Quick Win: Why your “default behaviour” isn’t actually yours — and how to change it

What if the way you argue with your partner or push yourself at work isn’t actually yours - but something you absorbed decades ago? 

In this Quick Win, I’m joined by educator and author Lael Stone, who explains how the stories we inherit in childhood silently shape our beliefs about relationships, money, and success. Lael calls these “imprints” - and once you start recognising them, you can finally begin to choose your own patterns instead of replaying old ones. 

Lael and I discuss: 

• What “imprints” are and how they form through family dynamics. 

• The surprising ways childhood beliefs can dictate our career choices and relationships. 

• Why understanding our imprints helps us break unconscious habits. 

• How to recognise when fear or loyalty to family stories is keeping us stuck. 

• The freeing realisation that changing your story isn’t disloyal—it’s growth. 

 

KEY QUOTE 

“A lot of the imprints we have are deeply unconscious. We don’t even know they’re there.”  

 

Connect with Lael Stone on Instagram, LinkedIn and her website, and check out her latest book Own Your Story. 

Listen to the full conversation with Lael here. 

 

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Credits:  

Host: Amantha Imber  

Sound Engineer: The Podcast Butler 

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