REPLAY: Ask A Dating Coach - January 22, 2026

Website Updates and Podcast Planning

Jude and Dallas discussed their ongoing work on website updates, email campaigns, and a podcast landing page, with Jude noting that the designer would be available next week to work on the landing page. They also mentioned their weekly podcast "Dads Dating After Divorce" and the possibility of offering a free year of dating coaching to someone who finds Dallas at his mobile location. The meeting began with technical difficulties as some participants experienced Zoom issues, but Jude provided a grace period for attendees to join.

Status Games in Relationships

Dallas discussed his exploration of status, moving beyond materialism to understand different types of status games, including dominance hierarchies and prestige-based games. He shared an anecdote about a woman who turned down a suggestion for a less expensive venue, prompting him to reflect on the status games people play. Jay shared his experience of finding a partner through an Asian dating app, highlighting cultural differences and the importance of shared values. The conversation touched on the complexities of dating, cultural differences, and the role of status in relationships.

Finding Compatibility in Relationships

Dallas shared his perspective on compatibility in relationships, explaining that people who "geek out" over different things, like watches or cars, may not be compatible. Jude introduced Jay, who shared his positive dating experience after divorce, emphasizing the importance of aligning values and interests with a potential partner. The group discussed the possibility of finding healthy relationships post-divorce, with Jude encouraging attendees to ask Dallas questions about their dating concerns.

Navigating Multiple Dating Relationships

Frank discussed his challenges with dating after a 28-year relationship, particularly his difficulty navigating the desire for exclusivity with women. Dallas advised Frank to recognize his position as desirable and suggested being more direct about his current dating situation to manage expectations without committing to exclusivity. Frank shared that he is concurrently dating and having sex with two women, which Dallas clarified as a form of dating multiple people rather than a threesome. The conversation explored the mental aspects of dating multiple people and the importance of clear communication.

Open Communication in Modern Dating

Frank shared his experience of learning to communicate more openly in dating, particularly about exclusivity, and noted that this approach was well-received despite his initial awkwardness. Dallas and Jude discussed how the landscape of dating has changed, with Jude emphasizing the importance of being upfront about one's values and intentions early in a relationship. Dallas advised Frank to present his sexual energy and relationship preferences confidently, without feeling pressured to commit too quickly, as the timeline should be tailored to Frank's personal growth and readiness.

Modern Dating and Self-Discovery

Dallas shared his approach to dating, emphasizing the importance of leading by example and inviting women into a desired relationship dynamic rather than making demands. He discussed how men can achieve novelty either by exploring different partners or by deepening connections with one primary partner. Sergey expressed his struggle with reconciling his desire for promiscuity with his current relationship goals, while Jude and Dallas encouraged him to explore his true desires and align them with reality. The group discussed the challenges of modern dating culture and the importance of self-reflection and feedback in finding compatible partners. They announced an upcoming live Q&A session with Dallas at the View House on the 19th, where attendees can practice embodiment techniques to improve their confidence and connections with wom