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Through growing up, what I've discovered is that this world is a very vast, a very wonderful,
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beautiful one, and there are so many things to discover. But the most important journey, I think,
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all of us will go through is the journey in ourselves to find our truth, to find who we are and
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what makes us happy. And in our culture, we are told that if we're beautiful, if we're skinny,
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if we're successful, famous, if we fit in, if everyone loves us, that we'll be happy. But that's not
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entirely true. The world is a hurting place and the world needs hope and the world needs love.
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Without hope, we feel like why are we here? Depression is a terrible thing and many, many,
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many things cause it and we don't understand. We understand some of them, but lots of them we
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don't understand at all. You know, sometimes people get depressed because they're really sick.
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There's lots of reasons that people get depressed and depressed people can go places that are so dark,
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you just cannot imagine it. You're stuck in this cycle where your brain chemistry and your
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wiring and all your habits are designed to keep you still and sedentary and you make the mistake
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we all do of waiting to feel ready. Depression does not rob you of the choice. It just tricks you
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into making the wrong one. Your best bet in life is to shoulder your suffering and to take
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responsibility and to move forward. Depression, frustration, anxiety, pain, dissolution.
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It's just a natural part of the process of becoming a stronger version of yourself.
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It happens to us spiritually and it happens in the world physically.
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If you have depression, if you have anxiety, if you have post-traumatic stress disorder,
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if you have any kind of mental health condition, it's nothing to be ashamed of and it's nothing
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to hide and it's something to hit head on with. There's one thing, one thing, that if you did
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every single day, no joke, it would make an extraordinary difference in whatever mental health issue
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you're struggling with and that is exercise. What we know about healing beings is that when you physically
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move, your physiology changes and that changes your brain. You've got to exercise. You've got to express
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the energy in the body. You've got to get it out. We forget that we can use our bodies to affect
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our minds. The mind has become overactive. It's not your friend anymore. It's depressed your body
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but we can take our body back and express it and allow it to help the brain recover. Go for
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runs. Go for walks. Join a crossfit gym. Join a powerlifting gym. Do something that's going to
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get your body moving. Begin doing yoga. Begin stretching. Get outside with your dog in the woods.
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Walk with a good friend for two or three miles. Doing that every single day not only moves your body
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which changes your mind. It gets you out of your physical environment which is one of the things
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that people with depression tend to have a hard time doing and it also creates a bit of momentum
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and a bit of a routine in your life. For many people, if they don't get up at the same time,
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they follow up the functioning of their circadian rhythms and that's enough to make them depressed
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right off the bat, especially if they start napping during the afternoon. They also don't have a
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purpose. People aren't good without a purpose. If someone comes in to see me and they say they're
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depressed, I always ask them, do you have a job? If you don't have a job, you're really in trouble
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in our society. Don't sacrifice your stability. Even if it's not the job you exactly want. Get a
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damn job. You need a job. Almost all the positive emotions that any of you are likely to experience
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in your life will not be a consequence of attaining things. It will be a consequence of seeing
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that things are working as you proceed towards a goal you value. So the very first piece that I want to
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read is from Abdul Baha that the mind and spirit of man advance when he's tried by suffering.
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The more ground is plowed, the better the seed will grow, the better the harvest will be.
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Just as the plow foes the earth deeply, purifying it of weeds and thistles so suffering and
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tribulation free man from the petty affairs of the worldly life until he arrives at a state of
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complete detachment. For the ground to produce strong fruit, strong trees, it needs to be dug up
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really deep. You need that pain, you need that suffering, you need that digging, you need that
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turning, you need that turmoil to get rid of all the impurities that allow the seed to grow
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to its fullest potential. People have a choice. Choice number one. Nothing you do means anything.
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The alternative, the alternative is everything you do matters. It means responsibility. It means
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that the decisions you make are important. At age 10, I tried to drown myself in six inches of
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fifteen centimeters of water. I had enough. I wanted to get out of here because of the bullying
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in my life because I was going to be a burden to my parents and had nothing to look forward to.
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There was one thing more burdensome than having a child without limbs. What is it? A child without
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limbs who gives up. So when I saw in my mind, my mum and my dad and my brother crying up my grave
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if I went through with him, that one thought saved me. When you talk about topics like depression,
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like sobriety, like anxiety, they can feel so big. Even a topic like growing your business
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triple in your income, it can feel so big. But when you realize that anything that you have in life
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is all just the sum of all the decisions that you make and you shrink everything down to just
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managing one decision at a time to be a decision that empowers you versus a decision that
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disempowers you, you now have the secret to changing anything. Yes, still talk through therapist,
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yes, still stay on your meds if you're on them, but you can start to now go and change how you
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respond. Because what's happening is the alarm goes off, you don't feel like getting up, see it on.
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You have a choice about what you do when that alarm goes off. You got things to do and they're
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going to be difficult. You pick up the weight of your suffering voluntarily and you walk uphill
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with it and that not only gives you the meaning that you need in your life to stop you from degenerating.
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Even the worst parts of my life can be turned into good and even more special.
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You got to come to the truth of knowing who you are and why you're here. William Bakley,
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he said, the greatest two days in anyone's life, the day you were born and the day you knew why.
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Every single human being has value and my value is not determined on how I look or what job I have
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or where I'm from, where I was born, how much money, all that stuff is nothing.
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I'm wonderful and faithfully made. There's a greater purpose for my life.
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You can look at your life and you can see what isn't right about it.
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Then you can start to fix that and the way you fix it is by noticing what you could in fact fix.
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Small accruing gains that repeat unbelievably powerful.
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Be open, don't be ashamed, get the help that you need. If you want to start doing something today.
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5, 4, 3, 2, 1, give yourself a push and you're going to feel a lot better.