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Welcome to the hidden test. The show that gives you inside access to cutting edge hypnosis
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Sir, get yourself comfortable and enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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Hi, it's Adam here and you're about to listen to a love and relationship hypnosis session
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all about feeling worthy of having a good relationship and love.
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And I was working with a client that because of her early experiences
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where they felt used and exploited, they had a very high standard
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before they would let someone get too close.
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And what I did is it meant that they could filter out those people that weren't that interested
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but equally they had a fear of being either rejected or abandoned.
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Or what they would do is after a while after that initial period
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their validation, their self-worth was dependent on the person that they're with.
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And that can happen to a lot of people where rather than valuing yourself
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and valuing the relationship, if your value is dependent on being seen with
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or known with or being attached to that particular person,
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that can form an element of dependency and attachment
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which can lead to bad decision making and tolerating things
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that might not be for the greater good.
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Now because this had happened and was a pattern across many relationships
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this hypnosis session starts with letting go of emotional baggage
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and there's a metaphor of feeling the weight of all of those things
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rejection, abandonment, anxiety, sadness, betrayal, all of those things letting go of that.
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And then imagining meeting themself where they are fully worthy of love
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and it's that worthiness which we're priming.
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So they get a sense that if they have that full worthiness of love
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how would their criteria change?
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What would they accept and what wouldn't they accept?
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And sometimes there is this push and pull dynamic in relationships.
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Someone might have a really high standard but equally be terrified of that commitment
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in which case they might create an element of distance
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and that might be long distance relationships, it might be emotional distance.
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These patterns can play out which ensure the variety of you try relationship
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doesn't work out you end and then you find a new relationship
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and I've worked with some clients that unconsciously that's what they want.
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They don't want that stable thing forever.
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They just want to have something new and this guarantees that cycle continues.
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This client did not want that what they wanted is something stable, something secure
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but part of their pattern to keep them safe was sabotaging the very thing that they wanted.
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So if you can relate or resonate with any of these themes or ideas
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you might get some value from this session.
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And if you want something created just for you have a look at my website
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or in the description and the website is adamcox.co.uk
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and the description if you click more info or more details
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close to this episode you should be able to see lots of resources that are free
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and you can find out how to work with me there.
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For now though, find a quiet comfortable place where you won't be distracted or disturbed,
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relax and enjoy the session.
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Take a deep breath in and as you breathe in breathe in a wonderful feeling of calm
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and as you exhale fill a wonderful feeling of release.
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Breathing in relaxation and exhaling tension
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and just allow your breath to represent the feeling of waves rolling in
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and then receding into the sea.
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And I wonder if you could imagine what it would feel like
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to be on a sandy beach in Costa Rica
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under blue skies and sunshine.
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Perhaps you could imagine a day not of big waves but small waves
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rising and falling, that's it.
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Just allow your eyelids to get heavier, your jaw to become loose.
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Each breath takes you deeper and deeper relaxed.
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And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel
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and the more relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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And I wonder if you could imagine
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keeping your physical body there
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and just imagine somewhere nearby to that beach
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or cliffs overlooking the ocean.
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Even if they didn't exist in reality, you can create them in your imagination.
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And just allow your conscious mind to float off into a deep sleep there on the beach.
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And imagine what it would be like to be up on the cliff tops
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looking down at your beach and the ocean below.
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And I want you to imagine holding two empty suitcases
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one in each hand there on the cliff tops.
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And you know they're empty because they're light.
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But as you breathe in and breathe out,
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we're going to fill those suitcases
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with the emotional baggage of the past
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because sometimes emotions stay inside
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for moments that have long since passed.
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And I want you to scan your body
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for any feelings of hurt,
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any emotional pain, any betrayal,
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any pain that comes from deceit.
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And for some people it's lurking in their heart
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or their gut or deep in their solar plexus.
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And I want you to imagine when you identify it,
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And just imagine that pain, that hurt moving
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from wherever it is,
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down your arms into the suitcases
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and fill the suitcases,
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getting heavier and heavier.
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And then I want you to scan your body for any anger.
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Maybe it's the anger of something
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that should have happened and didn't.
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Maybe anger directed at yourself or someone else.
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And sometimes anger is in the jaw
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or in the pit of the gut.
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Wherever it is, start to move that anger
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from you down into those suitcases,
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feeling them get heavier and heavier.
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And then scan your body for any regret.
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And there are two main regrets.
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The regret of not doing something you wish you did
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or doing something you wish you didn't.
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And sometimes that regret
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can feel like unfinished business.
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Sometimes it links to guilt or shame
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down into the suitcases as they feel heavier
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I want you to scan your body now
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Move it from your body into the suitcases
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because frustration left unresolved
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can turn into hopelessness
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A feeling of why bother wants the point,
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To find that frustration
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in any early signs of hopelessness
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move it from your body into the suitcases.
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There on the top of that cliffside
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and notice how heavy those suitcases
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filled with that emotional baggage.
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And what if these emotions
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are leading your mind to protect you
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in ways that feel helpful
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but actually create more
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of exactly what you don't want?
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Everyone knows someone
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who's hearts in the right place
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but whenever they try to help they make things worse.
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And what if that was happening inside you?
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A part of you trying to help
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but in helping in the way that it's helping
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impede your ability to find what you truly desire.
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And I want you to imagine
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your body is now searching for anything else
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any emotions, beliefs,
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any blocks that are getting in the way
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of you feeling worthy
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to have what you truly desire.
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Any of those blocks,
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echoes of emotions move them
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from you into the bags
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and feel just how heavy
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those bags are now.
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And at the point where your unconscious mind
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is willing to extract all the wisdom
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but let go of the emotions
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and the emotional baggage
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let me know by nodding your head.
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And I want you to feel how liberated
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to not just drop the bags
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over the edge of the cliff
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but hold them into the ocean.
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Not just one but both.
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And when you've imagined
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hurling the suitcase
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but keeping all of the wisdom
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and none of the pain,
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no regret, no resentment
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just let me know by nodding your head.
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And I want you to imagine
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that you feel lighter
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because all those heavy emotions
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are no longer there.
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And I want you to imagine
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we're going to replace
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the void of those heavy emotions
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that you've let go of
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I want you to replace them
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with two key emotions.
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the love comes from you
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you can want it from others
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And the moment you feel worthy
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you're not dependent
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on putting someone else on a pedestal
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to give you a sense of worth.
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I want you to imagine a color
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that represents worthiness
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and a color that represents self-love.
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And imagine breathing those colors in.
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charging up the power bank
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And I want you to imagine
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every time you breathe in
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you're breathing in
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And when your unconscious feels
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with 100% truth and certainty
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that you are worthy
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and you love yourself unconditionally
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let me know by nodding your head.
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And now you have this
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in the same way that a candle
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can light another candle
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without losing its own flame.
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that now is the time
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to go back to a memory.
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And each time you listen to this
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you can go back to a different memory.
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But for now I think of one time
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either right before
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And when there's a memory
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and you remember your age
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and location back then
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let me know by nodding your head.
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And I want you to imagine
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floating back to that memory
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at that point in time.
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But almost with x-ray vision
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so you can evaluate
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that version of you had
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at that point in time.
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And if from this perspective
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you can feel that part of you
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or the feeling of self-worth
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from the relationship itself
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let me know by nodding your head.
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listen to that younger version of you.
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Tell them they are worthy
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whether they are in
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a relationship or not.
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They are worthy of love.
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of attention, of connection.
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And I want you to imagine
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that feeling that you have now
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100% worthiness and self-love.
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You can give it to that version of you.
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You can charge their power bank.
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And then imagine what would have happened.
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If that version of you
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had all of that self-love
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all of that worthiness
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that you didn't need it
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from the relationship
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you could have liked it, desired it,
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wanted it but not needed it.
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And just observe like an invisible observer
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seeing what would have happened
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If that version of you
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didn't need the validation
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the affection, the attention
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from that individual
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you had more than enough within
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maybe you can see how the power
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How your boundaries became stronger.
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How your discernment
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And if it seemed like that
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version of you from the past
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with this 100% worthiness and self-love.
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Was able to subtly do things differently
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to increase the probability
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of more of what you wanted
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for what you didn't.
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Let me know by nodding your head.
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I tell that younger version of you
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that you are proud of them.
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They are desirable.
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Tell that version of them.
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to fight to be needed.
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For that younger version of you
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that for the right person
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they will make the effort
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not to jump through hoops
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but because they desire
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Empower that version of you
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to be trusting but not naive
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and to feel that you want love
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without ever being dependent on it.
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Give that younger version of your hug.
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Tell them wonderful things
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are in their future.
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And then float back
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to the top of the cliffs
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seeing the suitcase
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is floating off into the ocean.
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feeling infinite self-love
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And as you walk back down to the beach
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to reconnect with that other version of you
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I want you to feel a rising sense
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that whatever changes are required
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to increase the probability
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of getting what you truly desire
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in insights epiphanies
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and sudden realizations
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either instantly or or
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over the next few days.
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Like a penny dropping
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something new to do
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and you way of thinking.
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And as you hold that thought
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return back to that version
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of you sleeping on the beach.
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And then leave the beach
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and feel it's time to return
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leaving all of that baggage behind
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retaining all of the wisdom
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but returning with full self-worth
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from one to ten to a weighting use
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to take a deep breath
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and out three-on-o's
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wiggle your fingers
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and wiggle your toes
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connect and calibrate
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into the here and the now
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as I now count from one to ten
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open your eyes open your eyes
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nine ten wide awake
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