Nervous System Regulation, EMDR & Mismatched Desire | Jessica Idowin

Send us Fan Mail

Why can't you get turned on even when you want to? The answer might be less about attraction and more about your nervous system.

In this episode of Between the Sheets with Dr. Z, Dr. Stephanie Zwonitzer, DNP talks with Jessica Idowin, a licensed relationship and sex therapist trained in somatic trauma modalities including EMDR, about the science of connection, arousal, and what it actually takes to stay close to a long-term partner.

What you'll learn in this episode:

• What EMDR therapy actually is, how it works, and why it's used for processing sexual trauma
• Why your brain needs to shift into a parasympathetic ("rest and digest") state before arousal can happen at all
• Simple transition rituals couples can use to move from "work brain" to connection after a stressful day
• Why mismatched libido often isn't about attraction — and the psychoeducation that helps both partners feel less rejected
• The "emotional bank account" concept, and small daily habits that build (or erode) relationship connection
• How to know if your relationship needs repair work vs. individual therapy vs. a "six month" trial period before deciding to separate
• Fun, low-pressure ways to reconnect sexually, including sensory exploration and yes/no/maybe lists
• Why taking orgasm or penetration "off the table" can actually improve intimacy

This is a grounded, practical conversation about what it really takes to stay emotionally and sexually connected over the long haul.

🎙️ Guest: Jessica Idowin, licensed relationship & sex therapist, EMDR-trained
 🔗 Website: expansiveconnectionretreats.com | jessicaidowin.com

Work with Dr. Stephanie

www.reviveish.com
[email protected]


Connect with Between the Sheets:

IG: @ReviveISH

Email: [email protected]

#podmatch

Want to be a guest on Between the Sheets: Exploring Sexual Health & Wellness? Send Stephanie a message on PodMatch here: https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreviews/btswithdrz

Episode is sponsored by Boston Scientific and EDCure. For more information click here:
www.EDCure.com/BTS