Nick Freitas Delivers Powerful Message After Charlie Kirk's Death... | DSH #1793

It wasn't just Charlie being murdered that kind of changed everything. It was the left's reaction to it.

Charlie was brilliant at reminding everybody that yeah there's there's opposition out there

but we're fighting for the things we love so at a time where feminism has become paramount

liberal women are more depressed than they've ever been. The strongest most feminine woman I've

ever read about go to Proverbs 31. I just got married I want to have kids. I know it's going to be

a challenge especially in the digital era we're in now. When my daughter was 13 she was kind of

heard my wife were having an argument. Again it's part of that figuring out names and roles. She made

this kind of like smart out of the face toward my wife and she turned the corner and she didn't realize

that I saw it and she looked at me and I looked at her and I said all right guys here at Amphus

with Nick did you speak at the event? I did I got to speak on main stage yesterday and I'm

Andy Biggs and I are going to talk at a coalition meeting tonight. What was the big message you were

trying to get out there? I talked a little bit about something that I had wrote when Charlie the

day Charlie was murdered and you were talking to him. Yeah well it was no something that I wrote

the day Charlie was murdered I went out and I posted this and it resonated with people because

what I was essentially saying is that it wasn't just Charlie being murdered that kind of changed

everything it was the left's reaction to it and it was this idea that I felt like a wall came down

on what the fight was really about and this isn't something where we're all just going to get along

and get through it and get over it. We're talking about a conflict of diametrically opposed world

views and they don't peacefully coexist one side is going to win and one side is going to lose

and I want I want my side to win but I think on my side also represents something where we do allow

for peaceful coexistence on our side we're not trying to dominate everyone's life by the same token

we're not going to allow what's currently happening our country to continue. And so it was talking

about that and then also trying to offer some encouragement that one of the things I admired most

about Charlie is you see all the fights we're having right now and so many of the fights are becoming

some very interesting litmus tests and we're focusing so much on what we're against and we're not

focusing enough on what we're for and that sounds simple but Charlie was brilliant at reminding

everybody that yeah there's there's opposition out there but we're fighting for the things we love

we're fighting for Christ we're fighting for our marriages we're fighting for our families we're

fighting for our children we're fine that's the stuff that inspires courage that's the stuff that

inspires bravery and we got to get back to that yeah not that we can't talk about the opposition or

talk about our internal differences but a nation of godly men and women who become godly husbands

and wives who become godly mothers and fathers and raised children do the same that's a nation

whose politics you don't got to worry about absolutely so I know you take a lot of pride in talking

about father fatherhood parenting families kids yeah I think it's important right oh yeah yeah well

it's I mean it's so many it's just asking me like what's the greatest like compliment or the greatest

like moment I've ever had in my life and I was like you know people is like rushed to the professional

or the political or whatever else it is and there's things in there that I'm proud of but if you

none of them compare to random compliments my wife has given me or my children have given me

and I think that speaks volumes about where our priorities need to be yeah what made you want to

become such a good father was there something growing up that you thought about well my my my wife

and I both grew up and grew up in broken homes yeah no I was blessed I love my father is a great man

I love my my mother she's great woman but both of us were very determined that our kids were going

to grow up with a mother and a father in the house yeah and so a lot of it was just striving to do

that and and again screen up along the way man I can write books on my mistakes but I think I think

it's a testament to God's mercy that flawed attempts faithfully executed are blessed exponentially

I love that so yeah yeah I grew up in a divorce household I think half the country is experiencing

that right now right 50% divorce rate and it really affects people oh yeah I didn't realize

it at the time but now I'm going through all the trauma I dealt with growing up that's adults

it stays with you yeah yeah it it uh it attempts it ends up affecting the way you view the world

and ways you don't even recognize because it just seems so natural right and it's only when you

become into contact with something else that you're like oh this this is how it was supposed to be

yeah so but I I think the wonderful thing is um because I've talked to young men before that

I'll talk about legacy and they'll say something like dude I don't have a legacy I'm like no no you do

it just starts with you right uh and there's something truly powerful about being the first man

in your family to change the entire direction of your family going forward and um I'm always

excited for guys that embrace that like yeah I'm going to be the one I'm going to be the one

to make sure that my kids didn't go through that that you know my grandkids don't go through

yeah I love it you probably get thousands of guys asking you young men asking you for advice

what what are the biggest issues you're saying with young men right now uh gosh the big issue

with young men is they've spent the last two decades being told that they're garbage right

that every instinct that they have to protect or provide is is bad and toxic and then and then

they've been starved for actual like strong discipleship and mentorship and then a lot of the

men that have been willing to give them mentorship and not always have the best motives in my in my

opinion they they might have been able to properly diagnose the problem and they might have been

able to give men advice on um how to be stronger how to be more capable how to be more competent

but they didn't give them good advice on why you want to be those things because if if you're doing

all those things for hedonistic in states um well then the worst former depression is not getting

what you think you want the worst former depression is getting it and realizing it leaves you

unfulfilled wow and so I think we need more men that are saying look you should be strong you should

be capable and you shouldn't have had to go through the crap you did you were owed better from the

men that came before you but the only way through this is through it you have to choose to be an

honorable man you have to choose to be strong and the good news is this the the reason why there's been

such a concerted effort to convince young men that they're worthless and stupid that they want

you lazy and depressed is not because you don't have power it's because you're incredibly powerful

as young men go so too will go the nation wow and so the fact that young men and and increasingly

large numbers are looking for you know they're going back to the church they're more conservative

they want to get married they want to have families I know it doesn't seem like it right now

but young women are going to follow you into that wow it will take some time but it will happen

because god made men to lead and when you lead when you lead righteously um everything else follows

so you have faith in a young woman because I know the feminism movement was it got kind of out of

hand I think you and I both agree on that oh it's gotten nuts I mean look I if you want to know the

most the strongest most feminine woman I've ever read about go to proverbs 31 that that is a

woman who is uplifts her family she's an incredible wife incredible mother but she's also an entrepreneur

she's intelligent she's handy right like she's all these things so this idea that to be a conservative

woman or to be a Christian woman is to be subservient or or to just play a supporting role with

nothing out like no yeah it's like there's this incredible plan for women as well and if you want

the if you want a the truest testament that feminism has failed women is when you look at young

self described liberal women between the ages to 18 to 29 that is the subset of women that are

dealing with the most mental health issues so at a time where feminism has become paramount liberal

women are more depressed than they've ever been well that should that should tell us something right

by contrast the conservative women that are embracing this idea that yes I want to be strong

and I want to be capable but I do want to be a mother and I do want to be a wife and I do want to

do powerful important things in my life they're the ones that end up being the happiest and

interesting maybe it's because men and women were never supposed to be competitive with one

another we're supposed to be cooperative with one another that's all I see on social media these days

men and women fighting um religions fighting politics fighting it's just scrolling and it's just

degeneracy right yeah it's unfortunate yeah I've just stated the what and these kids in high school

and their brains are so impressionable yeah really easy to manipulate if you want to yeah absolutely

with your kids or they have the age to have electronic devices yet uh yeah so my uh but that

was an interesting story my oldest daughter is 22 married my son's 20 in the army yeah my youngest

daughter just turned 18 um and John at that height has done some incredible work yeah great look yeah

the screens and everything else and what does it mean and in specific screens like the smartphone

screens um when our kids started to get to the age where they were driving we wanted him to have

you know phones to be able to contact us but one of the things that we did and we didn't do it

perfectly but I'm happy with what we did we told our kids um look you don't own a phone I own a

phone and I'm letting you use the phone and because we taught our kids about property rights they

understood that if I want to see your phone I'm asking to see my phone not yours uh and so it

changed the mindset right like it's um I don't get to yell at mom and dad for invading my privacy

because no no my job is to protect you and so um we never really had an issue with our kids

and the internet because we did guard that and we made sure that they had reached a spiritual

emotional intellectual maturity and an awareness before we granted access that not just before we

granted them access to the world but before we granted the world access to them wow and so um so

again I think we were we were able to navigate that fairly successfully uh there's things that

do different now but uh yeah uh and now video games you gotta keep an eye on I just saw

on Sean Ryan's podcast yeah Ryan Montgomery exposed this it's mind blowing stuff with fortnight

and roadblock specifically yeah yeah I think um you know we we look at areas where predators go to

and you know it's sometimes we we get shocked when it's like oh my gosh your predator in the

school or the church like yeah predators go to where there's high trust and loads lots of kids yeah

and gaming is this world where all of a sudden it's kind of apart from you and so yeah you're

absolutely right Ryan has done I think a tremendous job of really kind of pulling the veil back and

showing children what or showing parents what's going on so that they can be guarded and like I'm

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discount code Sean I'll turn my kids from everything but I am trying to do this in a responsible

manner where they have access to things at a level where they have the maturity to deal with this

and then they're also aware of the potential pitfalls and then I'm involved too right so yeah

I'm ready for the challenge man I just got married I want to have kids oh dude congratulations man

that is awesome I'm excited yeah so I'm just getting ready I'm asking dads for advice I know it's

going to be a challenge especially in the digital era we're in now yeah and it's so easy to

want to distract your kids with like phones and you know can I just encourage you in this yeah

yeah it's not as hard as you would think really and the only reason I say like we homeschooled our kids

okay that was huge because now my kids aren't going to school and surrounded by a bunch of people

have smartphones right because you can say I'm gonna keep my kids away from the digital world okay

but you just put them into a classroom with 19 other kids that have such a straight right the

the other thing that you gain back with that time that you have with your kids in like a homeschool

environment is you get to walk them through and again expose them to things in a safe way so

that again have a mature approach to it right but man like being married is awesome having kids

is incredible so yeah I just I want to encourage you man it's like you so much so much of this stuff

we my wife and I followed kind of a biblical model for for raising our kids and the thing I always

go back to is again it's a testament to God's grace that as much as we screwed it up because we're

at least trying to be faithful the results really spoke for themselves because I have three kids

right now where they're strong in their faith they're the strong and who they are and what they

believe and I want to hang out with them and I love them and the other thing I'll tell you is

anybody that tells you the teenage years of the hardest that's a lie it does not have to be that way

I always hear that it is not have to be that way everyone that told me like oh wait until this

wait until this wait until this like dude I know what you're talking about like we we had in time

with our children we go when our kids became teenagers like no they were more capable they could

do more stuff wow so I hear that's the rebellious phase quote-unquote it doesn't have to be right

it's you know what it is it's not the rebellious phase it's the phase where they're seeking greater

independence and challenges they're trying to seek out their own capabilities and find their own

way and their their purpose and their direction and if you if you're yeah if you're trying to hold

them all in then yeah they're going to rebel right or if you send them out into the world and now

all of a sudden they're not prepared to deal with it well they're going to challenge things

but I had I had somebody ask me once he goes do you think that strict parents make sneaky children

and I said no I think arbitrary rules invite rebellion

anxious then so if I just give my kids rules without it and explaining why they're there

yeah of course they're going to rebel right in fact if I give my kids rules and all I tell them

is it's to make them safe they might still rebel because they they want to see if it's really

that dangerous interesting but if you give your kids sound direction if you're giving your kids

a path to get what they want dude if you give me a rule and you don't tell me the reason why like

I'm I want to break it if you give me a rule and you say well this will keep you safe I'm like

dude I can handle myself I don't need your advice but if you say hey Nick if you follow these

directions it'll get you to where you want to go well now I'm paying attention right I don't

want to stray off the path because it's going to give me to where I want to go I love that and

so what I found is with our kids is when we had built that trust with them and we exposed them to

age-appropriate challenges and we let them fail and get back up and then when we provided direction

for mom and dad they looked like well mom and dad love each other and mom and dad love us and mom

and dad seem to be having their crap together if mom and dad tell us to hate follow this it'll

get you what you want I'm gonna follow that yeah so no none of that it doesn't have to be the rebellious

ears it's the it's the years that they're preparing to be on their own and if you send them up for

success that and they believe you're sending up for says they listen great advice yeah I grew up in

a fear-based household I think a lot of people can relate to that where I feared my parents yeah

with your parenting approach would you say it was like a friendship's kind of style or how would

you describe it it was what it was is what we're shooting for is respected leadership so it's

that thing where it's like I'm not your friend I love you and I like you but I'm an authority figure

one day I want to be friends with you okay and that's when you become an adult and you move out

and you establish yourself at that point I'm still your parent but I'm not parenting you anymore

and got it I moved more and no kind of a mentorship phase of life and so the way that we did it

with our kids was well know if I have to bring correction I'm gonna bring correction

because I'm gonna direct your steps but then as they get a little bit older you get them more

challenges to face and I think the other thing that they believed is that we really wanted the

best for them we wanted to help them accomplish their goals and the mission that God had for them

and so there was times where they needed to be aware of danger but everything was rooted on

how do we prepare how do we set you up for success in life that's a very different conversation

approach yeah so that's that's what we that's what we strove for and there's times we didn't we

didn't do it well right but but I think they knew that's what we wanted for them and so they trusted

us did you ever use timeouts for them um yeah there I mean there was go to your room or so like that

but we usually try to keep it in conjunction with like an activity like I don't want you just go to

your room like go clean your room or go do this or you don't want to pay attention well I'm gonna

give you something productive to do to take your attention um and and I also don't want to pretend like

there wasn't um for instance when my daughter was uh 13 she was kind of her and my wife were having

an argument again it's part of that figuring out things and and roles and um she made this kind

of like smart out of the key face toward my wife and she turned the corner and she didn't realize

that I saw oh and she looked at me and I looked at her and I said don't you ever talk to my wife

that way again so she felt that oh dad's mad she felt the dad's angry why because you disrespected

his wife not your mother my wife now in that moment I'm not doing that because I want to be a

big tough guy that's making my daughter feel small what I want to demonstrate to her is that there is

an order of things and part of that order is I protect my wife I protect my wife from insult

I protect my wife from danger and if you insult my wife I'm gonna protect her from you

doesn't matter who it is doesn't matter who it is and what I'm telling it's not that I I don't love

her I'm also responsible for protecting her but it's teaching her also what to expect from

her own husband one day smart her husband should be protecting her and then her husband will have

her back when there's disagreements with the children and so there has to be that element too that

authority element so I'm an authority I'm not a tyrant and I there's a different so kids are

looking for direct they're looking for structure yeah and a lot of kids learn love from their parents

yes they say subconsciously you're actually attracted to people like your mother as a guy right yeah

yeah no I think that's true it's they're they're learning love in a couple ways one they're learning

the love that you have for them but they're also learning what relationships look like by watching

how mom and dad interact that's why I was tell people like when you start having kids it becomes

really easy to put the focus away from the marriage and on to the children yeah and there is a certain

a level of shift that has to take place but the marriage was necessary to have the children right

and so never forget the marriage right because what your kids need far more than

14 different soccer practices huh is they need to know that they're growing up in an environment

where mom and dad love each other and so if you want to you want to model the marriage you want

your kids to be able to have and so my wife and I would like oh we would flirt in front of the

kids and the whole deal and yeah we we would discuss things too we would have disagreements in

front of our kids to show them how to effectively work through it this all I like that right

but and then when they get older the trash talk becomes even better like you know my son and I'll

be at the gym people like oh what's up little man I'm like yeah I'm gonna make out with your mom

later how about that so yeah the fact that you're comfortable enough to have these combos with

your kid is yeah yeah that shows the parenting you did you know a lot of parents would never make jokes

like that you know Nick thanks for the advice man I can't wait to be followed one day so oh man

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