Pretty Little Episode #107

0:00This is a headgun podcast. Checking all state first could save you hundreds on car insurance. Not checking that my guest room is already to go before my mom is it? Oops! She's ready for a nap, but I haven't made the bed yet, and now I've got to rush to the winning closet post haste. Yeah, check in first is handsome, so check all state first for an auto quote. It could save you hundreds. You're in good hands with all state. Potential savings vary subject to terms, conditions, and availability. All state North American insurance company and affiliates Northbrook, Illinois. Handsome child, friends on handsome part. Child and the friends on the handsome part. Pretty little episode. Hi, it is your friend Tignotaro on the pretty little episode, handsome episode, I think is what it's called. I'm sitting here with my coat off. This is Fortune Feemester. Yes, it's called a pretty little episode.

1:01You got it, my friend. It's been a beat. How do you do? How do you do? I'm doing good. I just truck them along. How are you? I'm good. We're about wrapping up our Colorado time, and it has been once again, a lot of hiking, biking and dyke. Hiking, biking and dyke. Yes, indeed. Has it been a good summer? It's been a great summer, and it's just been, I don't know, just as a parent, really fun to see the independence and maturity and growth that our kids are showing. Is they have a way more free range life when we go on summer break. We like to, they'll do some summer camps that might last a week that are sports related,

2:07but other than that, we get really active together as a crew. Yes, wild. They're mountain biking for 15 miles and swimming in lakes and eaten lunch by rivers and learning wildflowers. It's really understanding hiking maps and showing us the ropes. It's really cool. It's definitely a source of pride. It's nice. Seeing friends and family is always nice. I feel very thankful for our summer time. That's great. How are they transitioning back into LA once they've spent a summer like that?

3:11Very outdoorsy. Max always jokes like, he's like, well, back to our prison. Just because we have a gate, oh, yeah. At our house. I think it's good. I think we all leave summer travels with a feeling of, man, that was awesome. But I cannot wait to get home for our kiddies and grandfather and friends. It's just that really sweet spot of like, I'm going to miss it, but I'm really excited to get home. I think we all feel that way. Yeah. I would like to do it at some point. Go somewhere, rent some kind of house, like on a lake or something like that, where you're

4:11just slow it down quite a bit. I just want to. If I can actually make myself go do that sometime. Well, you know, years ago, you know who Joey Saloway is? Mm-hmm. I do. Yeah. I remember Joey had invited us to go meet their family and some mutual friends. You know the actress Carrie Aisley? She's painfully hilarious. I just hope for her. Easily for her. Oh my God. One of the funniest people walking around the planet. They had, I don't know if it's still going on, but like a regular summer trip that they did together. And I remember when they had invited us a few years in a row. Yeah. And I was always busy and I was like, I don't have time to, like I was thinking like, I can't possibly go do that.

5:13Yeah. And Joey was like, I literally shut down from this date to this and it's not negotiable. Yeah. And I was like, that is wild. And so as I got older and had a family and I started to realize I did have some control that I could shut down. Even though I still record the podcast, I have gone and done a show here there and I have wrapped up a movie. Doesn't sound like I fully shut down. But it's, you know, to the extent that I can. Yeah. I have to shut down and it changed my life. Yeah. One million percent changed my life. Yeah. And prioritizing that, I only started going on vacations after I met Stephanie. I used to not vacation at all. And then it got to a different point where our kids got older and that's, you know, when

6:16you're a kid and summer hits, that is what it is. You're waiting for that. Yeah. And so I don't know. I can't recommend it enough if you can do it. However long. Yeah. Then like I said, I couldn't fully do it. But as much as I can, I do it. Well, it's nice. It's good to refresh and, you know, live life little. Any hoodl, let's go through some questions. Yeah. Let's do that. That's why we're here. Well, well, well. Hey there, handsome. I'm called Katie and I am from the suburbs of Chicago, Illinois. I am a mother of seven and as of last month, the grandmother of two babies. Oh. When my daughter was pregnant with her first, people would ask me, what do you want to be called? And I would say, I don't know, whatever it calls me. And it turns out my two-year-old grandson calls me well, well, because accordingly, I often walk into a room and say, well, well, well.

7:18So my question is to two-parter. If you ever become a grandparent, either because you have boys that become parents or a step daughter, ish that becomes a parent or you're a fortune and you pull an Angelina Jolie and adopt a whole bunch of kids that have kids. What? What would you like to be called as a grandparent? And second part, if some catchphrase of yours were to become that name, what would that be? Thanks so much, you guys. I've told you my answer, so I don't need to tell you again. But I'm looking forward to hearing what you all have to say. Love you guys. Love your podcast. And keep up the good work. Keep us giggling. Thanks. Bye. Bye. Well, you have the closest proximity, even though your boys are young, to becoming a grandma. Yeah, but you're all Angelina Jolie over there. Yeah, apparently I'm going to adopt a bunch of kids. I don't think that's going to happen. I don't either. But I feel like there's a good chance that one or both of your boys will have kids one

8:22day. I'm talking about it. Have you thought about what you want to be called? Maybe grandpa? That's kind of funny. Have you ever heard that Willie Nelson song? I'm my own grandpa. Uh-oh. It's good. It's just like broken family tree kind of thing where he ends up his own grandpa. Yeah. No. Um, I, what would you name me? Well, they probably can't call you Tiggle Bitties. That's my nickname for you. Um, I, uh, I like grandpa for you. I like, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, um, well, mayors your nickname, would they just continue? Do you think your grandkids would also call you mayor? Maybe mayor. Mayor Bair. Mayor Bair is cute. Yeah, cause Max and Fen will sometimes call me mayor bear. Yeah. But mostly mayor.

9:22That's, that's, that's, that's, that's what I call. Yeah, I feel like that's already sort of your name. And that we, but mayor bear, I think mayor bear is a nice little addition. Uh-huh. You know, and those, and they would continue to be your cubs. Yeah. A little cubs. A little cubs. So mayor bear, I think is good. Yeah. I don't know. I actually thought about what my name would be, but I'm not going to tell anybody because, you know, you never know if one day I were to somehow adopt a bunch of kids or, um, Mary Angelina, you know, in depth with some, a stepchild at some point who knows. Sure. Uh, who knows? I have a, I have a name that I would want to be called, but I'm not going to tell anybody because I want to, is it grandma cooter? That's pretty funny. I thought about that. I'm like, cooter. Honestly, that's not a bad idea.

10:24GC, GC for short. Um, but what if it were to ever happen one day, I would reveal what that name is, but I'm going to keep it a secret. You won't even tell me if we bleep it out. I'll tell you. I'll tell you later. I'll tell you later. I'll tell you later. Um, but I, but for now, I think grandma cooter might have already edged that out so it won't matter. Um, you know what I have to say also, I don't know if I've talked about it on stage once, but my nephew, when I hear a well, well, or well, well, well, I don't know if I've told this story, but, um, when my brother and sister-in-law were trying to have a conversation and asked us to distract our nephew, Stephanie was like, come look at the telescope. And he was like, I don't want to. He was three. And, um, and, and he, because he wanted to be with his parents.

11:27Yeah. And she was like, no, no, no, come on, come on. And she was like, oh, it's so cool. And she was pretending to look out at the telescope. She was like, wow. And then he came over and he was like looking at, you know, the situation. Yeah. And then he said, I guess I could look out of the telescope. And then Stephanie goes, well, well, well. And he goes, no, don't say well, well, well. And it made us laugh so hard because he was three, but he totally understood that she was being, um, what is it, condescending or, um, and, uh, calling him out on like, going back on his word. Yeah. And so to this day, any time, truly, if it's, if a waiter walks up to our table and says, well, well, well, we're always like, no, don't say well, well, well. Once you dare, just let me look out of the telescope and don't call me on it.

12:31That's funny. Yeah. I love that. I love you too. Mayor Bear and Grandma Cooter. What if we end up married and, uh, go the final stretch in life? Come on kids, we're going to Mayor Bear. Grandma Cooter. We're going to Grandma Cooter's campus. Checking all state first could save you hundreds on car insurance, not checking that I put away all my puppets before going to sleep. That's the stuff of nightmares. I woke up to get some water in the middle of the night and I thought an army of tiny folk had come to life in my house. Yeah, checking first is handsome. So check all state first for an auto quote. It could save you hundreds. You're in good hands with all state, potential savings varies of the determined conditions and availability, all state North American insurance company and affiliates North Brigadilla. Thank you, Katie. Oh, well, well. Well, thank you, Katie. Oh, well, well, well, well. That's true. Hello. Hello, you want to hook us up, Thomas, on our next delightful question.

13:35Hey, Billy whirlies and Thirley whirlies. This is Kim from Oz. Not from Kansas, from Australia. Australia? I was wondering, what is it that made you believe in yourself, like to believe in pursuing that you could pursue comedy, believing that you could act in the movies you act or write the movies you write or TV shows? Yeah, what is it that made you believe in you? Or what is it that made you chase these dreams that you have and really start living them out every day? I'm curious. Hmm. That's a good question. What do you got to say? I bet your grandma is in there. I mean, yeah, my grandmother was a big influence on me. She, you know, was a, we were very close when I was growing up and she really instilled

14:37the sense of like belief in me and like she just loved me so much unconditionally. There was never any stipulations or any, you know, that's kind of what it's beautiful about a grandmother is that they're not the ones that are having to parent you per se. They're just going to get to be the like ball of love. And she just was just very like on my team and that made a big difference for me in my like self-esteem and this is great, great grandmother, Cuder. This is grandma Cuder, my grandma Cuder. And so yeah, I think, you know, in a time where I could have really felt bad about myself for a multitude of reasons being a big chubby kid always and, you know, being not knowing I was gay and not being the object of affection for guys growing up.

15:37There are things like, you know, chiboi at your self-esteem. But I think that like her, her just like that unconditional love really just kept me from getting consumed by that. My mom also, you know, was always had a good self-esteem about herself and a good personality. And I think she, you know, kind of taught me to be silly and think highly of myself, but not in like an over, you know, not in a way that's like annoying or pompous, but just like, I'm, you know, I'm good enough like that Stuart Smalley. I'm good enough. I'm smart enough and dog-gone at people like me. So they, so they kind of laid that foundation for me to just like have a belief in myself. And so that's kind of square one. But then I do think that I just naturally always was curious about what else was out there.

16:39Like I grew up in a very small town, went to a very small college. And I just was always like, what else? This can't be it. Yeah, yeah. There has to be more. And in college, I got to like dip my toe in that by studying the Mayan ruins and the Mayan civilization in Mexico. That really opened up my world. And then that led me to wanting to live in Spain and kind of learn about that other culture and language and that part of the world and living in Spain gave me the courage to move to Los Angeles when I got a job opportunity. And I did not move to Los Angeles with the goal of being a comedian. I thought, oh, how cool. Like maybe there's something fun in LA to learn or do. But I didn't go, oh, I'm going to go be a Hollywood actor and comedian. I just got a job opportunity and was like, this will be a fun life experience.

17:40And then while I was there, I just, I obviously had some pull towards performing because I had done some theater in college. But I just joined the groundlings improv to make friends truly just to have a social life. And my teachers, and I've had teachers my whole life from school to college to the groundlings, just be very encouraging of me saying like, you got something here, keep going. And I think that having people around you encouraging you and say, keep going, you got something makes a big difference too. And then once I found what my passion was comedy, there was just no stopping me because I think half the battle was figuring out what you love. And once you figure out what you love, like that cuts out so much of the work. Because so many people struggle just to find the thing they're into.

18:40And then when you find it, you're like, well, let's, let's go for it. And then I just kind of had this unwavering like, I didn't make money forever. I was broke. But I just loved it so much. And I was like, I'm just going to figure out how to do this more. And that was it. And then you climbed aboard the Hansen pod. That's right. This was this was waiting for you on Hollywood. Yeah. I mean, I had negative money, negative, I got on my roommate like two grand when I got Chelsea lately. I had literally no money in my bank account. Yeah. I cannot. I didn't get paid for a month. And I didn't know how to like pay for lunch while I'm working at the like around these very successful comedians. Yeah. And I was close. I was. Yeah. To just not being able to support myself anymore.

19:41Right. But it just came this huge shock. Our opportunity came at the, you know, under the wire. Mm-hmm. I would say they missed the wire. Yeah. And then I never stopped working after that. That's great. What about you? I, um, I don't have confidence and I can do this. Um, yeah. I mean, you know, as I've talked before, um, my mother was very, my mother was an artist. She was very funny, very wild and free spirited and instilled in me to tell people to go to hell. But not literally, I didn't, you know, go through life telling people to go to hell. But just she just was like, they have a problem with you. They can go to hell. Mm-hmm. They have a problem with it. You're gay. Everyone can go to hell, you know, you're fine. Yeah. And, um, you know, I'm definitely not somebody that actually says go to hell, but I have

20:41like a, a part of me that has remained my whole life where I'm like, I think I'm okay. You know, I think I'm, I think I'm doing all right. And yeah, actually as I got older into my teen years and I was really struggling with school and, um, you know, I didn't understand myself. I was in trouble a lot in the principal's office and my vice principal was just saved my life. And I didn't know was gay. But I think she sniffed me out. Yeah. And, uh, really guided me and was very involved in my life and in, in contact with my mother and, um, and she just really instilled the whole listen to your gut, listen to your gut. Mm-hmm. And, uh, I didn't fully get that until I really got out into the world and listened to my gut and, um, I think those two people, you know, I also have to say my childhood friend

21:49of mine's mother. Mm-hmm. You always tell me how smart I was. And I, um, it was kind of not the first time, but really outside of my parents or family that I, I mean, my mother would be like, oh, your teacher college says you're so smart and I'm like, I'd say, what else are they going to tell you? You have a dumb child on your hands. Um, but my, my friend, Melissa's mother, like really, really saw my intelligence, you know, uh, it wasn't shining in obvious ways, maybe, because I was little off the beaten path. But, um, I would say those three people, I mean, there's been so many, but those are, those are three monumental people and that kind of gave me that feeling that I could do things and I, uh, yeah, I've, I've surprised myself.

22:50I've surprised myself that I can make a living that I could actually maintain a relationship and that I, I think I'm an alright parent and decent friend and I'm just like so thankful. For the people that have sent me on my way, you know, and I will say it a million times until I'm dead. I'm not a perfect person. And, uh, but I, I, I've come a long way because of those people. Yeah. And so many others, so many others. And it like, yeah, and comedy, they're everywhere, like just my friend Beth, like there's so many people that have, I'm just like taking a lead truly. So yeah, there you go. And then you got on the hands of Bob. And then I got on the handsome pod. Yeah. So yeah, should we hear what Kim has to say?

23:55Mm-hmm. Um, for me, my answer is I feel like I'm at the beginning of, you know, really learning how to be myself and figure out all my interests and start to really, yeah, like believe that I can do it. Whatever it is that I want to do. And just starting to live every day, like I'm living my dream life and starting to pursue the things. Um, but yeah. That's me. Okay. Bye. I love it. Well, hopefully everybody's, you know, on their path to living their best life and doing the things that matter to them and bring them joy. We want that for all our handsome listeners. For sure. I mean, why wouldn't you want to see everyone thrive in this world? That's right. And this world thrive your faces off, everybody.

25:00Well, another fun episode. Mm-hmm. Great questions. You can submit your questions and advice requests to SpeakPipe.com slash Hands-Up-odd if you want to be on here and have us give you some, some little tips or questions or advice. We're both on tour. Check out our website for our dates. Yeah. I'm Tig No Taro with anyone's wondering and that's my website. I'm fortunefeamster.com. Uh-huh. Well, until next time, keep it pretty handsome. Pretty handsome. Handsome is hosted by me, Tig No Taro. May Martin and Fortune Feamster. The show is produced, recorded and edited by Thomas Willett. Email us at handsomepod at gmail.com. Follow us on social media at HandsomePod. What a podcast. What a podcast. What a podcast. What a podcast. That was a hitgun podcast.

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