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Hey Lifers!
Britt is ‘trying something new’ today and she’s been humbled by her closest friends.
P*rnhub has locked Aussies out and Britt has revisited her saucy past. Have you ever vetted a nude for a friend?
Laura’s realising that her nearly 7 year old daughter has got impeccable taste but is also getting a little sneaky!
Keeshia has a PSA about getting fire extinguishers for your home after her next door neighbour’s laundry burnt down last week.
There’s a reel we came across this week that had us thinking about expectations and only celebrating ‘traditional’ milestones for our friends. Do you or your friends only celebrate/put time and money into the typical celebrations like hens parties, weddings and baby showers??
“This story is inspired by actual events. Certain depictions of people and events have been dramatized or fictionalized for story telling purposes”.
Love Story: John F. Kennedy Jr. & Carolyn Bessette is one of the most streamed shows in the world but we are once again left questioning how much creative freedom writers should have when the people they’re depicting are real.
Daryl Hannah has written a piece in the New York Times and said that the version of her on the show is “not even a remotely accurate representation of my life, my conduct or my relationship with John.”
She has also noted that “the choice to portray her as irritating, self-absorbed, whiny and inappropriate was no accident”. We ask if it was necessary for Daryl Hannah to be depicted in this way so we would barrack for Carolyn? Do we still need such a blatant heroine vs villain narrative?
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Hi guys and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. I'm Laura. I'm Brittany. I'm here sitting across from the smartest person in the world right now.
I have come armed with a laptop and my glasses. Yes. I'm so glad you know and it's time wearing glasses today.
This is your superpower now. Brittany just took her reading glasses off and she was like dumb, smartest person in the world.
Look, I'm sorry. Look at the transformation everyone if you're watching YouTube. People take me more seriously with glasses on.
They do. They respect me way more when I wear my glasses. Do they respect you when they discover that there's nothing prescription about them?
There's not even a lens, it's just you put my finger through and hit me.
It's just a frame. Are you wearing blue light glasses? What are these for? Are they just for aesthetics?
Because they are aesthetic. You look great. I was just explaining to Keisha because Keisha also laughed in my face like a true friend.
Yeah. Do you know what though? I think it's important to keep friends by your side that keep you humble.
I don't need to be kept humble. I'm wearing my glasses.
That's why Brittany told me that I was trying something new. She hated your elf shoes.
Oh yeah. This is payback for the elf shoes.
Okay. I never said I hated it. We do not need to revisit.
You never said you like said not. I said not for me, but they're good for you.
I have glasses on. I don't need to be kept humble because I put my migraine glasses on.
It's a bit of A bit of A. Are they aesthetic and I think they're cute? Absolutely.
But they're supposed to help with focusing from I don't have any problem with my eyesight at all.
But sometimes migraines can be induced by the time it takes your eyes to focus when you look at a
screen and you read and then you look up to something in front of you like a person.
You don't know that you're doing it, but your brain knows and it strains.
And my brain's been straining a lot. And so I thought,
I want to help my migraines and I want to look super cute and smart.
And I'm sick of being disrespected. So what in them?
Nothing. No, I guess it's I don't know. I've had the same kind of lens forever.
It's like a doesn't help you see, but it helps you focus. But I don't know what that means.
Like it's something. I do. I think we'll be see better without them, to be honest.
I like it. But I like them. I like them too. If you're not watching on YouTube,
everyone brits trying something new today. And also, you know, what happens?
I've walked in every day without my glasses. No one notices me. I put them on today and someone
went, good morning, ma'am. No, they did it. I'm alive. I'm alive.
I do feel like I've taken more seriously with them. I want to tell you this funny story.
So yesterday, I was getting my hair makeup done. We're on set filming.
And it takes hours, right? You're sitting in the makeup chair for hours.
I was on my phone reading my messages, doing my work, whatever.
And I got a message come up, opened the message and a big,
very sexy photo popped up on my screen. Like,
lingerie. What are they called? The guard belt that goes around your legs,
a guard like a spender's high heels. It was like from behind.
Like she was bent over the kitchen table. She was, and you could just see like,
she had a jeesh, lazy jeesh on full booty. It was hot. Like it was super hot.
But it's super orangey. Why do you send that, Laura?
I just got dressed up that morning, put Brit with like it. It was from Ben.
It was from Ben. So Ben had sent it to me. And I have the new phone.
You know, the really big one likes the really big phone. It's like walking around with an iPad.
Yeah. So I like panicked. And I was like, oh my god. And I looked up. And my makeup artist was
looking over my shoulder. So she saw it. And so I quickly got out of it. And I looked at her,
and I saw that she was watching my phone. And I said, oh, I'm so sorry. She's like, it doesn't matter.
I didn't care what you look at. And I was like, what do you mean what I look at? And she's like,
oh, obviously you're only fans. And I was like, what? And she's like, no, I'm not looking at only
fans. And she's like, well, what was that? And I was like, that was me. I had sent a photo to Ben
years ago. Like, you know, when you're in the new throes of a relationship, I had dressed up,
doled myself up, put all his lingerie on, self-time to photo in the kitchen, in the kitchen.
Self-time. He's kitchen too. He was at work. You know, when you're like, I remember, I think it was
S the Perl where she's like, start the, what's it? Start the play start the second that sex ends.
So it was one of these things like, come, if you'd come home anyway, sent it to Ben, this is
years ago. He was trying to find something in his old messages. He came across the photo and
thought, I don't know why he thought I'd want to see it again. So he sent it back to me. But she's
looking over my shoulder. She saw me in a way that nobody should ever see me. But that was one
thing. And then I was like, fuck, should I have told her that was me or should I have stuck with it
being an only fans? I was like, should I have just said I'm on looking at naked women on only fans?
Or it was me. I was like, this is, I'm really torn. So I was like, no, you're right, it was only
fans. I went with only fans. I think it's fine. Yeah, you can scroll only fans. What you're
going to say? What is she going to say? You're like, don't shame me. No, you're shits. They're
shaming up. Poor hubs now banned in Australia. It is banned in Australia.
Did you mean poor hub is banned in Australia? As of yesterday. Unless you had an existing account
apparently, I was listening to the daily let's talk about it this morning. What? Tell me more.
Yeah, it has to do with age verification and I'm fine.
Poor hub have to bring in like actual age verification, not just click a button. Yes, I'm over 18.
And so if you go on to the website now, you can't see any porn. Wait, so this came in only
this week. It's actually been passed. Yeah, don't pretend you haven't noticed.
Yeah, you love it. No, this has been something that's been
indisputed and the policies have been discussed on this for so long.
Poor hub has been saying that it's something that's like an impossibility because it's going to be
a data breach. It's going to be so challenging for people's personal information.
But like, it's the only way to protect children from being able to access porn so freely.
Thank God, this has come into effect. How I miss this. I've been living under a rock,
but that's a good news week. Well, yeah, the one other thing that I thought was really
interesting is that apparently it's the ninth most popular website in Australia.
Ahead of the bomb. People care more about porn than the weather.
I'm not surprised about that, but you would be upset if you were the bomb because apparently
they spent like $90 million in developing that site. So note 90 or 19.
Anyway, don't come to me for the truth of the facts, but porn hub because it's not just that they're
banning like new users that are underage because you have to provide your verification.
Because you have to provide verification now of your age,
porn hub have cracked it and banned everyone. If you have a pre-existing account,
you're fine, but no one of any age can use porn hub in Australia right now.
How many people do you think are listening to this podcast now? They're googling
porn hub just to see if it's legit. It's like in a wet paint sign, but there was a real
increase in VPNs yesterday. Well, everyone's using a VPN. I actually think that this is fantastic.
I know that obviously if it's come off the back of porn hub cracking it and being like, well,
if you're going to put restrictions on us, we're going to stop everyone from being able to access it.
I mean, there's some crazy statistic, which is like children at the age of 13,
majority of children have already been exposed to pornographic material by that age.
They've already seen pornographic material. So this had to come into effect. So whether or not
they're doing it as like a throw the toys out of the prem. If we have to follow these rules
and no one can have it, I'm kind of like at least that there is like some sort of response
that's happening in this because it is a very weird flex for them. We'd just say like, oh,
we're going to lose a tiny bit of money. We'll lose it all. Like it just seems we find
they're up to $50 million. Yeah, it's not a tiny bit. Yeah, I think that the problem is that
the responsibility is humongous. And that's why they're trying to make a big stance around it.
Because they're like, well, if we're not able to uphold whatever the verification is that you're
putting in place, the magnitude of the fines are too big. Yeah. So brick great time to be
launching an only fan's. I think that you started with one picture and a makeup artist.
Well, you know what I thought? I would don't often say this. Remember when I did that nude
guys that I got you to approve many years ago where I did the nude and the vase was like
strategically covering my body? You guys remember that? I do remember. So like I wonder if
ever other people do this. Do you ever vet your needs by your friends? Brick came in this one day
and she was like, I have this new. I was like, is this hot or not? And it was like slightly artistic.
But I didn't know what it was that I was about to see. You didn't ask me for consent to view
the image first. Because you didn't actually see anything. No, but also you were like, hey,
have a look at this photo. Can I send this to Ben? And I was like, whoa, that's high. Yeah.
You can send that to Ben. But you didn't ask if you could send it to me and to my eyeballs. But
yes, but in my defense, you're making it sound like I salted you in my vagina. I was covered.
The whole point of it was was artsy. So like the vase covered a little bit and the flower
was covered the boobs and like it was a nude without it being nude. Like it was super artsy. Like
I could have blown it up and entered it into like some kind of Nobel Prize thing. Do you remember
your hands, buddy? How you wanted to send Ben? Oh, stop it. This is a polo. Funny, I don't know,
we've ever told this one podcast. I don't know how I got roped into this. At some point,
do I know that it was supermaning across the bed topless. She wanted to get a photo in the air.
Like topless to send to Ben, it was so funny and I've never laughed so hard in my life.
No. Because like her whole body gravity, you know, like, go to YouTube and something now.
No, sorry. At my hands, buddy. Thought it would be cute to send Ben. I don't know what is wrong
with us. We spent too much time together. Like a hot photo topless photo. We're like, let's send
him a topless photo of the both of you. No, just me. Someone had to take it. Someone had to
do the photo shoot. So we tried, this is you guys know how awkward I get. I did a couple of
serious ones that I thought were hot. And then I was like, I can't just send him this. It'll be
funnier if I send him a stupid nude. So instead of sending him a sexy nude, I ran through the air
and I superman sideways. I was completely horizontal across the bed. Then Keisha snapped the photo
mid air. Very athletic, very nimble. But because I the gravity, my boobs were just these tiny little
white pointers that were hanging to the ground. And like, they were hanging up. It was like flying
through the air. It was the least sexy thing you've ever seen. And that's the photo that I sent
to him. It was so funny. It was like, what the fuck? Anyway, yeah. So not only did my friends
vet my needs, they take them. I don't even know what it go for me are. I can confidently say,
I've never had a friend take a nude. Never in my life. I can tell for you, for your 40th,
I'm going to give you a shoot that I can send to Matt a tasteful nude photo shoot. We have been
trying to think what we can get you. Can I have nude shoot you? I sent Matt like an almost nude
recently. Actually, it wasn't even a new, it was an old one. And he was just like, why did you
send that? Like it was like from the archives. It was kind of like how Ben sent you one of yourself.
I sent one that was from the archives, but it was of me. And he was like, why? Did he know
it was the archive? Oh, yeah. Fuck that. It looked like that anymore. Nothing looks like that
after three children. And he said, why? We like, Matt, that's not the answer. No, he was just a bit
like, why did you send it? We're not at the nude stage anymore. Something happens when you've
been with your partner for a long time. They've seen you birth three children. Like the concept of
sending Matt a nude no longer feels like it's sexy. It feels like it's funny. Like it doesn't
actually feel like it would. I don't think I would get the desired response from him. And if he
just sent me a nude as well, I'd be like, why? I think you're under estimate. I still think
Matt, I know Matt would happily receive a nude from you. He'll take what he can get. The guy
would take what he can get. Don't withhold that from him. I can take one of you. I've seen my
art. I did. I saw your boobs yesterday. Thank you. You deserve it. They're great. Okay. Well,
look, I have a question for you. Have you ever stolen anything from your parents?
Just their desire to live. They're dignity. They're will to live. Just their freedom.
I stole their cigarettes when I was young, but that wasn't for me. That was so that they couldn't
have them. And that did not end well. I stole alcohol from my mom. That was one thing. Like, you
know, when I was going to parties when I was like 16, 17, I would steal liquor and I'd top it
up with water. As if they didn't know, right? No, I don't think my mom did. I don't think she had any
parents didn't drink. So there was never alcohol to steal. I never had anything to steal.
Did you ever steal money? Did you ever steal clothes? Is there anything that you took from your
parents knowing, like full well-knowing that you'd taken it? You shouldn't take it? Yeah, I stole
one borrowed for a long time. One of my mom's like really nice bracelets. It was like a really big
chunky bracelet. And in hindsight, it was a really bad thing to do because it was probably one of
her favorite pieces. I think it was expensive, but I loved it. And I didn't know, I didn't know
at that time. You know when you're a teenager, you just don't really know the ins and outs of like
anything of your of your parents' life or whatever. And I just thought that was fucking sick and
took it. And I remember she asked me for it a few times. She was like, have you taken it? And I
said, no, because I panic. She know when you panic and you dig yourself into a hole. And you lie.
And I lied. And I don't know why I lied because mom was like, I can't find it anywhere. She was
really upset about it. She ended up seeing it in a photo. I was at uni in Newcastle. She ended up
seeing it. And I was like, oh my god, I found it. And then I gave it back to her. But I just loved
it a lot. I just didn't want to give it back to her. Wait, so she saw you wearing it in a photo?
Well, she always knew I had it. But she knew you were lying. She knew you were straight up lying
to her. Yeah. She knew I had it 100%. Yeah. But I liked it. Fuck kids suck. I know. But I gave
it back to her. She's got it now. She still has it. What had she respond when you gave it back to her?
Are you little sneaky bitch? That's what my mom would say. Like, you little sneaky soul and so
that's what she's saying. So, Marley, she's seven years old now. Actually, she's six. She's
almost seven. She often takes things from me that she, she's like a bowel bird, right? Like, she
takes things that she thinks are nice. And then I find them in her room. And like, I try to explain to
her the inherent value in stuff. But it's really hard when she's only like almost seven. And she
doesn't quite understand. Like, this thing costs this much money or this thing costs this much
money. Like, money is like an arbitrary idea to her, especially when she can go busking in her
in $3,000 in 20 minutes. Yeah, she's basically a deal. So once a month, I go through Marley's
backpack. And I clean out like, what's in it? Because kids and backpacks, they kind of just end up
becoming like a, like a dumping, yeah, a dumping zone for everything, right? Every so often,
she's picked up random things that she probably shouldn't have. Always things that are not a big deal.
Like a matchbox car that she's found in the playground or like some dice or just random shit that
accumulates in the bottom of her bag. So anyway, I was putting Marley and Lola to bed the other night.
And Matt comes up to the room and he goes, hey babe, I think Marley's taken something of yours.
And I was like, what are you were talking about? Anyway, I went downstairs. Not only had Marley stolen
a diamond ring from my jury box. She'd put it in its own little like special jury box holder.
She put it in her backpack and she'd been taking it to school to show her friends.
She had been taking a two, like show and tell, not even show and tell because the teacher,
she knows it's wrong. She didn't tell the teachers. She was gonna propose a $2,000 ring that she
took to school because she has a boyfriend who she wanted to show. And I was like, Marley,
that ring is so expensive and she goes, it was really pretty one. I picked a really nice one.
Just wanted to show and I don't want to say his name just in case anyone from school listens,
but she took a diamond ring to school to show her boy. I think she's setting the standard. She's saying,
this is what I deserve. This is what I need in life. Get used to it, buddy. Do you know I saw
this last week? This is like that on steroids. They thought she didn't fucking lose it. Oh yeah,
I was probably not sure either knowing you. Oh no, it's not of course not. I literally saw this last
week. There was a little boy, a dad that was doing a real on Instagram. He was in America,
but he and his mum were in hysterics and they called the daughter over. She was like six years old.
And they're like, Hey, honey, show us what Tyson gave you today. This little boy from school,
and she comes up and she goes, Tyson gave me a ring. And she's like, show us, honey, pulls it out.
Tyson, another six year old boy, had stolen his mum's engagement ring, took it to school and
proposed to her at six, gave it to her. She took it accepted it and took it home. She had some
random boy's mums engagement ring at home. And he's like, where does he live, honey? We need to
give this. And anyway, these are kids just stealing engagement rings left friend.
Because family heirloom. It's because they don't know how much it's worth. Like Marley will take
Tony May rings or things that I have like lying around the house. And because like often I come
home with jury from work, she thinks that it's just like, she doesn't understand the value in it.
But what I found funny was the fact that she took it to show a boy because she was like,
this is kind of the one. This is what I want. Anyway, I asked her this morning.
I asked her this morning. And I was like, and I love the Maldives. I was like, how is,
how is your boyfriend? And she's like, oh, we broke up. I was like, what do you mean? You were
only dating for about four days. And she's like, I realized I'm too young to have a boyfriend.
She realized quicker than you did. I was like, yeah, live your life, girl friend.
Live your life. Go out there experience it all. She broke up with him because she didn't want to be tied
down. Don't settle down. Don't settle down at six. It's too soon. So they're actually having
boyfriends are there. Have some more experiences first. Yeah. The obsession with boys as a six-year-old
is crazy. And I think it comes from things like K-pop demon hunters and it comes from like
different TV shows. We saw it crushes though. Like I think it's so so much for boyfriends.
I have some of my allergies. Yeah, yeah. Speak for yourselves. No, I did too. No boyfriends.
Where was it at girls' Catholic school? I wasn't. When I was in primary school, no, no,
no, boys wanted to touch me with a 10-foot pole. I had an undercut.
Hang on, we can't bypass the undercut. You had an undercut? Yeah. Like an undercut. You're
shaved. I just speak to the manager kind. Lauren, how long was the top? So okay, I lied to my mom.
I wanted to get my hair cut out really long hair. And I said to my mom, can I get my hair cut?
And she was like, no, you're not getting it all chopped off. And then when I was at my dad's house,
my parents were separated. I said to dad, oh, dad, mom said I could get my hair cut.
And he took me to the hairdressers. And he was like, off to go and do something while he left me
at just cuts. And I was like, just cut the $15 cut to the lady. I was like, just cut it. Just cut
it. Just go short. I had a Keisha moment. And then she cut it and I was like, shorter. And she
goes, if we go any shorter, we got to shave the back. And I was like, go for it. And then I went
home to my mom with a shaved undercut. And my mom cried. So Laura's like, it was really confusing.
I don't know why another boy's like to it. This seems like a little bit of a switching gears
in terms of mood. But I had one of the most intense things that I've ever experienced happen
last Thursday afternoon. And to start the story, I want to say that everyone is safe. All animals
are safe. But my neighbor's house caught on fire. So it was quite late in the afternoon. It must
have been about 430 or something like that. And I was working in the study. And I heard these big
bangs. And I went out and hilariously, my partner and I, we actually blamed each other. I was like,
what the fuck are you doing? Like, why are you making all this noise? And he's like, I thought
you were making it. And to try and kind of a bit of a longer story short, there was all this
commotion out the front. I went out the front. There were quite a few strangers. And they were like,
is that your house? Is that your house? And I turned around. And there was this humongous,
black cloud around our backyard. So I ran out to the backyard. And it's at this point that I
can hear. I can hear this like, but it was really, really loud. And I could feel this heat. And
there was all of this smoke. So our neighbor's back laundry kind of area, like our houses are
really old. Our house is 105 years old. So I'm assuming that there's around about the same age.
And so this would have been an outhouse that has been converted into a laundry. And it is
completely engulfed in flames. I wonder if it's like the dryer or something that caught on fire?
Well, we do have a bit more information now. So the first thing is I was like, oh my god. And I could
hear her screaming. And there was there, there was like a lot going on anyway. So my partner is
like kind of thrust me up onto the top of our shed. And I had both of our hoses. And I was kind
of trying to stop the fire from spreading to the trees. Because if it caught the trees,
the entire street would be over. At one point she got locked in the backyard. All of our neighbors
really rallied together. And one of my other neighbors jumped her back fence because that was
locked with a padlock. And one of the businesses nearby had brought over a fire extinguisher.
And it was because of that fire extinguisher. And I don't say this with any theatrics. It's only because
of that fire extinguisher that I'm convinced that our whole house is not burned down. Because that was
the only thing that made a difference. Everything, like you would think about what would be in a
laundry. And there's so many things that are fuel. I've heard people talk about house fires before.
But I think until I experienced it, I didn't really understand what they meant by
they just sound so violent. They sound so aggressive and angry and everything just kept exploding.
And what happens so quickly, that's the problem. They can go from zero to 100. Yeah, I think all of
this would have transpired in about 12 minutes. And a couple of minutes later, the fire brigade turned
up. And then the police came. And I think it was one of those moments that I was like, holy
shit, like it could have ended very differently. It could have gone so, so differently. And it wasn't
until I was looking at a photo of the damage later. And you know, we'd obviously checked on
all of the pets and all of the people and everyone was safe. That I realized there was like a barbecue
gas bottle standing right next to where the flames were. And I started going through this
and I was like, oh my god, I'd already had so much fire anxiety. Like I don't know why I'm just
that type of person that I do too. That is literally my idea of a nightmare. Like my biggest fear in
life is dying in a house fire. Yeah, like I'll lay in bed thinking about tax and house fires.
This is like horrifying to me. I have the exact same fear. I would never, ever leave a dry. I would
never leave anything other than the fridge on when I go out because I just have this weird fear
around it. And do you know what it was? I can remember mine. So when we were in primary school,
there was a fire safety video that was shown as part of when I had an undercut. It was part of how
it was meant to be like to make you aware of the dangers of a house fire and like the whole like
stop drop and roll thing. I was like, my hair's never catching on fire. I'll shave it off.
I got rid of that. Has it? No, we watched this video. And I don't know who the fuck approved
this video. It was the most harrowing thing I have ever seen. And it was all around house fires.
And it traumatized me as a kid. Like I would get up in the middle of the night and go and check
the ovens, check the doors. Like I used to just be, I mean you guys know, I've talked about this
before. I had like some OCD tendencies where I would like double check everything. But a big one
has been like the ovens and fires. Like yeah. And checking that the doors are locked
been in a way that they could be easily unlocked if I needed to get out. Like it was just a level
of insanity that I think is. Yeah. I don't know where it stems from. I know where it came from.
Well, you remember growing up, I guess it's not a myth, but you parents always used to say never
leave the house with a dryer on. Like it was just one of those things that you did and you never
knew why you never understood why it was that's why if it was a dryer that caught on fire. And people
don't know to change the lint filter in the dryer. You have to change that every week guys. Yeah,
I'm actually the type of people that my neighbor I'm actually quite convinced that she would be
doing those types of things. She's very tidy. She's very like regimented and she also was like
the dryer's quite new. It's less than two years old, you know, and the fire brigade think that
it's faulty wiring and because we've had so much rain lately in Sydney, that's probably contributed
and like, you know, created a bit of an environment where it was possible. I'm just so grateful that
we were home firstly. Like everyone was home. I didn't happen in the middle of the night. I'm so
grateful for my neighbor who was so brave jumped over a fence into flames and put this thing out.
He had no shoes on like he just completely did it off his own back. But the one thing that and the
only reason that I actually wanted to talk about this and it's not to be preachy, it's because it's
the lesson that I've learned is that we have now purchased like we've ordered fire extinguishes
because it's just something I'd never, you know, you always have your smoke alarms and I don't
know whether most people have fire extinguishes in the house. I haven't had one since I was an adult.
I remember we have one as a kid. I have them in my house that I bought in Queensland.
Like there's one in there, but I don't have one here in my rental in Sydney, which is weird.
They start pretty cheap. They're like 40 bucks to start with. So it's not like it's this crazy
expense and I think it's one of those realizations that I'm like, oh, you don't need it till you need it.
You know, like it's it's so important. And so yeah, that was just my crazy Thursday afternoon.
That's crazy cash. Yeah. It's so lucky. But also, I mean, it's a really good PSA because it is
one of those things that you never think about. It's almost like, like, you know, we all know
the necessities of changing batteries and whatnot and fire alarms, but like it's one of those things
where you're like, oh, I can do that tomorrow or I'll turn it back on, but it's you do not need it
until you're in a situation where it's dial. Yeah. Yeah. So this week we came across a reel that
got us all thinking and it's around the expectations that we have for our friends to celebrate important
milestones. I mean, it's pretty obvious that we usually celebrate things like weddings and the birth
of a child or yeah, hands parties. Now the reason why this was quite interesting is because
Laney the lawyer, who's the Instagram handle that it came from, conducted a social experiment
where personally, she feels as though she doesn't have any of those big milestone moments in her
life. The ones that society says are important to celebrate, but she wanted her friends to celebrate
her. Have a listen to this. I conducted a social experiment on my friends and they failed miserably.
So I'm turning 35 and I sent all of my friends an email that said essentially like, hey,
I'm single. I don't have any prospects. I don't know if I'm ever going to get married. I have,
you know, attended everybody's bachelorettes, everybody's weddings, everybody's baby showers.
Like I just would like to do something to celebrate me because I don't know if I'll get another
celebration, right? And the response was atrocious. Okay. So let me paint the picture. So it went to
about 20 women, 25. And I would say two thirds or 70% are old friends and like 30% kind of
women that I like was just getting to know. And honestly, I kind of was like testing out like,
can I make good friends in my 30s that like will want to come to something like this?
The response was abysmal. Okay. So I would say the vast majority didn't even bother replying.
Like literally no response crickets, which was shocking, shocking, right?
The next group was the married women that have small children that like didn't even pretend to
consider it, didn't even pretend to contemplate like getting a babysitter or something like that.
The ones that are currently breastfeeding, I understand, but the ones that are not like,
okay, so husband can't watch the kids for a weekend away. Okay. One of them that I will never
forget said verbatim, I cannot wait for your actual bachelor at party. That's going to be so much fun.
And I was like, oh my god. Okay. So truly all we are celebrated for is finding a man. And I will never
get to be celebrated for anything else. They don't take any other request for a birthday party.
Seriously. Okay. Yeah. So none of my friends that I traveled like all over the country and the
world for it didn't even respond. And you know, the new friends like most didn't respond. And then
I would say about two or three like booked mark the calendar were like wherever whatever we're doing,
I'm there no matter what. More of a story, we live in a very misogynistic world still and women
are continuing this pattern and this legacy of the only thing that matters is when a woman
celebrates ending up with a man. Like they don't take her wanting to celebrate herself at all
seriously. And that was really devastating. That's the state of my friends. And yeah, if you've
been wondering why I've been alone a lot the last few months. Yeah, that one, that one hurt.
And I just kind of like wanted to be alone because I gave so much to my relationships and it's
just not feeling reciprocated anymore. I guess I better get married if I ever want to be celebrated.
I don't actually think she conducted a social experiment. I think she put an invitation out and
then she realized off the trap. Of the back of it, she realized that there might be some broader
conversation in it. I do want to read the email that she did send out to her friends in this honey
trap. So what is called when you're in the FBI? It's a honey trap. Hello dear friends. I hope you're
all having a wonderful holiday season. As you may know, my 35th birthday is coming up in February
on the 15th. And I want to celebrate a big time in style with some really cool women around me.
And of course, I have chosen the most fitting of locations for this blowout Miami.
So without further ado, you are all quarterly invited to my 35th birthday blowout bachelor
ret but manless weekend because I hate the idea that it takes deciding to marry a man to be
celebrated. So here's my fuck you to society. It will take place from February to February
so it's a whole weekend. I don't want to say the dates. To sort of set expectations, I do expect
this trip will be somewhat bougie. We will either stay in a hotel and she goes on to say what they'll
do on the weekend. But a few key things here. It's a weekend away. So it's not just a dinner.
It's three days. Yeah, it's three days like a long weekend. And she has said I expect it to be
bougie. So bougie, you can read between the lines. bougie means money. It means you're going to
be expensive. She's going to be going all out. She's made a point of saying that I want this to be
a big blowout weekend. I think two things can be true at the same time. The reason why I like this
is because I do think it has a point. I absolutely do think that we prioritize celebrating
milestones that society says are important, which are getting married, are having a baby. And
there are things that, especially as women choose to be childless by choice, are not going to be
as relevant to some people. However, I do challenge the misogynistic part of this because
and I had this conversation with Ness who is in a lesbian relationship. I was celebrating her
wedding with the same propensity that I would celebrate a heterosexual relationship. I would
celebrate her having her kids in the same way. However, should we be celebrating our friends who
don't have these big things to look forward to? And if you don't have one of these big things or
you don't want one of these big things, as in like these milestone moments, do you get left behind
when it comes to your friends celebrating you? No, the problem that I have with this is not the
fact that she wants to be celebrated. It's not that she doesn't have kids and she's not getting married
and I really felt for her for that because I think her feelings are tied to her knowing that maybe
her prospects are slim for a wedding in her words, not mine. She said my prospects are slim.
The problem with this is the expectation of what she wants people to celebrate and how she
wants them to celebrate. It's not hey guys, it's my birthday. Let's go to a really nice dinner.
Let's go to a show. Let's make a day of it. Let's whatever. It's let's have three days away,
which is obviously expensive. Let's have a destination birthday. It's a flight. It's a destination.
You are asking people to give up a lot and to spend a lot of money and the fact of the matter is
the reason we choose to spend money and get babysitters and spend time and energy on things
like weddings is because they are one off huge moments in somebody's life. Something to something
three. So some people have two weddings, fucking bitches. No, but do you know what I mean? Like they
are moments where you're like, okay, if I am going to go out and ask a family member to come to my
house for three days to watch my kids so I can go and celebrate my friends wedding, that's more
of a reasonable ask of those around you than it is to say, can you come and mind my kids for three
days so I can go and get pissed in Miami for a friend's 35th birthday. It doesn't land the same.
So I think her expectations are unreasonable when she's saying friends didn't even pretend to get
a babysitter. It's a three day weekend. Like that is a really big thing. Yeah, I look, I think
the reason I say two things can be true at the same time is because I do think it's an unreasonable
ask to expect that your friends would come and have a destination birthday. But I absolutely see
them merit in unpacking how it must feel if you are the person that is constantly showing up for
your friends, for their weddings, for baby showers, for all of these things, but you either don't
have these things in your life because you want them and you don't have them yet or you don't
want them and therefore you're never going to be celebrated in that way. And we do put a lot of
money into hen's parties. We do put a lot of money into weddings. And so I know it's a weird
arbitrary number that she's chosen and she's like, well, I'm 35 and so therefore this is the thing
we're going to celebrate. But I also understand this feeling of missing out on ever feeling as though
you're the person that gets to be at the center of the celebration that you're the friend that has
something that is worthy of celebrating. Yeah, but I don't think her ask. I think it's okay that she
asks. I think it's okay that she wants to do it, but the expectation has to be that more people
than not are going to be able to do it. Like you have to, when you're going in to ask something so
big like that, surely you need to be self aware enough to know that it's a big ask and a lot of people
probably can't front up. The people that couldn't even be fucked to respond, that's just rude.
Like she has every right to be upset by the people that are like, I didn't even email back,
I didn't even RSVP you back. But I reckon the reason why some people haven't responded is because
in their world, they're like, this is such an audacious, crazy ask. This is such an unreasonable
ask that it's like, it's uncomfortable or it's like, oh, and I'm not saying that it's correct to
like not reply. That's crazy. That for me, it's like someone saying, hey, I want to go to the moon
for my birthday. I'm like, fuck and what are you talking about? Like, yeah, but you'd still write back
and say, sorry, I can't go to the moon. Like you would still, you still, it doesn't matter what the
ask is, you still RSVP. It's more for to put people in that position as well. And that's what I don't
like about it, you know, coming back to the expectation thing. She said between 20 and 25 people,
like, yeah, even if you were able to go, you've had the finances that you were happy to spend on
an entire weekend away. Like, there's a good chance you're going with people that you don't know,
putting people in the position where they have to say, hey, I actually don't have that type of money.
I actually think it's really rude and I don't think enough people consider this even when they
have things like Hens parties now and and destination weddings, like putting people in the position
where they have to confess to you that they're not in a financial position to be able to afford
that. And I think that we could have a lot more compassion around those situations. I feel different
for it in terms of a wedding, but I feel very much in line with you when it comes to something like
a Hens party. The reason why I feel different about a wedding is because I do think that people
are entitled to choose and to have whatever kind of wedding that they want. And if you're invited,
you are entitled to choose to not go. Like, that is an absolute very open invitation and that
exchange comes without expectation. Do you know what I mean? Like, if I want to get married in Greece
and be on like some super yacht, like, I'll be there. Yes, I will come. No, but like, I understand
that there will be a huge portion of my friends that cannot make it to that wedding. And I've chosen
that anyway. Do you know what I mean? Like, I wouldn't hold it against someone who couldn't come.
Do you know what I think the big difference is? I also couldn't come because I have three kids
and kind of bought international flights. Do you know what I think the big difference is? The wedding,
you choose what you want for your wedding, but you pay for those things. When it's a weekend
away like this or when it's a Hens party, those costs are split between the people who are going.
So the people who are like, I want to have a week in Singapore for my hands. It's like, holy shit,
we're all going to be fronting the cost for that. That's what I mean. We're probably going to be
paying for the bride as well. Yes, but I don't want this to come across the wrong way, but I'm
reading between the lines on maybe who this person is, but she said, you know, it was audacious
and a poor and one friend even said to me, quote, I'm sure you're going to have a beautiful
bachelor rate when the time comes. And I can't wait for that moment. And the way that she said that
was like, that was the worst thing her friend could have said to her. But I think if we zoomed out
and saw more context, I imagine it was probably a really nice message. It was probably like, I can't
make this one. Sorry. But like, when the time comes, it's going to be epic. And maybe that didn't
land for her because she's thinking, well, what if I never get married? But I don't think there's
any in dealing tent in the kind of a response from a friend saying, I will celebrate because what
she's saying is I will celebrate you when the bachelor, unfortunately, I can't do it at this time.
And I relate to this girl, like I have been to so many of these events at this point, I don't have
any intentions of getting married. So I don't think I will have those types of celebrations, but
you have no money left. And I've spent all of my savings on everybody else's note. I don't feel
like that, though, like I don't feel angry or bitter towards my friends for celebrating those
things. And I kind of feel sad for her in the sense that I can tell that she feels really quite
bitter about the fact that she's had to do all of that. I'd also love another wedding. I
think we can convince you to have a wedding. I mean, I want to go to another one. The last thing
I want to add to this is like, I dislike the narrative that everything comes back to misogyny.
I do think that the reason why people celebrate marriage isn't because it's between a man and a
woman. The reason why people celebrate marriage is because you're entering into a completely
different phase of your life. It is a very set transition. The reason why people celebrate
having a child or having a baby shower is because of this once again, it's this huge transition
that happens. You're entering into a different phase of what your life will be like. There's before
children, there's after children, whereas when you hit a birthday or something that every single
person has, and yes, it's a transition, but every single person who's alive is going to hit that
transition. Every single person every year has a birthday to celebrate. So if every single one was
treated with that level of magnitude, you'd be celebrating every single person's birthday and
having weekends away all over the place. So I guess that that's why some of these things feel more
rare. And that's because they are more rare. The only thing that I disagree about that is that I
don't think she's making art because it's just because she hasn't found a man. I think the
misogyny comes into place with the systems of which we celebrate traditional milestones.
I agree. You know, I don't necessarily think it's because she's in, she's heterosexual. I think
it's more about the fact that we have only celebrated these things that are quite traditional
in terms of like partnering up, adding a human being to the world. You know, those types of
things are by nature, slightly misogynistic. But I wonder whether she, you know, she's a lawyer
according to her account, Lady the Lawyer. I kind of wonder whether if she was to have a career
milestone, like say that she became a partner of her firm or something like that, whether people
would have responded differently. I would do wonder if it's just the birthday thing. Like you said,
everybody has one and everyone's is going to come around. I don't know. If someone said to me,
hey, I've become a partner in the firm and I want to have a three day bender in Miami. I'd be like,
are you paying for it? Did you get a pay rise with that? Congrats. Are you paying for that?
There's a new show on Disney that everyone is talking about. And I say everyone, everyone,
I know is talking about it. All the group chats are talking about it. It's all I'm seeing on
social media. Keesh's, you're up to date watching it. Keesh, you're five episodes in. I'm three
episodes in. I'm one. I've just got one cab off the rank. Well, it's a drama series about John
F. Kennedy, Jr. and Carolyn Bassett, Kennedy. It is an FX-produced Ryan Murphy show, but we're
here in Australia watch it on Disney for anybody that wants to watch it. It's called Love Story,
John F. Kennedy, Jr. and Carolyn Bassett. Now, this has broken absolute records for FX. 25 million
hours in the first five episodes have been watched, which is the same as 1.5 billion minutes.
And I say this because it is important. It is important to show the reach that this show has had.
But it raises a really interesting question about a show being based on a true story, which this is.
You need to ask yourself how much creative freedom writers should have when they are depicting
somebody that is very real and very much still alive. This is because one of the lead characters,
which is not a lead, I guess, but she is a very prevalent part of John F. Kennedy's story. Her name
is Darryl Hannah, and she was a very famous actress. So I grew up with her being one of my mum's
favorite actresses. She was in Kill Bill. If you guys don't know her, you'll probably know her
face when you look her up. Oh, absolutely. Even I don't know who anyone is and I know she is.
Yeah. Darryl Hannah, I just feel like I don't know if you knew Akisha a little bit younger than us,
but she was really big when we were growing up. I think the biggest thing that I remember her from
was Kill Bill. Yeah. That was kind of the millennial or like younger millennial IAM era. But
Darryl Hannah was actually in a relationship with JFK, Jr. for about five or six years, and
reports say that it was quite on and off. And it was a very famous relationship. Yes. And the
thing that is quite almost ironic about this is that she has never spoken about the relationship
publicly. Yet in the show, in love story, the character that is Darryl Hannah and that is her name
in the show, it's not like they've tried to kind of give her a different persona. She is
shown to be really insufferable. She's shown to be emotionally unstable. She's very self-obsessed.
There are a couple of scenes where she's really clout chacy like she's apparently leaking things
to the press. There are even scenes where she is really inappropriate at Jackie O's wake.
There is another scene where he gets home from this really big day at work, and she has quite a
few people in his apartment that she's living in with him. So having like a huge house party.
Yeah, like a party. They're all doing lines of cocaine off of this silver tray that he states
is a family heirloom. Like she's just shown to be really, really disrespectful. And from what we
know of her now, she is a woman who has become an environmental activist and like I mean a full
on activist. She's been arrested multiple times for her protesting. She was involved in the
takedown of Harvey Weinstein with the Me Too movement. She seems like the type of person that is
very incongruent with the character that is shown on our screen. Well, look, I mean, it's interesting
because the reason why we're talking about this is not so much for the show itself, even though
that has received so much attention. It's because of the New York Times article that Darryl
Hanna has penned herself. Now this was published on Friday. And what she wrote was an acknowledgement
that she has been grossly misrepresented in this quote-unquote true story. And this is what she
had to say. I have long believed that engaging with distortion often amplifies it. But a recent
tragedy exploiting television series about John F. Kennedy, Jr. and Carolyn Bassett
features a character using my name and presents her as me. The choice to portray her as irritating,
self-absorbed, whiny, and inappropriate was no accident. She continues on to say that it is not
even a remotely accurate representation of my life. My conduct or my relationship with John.
I have never used cocaine in my life or hosted a cocaine-fueled party. I have never pressured
anyone into marriage. I have never desecrated any family heirloom or intruded upon anyone's private
memorial. I have never planted any story into the press. I never compared Jacqueline Anastas' death
to a dog's. It's appalling to me that I even have to defend myself against a television show.
These are not creative embellishments of personality. They are assertions about conduct and they are
false. She also speaks about how it's so deeply entrenched in misogyny. This idea that she's
being created to be almost like a villain-esque character in this show because they're needed to
be someone to play that part. But it really does question and bring into this debate around
where does the moral standing apply? When something is marketed as a true story,
when someone's able to garner the capital, the marketing capital comes with saying this is a true
story. However, some people and some events in this are completely fictitious and we've made them
up as a by-line. I guess on one thing, you get people's investment. They're emotional investment
by knowing that this is based on a true story. But then the people that you are fabricating or
that you are embellishing are the emotional collateral in the storytelling. The problem is that
Daryl Hannah is real. She has a career. She has a reputation that is being decimated by a TV show
that people now have a perception of who they think she is. Yeah, and it's interesting because
she does go on to say why she thinks Ryan Murphy has decided to make her this way. And when I say
this way, if you do not know who Daryl Hannah is, you finish watching it and you don't like her.
She is not a likable character. So if you don't know anything about who she is, who she was,
what she's done, what she does now, you just don't like her. You're like, you're annoying and
you're vapid and you're horrible to this family and that's why you didn't end up with him.
So she goes on to say, storytelling requires tension. It often requires an obstacle, but a real
living person is not a narrative device. She's suggesting that the tearing down of one woman
to uplift another is textbook misogyny and she thinks the only reason she was portrayed to be
like that is because us as an audience is not emotionally intelligent enough to be able to
watch a show like this and be so involved in rooting for one love story unless we absolutely
detest the other person. What you just said then, Britt, though, around that you get a feeling
for why you just like someone, right? It's the same thing that happens within the press. We see
it all the time, play out. You read an article that's something that's it's devaluing. It presents
a woman in a certain way and I'm talking about celebrities in general. And often we walk away
from female celebrities going like, I just don't like her, but I don't know why. Megan Markles
are priming. Yeah, I don't like her, but I don't know why. And like you might not have one thing
to pin it on. The problem with this is like most people who are watching this are walking away from
a show and they've probably heard of Daryl Hannah or they've seen a photo of her when they see the
picture of her online. They're like, oh my god, I know that actress. And now they're instantly
rewriting history with this new version of a dramatized series. And it made me think of baby reindeer,
even though this is a lesser version or a lesser comparison. It's the series that was written by
a man named Gad around his experience with a woman named quote unquote Martha, who stalked him
over the space of four years. Now this was advertised as a true story. And Martha, the real Martha
who came out, she threatened the real stalker, the real stalker who came out threatened to sue Netflix
for the embellishments. And what Gad ended up saying is like, yes, some things were embellished,
some things were not true, but the emotional feeling is a true story. And that in itself is
questionable. I think the reason why we had more leeway for that is because yes, she was a convicted
stalker. So she kind of loses credibility. Whereas Daryl Hannah is someone who has an immense
amount of credibility. So I think that the fall from grace, there's so much more that she can
suffer in this. Yeah, what people aren't realising is Daryl has come out and said that she's
receiving hate messages and not just one or two because people are believing this fictionalized
version of her is actually real. No one is watching a show like this or very few people are going to
watch a show like this and then walk away and say, I'm going to go do my due diligence and see if
the portrayal of all of these characters are real. No one's doing that. So the impression is
and this goes back to at the start when I drop those numbers about 1.5 billion viewing minutes.
So many people are consuming this and walking away thinking somebody is horrid. Now this woman
is still alive. She still has things that will affect her work. Effect who's going to hire her.
She does public speaking and advocacy and there are so many things that can be tainted by this kind
of a brush. Mud sticks and once something is out, it is very hard to change somebody's opinion
of something, especially something like this that is and they're not saying it's a true story.
They're saying it is based on true events and based on a true story. So it's up to you as the
viewer to decide which parts you think are true and which parts are just being dramatized for
your entertainment. I was about to say and this feels like a very terrible choice of words
considering who we're talking about. That it's a complete character assassination. Like
yeah, I mean, it was like, oh, that feels a bit tacky, but I thought you're going to say,
I mean, I want you in a plane crash. Oh, dear. No, I thought I wasn't being funny. I thought
that's what you're going to say. At the start of each episode, it does come up with. This story
is inspired by actual events, certain depictions of people and events have been dramatized or
fictionalized for storytelling purposes. And I have made absolutely no secret of the fact that I
am very critical about Ryan Murphy. He is the one who did monsters. He did the Jeffrey Dharma series.
I find that his ability to take people's biggest tragedy and like horrific things that happen
in their life and make them into drama entertainment has felt really, really urky and murky to me
for years and years. And that's when we're talking about things that involve like murder.
This to me didn't feel as harsh. And I think that's why I was okay watching it because I was
like, it's a love story, you know, that and and this is a nice story. It obviously ends in tragedy,
but it was an accident. It wasn't a deliberate violent tragedy. And yet we're still having this
exact same conversation about the fact that he involves very real people. I remember when you and
I spoke about monsters last year, Britt, and we spoke about the fact that the men who had murdered
their parents had come out and said, yeah, even though the show actually showed them in a really
good light, they still came out and said, there were really massive inaccuracies. There was a
bit of a brotherly incensed love story that involved the two brothers. And they were like,
none of that was true. You know, I don't know why he felt the need to dramatize that angle.
I'm not surprised by the fact that Darrell Hannah has come out called out Ryan Murphy and said,
why did you feel the need to make me this character like as an audience? Are we not at a point
where we can see a woman who is amazing, who is an actress, who is empowered and all of these
positive things and still recognize that she wasn't the right person for John F. Kennedy,
and that Carolyn Bassett was, you know, are we not at a point that's a little bit more nuanced
than that? Do we have to pin them against each other where one is the hero and one is the villain?
I think we do. I think we love a protagonist in a story. We love a push and pull in a story.
It's like, it's the jeopardy. It's what's going to happen. I mean, without it, it just follows
like a really lovely love story that ends in a tragedy, whereas at least with her character having
this push and pull throughout the whole thing, that makes it episodic. It gives every episode
something to lean back into it. It fleshes out the storyline. And I know we are the issue,
like we love true story. We love fucking true story documentaries. We love true story dramatizations,
but it's this genre of true story dramatization that's borrowing the credibility and the legitimacy
of journalism without having to do any of the due diligence is where the real moral gray areas.
And then when you couple it with the fact that we've explored a lot of the stories where people
are deceased and there's no one who can really complain about it. And now we're looking at stories
that are happening so close to history where people are still alive and are directly affected
about it. Like there has to be some fucking rules in place. You can't just decimate someone's
life or someone's reputation and then say, oh, but we said the things were inbelly. I know I made
you be a beard of a CUNT, but that's okay. Like come on. It's just don't let the truth get in the
way of a good story. Imagine if one day you flipped on Netflix. I mean, my life's not that
interesting, but you saw like yourself being portrayed in a story as being a horrible person.
It would just unravel you. It did make me think I read a quote by one of her best friends. So
Rosanna Arquette is another actress and they've been friends for a really long time. So she's also
come out in Darrell's defense. She said a bunch of stuff, but I just want to read this one line.
Her love with John F. Kennedy Jr. was real and some of the happiest times John F. Kennedy Jr.
had just asked his family, but no one did. Well, it's funny that you say that because
Carolyn Kennedy and it can get a bit confusing because there's two Carolyn. So Carolyn Kennedy is
the sister of John F. Kennedy Jr. Her son. So John F. Kennedy Jr. is nephew. His name is Jack
and he was recently in an interview with CBS Sunday Morning. And this is only a couple of days ago
where he called out the show. He said that they were producing fiction with a capital F. He said,
if you want to know someone who's never met anyone in my family knows nothing about us,
talk to Ryan Murphy. The guy knows nothing about what he's talking about and he's making a
ton of money on a grotesque display of someone else's life. Ryan Murphy actually said on a podcast,
I thought it was an odd choice to be mad about your relative that you don't really remember.
What a ridiculous response. What a ridiculous response when he's the one creating content about
someone who he doesn't know. You know what I mean? It's got no connection to them. The thing is this
is where my issue with this whole thing lies. Just because you know a tiny part of a true story,
like you know that someone died in a plane crash and know the wife's sister died, like just because
you know that part of the story that was written in the news doesn't mean you know the story of
the human who is behind that story, which makes it deeply not a true story. It just means that
it's got similarities to the ending and you've named the characters the same thing. I do not
think it should be legal to be able to make true or based on a true story or use that type of
terminology. If everything leading up to the last episode or the last thing is not true or has
been hugely dramatized for the purpose of making money at the end of the day. These are people's
real lives. These are people who have identities who should have some ownership over their own
personal identity that's been taken away from them as is their reputation. And now the entire
true history has been rewritten by a fucking dramatized theory. It's crazy that there aren't
rules in place for this. It is really hard. Let me talk it through. It's going through my brain right
now. It's hard because whilst on one hand I agree. Almost everything that's produced has been
inspired by something right inspired by a person inspired by a moment inspired by a life event
and is going to always be impossible to make it 100% accurate impossible because you were never
going to be able to know and see and speak to every single person and every single detail
and everything word that comes out of their mouth like is this something that you would have said?
It's not possible right and we're never going to stop having inspired buyers. And I even say this
because I'm just thinking now the TV show that I wrote and created and I'm trying to produce at
the moment is inspired by my life right. I have taken events from myself. But when I think about
all the scenes and stuff that are in that, none of them happened. None of them are real but they
could have happened to somebody that I know. The names of your ex-boyfriends or the names of
people who are affected. But this is where the issue is. It's because Daryl Hannah's character
specifically. It's not based on her and her name's Lucy. It's Daryl Hannah and she's still living
and it has a direct reflection on her reputation. So that for me is where the issues lie. Are we ever
going to stop doing inspired by and based on movies and TV series? No, we're never ever going to
do it. But there does need to be some kind of speaking to the people involved at least,
getting their opinion. It doesn't mean they have to okay it because they're never going to bring
that in. But I do think the lowest form of respect someone like Ryan Murphy could have done is at
least consult the people that were the main characters of his inspired by store. But this is not
taking inspiration from the life that you lived or anyone that's even close to you. This is just
taking a historical moment and names that people are deeply interested in. A tragedy that people are
extraordinarily fascinated in and create an fictional story based around that and calling it true.
And then there is someone who is still alive who is able to have a voice, write an article in
the New York Times and say this is fucked and that's what's happened. Almost be forced to write an
article because she's a worse can she defend her? Because she's inherently quiet. Yeah. Never
ever gives volume or noise to this sort of stuff. And I'm such a hypocrite because I think this
show is fantastic and I'm going to continue watching it. That's the problem. I hate myself for
enjoying it so much. But I think it's good that we have these conversations calling out the inaccuracies
because otherwise how also people's actual story is going to get out there. The problem is though
you put your money where your mouth is right because by watching it you just fuel the next one to be
created. All right. Second sweet guys. What is your suck of the week? I genuinely do not have a
suck this week. I have had a really good week. I've got my glasses on so that my and the smartest
I've ever been everybody. My glasses are keeping my migraines at bay because they had been bad. But
I've actually just had a really beautiful week. My sweet of the week is I just touched on it. But
the TV show that I God, guys, if you have been a long-term listener, you'll know this has been
years in the making. I wrote and developed a TV show many years ago. Brit and Mitch piloted it
like a few years ago. This is how long it's been in the process for. I wrote Mitch in as a main
character. People probably don't know, but a show and a movie can take years to get off the ground.
That's not to get off the ground. That's to be seen or someone to even look sideways at you.
But the last couple of weeks to months, it's a really steamrolled and a production company is
picked it up and we just had a rider come on board this week. In one hour, I have a production
meeting with L.A. Now, this does not mean that it's going anywhere. It is there are so many stages
to getting something produced, honestly. But it's as close to the sun as we've gotten so far.
That's so exciting. I know. It's just like it's happening. It still needs, basically, we're almost
at the point where we need the okay from a streamer to say they'll take it and then it can go forward.
So we've done all the steps that we could possibly do. All I can say is I feel really sorry
for all your ex-boyfriends because they're going to be fucked in this way when it comes to
that potential. No, based on true story, inspiration. No, so that's cool. So we've just got meetings
about that and I don't know. By the time it gets picked off, I'm picked up. I'm not going to
want to do it anymore. I'll be too old to play the character I wrote. That's the problem.
So I just get all the sevens from them. But that's my three of the weeks. I mean, in 2030,
maybe you'll see something. You'll be doing the, you'll be doing the Metapolzel version of it though.
That's what I'm like dating your 50s. I'll say she's doing it in 25. She's actually 50.
Well, look, okay. My suck for the week is we, it's kind of like coupled into a suite, but it is a
suck. We have been really busy with work in the last little bit and had a day yesterday work. We
had a big filming day for after the dinner party and don't get me wrong. This shows amazing. We're
having a great time and I am loving that I've been able to drugle work and also having a baby.
But yesterday was a day that I felt immensely guilty as a mom and it was because I left work
before Poppy had worked in art and by the time I got home from work, she had been put to bed. So
I literally did not see my children yesterday in a work day, which it's not like she wasn't cared
for. She was a cared for. She's fine, but it just, there's something really, I guess there was
something really sobering about that day and I hated it. As much as I feel like I'm making work
goals, it isn't a sacrifice that I want to make and it wasn't something that I felt good about.
You know, getting home, I just wanted to wake her up just to cuddle her.
I mean, something that stands out in that is the fact that she obviously slept in, which is great.
She's still sleeping. I feel like that's great. She did. But yeah, I literally just didn't see her
yesterday and then I had the cutest moment. So this is kind of my sweet, which sounds so silly,
but like I was feeling really sad about that. And usually like Poppy, once she's asleep until
she doesn't, she's dead asleep until about 2am and that's when like the party time happens and
she wakes up six times between 2am and six. But usually I wake her up at 11, I do a dream feed.
Anyway, I came in at 11 to give her a dream feed and she was like doing a little rustling.
Usually she does drink so bottle completely asleep and might like look at me once or twice,
but she's pretty much asleep. So she was doing that and I gave her a bottle and then she opened
her eyes a little bit just to kind of like spot what was going on. And then she saw it was me and she
was like, and she was so happy. Like it was the cutest moment never, ever, ever in the night,
has she woken up like that level of just fucking stoked. And so yeah, it was really, it was really sweet.
And sweet and also annoying, because then she was wide awake and just wanted to put it in.
You're like, oh, I didn't see that much. But yeah, it's the juggle, like the juggle of trying to do
as much as what we're doing and doing that with three kids. And you know, sometimes I feel like
I'm absolutely killing it. And other times I have deep debilitating mum guilt. And that was my
feeling yesterday. You did just leave yesterday. You pick up your bag and left. You left your laptop
all your jewelry. I had to go and collect everything. I ran out of there because we ran so late with
recording. We weren't supposed to finish as late as we did. And I literally just like ran off the
couch, ran got my bag and ran out the door. I was like, I'll hand deliver your laptop to your
house door. And then I left my laptop on the table. I left all my jewelry like just left everything.
So I was like, I fucking need to get home. And I was trying to get home before she was put to bed. But
I didn't make it. So I feel very sad. And anyway, that's what's up. And my sweet all rolling to one.
Anyway, guys, that is it from us. If you have any questions for art skunkuck,
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