How to Stay Curious When it Hurts(143)

Tera, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis dive right into the deep emotional impact of hurt and how it shapes our decisions, often leading us to throw out meaningful connections. They discuss the origins of the phrase “throwing the baby out with the bathwater” and share examples where unresolved pain led to disconnection—from friendships to church experiences and even political divides. The Connection Codes team discusses the importance of staying curious, processing emotions like hurt and fear, and choosing connection over isolation. This is a very powerful conversation about making your way through personal and communal hard situations while holding onto what truly matters.

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Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - The Weight of Hurt Unpacked
• 00:00:52 - Meet the Voices Behind Connection
• 00:01:23 - Baby, Bathwater, and a Bigger Problem
• 00:05:51 - Stories That Still Sting
• 00:11:55 - Science Meets Hurt: The Brain’s Alarm
• 00:13:14 - Love in the Time of Pain
• 00:17:35 - Faith, Hurt, and a Bigger Picture
• 00:22:28 - When Churches Stop Listening
• 00:24:45 - Conversations That Change Everything
• 00:26:33 - Moving Through Pain, Step by Step
• 00:29:02 - How Pain Creates Growth
• 00:32:39 - Politics, Curiosity, and Connection
• 00:35:52 - Healing Starts with Acknowledgment
• 00:43:11 - A Final Look at Connection