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Welcome to RAW—my unfiltered solo podcast, hosted on LIFE Network (which is completely free to join here—you can listen to every RAW episode plus a full library of health and wellness podcasts, including Boundless Life). RAW is where you get the real, behind-the-scenes version of my life: the biohacking experiments I’m running on myself, the protocols I’m creating, the tools and tech I’m stress-testing before anyone hears about them, the ideas in physiology, performance, and longevity I’m diving into, the beliefs I’m questioning, the routines I’m refining, and the unconventional stuff I’m actually doing day to day.
In this episode, I open up about one of the most powerful anchors in my family's life—our daily bookends. These are the routines my family and I use to start and end each day with intention, connection, and purpose. I walk you through our morning huddle, where we check in, talk schedules, share a devotional, and pray together using the ACTS method. And at night, we gather for a family dinner complete with song, prayer, game time, and meaningful conversation—no matter how busy our days have been. I share not just the how, but the why behind these practices, emphasizing their impact on raising well-rounded kids, building family legacy, and nurturing relationships. Whether you've got a spouse, roommates, or a big family, I'm giving you a roadmap you can adapt to create magic and togetherness in your own home. Hope it inspires you to try something new—thanks for joining me on this RAW episode!
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These raw episodes have been fantastic. You guys have been given great feedback,
guys and girls, and you know something that I've been asked repeatedly that I haven't really
talked I guess in detail about, but it's been on my mind a lot lately because it's such a huge
part of my life, by the way, so say hello to our rooster. It's not 4 a.m. It's what, like 4 30 p.m.
The rooster's still going off. Never stops. But something that I get asked about a lot
are this whole idea of our family book ends. I like to call them the book ends. How we book end
our family habits and our family day. Now this is important whether you have a family, you plan
on having a family, you know families who you might want to share this with because we actually
do have really solid, meaningful family connections every day. And a lot of people,
you know they want to jinx myself here, but they meet my sons and they say that my sons seem
like well-balanced teenage boys. You know they're not in the drugs and porn and gluten with girls
and alcohol and, you know, disappearing out in the town. They're, you know, they're hard working
industrious, productive, upright, ethical, young men. And I think that a big, big part of that,
whether you're raising a girl or a boy, comes down to some key habits. Now on my main
Ben Greenfield Life Podcast, I've interviewed folks like Rich Christianson of the Legato Family
Foundation who our family worked with and I detail that work also in my book, Boundless Parenting
to develop the Greenfield Family Constitution, the Greenfield Family Values, the Greenfield Family
Mission Statement, the Greenfield Crest, the Greenfield logo, which is probably displayed on the
flags that hang outside our front door and on the family pickleball paddles and the family
throw pillows and the family t-shirts and hoodies and hats and even the family pepper grinder and
and cup coasters. I think that all of these elements, when it comes to family legacy, are so
important to pass on generational meaning, generational wealth. If you look at the Greenfield Family
Playbook, it has everything from, you know, the contact details for all the people who run our,
you know, our insurance, our financial management, all the way down to, you know, me and my wife
and my son's memorial service plans are our end of life wishes, our family colors, our family spirit
animals, you know, what we do on Thanksgiving, what we do on Christmas, what we do on Easter,
what we do on a day-to-day basis. It's all spelled out in there, but I specifically want to hone in
for you today on the day-to-day, specifically the so-called book ends of the day. Probably one of
the most meaningful things for me as a father, as a husband, as a human being. This is something that
really gets me out of bed in the morning and despite me loving my job, you know, as a podcaster
and speaker and author and what have you, my, my job's wonderful. I love it. I love to be able to
help people and educate just like I'm doing right now, but it's really that beginning of the day
and the end of the day with the family, that's one of the most cherished and special parts of my day.
And I think that just like with a workout or meditation or prayer or journaling or a cold
bath or anything else, you have to schedule this type of stuff in. It doesn't just happen,
type of stuff that I'm about to talk to you about. So here's how it breaks down.
I know, I have it on my calendar, that every morning at 7 a.m., and yes, sometimes it's 6.55,
sometimes it's 7.05, we're just going to go with 7a.m. because that's about approximately when
it happens and that's when it's on my schedule. I am in charge of gathering my entire family
in the living room. Occasionally, if it's nice outside, it's the back porch or the patio or the
backyard. But my job as the leader of the home is to gather the entire family and kind of like the
quarterback of the football team get everybody together for the daily huddle. Now in my book,
Boundless Parenting, I interviewed one couple Patrick and Laurie Gentempo who first turned me
onto this idea about probably eight years ago. So I've been doing this with my sons and my
wife since my sons were about eight. But they literally spoke with their school superintendent and
requested that their children be able to skip the first hour of school. And the children said
stayed home for the first hour of school. The family played music, dance, burnt incense, made
breakfast together, and just hung out together as a family for that first hour of the day.
Now my kids are home school. I don't need to pull them out of school for the routine
about to describe to you and suck. It's not really a full hour just hanging out and dancing
together as a family, even though dancing is sometimes involved. But basically for that 7am
meeting, we all gather. We sit down on, again, living room, floor, backyard, patio, you name it.
And the very first thing I do is I check in on everybody. Hey, how are you doing? How just
sleep? How are you feeling? How are you feeling about the day? What are you excited about today?
What's happening today? And then people begin to share, hey, I've got my wife will say,
yeah, I have tennis practice at 11 and I'm going to go pick up Elfalford for the goat,
home around two and my sons will say, hey, dad, we have you know, Jiu Jitsu at 11 today, we have tennis
at two and we have a big meeting for our, you know, our car game company for whatever. And so
we're all kind of like matching up our schedule, talking about the day. And yes, we all also
use Google Calendar. So every family member does put what their activities for the day are
on Google Calendar. So you can add a glance if you really wanted to go in and see where everybody's
up to in general. But it's nice to just sit at the beginning of the day and talk about, you know,
what's going on through everybody's day. It's important for two reasons. It helps you all just
meet together as a family, even if you're like shifts passing the night, the rest of the day.
It's great to be able to gather like that at the beginning of the day. And secondarily,
it helps to understand that, oh, hey, you know, my sons and I don't have any major appointments
or meetings until 9.30 a.m. So our workout today that we do together is going to be at 8.30 a.m.
or we all like are super busy this morning. And there's no way we're going to be able to do
our workout together because I'm going to be working out at 8.30 and my sons are going to be
working out at 3. So as a part of the huddle, we get them the same page about what the workout
of the day is going to be because my sons and I all do the same workout plan together from kind
of in charge of the physical fitness programming in our house. No done. I'm probably the person
most most equipped to do that for our house because I'm a personal trainer, just a glorified
personal trainer. So anyways, we we match up schedules, talk a little bit about what's going on
that day. And as a part of that discussion, there's even a discussion about the family dinner,
which I'll get to later on, but it's literally, hey, you know, what got pulled out of the freezer
last night because we'll usually, you know, begin to plan one night's dinner the night before.
Uh, who's making a salad? Who's, you know, trying out new recipe from a cookbook we got? Who's
doing the meat? Who's, you know, making the potato salad or the bread or the carrot fries or
what have you? Uh, shout out to my cookbook, Boundless Kitchen and Boundless Cookbook. Most of
our family recipes are in those cookbooks. But basically, we really get in the same page
about dinner because it's such another formative part of the second book end of our day.
So everybody knows in the morning what it is that they're expected to have ready for family
dinner at 7 p.m. 12 hours later when family dinner gathering occurs. And sometimes there's
other little discussions, hey, whatever, you know, dad didn't sleep too well last night,
I'm going to take a nap this afternoon, heads up or, you know, mom's not feeling well. Let's
pitch in and help her today, you know, just little things like that. So then we move into a devotional.
We always, for years and years, had some kind of a reading that we do together as a family.
Sometimes it changes like reading up to Christmas. It's an advent reading right now while I'm talking
to you. It is a book about work by a productivity expert and a Christian author named Jordan Rainer.
It's called Word Before Work. It's about how to take pride and the works that you do and
devote it to God and help other people and just a really good perspective on productivity and work
from a theological standpoint. So we do that reading. Usually I do the reading. I love to read
aloud, you know, for years and years. I don't do it as so much now that my sons are 16, but,
you know, read the family stories every night before bed. But I do the reading, the devotional
reading. I'm traveling one of my sons or my wife does it with the family at home. And so I do the
reading. And then when I finish the reading, I will usually talk to my family for about two to
three minutes about kind of the major takeaway. Or I'll ask them a question about something that I
read that I thought was important that I want to hear their perspective on. So there's a little bit
of a, you know, brief discussion after the reading. Nothing's too long. So let's face it, you know,
you know, we don't have a six hour morning routine, but, you know, just that quick discussion
after the reading. And the reading is usually five to 10 minutes maximum. So, you know, within about
15 minutes, we have matched up schedules, we've planned out the day, we've done a devotional
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I lead the prayer. And it's just a wonderful thing to do together as a family to engage in
something spiritual and sacred together. You know, and the very last thing I do in bed before
I fall asleep is my wife and I pray together. You know, after we do our pillow talking and our
heads at the pillow and we're falling asleep and our lovers embrace, we pray together. And our whole
family pray together in the morning. My prayers are very simple. For those of you who don't know how
to pray or want to structure for prayer, it's very, very simple. I follow the apps acronym ACTS
Adoration, meaning first I will say something like, you know, Dear God, you know, you're so
awesome, you know, wonderful. Thank you for for allowing us to just come before you and for
creating the universe and you just basically act like you're walking into a king's throne room.
And then confession, you know, please forgive us for this or that or, you know, something
that we fell short on or, you know, forgive me for being selfish or, you know, for, forgive,
you know, me for not trusting you and getting anxious yesterday and work. And typically after
the C part, the confession, I'll stop for about 20 or 30 seconds to let other members of the family
and as well as myself just silently, you know, confess whatever it is that we want to lay out on
our hearts before God that we would like to be forgiven for because that's one of the, of course,
the most beautiful parts of, in my opinion, my religion, Christianity is that, you know,
you're not expecting to be perfect, but you can't ask for forgiveness for what you've done.
And, and come away completely clean and with the weight off your back and I have to carry shame
and guilt and that's, that's, you know, in my opinion, just the most beautiful part about Christianity.
Well, tears me up talking about it here.
And then I get to tea, which is Thanksgiving. Thank you for our home. Thank you for, you know,
the fun time we had last night with such and such at a restaurant. Thank you for, you know, the,
the wonderful, you know, tennis game that we got to play as a family yesterday afternoon. Thank you
for providing us with this beautiful sunshine and thank you for the rooster and, you know,
thank you for our dogs looking at our faces right now as we're sitting on the living room for.
So it's thank you, thank you, thank you. You know, so it's basically our family gratitude practice,
essentially. And then finally, the S is supplication, right? People who I've committed to pray for,
or our family has committed to pray for, things that have come to our heart that we need to ask God
for, right? Like we're in the process of moving to Idaho. So we'll, you know, pray about God,
blessing our move and helping to, you know, make it go smoothly or praying that God would, you know,
provide direction and wisdom for some business issue that I might be tackling or praying for my
sons as they build their business or praying for my wife as she ministers to the local community.
But it's just asking God for, for, you know, whatever's on our hearts that we want to lay out and,
and ask for. So that's the S. So ACTS, adoration, confession, thanksgiving, and supplication.
And I always pause at the very end. I pause for about 30 seconds, just in complete silence.
And usually in those 30 seconds, other things come to mind that I want to thank God for some of my
heart. I think it's always important to have that silence at the very end, you know, before you say,
you know, in Jesus' name, amen, just because some other things usually come to mind. And it just
perfect for you here are that this whole prayer is usually about five minutes longer. So, right?
So the entire family huddle that I'm describing to you start to finish is no longer than 20 minutes,
right? So this isn't a huge lift, but it's so meaningful and so impactful for just bringing the
whole family together at the beginning of the day. We finish the prayer and then we all stand up
and we have a big group hug. Sometimes it's individual hugs and embraces, sometimes it's,
you know, all of us literally just like circling up and hugging. Then we get all of our day,
we get all of the day. Occasionally, the family huddle changes. I will sometimes, if I sense that
the mood is down or I want it to occur, I will just put on a song and we will, we'll have a family
dance party for like 10 minutes, you know, playing some big long fun song or a couple of songs or
the happy mix on Spotify or whatever, right? So that might be like a Saturday that we do something
like that or a day when it's like rainy outside or, you know, people, if I just sense the mood is
down, I'll sometimes just call it random dance party. We'll do something different, but nine times
out of 10, it's exactly as I just described. Meet, talk about the day, match up schedules, match up
dinner, do a devotional reading and pray. And that's it. So that's the beginning. That's the first
part of the day. And again, like how am I going to detail all of our family habits start to finish?
I'm an entire boundless parenting is 700 pages long you guys. So it details, you know, a lot more
as far as family habits of not just our family, but you know, 31 other families who I interviewed
for that book. But I want to fast forward now because the purpose of this podcast is to talk about
two things, the beginning of the day and the end of the day. So I've got a family huddle, you know,
we're all going about our day. I have a whole office, you know, I'm often podcasting, consulting,
I don't get out much. I'm usually just around the house all day, you know, my sons are going
this way, that's a jiu-jitsu or tennis or piano or, you know, my wife's off, you know, doing
all of her errands and going about the town and, you know, at home and working in the garden and
taking care of goats and chickens and, you know, everybody just stopped doing this thing. We see
each other throughout the day. And, but we don't have like a big breakfast together. We don't have
a lunch together, but then at 7 p.m., everybody just knows 7 p.m. is when the end of the day occurs,
when our end of the day's family gathering occurs. Now, depending on how the day is gone, often
prior to that 7 p.m., family dinner meeting, we do go off and do something like, you know,
if I'm known as work by 6 p.m., we'll go off and play family tennis or family pickleball,
or maybe at 6.30, we'll play family botchy ball or cornhole in the backyard. Well, my sons and I
will have a quick ping pong tournament in the garage. Sometimes we're all busy, and we literally all
just haven't done anything, but we just meet at 7 p.m. At 7 p.m., for the family dinner meeting,
here's what happens. Number one, I always am going through a book with my sons. My wife doesn't
like to read. She's mostly dyslexic. She kind of sits in the background and listens in, but my
sons and I devote the first 10 minutes when we meet around 7 p.m., and again, sometimes it's
6.55, sometimes it's 7.15, but at 7 p.m., we go over the chapter or the section of the book
that we're reading together, and it varies widely. I mean, it's everything from some deep
theological book to a productivity and time management book to a health and physical
sciences book. Right now, it's a Harvard Business School financial management for entrepreneurs,
you know, so we're talking like literally tonight at dinner, you know, two hours from now,
we'll be talking about the different ways that you evaluate a business for a sale or an investment.
Right, so that is our time, though, for me to share wisdom with them for us to be able to engage
in dialogue about the book that we're reading together. Our cadence is about one to two books per
month, so every year, since my sons were about seven, I have taken them to a cadence of at least 12
books a year, sometimes more, and it's great because, you know, all of these great books that I
read that I want to share with them, I'm able to do so in a really systematized format throughout
the entire year, and it doesn't matter, you just can be public school, private school, home school,
if you can do this practice and it's great, because even though, you know, I'm typically reading
anywhere from two to five books a week, you know, some in preparation for a podcast, some
for personal interests, some for spiritual growth, et cetera, there's always at least one big
hell yes. This is a book I want to read with my sons book that we're reading, and then again,
what gets calendared is what gets what's going to get done. We always have that calendar time
right before dinner, to talk about the chapter or the section that's been assigned from that book.
So after the book reading and discussion, we then move on to song.
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That's a Saturday. Have fun. See you there. I whip out the guitar or I have one of my sons who are
getting better and better at the guitar, play the guitar and we have a big family song. Usually it's
like a hymn or a song or a spiritual song, you know, it can be everything from the hill. Amazing
grace to the blessing to some, sometimes it's an old Johnny Cash or whatever, but we always play a
song before dinner. It's a great way to just come together and seeing is so great. It's wonderful
for the kids. We harmonize. We, you know, some people sometimes people will clap and all play a
little drum along the back of the guitar. You know, occasionally one of my sons will plunk out
something on the piano, but we play a song and sing a song together. And then we pray again.
And the prayer in the evening is very similar to the prayer in the morning,
where adoration, confession, Thanksgiving, supplication, you know, the primary thing is, you know,
it's a blessing of the meal and blesses food or bodies and give us a wonderful evening together.
And then what happens is everybody busts out whatever dish that they prepared for dinner that
evening. So, you know, I'm pulling the meat out of the oven and my wife's grabbing the potato salad
out of the fridge and she made it earlier that afternoon. And one of my sons is grabbing the salad
that he put together or the, you know, the bread that he sliced and toasted and put some olive oil
and honey and salt on. And so everybody just kind of brings their dishes out. It's almost like
potluck style as a family. And we put all the dishes out and then everybody loads up their plate.
And we move on to really, I think, the highlight of the night. And that's family game.
Almost every single night of the week. Unless we have some serious discussion to have as a family
or we've got guests over and, you know, we have to talk to our guests, even though our guests often
join us and what I'm about to describe to you. We play a big, glorious family game. We have a
family game closet that's full over 100 games. At least once a month, I take my sons out to Barnes
and Noble where we go serve over to Amazon and we just get a new game. Obviously, you know,
as I think I've said before in other podcasts, my sons have actually decided that the business they
want to go into his card and board game production and design. And they have a company called
Fried Pickle Games. They're bringing their first game called Far To War to Kickstarter here
in a few weeks. But a big part of that was inspired by the fact that we just play so many games.
And it's so wonderful for laughter, for rhetoric, for logic, for game flow theory, for, you know,
for for for reasoning, for for argumentation, for conflict resolution. There's so much that you
learn through games. And it's not like we aren't talking with each other. You know, we're still,
a lot of times, you know, in between a hand of cards or in between a round of gameplay. We're
talking about our day and how everybody's day go and, you know, what we're accomplishments today.
And, you know, what anybody has news to share, et cetera. But there's always gameplay involved,
as a major part of dinner. As a matter of fact, that joke that you could eat off most of our games
because they're just so covered with like food particles and, you know, chunks of meat and all
things they get they get dosed with during dinner. But we play games. Sometimes the games are short,
right? If we've started dinner late because it's been a busy day, sometimes we're choosing a
quick game like, I don't know, you know, little birdie or exploding kittens. And sometimes we've got
a little more time to spare. So we're playing Scrabble or, or, or, you know, the ticket to ride
train game or canaster or something that's a little bit longer. But, you know, there's always
some kind of a game that we play. And it's just so wonderful. I can't recommend it highly enough.
I know some families play games after dinner. We're kind of like a later night. Obviously,
if we're starting our family gather at seven, you know, by the time we sit down and actually eat
dinner, it's 7-15, sometimes it's late at 7-30. And then by the time we finish dinner, it's like
8-30. So we're not going to, you know, world buddy does. We go to bed at like 9-30 or 9-45. So we're
not going to go play some big game after dinner. You know, okay, so we'll go out in the yard and
play some corn hole or bocky ball or something like that. But usually, once dinner is ended and
game time is ended, we're like doing dishes and starting to clean up the house and button up things
and begin to get ready for bed. So anyways, much to the chagrin of many one-genre enthusiast who
finished their last meal by 5 p.m. I will admit your sleep quality or sleep onset, your sleep
latency, all that's going to be better if you do have an early dinner time. And if you can finish
eating three hours prior to bedtime, it's always better for sleep. But you know what? I wouldn't
trade slightly better sleep for our wonderful, glorious family dinners and family game nights. And
I'm okay with finishing up dinner close to like an hour to an hour and a half before bed rather
than the token gold standard three hours before bed. So anyways, we finish up game and dinner.
And then after that, you guys, it's pretty straightforward. You know, we clean up the kitchen,
we do the dishes and then everybody's beginning to get ready for bed. We always, every single night,
we all gather in my son's room. You know, ever since they were born. Sometimes it's story time,
sometimes it's song time. These days, and this is the practice of ours for the past six years,
we all memorize one verse from the Bible together. Not only because it's so uplifting and
encouraging to have the words of what I consider to be my handbook for life, it's like memorized in
your brain. You know, even if you don't have a Bible on hand, you can pull out encouraging verses.
I don't want to tell you how many times I'm traveling in some foreign hotel room. And I'm just
residing Bible versus to myself fall asleep or get myself back to wake up at night. There's
something about it that's just super soothing to the soul. But it's it's also nice because
honestly, memorization's great for the human brain. And you know, my, my sons, they're,
they're not intimidated when they see some like two-page old school like, you know,
Hebrew text translated to English, you know, New Kings, James, version, you know, giant
psalm, and they know, oh, hey, in a month, I'm going to have us totally committed to memory.
So our family is literally memorized hundreds and hundreds of verses of scripture. Like right now,
we're just just on the tail end of memorizing us all 19. So we do that every night in the
boys bedroom. We do our memory verse together. And then once we've finished up that, you know,
then it's then it's getting ready for bedtime. And I'm not going to get into bedtime routine
in much detail on this raw podcast, but really the main things that I wanted to go over with you
today was A, that morning time routine and B, that evening right time routine. So what can you do?
You know, obviously a lot of information here. What can you do right now? Let's see you have a
family. Let's see you don't have a family. You've got, you know, a spouse, husband or wife,
because I, I, if I would have known the magic of the tactics I just shared with you as far as
togetherness and relationships and solidarity and growth together earlier, I would have started
this from day one of getting married with my wife. But and by the way, when my sons are going
to camper over, my wife and I have the same routine. Okay, my wife and I have our husband,
wife, family, huddle, seven a.m. in the living room. My wife and I meet seven p.m. for dinner.
My wife and I sing a song together. We pray together. We play games together. Same thing,
even when the kids aren't around. So you don't have to have kids to do this routine that I just
describe you. So anyways, what can you do? Think about a morning routine. Think about some type of
bringing together of a community. Could be roommates. Could be your family. Could be your spouse.
But think about calendaring away to start off the day with some kind of a fostering of relationships
and community and togetherness at the beginning of the day. And then think about how can I make
dinner time a more structured, magical routine of coming together? Because I've eaten at some
people's houses and it's kind of like, you know, yeah, we'll play it up this and play it up that and
there's no prayer. Everybody just kind of dives in and finish up and a few of the kids go off
play video games and you know, just he was very odd to me after experiencing not to overuse this
term, the magic that is our Greenfield family dinner. So think about that. How can you create a
morning coming together and evening coming together in the relationship the community of a family
that you currently live in? Try it out. It's gonna change your life. So I hope this raw podcast and
this specific topic has been held before you. Feel free to share it with anyone you know or
implement it this week. And thank you so much for listening. Wherever you're listening,
there'll be show notes. Check out Boundless Parenting. Also check out the Legato Family Foundation
with Rich Christianson and my podcast with him, which I'll also link to in the show notes here.
And this has been another raw podcast. Thanks for being a part of the Life Network.
Until next time, I'm Ben Greenfield signing out.
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