify your most dominant love blocks, and 99% of my clients have the same four love blocks, and while your subconscious mind is always longing and craving for emotionally unavailable man, and how to change that, and these are just some of the things that you will learn in the third coaching session of the Love Magnet Coaching program.

9:29So I now invite you, or let's better say, after you've listened to this episode, I invite you to go to gethimkeepim.com slash magnet to find out more about the Love Magnet Coaching program, and then remember that if you build this foundation, and you then create shared experiences together, you make memories, you create wonderful memories, then this man will more and more fall in love with you, because whenever he's not with you, he's automatically going down memory lane and thinking about all the amazing memories with you, and he will then feel in his heart that you are the woman who allowed him to finally open up to open his heart and to let love in, and that's how you get a guy to love you. And if right now there is something specific that you want to share with me, something you want to talk about, then you can of course also book an individual coaching session first before you then join the Love Magnet Coaching program by going to gethimkeepim.com slash

10:30coaching, and then you can find out more about the individual Skype coaching sessions I offer, which of course can be also done via Zoom or WhatsApp or whatever app you prefer, and the individual have no sessions. And you might also want to find out more about those, because especially if you currently struggle to truly connect with your heart and to fall in love with your life, and to fall in love with yourself, a hypnosis session can lead to a powerful change. And that's what I wanted to share with you today, and if you enjoyed this episode, then of course I would really appreciate it if you would subscribe to the GethimKeepim podcast, because then you get notified whenever I release a new episode for you. And you might also want to leave a review on iTunes for the GethimKeepim podcast, and if you do that, you can send an email to SebastianAddGethimKeepim.com with a screenshot of your iTunes review, and I will say thank you so much by giving you free instant access to a very special gift, which is a short but powerful hypnosis for attracting the love

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