Kristi Noem Responds To Allegations Of Husband’s “Double Life”

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Hey there folks, it is Tuesday, March 31st, and please, please.

Be kind to Christy Nome, her husband, and her family right now.

And with that, welcome to this episode of Amy and TJ Robes.

This is not an episode we were planning to do or would have done

at Christy Nome just a little while ago put out a statement responding to some pretty,

I guess, unbelievable, devastating and very private revelations about her husband.

But now that she's addressed it, Robes, this has become a different type of story.

Yes, there are all sorts of rumors swirling about her husband.

And look, we would never have touched these.

I don't think, I think it's fair to say, with a 10-foot pole.

Had she not, as you mentioned, responded to this.

But this is about her husband, Brian, and perhaps his...

No, go ahead and say it's okay.

It's difficult to try to describe because we debated, how do you say this?

It's okay.

He's the cross-dressing.

He's accused of cross-dressing and having a bimbo fetish where he apparently likes to dress with large boobs.

And share photos.

And these photos have been discovered and have been published now.

And yes, Christy Nome has responded to the photos being published.

The story being reported about her husband's sexual preferences.

Okay, so that's where I say be kind.

I mean, Robes, anything that comes, she's going to get attacked no matter what.

And something like this, having to do with her family.

A lot of people would have smiles on their faces and glad she's being to some degree humiliated.

But we just got to be careful.

And I would just say kind.

This is pretty tough stuff for a family to go through for your personal life to be thrown out in this way

and to have the kind of heat and comments that are coming.

Obviously with us, Robes, we're certain to agree in a level.

There is no matter what, a degree of sympathy for what is coming.

The family's way.

Not just her and about politics.

This is, or can be, Robes, this is private stuff that is now public.

And it's kind of devastating.

Yes, being made very, very public.

And of course, all coming within weeks of Christy Nome being pushed out of a very prominent, high profile role as the Secretary of Homeland Security.

So she loses her position in a very public.

And I would say humiliating way.

Apparently moments before she was going on stage about to give a speech.

She had to make her way through this speech with everyone reporting this breaking news that she's lost her job.

And yes, now this.

And this is her husband of many, many years.

This is a couple who married in 1992.

Help me do that.

I was surprised to hear that.

34 years ago.

34 years.

I was very surprised to hear they've been married that long.

34 years of marriage.

They were high school sweethearts in South Dakota.

They worked together on her family's farm.

And then she went into politics.

He went into the insurance business.

So it was this Midwestern love story.

And then they went on to have three children who are now adults.

Cassidy Kennedy and bunker two daughters and a son.

And so yeah, kind of like this all American farming family that is now in political power.

Do you have, I'm so sorry to put you on the spot if you don't have it.

The general idea of the ages of the kids now.

Yes, I actually do have that.

So Cassidy is their oldest daughter.

She's 31.

Okay.

She's been involved in her mom's political campaigns and in just her professional life.

She has children of her own.

So she Cassidy made Christie and her husband Brian grandparents.

Then their next youngest child, her name is Kennedy.

And she also served as a policy analyst in her mom's gubernatorial office there in South Dakota.

So she was a part of all of that.

And right now she also founded a Pilates studio.

And then they have a son who's around Booker is his name.

He is 23.

And he is their only son.

How many do you say one grand kid?

Two.

I don't know how many grand kids they have, but I know that they do have grandchildren.

So we, a story like this.

And we're going to read her statement here in a second.

But a story like this, Robes, is as people want to poke fun.

I know, I know social media.

I know it's tough.

I know tabloid media is tough, tough, tough, tough.

Robes, when something like this, I just caution people.

Not just be as kind as you can because it's not just about Christie.

No.

They are grandparents.

I mean, they have kids.

They have kids that work in offices with other people.

It's just there's a whole community and family that's now dealing with something that's very private, now public.

And it can be humiliating.

What do you do behind closed doors?

Knock yourself out.

Fine.

But Robes, something like this, it's hard to take.

And I know people are taking joy in it.

It's just, I just take no joy in something like this happening.

I think after everything we've been through, it was one thing to be even in the media and reporting on things and also having public and private lives.

It's still, you don't know what it actually feels like until you are at the center of some controversy or some negative spotlight.

And until you've actually experienced not just what it does to you, but what it does to your parents, to your siblings, to your children, to your aunts, to your uncles, to your cousins, to everyone who has your last name, to everyone who is associated with you, your outer circles.

This is something that is humiliating to an extension.

You can't possibly fully recognize until you've lived it.

And so, yes, we may, many of us, many of you, might not agree with Christi Nome's policies or even how she delivered her policies, but she's still a human being.

And I just, this is a moment, I think, where you can say, okay, I just hate when people kind of jump on something like this and say, yeah.

She deserves it. This is called karma. This is what's coming to her. I just, I just would, I think this is where we would ask people just to recognize this as something that is tragic on a human level and put politics aside and just recognize that someone is hurting because this is a painful, painful thing to go through, not just for yourself, but for everyone you love.

So we should hold on to that. That's a great point.

It was a way to put it. It's this tragic on a human level and this is devastating to a human being and this can, to have it thrown out there in this way, I just can imagine, just the kids and the family and the extended family and the extended friends and this is everybody who has touched this family in any way is having to deal with this now.

So ropes, I don't, it's hard to look at it at this point of, we need to read her statement now to try to maybe further understand this story.

So here we go. The stuff had kind of been out there and been talked about rumors for the most part and stuff covered on in tabloids and whatnot.

And then she responded to it and this is what she said, very short statement of ropes.

Miss Nome is devastated. The family was blindsided by this and they asked for privacy and prayers at this time.

And that was it. That was it. They acknowledged, right? But what? I mean, you can, I mean, that could be very, very carefully written.

We look at a lot of PR statements and releases over the years, robes and words matter and they chose several ones in particular.

And there are some things they could have said that they didn't say.

Yes. So just to even acknowledge she's devastated means obviously that this is something she's upset by and then didn't know about.

But what is it that she didn't know about? Well, I will stop at the, she was the first thing. She's devastated.

She's devastated. The period after that period period. Okay. She's devastated by what though?

You really can make the argument. She's devastated that this is out. She's devastated because she just found out.

She's devastated because she's been talked about on social media. What exactly if she devastated by? That's how I took the first part.

Okay. Then the family was blindsided by this by this. What?

The revelations about, I mean, this would be the obvious presumption that they are speaking specifically to, yes.

But that's what you have to do in this point. At this point with that ambiguous response, this.

But you would have to think that that is referencing this or these photos that we're seeing of him cross-dressing.

And some of the payments that have been revealed that he has made to these Bimbofication websites, these fetish websites that I didn't even know existed.

So yeah, this would be, yes, the allegations that are now out there with photographic evidence.

See, I am looking and reading this so differently. I am looking and reading to this as they left an opening here for him to be not guilty.

They're leaving it open. They're not actually saying he did any of this. She didn't say she's devastated to learn of her husband's behavior.

He's just saying she's devastated. They could leave room here for a lot of stuff and they didn't condemn him. They did not.

And for me, that was intentional and she could have buried him. Can't believe he had been up to such things. Can't believe this was hidden from her. Can't believe she has been betrayed.

Can't believe they could have said a lot of stuff, but there's nothing in there that even close to suggests that she's saying yes, he's guilty of the things he's being accused.

You're correct. I mean, if you yes, you are and look, that is probably the very smart way to look at it. This has been carefully and specifically crafted through a PR.

That's amazing, though, Rose. Someone who knows a lot more about public relations than we do. Yes, but that would make sense.

That is. That you leave openings to have different outcomes based on what you need them to be based on what information comes out.

Devastated by blank, blindsided by this, which is blank. That is really interesting when you dive into these things. However, folks,

I don't know how deep of a dive robes necessarily did, but there's this term I never heard before today.

Ben both occasion. Do I have that right, Robes? Yes.

All right, we'll stay here. We'll try to explain what that is.

Welcome back, everyone, to this episode of Amy and TJ, where we are talking about former Department of Homeland Security,

Secretary Christie, no, I'm dealing with some pretty horrific headlines about her husband today.

A lot of folks saying that he is a secret cross-dresser who has a bimbo-facation fetish, and she has directly addressed some of these reports by saying she's devastated.

I consider something here. Is it devastating that people are into whatever they're into? It's just that people found out about it, and now it's supposed to be embarrassing.

If this worked for them in their private lives, what business is it? I'm not mad that he does whatever he wants to do in his private life.

If his wife has a problem with it, then okay, but that's for them to sus out.

Well, yes, and for her to say that she was blindsided by it would indicate that she was not aware of it, or she's at least saying she does not know or was not aware of this beforehand.

Again, I look at it, she possibly could say she's devastated by it getting out publicly.

It left a room in the statement to give her a little wiggle room if it ever comes out down the road that maybe she knew about this at a time.

So here's the weird thing. So if you look up what bimbo-facation is, it's basically a fetish, a kink that's centered around women becoming real life Barbie dolls.

Barbie dolls with gigantic proportions.

What?

How weird is that when you think about Christy Nome's moniker, not one that she wanted, that was meant as a critic, she was literally called obviously ice Barbie, right?

So now to hear that her husband is being accused of bimbo-facation, where that is what it's described as, a kink centered around women becoming real life Barbie dolls with gigantic proportions.

And often acting airhead-y.

So that's like something that people are into.

Big boobs, airheads, think that kind of a thing.

But like, yeah, Barbie dolls.

Look, if you're into whatever you're into, knock yourself out.

I think I got no problem with that. I just, it's a tough time for that family.

And I don't, obviously, you don't, obviously, but I hope no one would take any joy into seeing this happen to somebody's family.

This is tough.

I have no one takes joy in that.

And if you are, I ask yourself a couple of questions.

If you are, but even so, this is just not fun and funny and a joke and plenty of jokes are flying.

And you could have only imagined if you haven't looked already.

Or some of the stuff that's out there, you read some of it, right?

Yes. And look, I think the word to describe it as, it feels humiliating, whether it should be or not.

I can only imagine that is what it would feel like.

And I feel like this is a story in which you would say, I wouldn't wish that upon my worst enemy.

I really do think that because this is one of those things where, look, I think we understand,

you can experience a lot of things in your life.

But when you experience shame, shame that is imposed on you, whether you deserved it or not,

that is one of the worst feelings in the world.

It truly is.

And I feel like that is what I think of when I think about how Christy know might be feeling,

how maybe even her children are feeling, how anyone who has been a part of that family or loved,

any of them is feeling.

That's just, I just think that is one of the worst feelings a human being can feel is shame,

especially when it isn't earned, especially when it isn't something that you necessarily did.

And yet you endure it.

It's, it's tough.

Did he do anything other than have his private life exposed?

Correct.

I don't know what the story is between him and his wife.

I don't know.

They just see, I don't know.

It's just awful, awful for a family.

So that's all we can ask.

Folks, just be kind.

Just be as kind as you can, offer a little grace.

And what was the line I wanted to remember?

You had earlier wrote, I forgot it already, but just a matter of being a decent human.

Yeah, I think, look, I think, for instance, when you think about Christy Knowham,

and she took a hard stance, took a hard line on a lot of folks,

so people might want to return that now in this moment.

And I can imagine how easy and how good it might feel to say,

aha, karma, or at least return the fire that was incoming,

or at least felt like it was coming towards you.

This is an opportunity not to return fire.

This is an opportunity to say, okay, she may have fired shots,

but I'm not going to return fire.

And like, that is the moment where plenty of us can rise above.

And I think that it's a moment of opportunity and a moment not to get down

down in the mud with others that we've certainly seen.

And I just think every one of us on an individual level can do something

and collectively maybe we can take some of this conversation

the way we've been speaking and addressing each other,

just take it to a higher level, a better level, and this is an opportunity.

What, wasn't that, doesn't that feel better?

Yes.

If you think she has wronged you to treat her better,

then you think she treated you or your fellow American.

Treat her better.

That's what we need, right?

Someone has to start it.

Somebody.

Right?

And the person who does gets it, and they're actually the happier person.

Yes, hurt people hurt.

So try to remember that.

All right, with that everyone, we always appreciate you listening to us.

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