playboy route vs settling down in your 20s (full QandA)

0:00Welcome back brother. You've asked me some questions on Instagram and I'm going to answer them. We can spend a little bit of a Sunday together. Chillin' out. Question number one is the Playboy route or settling down better in your 20s. For me personally I think the Playboy route and this doesn't have to be a fucking a new girl every night. This can just be having a little relationship here and there not taking anything too serious in your 20s. I don't think it does a man a whole lot of good. Being in a long-term relationship in their 20s. In the majority of cases that I've seen a man becomes less than he could be in his 20s because he's settled down. There's some very rare occasions where maybe your woman is your biggest fan and she's the one that is telling you to like go out and fucking get it and she supports you and she believes in you wholeheartedly and she wants your ass out there fucking working and that's the role of a good woman to be honest with you. Your woman should not be asking you in any way to be smaller in your

1:04dreams or your aspirations or your business or what you're looking for from life. She should be the one that's kind of saying look you're doing alright mate but I'm with you so you better be a god damn king and go out there and get it and if you've got that in your 20s and you really do and she's sound I think that's a beautiful thing but the exception does not disprove the rule and the rule is that most guys settle for a woman that makes them less or a woman that wants their attention and doesn't see the future bigger vision in which case being a playboy just in the realm of dating a few girls here and there I don't believe in ever having to totally cut out women in your 20s just because you're on your mission or you're grind that's usually cope most guys like yeah I hadn't seen girls for the last three years because I've been working on my mission or my grind and you ask him alright how's that going yeah yeah still hustling it's like yeah you didn't get the result anyway but you've given away one of last greatest joys which is like female company I like keeping female

2:06company because they do offer such a different perspective to just spending time with men I think to let that go through your entire 20s would be a nightmare I think you pick up dating experience maybe you exclusively date a girl for a while but I wouldn't get too serious in your 20s unless you find a diamond the problem is most people think they have a diamond because they get rose tinted shades and they don't have a diamond over time if you travel in your 20s which is what I recommend you do travel live with your boys build your lifestyle find a good place in the world to live build your business if you do those things and you go around the world you'll see just the abundance of good women that there are out there and you know there is no race or time ticking clock for you to find one because there's such an abundance of girls that probably suit you all over the world next what was the darkest year of your life before entrepreneurship 20 to 21 I was quite badly addicted to alcohol I drank every day that year it was just a it was a rough year of looking after my mind because obviously if you drink that much your mind set and your mental health becomes

3:10bad really bad and so it was a rough year of anxiety and not feeling great about myself before I decided one day when I was driving back from a next girlfriend's house the Christmas and I couldn't really drive properly because I kept seeing objects running out in the road that weren't there it was dark and I knew that I had a big problem with alcohol so I'm listening to the book the easy way to control alcohol by Alan Clar bought the audio but listened to it in the drive-back from that moment I quit alcohol the first time and ever since then I was much more controlled over alcohol obviously didn't drink every day did about six months sober at that time and then I let alcohol back into my life periodically but that was probably the darkest year of my life but none of mine have been particularly dark or blessed like there have been things that I've done to myself to be honest like I'm really blessed of not had any great tragedies in my life I try to know isn't the case for some people all the darkness that's ever been in my life has

4:11been self-imposed or self-inflicted from a boy Joel what's my hair protocol as you've probably seen on grown my hair out that's because I like Patrick Swayze's character Bodie in Point Break Point Break's my favourite movie Bodie Max bring up a picture of Bodie in Point Break Bodie's a legend I love absolutely love that movie and the message and I love the surfer look I've always loved surfer lifestyle I've surfed a bit when I was younger haven't surfed recently apart from the kite surfing what am I doing for my hair to let it grow put lemons in it so it goes blonder I don't dye my hair spend plenty of time in the sun and just letting it grow naturally in terms of how a style it a user like a wax product and a Vader curling spray how to rotate business dating and social life when you can only do two or three well at a time you can manage all three because realistically you only need to work three or four hours a day if you're an entrepreneur and you do three or four hours continued and focus work a day for a year no days off because you're just working three or four hours a day you're probably far more successful than your ten hour days that you're grinding and hustling not doing anything for two months and then

5:16you burn out is Thailand still the best place to be in 2026 I don't think Thailand was ever the best place to be in the world in the world it was the best place to be if you're a single male between the ages of 18 and 25 that wants to live cheaply and have a lot of fun that's what it was best for and I think it still is that in 2026 I think it still is a beautiful place I think it still is a safe place and I still think it's cheap where's my favorite place for business and living now it's got to be either Dubai the United States they're really your only two options in my opinion Dubai's unbelievable Dubai is absolutely unbelievable the longer I live it the more I love it it's such a good place health fitness-oriented great fucking people around if you know where to find them best restaurants best hotels best luxury also has nature very close to things everybody flies through here at least once a year can buy houses can buy cars business setup all of those things most people that hate on Dubai have never been they don't know to what it's like well they have no

6:20just been frank and then the best place that the only place that tops Dubai but obviously has taxes is the US US is still a superpower it's still the best country in the world it's an absolute bad boy countries the sickest place ever is that you can own guns you can have huge amounts of land America is so big it's like 15 countries in one oh if you look to every state is a different going to go 50 countries in one but terms of climate scenarios like 15 different countries in one and I love the American people and I love the business hustle and the grind and all that sort of stuff from America so America's awesome but taxes and then you've got Dubai which is the next best thing but Thailand's great if you're young you want to go travel you want to see some of the world I'd highly recommend it what makes you wake up every day with enthusiasm and optimism anybody who thinks you're going to wake up every day with enthusiasm and optimism is an idiot because you even I don't and that's why you need a system to reframe your mind as soon as you wake up and you don't feel that way and that usually comes from okay let me go to the gym and first move

7:25my body and feel good about myself and normally after the gym it will clear that fog and you'll feel good about yourself and you you'll have some enthusiasm and optimism but that enthusiasm and optimism for the day comes from getting up and going and doing something and making yourself proud it's not a given every single day and you can sit there and try and meditate into it and gratitude yourself into it or you can go to the gym pumps of mine and get some work done then you'll feel pretty good tits or ass. Good question Luca it is unacceptable to do have anything but both in your partner right but if your partner's got great tits natural great tits you can build her an ass so I'd have to go tits both can be acquired and both are necessary if you want to have a long-term girlfriend there's this what the hell else would you have a girlfriend. Another question here why did you start DJing so much and posting it on Instagram if you saw my video when I was in a rubber you probably saw that I met this guy called Nico and he taught me how to kites her and he was also a DJ and invited me behind the booth to go and watch him do a tech house set and

8:27I've had decks before when I was at university but I was too stupid to learn them like I was too drunk most of the time and I never watched anything on how to learn them I just was playing around with them I've always loved music you guys know that a lot of my music it's a very creative taste if you go through my Instagram rills have an interesting taste in music I'm very passionate about music yeah I do have put two songs together I think do well and watching other people enjoy them is a great pleasure to me and it doesn't feel like working anyway whatsoever it's complete hobby and then I was behind the booth with Nico and I was like oh this is awesome like really really cool and I'd love to do that and luckily I'm in a position to really do whatever I want so came back and bought all the gear I've just been playing around with it and soon enough when I get to a point where I'm happy with my first set I'll release it I'll put it on YouTube for you guys and play for you and I hopefully do some live shows before the end of the year but it's just a hobby right now I'm just enjoying it for what it is no pressure I just love music do you have a

9:28mentor and do you see the importance of having a mentor absolutely I have had many mentors have spent over a hundred thousand dollars on courses coaching mentorships it's an absolute no brainer literally every person you speak to that makes over a million dollars a year will have done the same thing because they just know the value of oh give this guy 10 grand he's going to give me a million dollars worth of information that I would have had to spend two years figuring out that's the difference between rich people and poor people poor people go oh my god that's a scam I'm not paying for information I'm going to try and learn it on my own and then everyone else just boom way ahead of them but why would you ever be scared to give away money when it's so easy to get it back the problem is everybody has well majority not everybody majority of people have a scarcity mindset that's why there's a 99% and the 1% 99% of people are scared to spend their money and if they've worked hard for their money the only thing they're willing to spend it on is having a good time rather than progressing their life because they don't believe in themselves they have no confidence they can follow through on anything so they spend their money on pleasure so it doesn't seem like

10:30a waste people that believe in themselves will spend their money to gain information because they know the only thing stopping them from being where someone else is is information and execution and they're willing to do both what is the best way to meet good friends in a new city as a normal guy I have never had any problems in my life making friends very very quickly I usually find people want to be in my life or around me more than I want people to be around me it's usually the case that I've found and I understand that that's not a position that many people find themselves in so I will explain to you exactly how I do it I don't need anybody and that is a real important part of this I'm very happy going to the gym on my own or having my own routine or figuring my own stuff out I like my own company and time and that's probably from spending extended time traveling solo in Thailand when I first started I built everything pretty much on my own and then welcome to people in that I liked the first thing I think when I get to new city is what can I do

11:30in this new city that I'd enjoy it on my own I don't think how can I make friends here I know friends are going to find me and I think that's an important mindset you really have to be comfortable on yourself I've always your accept any old person in your life and that's not ideal so I'll do that and for example I went to Rubber recently a new place I don't know single soul I've gone on me own boom one of the first things I did is I'll go to kite surfing and I meet my kite surfing instructor who's called Nico and I'll speak to people as if they are already my friend that that's another thing I don't treat people differently depending on who they are I speak to most people as if they were a close buddy of mine that I've known for years women that I've just met other guys waiters waitresses whatever it's like I can't speak to everybody the same way and I'll spoke spoke that way with Nico so we just ask some questions I've each other and become friends I learnt from somebody else that Nico DJed I asked him a question about DJing he said yeah I'm DJing playing on Friday I said I'm fantastic where is it I'd love to come and see that he then tells me

12:31it messages me after oh you actually want to come yeah I do boom and I show up and I'm there there's four or five other guys there they end up meeting I end up meeting a girl there boom before I know it I've gone to the gym there I've made a friend at the gym just talking to the guy behind the counter having some chat then I couldn't get a taxi home so he dropped me home when I was in a rubah and I've now got within four days of being in a rubah I know four guys from the kite surf in and a DJ who I've gone behind the booth with and I've had one guy from the gym be very kind to me and drop me back home he's now my friend I've got everyone's water so it's actually pretty easy but yeah do you somebody worth knowing and you've got to be comfortable being on your own I don't look him for friends friends will find you if you're worth being around how to deal with approach anxiety three to one go that's the method it's totally normal to have approach anxiety even when our approach goes now I'll have some small anxiety that that butterflies in your stomach this because a little awkward oh am I going to embarrass myself that it's really not a big deal and what you've got to try and stop doing is talking yourself out of things when you see that girl and you say

13:36oh but she's probably got a boyfriend or she's going to say this or this person over here is going to think this of me for approaching that woman and that person in the gym is going to think I'm weird none of that's true it's all your mind playing tricks on you and you have to know that what what is so weird about going up to somebody you find attractive will like the look up and say hey how are you nice to meet you yeah I'll see you in this gym a few times I wanted to ask you what your name one how often you come here oh this is me yeah how long you've been in the town oh I've been in the town this time oh that's nice maybe we should try and together sometime I'll go and get a coffee I thought you're really cute oh yeah that's cool or no I've got a boyfriend all right no problem he's a lucky guy I'll see you around you have a good workout boom you're like start doing that once a day and for no reason that you need the number or you need to have sex or any of those things just because you a friend you want to say hey to people and you'll quickly overcome that approach anxiety you need to go three two one go walk over and stumble over your words that probably one of the best things you could do is go and fuck out and have a woman be horrible to

14:36you if you're one of the best things that could happen to you because you realize you walk away and you're not dead nothing bad's happened the reputation isn't ruined somebody told you to go away and you're a big boy and you'll be all right what do you think the most overrated self-development advices 100% it's these long drawn out warning routines there's a few things that matter as a man go into the gym being in the best shape of your life getting your work done and making money and bring doing things that actually make your money they're yeah they're your big impactors right maybe people might say that's fickle but they're important if you make great money you do whatever the fuck you want you do anything you want if you're in great shape life will be easier those two matter so a combination of get up and get straight to work followed by a workout or go and work out straight away then get straight to work are two things that are going to change your life that was most overrated and most underrated self-development advice I genuinely think stop wanking like that

15:37that one's thrown around all the time how do I stop wanking or should I stop masturbating and it's like it seems so silly because and people laugh at it but genuinely that's a very very good piece of self-improvement advice if you don't come you'll just be better at everything you'll really be better at everything you'll have more drive you'll get more done you shouldn't watch porn you shouldn't masturbate so it's actually really really true it's not a harmless task like you should genuinely stop doing that you will find everything easier so there you go guys there was a few of your questions that I've answered hope you enjoyed it have a great Sunday I'll see you this week on the next one