Joy Behar On The Art Of Giving A Critique & Her Biggest Fear

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My husband, he's very limited in the way he thinks in many ways.

Like all men.

Yeah, like, you know, think about where else we can order food from.

Well, there's not every, so every night my wife asks me, what do you feel like for dinner?

My answer to this is always, I'm good with whatever.

Pick a place.

I'll find something.

Get when you're in the mood.

That she gets mad.

It is.

It does.

There's nothing that gets her more mad than this.

And then if I do suggest things, she dismisses them out of hand.

So it's almost like she needs me to tell her what she doesn't want.

Maybe you should just say, like, we're recording this.

We're recording everything.

This is all gold.

Yeah.

Go ahead.

Because I was going to say, maybe you need to say, well, she says, that's the role playing.

I'll be you.

Oh, psychotherapy.

You'll be.

Okay.

Your Heather.

What do you want to do for dinner?

Whatever you want.

That's really not helpful.

I don't know what I want.

Tell me something.

Just pick something and I'll figure out.

Animal vestibular mineral.

I mean animal.

Okay.

A steak, chicken, or a pork chop.

I don't want any of those things.

Okay.

How about turkey?

We had turkey already.

How about salmon?

I don't like salmon.

Okay.

Well, I'm going to throw it back to you then.

What do you want?

I don't really care.

Heather, I'm working right now.

I don't have time to think about it.

You are Heather.

Oh, I'm Heather.

Fine.

I hate this.

All right.

Then I say like, that was the end of that psychodrome.

There we go.

Done for dinner.

All right.

Anyway, I don't understand why you can't have puddles.

All right.

I got a note saying start the podcast.

All right.

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All right.

I'm here with Joy Bayhara on a Wednesday, which is different.

Oh, getting excited.

Things are mixed up.

It is exciting.

It's if we're halfway through the week.

We're almost done.

And Joy is here.

Welcome to Behind the Game.

Yeah.

I kind of like it.

All right.

I'm the show today.

Yeah.

I'm going to talk about Hot Topics.

Sometimes you're in the move for this.

Sometimes you're not.

Yeah.

We talked about this US counterterrorism official, Joe Kent, resigning over the Iran War.

Does that make you hopeful that some people are standing up?

It turns out maybe this guy is not the one we wanted to stand up.

But it's.

Well, he's out of the job.

Yeah.

He's glad about that because he's a some kind of a right nationalist.

A Jason.

But at the same time, on the way out, he said there was no reason to have us to go to this war.

Well, yeah.

I noticed when even talking to this young lady we had on today.

Sarah Eisen.

Sarah Eisen.

That I asked her, what do you still like about him?

Um-hm.

And she likes the fact that he undead is undoing Iran.

That was basically what she said.

And she likes his policies, even though she dismisses all of his pecadilla, which are hideous.

Right.

I don't agree with that either.

I went.

There was a there was a deal in place that Obama put in.

And a friend of mine told me that the Iranians were not about to get a nuclear weapon for another 10 years.

So what was the rush?

I'm always suspicious of him because he always has an ulterior motive.

And he's such a liar that you don't know what to believe.

I like when you drop a friend of yours.

Is your friend on the inside?

Does he have knowledge of what's going on?

Yes.

Yes.

Oh, interesting.

Yes.

Is it a former president?

Did a former president tell you this?

I think it.

So Trump says that he spoke to a former president.

Yes.

Okay.

Here's the truth.

He was a former president.

Yes.

I think he probably talked to himself himself.

I called it a former president.

Yeah.

I can just be sure.

He said he wished he had done that in his first term.

And that's a good.

He is a sketch for SNL.

Just have him talking to the mayor.

Yeah.

Have 47 talking to 45.

That's what you do.

All right.

Well, you weren't with us on Monday.

But did you watch the Oscars?

Did you miss me?

I always miss you.

Yeah.

That was such a needy thing to say.

Did you miss me?

I didn't get text from you.

Normally I do.

About the Oscars?

About any show that you're not on.

I usually get text from you complaining about what we're talking about.

Oh, I see.

I was watching the show.

Yeah.

Did you watch the Oscars?

I remember it.

I watched the Oscars from beginning to end.

Oh, you did.

Here's my gripe.

Let's hear it.

And I thought something was funny.

I thought Conan was very funny.

I like Conan a lot.

I love him.

He's great comedian.

Any comedian that can do that is in my book.

They gave a big thing about Robert Redford who deserves it.

I mean, Barbara Costa Rizant comes out and sayings even the whole bit.

Yeah.

I see that Jane Fonda was annoyed with that because she said she's been in five movies with Robert Redford.

Barbara was only in one movie.

Sure.

But you know what?

I love Jane Fonda and I love Barbara Streisand.

But all of Jane Fonda's movies did not add up to the one that he did with Barbara.

That's the one for you.

Yeah.

In a way.

Jane's were good.

But the way we were was a spectacular film.

It was.

Okay.

So why not give a big tribute to one of the great American actors who'd passed away.

Who is that person?

Well, Diane Keaton, I thought you would say.

No, they did.

They did something on that.

Who are you thinking?

Robert Duval.

Oh, that's right.

Robert Duval.

That's right.

Come on.

Maybe they'll do it next year.

Too late.

The guy died this year.

Yeah.

No.

It's a great question.

Yeah.

Yeah.

But not like him.

Come on.

No, Robert Duval.

If you want to do actors.

Right.

I mean, they would.

Well, they put them in the.

They put them in the more.

Yeah.

No, you're right.

I mean, there were others.

It's hard because, you know, Rob Reiner, I think, deserved what he got also.

Reiner and Diane and Catherine O'Hara.

But you're right.

Catherine O'Hara and Robert Duval, I mean, are on the same year.

Where was Robert De Niro or Pacino to come up there and talk or Coppola to talk about Robert Duval?

Yeah.

I was found that very disappointed.

And negligent.

Yeah.

All right.

Well, we should do this next year.

I think you should host and I'll produce and we'll get it going.

Thank you.

You'll have to watch all the movies.

That's the only thing.

The other thing I want them to do next year with the Oscars.

And I've been thinking of this year after year after year.

Yeah.

Do a retrospective on people over the many, many decades who have accepted Oscars.

I want to see Carrie Grant up there, although he never got one, even though he was brilliant.

Ingrid Bergman, I want to see Betty Davis.

They're coming up on the hundred Oscars and I guarantee you they'll do it.

Okay.

Yeah.

All right.

Well, so as always, the Oscars was political.

Some people felt it was too political.

Some people felt it was not political enough.

I thought it was out there, frankly.

When he did that joke about pedophilia or whatever the line was.

Yeah.

I said, whoa.

Yeah.

That was very bossy.

It was.

It was.

Yeah.

Many stars spoke up out about the Trump administration's actions, though they didn't

really mention him by name.

Well, they're like whoopee.

Yeah.

They were.

Who?

Do you think it was effective what they did?

The few points that they made, I thought, were right on the money.

Right.

There was one guy who talked about, you know, thinking about the children of the world.

Mm-hmm.

And, you know, I mean, we're sitting here and this country has bombed a school and killed a bunch

of girls, children.

There's a lot of.

And so that had a lot of weight when he was saying.

Yeah.

And there were a few other people just talking about the darkness we're in.

Well, Kimmel was hysterical.

Kimmel is.

As always.

He's got some guts that way.

Yeah.

Absolutely.

Well, what are they going to do to them now that they haven't done already?

Nothing.

That's true.

Yeah.

All right.

Well, yesterday on the show, you said you used to come to the city on St. Patrick's Day.

To look.

To pick up.

To pick up Irish boys.

Well, yeah.

That was the day that like me and my girlfriends.

Oh, that was really good.

Oh, my girlfriends and I, I should say, because now I'm an adult.

Mm-hmm.

You know, come in.

And we go to some of the bars.

And they were always.

Irish boys are so cute.

Really?

I always found them very cute.

I knew you like Jewish boys.

I didn't know you like Irish boys.

I like Jewish boys and Irish boys.

But I only married Jewish boys.

Yeah.

It's okay.

I mean, I've had a couple of Italian boyfriends.

Yes.

But those never worked out.

No.

The, uh, generally speaking, St. Patrick's Day, not a big Italian celebration for.

No, no.

No, no.

No, not really.

No.

I mean, it's not exact.

No.

Columbus Day was the Italian day.

Yeah.

Exactly.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Do they still do the car?

They still do the parade in New York.

They don't.

Yeah.

It's controversial.

But the, but the past, St. Patrick's Day, you knew that they were.

But by the end of the day, everybody was bombed.

Yes.

So what was the point?

Well, the bars last night looking for, uh, looking to throw them for men.

Oh my God.

God.

Um, we had a conversation in the, the production being the other day.

And, uh, Enza, who we both know, uh, called me out for not being full-blooded Italian.

Cause I was, I identified as Italian, but she said, you're only half.

Well, your father's Italian.

My father was full-blooded Italian.

What's your mother?

Uh, she's a lot of different things.

Oh, yeah.

Like what?

Um, we'll call him a quarter Jewish.

Yeah.

Um, and she's, uh, a little Swedish, um, a little, uh, there's a little tiny bit of,

uh, England in there for me.

Oh, really?

Um, yeah.

But no Irish.

My daughters are redheads.

So, yeah.

So that's Irish.

I guess it is.

Heather refuses to get any, uh, any, like, of that ancestor.

Why not?

I don't know.

She doesn't want to know.

I don't know what that is.

My grandson, either.

I said, I have an ancestry kid.

Someone gave me.

The guy was going to give it to him.

Right.

Nah, I don't care.

Well, he knows because he, everything you are is in him, but it's a quarter of them.

Yeah.

But, uh, he should know about his grandfather on his mother's side.

Yeah.

I, I don't know.

Yeah.

What was it?

I'm going to do ancestry, I think, because I want to know if I'm related to anybody.

Well, you were on the, uh, you weren't finding their roots.

That should have told you.

They didn't tell me I was related to anybody.

No.

No.

Not like Sarah Haynes related to, to, she was crying.

Shout out.

I asked her, why were you crying when you found out that you were related to some

presidents?

Why?

It profoundly touched her.

She said that her mother, it reminded her of her mother, that her mother didn't think

she was like anybody or something.

Right.

You know, and then to get that kind of news, you cry for the old self that thought you were

nobody.

So you, that, well, okay, that's, that's, yeah.

That's my analysis.

I like it.

Um, and you're, so when you want to find your roots, you're not related to anybody famous.

You're the most, yeah.

Listen, there's a guy, the mayor of Calabria has my maiden name.

Okay.

And a senator in Rome has my maiden name.

Okay.

And it is not a typical name.

No, acute.

No.

O-C-C-H-I-U-T-O, acute though.

Okay.

Okay.

Eyes.

Yeah.

All right.

I like it.

And I call it in school.

They used to call me also, uh, Josephine Aknitz.

Yeah.

Or they thought I was Japanese.

All right.

Well, there you go.

I have, uh, what do you, I've told you this before, I'm descended supposedly from Lizzie

Borden.

Oh, that's right.

Uh, also Henry Clay, which is not a bad one, uh, and, uh, and, uh, I'm related to Bert

Backrack.

Maybe they can't find mine because they're, they're from Italy.

Yeah.

That could be it.

They're not American.

That could be it.

You have your mother's side is more American.

My mother's side is where I know all this stuff.

Yeah.

That's right.

All right.

Well, let's do some ancestry.

We'll work on it.

I want to do ancestry in Italy.

All right.

How do I do that?

It goes through it.

They, they, they, it's all connected.

The whole world.

All right.

It's good.

My brother-in-law discovered that he had a full-blooded sister.

He had never met and had no idea about it.

His parents had passed away, um, and he connected with his, uh, his sister.

Well, I would love that to be true for me.

Yeah.

And not only, not only that, they're actually very close now.

And she's lovely and she's a big part of the family.

So, and he's got a big extended family.

That is a, that is a really wonderful story.

Beautiful story.

Yeah.

You know, Anna Navarro said yesterday on the show on, uh, the weekend show, which you people

will see on the weekend.

Yes.

Um, they're breaking the, the illusion that we're here at nine o'clock in the morning on

Saturday.

They know.

Yes.

So, um, that her, she does not tell her husband about the podcast.

No, that's hysterical.

Yes.

I love that.

She said because she talks about him too much.

So she doesn't even want him to know she does.

She doesn't want to know what it exists.

So he knows about the real show.

And she has her own podcast.

He also, she also doesn't tell them about it.

It's pretty good.

Apparently, he's not following her career.

No, apparently not.

Well, who, you know, it's not like, does your, does Steve know about the podcast?

He knows I do it.

Only because he has to pick you up later.

That's fine.

Yeah, because he's watching it.

No, of course not.

Why would he?

Uh, all right.

Going back to dating you in the bars, um, we talked all day about the story, uh, of

women longing for their single days.

Yeah.

That was a hot topic.

Our first exercise about that.

I fantasized my whole life about it being a size 4.

Okay.

That was more of the point.

Right.

So there's other parts of your past you'd look for?

Yeah.

But I'll say that when I was married the first time, I did think about being single

a lot.

Because that's why I was the greatest.

You were a marital young.

That's why you were very young.

When you're married so young, you know that you're missing something.

Right.

You're missing out on something.

Right.

Yeah.

I, uh, but now I don't, uh, I don't at all.

I enjoy being married for the most part.

I do too.

Yeah.

I like it.

in Los Angeles for six months I was, you know, please I was on the ledge. You don't have

anybody to go out with there so you're always alone. I don't know why it's worse there than

in New York, but it is. Yeah. Because you can live there and never see anybody in New York.

Really. I know. Another thing that happened in that segment is we discovered that our guest co-host,

Sarah Eisen, wore a magenta wedding dress. That kind of big reaction. What did you think of that?

Well, she wasn't a virgin. Yeah. But so much. You know, a lot of people are not, but they're

so very pretty. I thought she looked great. I would guarantee you that 50 to 70 to 90% of brides are

not virgins. Certainly not nowadays. This sounds like a classic Joy Bay heart audience poll tomorrow.

Yeah. How many of you were virgins on your wedding night? I think that sounds that's right up there.

That's the kind of thing I would have done in stand-up. Yes. But but they wear white dresses.

Hey, my as my mother would go monkey by God. Well, they don't care. Do you know there's a staff member.

I think you know who this is who has been compiling all of your audience polls over the years

and putting them together. I didn't know that. Yes. You turning to the audience and asking them to

raise your hand if you did this. Oh, they're always inappropriate or strange. Who's been doing that?

Sam. Good for you. It's great. What is he going to do with it? I don't know. We got an

anniversary coming up. Maybe we'll put it there. Okay. Good. Raise your hand. I need water. I'm choking.

Raise your hand if you had the clap. I love that. All right. We had the king of facing your

fears on today. Johnny Knoxville. Oh, yeah. He was on today. What would you say your biggest fear is

non-political? My biggest fear. All right. Someone's coming in with water. Thank you,

thank you. No, full blooded Italian. I said, it wouldn't fork figures.

Junior mother used to go manga bagada. Not even a send. Oh, manga bagadilla. Yeah, she's looking

down on you too. How family's from a different district. Go down. Yeah. I don't know. I don't know.

What's your biggest fear? What is my biggest fear? I, uh, I don't like, I guess they don't believe

in refrigeration in this. No, I'm sorry. We can't afford them. Yeah. I don't like the idea of

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Well, thank you. I'm okay with that. Yeah. I think back to like, uh, when I lived in Manhattan,

we had a mouse in the apartment. I didn't like the idea of knowing it was out there. Oh,

rodents. Yeah. That's bad. I don't like a road. Okay. I can't even look at rodents on TV. Yes.

Like when they show them sometimes. Yeah. Steve will run into the next room. I remember when

pizza rat was a thing. You were very upset about that. You didn't want to do that hot topic. No.

Yeah. All right. So that's good. They're not cute. No. They have diseases. They carry the plague.

Whatever. Okay. So no, no, no, no. All right. So we've unlocked your biggest fear. That might be

that was pretty good. How are you with reptiles? A snake? I've never encountered a snake. I don't

a snake. Where are they? You posted a talk show for 30 years. No one's ever brought a snake on.

I feel like that we should have. Jack Anna never came on with a snake. All right. Not that I recall.

Well, we got something for you to do. Sunny is afraid of snakes. Sunny is afraid of snakes.

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All right. Comedian and actor Tim Meadows said recently, he's very funny.

Tim Meadows that his funniest friend is Adam Sandler.

He said he's known him so long that they have bits they do with each other from 30 years ago.

He also said that they can be themselves with each other.

Who is your funniest friend and why? I've told you this.

Susie Estman. No, Larry. Susie, very funny. The funniest of all is Larry Amaros.

The funniest friend you have. I didn't know that. That's pretty good. I told you what he said to me.

Tell her to get. I'll tell you. So like when my mother died, we were at the funeral

hall. My mother was laid out in one room and then there's always this little lounge.

And we're talking and just have a smoking probably at that time. And he said to me,

you know, you're so lucky. I said, why? He said, you have a boyfriend, you have a career,

and now you have a dead mother. Very dark.

But here's for the analysis of that. His mother was so bad.

She tied him up and set the house on fire or something. I mean, really bad.

She's dead now, I'm sorry. Of course. But that was why he said that.

Because he's so funny that he has no prisoners whatsoever.

Yes. And Susie's like that too.

No, I enjoy it. I mean, most of my friends are funny, to be honest with you.

Different ways. But I feel like you have. I find my friends funnier than most comedians.

That's great. And my husband happens to be very funny too.

Alan Aldo, who's a friend of mine. I don't want to drop names, but he is a friend of mine.

He happens to be very funny.

I remember from Mass. He was very funny.

Yes. He's wonderfully funny.

Yeah. I mean, who's my David Letterman?

I don't want to drop names either. He's funny, yeah.

Yeah. Joy Dehar. Very funny. Of course.

One of the guards here.

There, you know, I have a lot of guards. I call them my grooms because

when you say guards, it sounds like we're like Buckingham Palace.

Well, they're guarding the security.

Security. So one of them, when I come into the building,

I call them my grooms because I immediately lock arms with them and walk.

And then another groom picks them.

They were so adorable and treat me like a little queen.

Yeah. The queen that you are.

They know that I am a little shaky.

Yeah.

He said to me, you have always been my favorite comedian.

I saw him really.

I was surprised to hear that.

That's, I mean, you're very funny.

I have to say, like even-

But I don't do that anymore, the stand up.

At least once in episode of the show, I say into the controller room.

I can key into the controller room.

I said, thank God for Joy Dehar.

And then another time they were in the show, I said,

are you freaking kidding me, Joy Dehar?

I do that at least once.

Both Phil's things happen.

The notes.

The notes.

You don't like the notes.

Yes, the thing about the notes.

Yes.

This is my rule because I am-

Tell me.

Now I'm a playwright.

Yes.

And I have a director, but I also give notes.

Yes, I imagine.

The note is only valuable if it's a constructive note.

So to say to somebody, you shouldn't have said that.

That's useless to the person.

Don't say that again.

How about that?

No, there's, no, there's got to be a way

to construct a sentence so that the person gets it,

that there was something off with it.

We've worked together for 10 years.

Have I ever given you a note that you said,

oh, that was a good note.

Thank you.

I'm glad Brian told me this.

Not once.

Not one time.

Well, I look.

I mean, you're, you're 0 for zero.

I'm over.

I mean, my God.

There are things.

First of all, there are things that I would be,

it would be a dereliction of duty free, not the reference

after you've, when I give you those notes.

Sometimes I have to-

Let's practice how you could give me a note

that would be palatable today.

Okay, that would be palatable for you.

Yeah, so you pretend that I did something wrong

as if I ever do.

Yes, all right.

Let's say you insulted somebody

that is an upcoming guest on the show.

Okay, good.

Let's say you did that.

And I came to you and said,

you know, you really shouldn't have said that.

That person's booked on Tuesday.

This is a made-up story.

This never happened.

No, give me a specific person.

All right, who's on,

a Ryan Gosling's on the show Friday.

You shouldn't have made that joke about Ryan Gosling.

But I happen to love Ryan Gosling.

Who doesn't?

Yeah.

I know.

He brings out the gay in you today.

Listen, I'm straight, I'm straight as an arrow.

But, right.

Got it.

Well, let's think.

Who else would do that?

First, it's here's one.

You recently told Valerie Bertinelli

that she only dates losers.

I did say that.

Yes.

I said to her,

why do you date losers about Valerie?

What did she say back?

I don't know what she said.

But all I could think of was

we're insulting Eddie Van Halen

who she was married to.

That's what I was thinking.

Oh, why didn't know that?

No, but listen, I will say like,

let's say hypothetically,

you made a general statement

about a broad group of people

like Republicans.

All right.

And you said all Republicans are the worst.

Yeah.

Let's say you said that.

Yeah.

And then I would come to you on the break

and say, joy, it's not helpful

because you should talk in specifics.

You shouldn't make broad generalizations about people.

Because you know, that's not true.

You have friends that are Republicans.

Okay, now reverse roles with me.

Now you'll be joy and I'll be you.

Okay.

Shut up.

No, not the comments.

Say the comment.

You know, I, uh, Republicans are,

I mean, they're just the worst.

I mean, they're just the worst.

I don't like them.

Okay.

So, Joy, um,

you know, I don't think you really believe that.

I don't because you have many people

that you know who are Republicans.

You yourself walked off the set

when Bill O'Reilly put, uh,

painted Muslims with, uh,

white swath like that.

So I'm surprised that you would even say that.

What do you know?

I've been here 30 years.

You've been here for a minute and a half.

I know what I'm talking about.

That's true.

And no one's ever had a problem with me on this show.

So just get out of my face.

Okay.

Well, let me, let me spoil you before I respond to that.

Let me so that that opens to be true.

You have been here longer than I have

and you do know more than I do.

But I am watching you when you are not watching yourself

and what I'm saying to you can help you.

You don't want to just say an entire group of people is anything

because I don't believe that you believe that.

And I know that you're a real person

and that you're authentic.

And you wouldn't want people to think

that you believed all of anything.

People know what I'm saying.

They know who I am.

I'm a comedian.

I'm being funny.

That's what you pay me to do.

Okay?

Well, okay.

But sometimes that's,

with particular instance,

you aren't being funny.

Oh, really?

You aren't even trying to be funny.

You're going to tell me what's funny.

Well, I worked for Letterman.

You're an actual comedian.

So I defer to you.

Yes.

Well, why don't you defer to me and go back to your little podium.

Scene.

Where's the lie?

Who won that one?

I won that one.

I did.

She can't say it because she's scared of you.

She's scared of you.

No one's scared of me.

You ever are scared of you.

You need to be scared of me.

She's not scared of me.

All right.

Summer.

Get out of here.

All right.

You see my point.

No, I think what I said to you was,

you did wait.

If you, when you said to me,

if I said to you,

you were like, oh, Brian,

you had a great point.

The way that I did it,

way that I did it,

was to come in a way,

compliment you.

I do that to you all the time.

You don't.

I do that.

Now, you just say you shouldn't have said it like that.

And that does a useless thing.

And then I come and say how funny you are,

and how great your hair looks.

That's separate.

Yes.

Okay.

All right.

I'm trying to teach you the art of notes.

I'll work on it.

Thank you.

All right.

Here we go.

Next.

All right.

Here's a Huffington Post story

that I thought was fun for you.

It's titled,

are you venting or complaining?

Oh, yeah.

I saw that.

Therapists say the difference matters.

Therapists say complaining carries

more negative connotation

without resolutions and focuses on the blame.

Venting is more about talking through something

with a friend.

How do you handle friends that complain too much?

I don't have, I'm, I do the complainer.

I complain more than my friends.

You complainer, do you vent?

Both.

Yeah.

I believe in venting.

That's why I don't have hot disease.

Yeah.

I think you vent more than complain

because a lot of the things you complain about

I just ignore and they go away

and you never bring them up again.

What, what do I complain about?

The topics and this.

Like the refrigerator, it conquests out.

Yeah.

The television is out or doesn't,

the water isn't refrigerated.

Water is a warm, those are complaints.

Yes.

But I can't do this job

because I feel like the topics are too hard now.

I did not get a doctorate in polysci.

No.

That's a vent.

Yes, that's a vent because you'll get over that.

Well, I can say it.

It doesn't mean anything's going to be done about it.

No, but that's what you say before you stop

and think about what you're actually going to talk about

and then you have something and you feel fine.

I know.

As soon as I get on the air, I come up with something.

You know why that just works?

Because I'm listening to what other people are saying.

Believe it or not.

Yes, no, I know you are.

It's one of your best qualities.

I respond to what they're saying.

You look conversational.

Yeah, I am.

Yes, you are for sure.

And I'm a jabber.

My husband always says you're a jabber.

I'll get in and get out.

I like the fact that you're a jabber.

Yes.

All right, well, this has been a journey, Joy.

Thank you for joining me today.

Tomorrow I'll be back at Anna Navarro

where I won't have to work as hard,

but I also want to have to speak.

So that'll be fine.

See, she gives you a respite.

Oh, yeah, no, I get a lot of work done

in my head while she's here.

It's good.

It's like six.

After a while, you start to clean your refrigerator.

Yeah, I'll see you then.

Thank you.

No.

No.

No.

No.

No.

No.

No.

No.

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